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flem
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response 75 of 823:
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Mar 29 21:27 UTC 2002 |
There really isn't anyone to appeal to, nor really any point in appealing.
I've got pretty strong financial incentive to stick around for about two more
months, but then.... The person who gave me this review is no longer my
manager; an unexpected plus from the recent reorganization. My new manager,
while someone I've not heard good things about, has yet to piss me off
significantly. I'm supposed to be put on a Six Week Plan(TM) to shape me up,
starting Monday (created, ironically enough, by someone I've never worked
with, who knows nothing about me). I'll grit my teeth and bear it, and
polish my resume. In the meantime, I'll be carefully documenting
everything I do, to show to anyone accusing me of not contributing enough.
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other
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response 76 of 823:
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Mar 29 21:50 UTC 2002 |
Sounds like you have the matter well in hand.
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danr
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response 77 of 823:
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Mar 29 23:39 UTC 2002 |
As well as it can be, anyway. I was in a situation like flem's once. It
was a no-win situation, so I just moved on. The problem with most
engineering jobs is that most engineering managers are really poor
managers (although they may have been good engineers). And it's awfully
difficult to manage up.
Just curious, flem. Did they give you any specific direction about what
they expect you to accomplish in the next six weeks? (My guess is no.
That would have required that the managers actually think about it.)
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michaela
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response 78 of 823:
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Mar 30 05:30 UTC 2002 |
Ugh...amendment to my recent post in the happy item.
Dave just called to tell me that his grandfather passed away tonight. I'd
just met his grandfather on St. Patrick's Day, and I was looking forward to
asking about his flights during WWII. How sad... :(
It looks like we'll be attending a funeral in Bay City instead of festivities
in Gaylord.
I feel so awful for his mother and grandmother. :(
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oval
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response 79 of 823:
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Mar 30 05:30 UTC 2002 |
i am not loved.
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keesan
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response 80 of 823:
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Mar 30 05:35 UTC 2002 |
What makes you feel unloved? You would be missed on grex if you left - is
that love?
Our computer that was all set to give to Jim's sister Sunday is acting very
screwy (see item 39) and will only reboot if you limit it to 1M RAM and will
read files legibly only if you take MSDOS away from it. Actually it does
reboot but only when you don't want it to, and sometimes it blinks a lot after
crashing. I think it is time for a drive transplant.
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oval
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response 81 of 823:
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Mar 30 05:38 UTC 2002 |
it's kinda like you find out who you friends are when you're going through
a tough time.
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lynne
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response 82 of 823:
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Mar 30 15:58 UTC 2002 |
I *was* loved. I think I screwed it up again. Forgiveness seems about as
likely as porcine feathers, and I'm starting to think it's not much more
worthwhile if something so minor and understandable can blow things up like
that...All the same, I want to go home and curl up and cry, and I can't.
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jazz
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response 83 of 823:
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Mar 30 16:35 UTC 2002 |
If you love someone, set them free. If they don't come back, track
them down and take bloody revenge.
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anderyn
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response 84 of 823:
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Mar 31 01:12 UTC 2002 |
This response has been erased.
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jiffer
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response 85 of 823:
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Mar 31 02:33 UTC 2002 |
IBB my brother and soon-to-be-sister-in-law will not be here for the easter
festivities. Though I feel very sympathetic for Laurie. Some stupid old
machine broke, and she has to use this chemical mixture within 48 hours or
it is worthless, and the machine is so old that the manufacturer isn't doing
maintenece on it any more... stupid damn machine.
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mdw
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response 86 of 823:
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Mar 31 03:19 UTC 2002 |
Would you be more frightened if the machine weren't stupid?
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mooncat
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response 87 of 823:
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Mar 31 03:46 UTC 2002 |
IBB- I'm going to miss Pow Wow again this year, and April 14th the
Grace A. Dow library is having a birthday party for Curious George and
I won't be able to make that either. (When I was really little and
couldn't read my mom would take me to the library and I would look
through all the books for Curious George- I could recognize the yellow
binding)
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michaela
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response 88 of 823:
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Mar 31 11:55 UTC 2002 |
IVB for Dave's family. I was already planning to attend the funeral, but
Dave's father called tonight to make sure I'd be there. I hadn't considered
myself part of the family yet, so it was sweet. Dave's grandparents had been
together sixty years, and I feel awful for his grandmother.
