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Grex > Agora46 > #8: I'm Bummed, I'm Bummed, I'm really really Bummed | |
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lynne
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response 63 of 594:
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Jun 30 18:43 UTC 2003 |
re 62: yup, but most of us are control freaks and can't stop looking in the
wrong places while waiting for the right person to come bop you on the head.
I think I'm beyond "in love" with a person who, I'm firmly convinced, is
THE most wonderful person ever created. Except for living 2600 miles away.
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slynne
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response 64 of 594:
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Jun 30 19:13 UTC 2003 |
resp:62 - HAHA. I dont know, I know plenty of people who found true
love by looking for it just like I know a few people who stopped
looking and then never found it. I think looking for someone to hook up
with probably increases ones chances of finding someone. Although, of
course, not looking doesnt elimiate the chances of finding someone.
I think it just has to do with luck for the most part. I used to think
it had a lot to do with a persons looks and/or personality but then I
started to notice that lots of ugly people and lots of people with
horrible personalities were able to find mates. Yup. I pretty much
think it is just luck. And, fwiw, it isnt the end of the world to be
single although it can get a little depressing sometimes.
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dcat
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response 65 of 594:
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Jun 30 21:32 UTC 2003 |
resp:60 et al.: i can assure you that i wasn't 'looking for' anything two
& half months before moving away to a school six hours away. . . esp. since
i wasn't really planning to come back. . .
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orinoco
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response 66 of 594:
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Jul 1 00:54 UTC 2003 |
Feh. My whole face hurts again. So much for the "miracle dry socket cure".
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jor
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response 67 of 594:
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Jul 1 01:04 UTC 2003 |
you just had an extraction?
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senna
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response 68 of 594:
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Jul 1 02:22 UTC 2003 |
A person's attitude has a lot to do with their ability to find a relationship,
trying or otherwise.
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slynne
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response 69 of 594:
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Jul 1 02:30 UTC 2003 |
I suppose that is true and yet, some of the most awesome people I know
havent found a relationship. Seriously, these are people who dont have
attitude problems. When a physically attractive, smart, educated, kind,
emotionally healthy, outgoing person with LOTS of friends cant find a
relationship, it must just be bad luck.
Of course, those people (and me too) do share a common attitude and
that is that it is better to be single to be in a bad relationship. I
have known people who have stayed in pretty abusive situations because
they are afraid of being alone. I dont think that is what you meant
though.
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beeswing
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response 70 of 594:
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Jul 1 04:26 UTC 2003 |
I'm inclined to agree with slynne.
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eskarina
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response 71 of 594:
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Jul 1 04:28 UTC 2003 |
re 60, 65: Roger that, I certainly wasn't looking for a relationship at TOP
setup... I was ind of looking forward to being single in Chicago.
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other
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response 72 of 594:
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Jul 1 05:14 UTC 2003 |
I still get a kick out of being an unintentional matchmaker. :):)
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dcat
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response 73 of 594:
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Jul 1 13:55 UTC 2003 |
resp:71 as was i in Pittsburgh. . . . ah well, best laid plans of cats and
men, eh?
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gull
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response 74 of 594:
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Jul 1 15:05 UTC 2003 |
IBB I have a dental appointment this afternoon. I hate dental
appointments. It should be relatively painless, though, since this time
I haven't put it off quite so long.
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orinoco
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response 75 of 594:
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Jul 1 15:05 UTC 2003 |
(psst... "cats and women")
jor -- yeah: got all four wisdom teeth out.
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senna
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response 76 of 594:
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Jul 1 21:05 UTC 2003 |
There's a difference between being healthily selective (which is undervalued)
and being excessively picky. I know more than one person who disqualifies
every potential match on some grounds or another, and/or who sabotages those
relationships to keep them from working out. Sometimes intentionally,
sometimes otherwise.
There is no sure-fire method--otherwise, people would be doing it. All people
would be doing it. There are, however, things to do that can help.
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slynne
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response 77 of 594:
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Jul 1 21:27 UTC 2003 |
I think it is easy to be critical about people being "overly picky".
Let me ask you this, since you are about to get married. Are you in
love with this woman who is your fiance? I would submit that most
people who disqualify every potential match on some grounds or another
probably are not really in love and are looking for a way out. In other
words, they havent been lucky enoungh to find a person they could
really fall in love with. If you didnt really love your fiance, would
you stay with her or would you maybe start thinking of reasons to
disqualify her?
Of course, there are people who choose to be single but pretend to make
an effort to be with someone because of societal pressures.
And there are certainly things a person can do to improve the odds in
the romantic relationship game. I dont dispute that at all. Let's face
it, the Jennifer Anistons of the world have more options than the
Roseanne Barrs. But, ultimately it still comes down to luck.
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tod
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response 78 of 594:
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Jul 1 21:54 UTC 2003 |
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keesan
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response 79 of 594:
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Jul 1 22:29 UTC 2003 |
How many people think you have to fall in love with someone to want to live
with them? That seems like a pretty unrealistic requirement.
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tod
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response 80 of 594:
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Jul 1 23:11 UTC 2003 |
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richard
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response 81 of 594:
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Jul 1 23:49 UTC 2003 |
IBB Katherine Hepburn died on Sunday. Not only was she one of Hollywood's
greatest stars, but she was a feminist well before her time. She was living
in sin with a married man, Spencer Tracy, for many years during a time when
such arrangements would have been scandalous. She didn't care what other
people thought, she did her own thing. Katherine Hepburn was cool.
Also liked the story that she won a record four best actress academy awards,
and never showed up to accept any of them. When Hepburn won for "Lion in
Winter", a friend went and picked up her oscar at the ceremony. She told him
to just drop by her house, put the statue in a paper bag