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lynne
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response 89 of 823:
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Apr 1 15:42 UTC 2002 |
I need psychiatric help. Or maybe a razor blade.
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brighn
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response 90 of 823:
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Apr 1 15:50 UTC 2002 |
Go for the first one. The second one's cheaper, but messier. Plus, I'd miss
you.
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jep
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response 91 of 823:
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Apr 1 15:59 UTC 2002 |
Get the help, lynne.
I reviewed this item to see what you're bummed about, since I forget
everything I ever knew over every weekend. I can't imagine a
worthwhile relationship ending on one comment, no matter what it is.
What did you say, and why did you say it? Are you sure it was
something you really didn't mean?
Have you asked for forgiveness? You're unlikely to get it if you were
wrong and don't ask. Possibly -- even probably -- the other person is
as unhappy about the current situation as you.
I hope you can work it out.
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scott
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response 92 of 823:
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Apr 1 16:48 UTC 2002 |
/hugs lynne
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bhelliom
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response 93 of 823:
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Apr 1 19:23 UTC 2002 |
I would write down all that's bumming me out at the moment, but I
really don't have the energy to take up that much space in my post.
That, and I constantly find myself in those phases where you think no
one would care if you were going through a bad patch or feeling oddly
like you're playing of game of, "Well if you think that sucks, listen
to my problems" if you start talking about them.
That is unfortunately what happens when you expend so much energy on
people but don't get that same amount in return. I think it's almost
as if the two in the relationship/friendship get so used the the
imbalance. Eventually the one who gets most of the benefit doesn't
bother to put forth the effort because they're so used to you doing all
the work. These days there are so few people out there that seems
willing to put forth the effort to be there even when you're having
rough times. That you've got to decide which relationships deserve your
energy and which ones you can just put on the back burner or just let
go of altogether. I simply just don't have the energy to deal with
that these days. I am really starting to resent most of the people in
my personal life. But before anyone tries to over analyze this, I
already know that this is in part my own fault. Doesn't make it suck
any less though.
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bhelliom
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response 94 of 823:
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Apr 1 19:29 UTC 2002 |
My tendancy not to post such things is also due to the fact that I
absolutely hate to sound/seem whiny, and do not like to give the
impression that I believe everything is everyone else's fault.
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flem
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response 95 of 823:
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Apr 1 20:15 UTC 2002 |
re #77: You're quite correct.
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orinoco
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response 96 of 823:
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Apr 1 20:16 UTC 2002 |
Well, I'm learning the hard way that avoiding conflict really isn't the same
as being nice. I keep being on the verge of really and truly breaking up with
The Undatable One -- a breakup that I'm not looking forward to, but that needs
to happen -- when she says "okay, last chance to take it back," and I do.
You could fit what's left of my credibility under one fingernail at this
point.
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edina
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response 97 of 823:
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Apr 1 20:33 UTC 2002 |
Aaah - relationships. You have to love them.
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bhelliom
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response 98 of 823:
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Apr 1 21:05 UTC 2002 |
OH, love your assumed name in this cf, Greg. And good luck in the job
area. Really hope things turn around soon.
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lynne
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response 99 of 823:
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Apr 1 21:40 UTC 2002 |
I got jealous. Basically, that's all there was to it...I was drunk, i have
been consistently depressed for the last month, and I got upset over
something that I didn't have much cause to get upset over. Problem is that
he *really* hates it when I do that--we'd nearly broken up in January over
the same thing--and I went through a *very* bad night a couple weeks ago,
some of which spilled over, and he was still a little upset about that. So
I don't think he'd forgive me, and I don't think it's worth it to crawl
back and point at my brand-new Zoloft prescription and the livid scratches
on my forearm and say "see, it wasn't my fault!". I'm tired of blaming
other things; I'm tired of apologizing, and I'm tired of my needs not
really getting met...
I feel a little better for having talked to someone and arranged for therapy.
I also have high hopes that the medication will help, although I'm *really*
hoping it will kick in before two weeks' time. Looking back, I have a
history of overreacting and getting easily depressed (although it's never
lasted this long before), and I have a couple of not-very-stable immediate
family members. So I think medication and/or therapy are likely overdue.
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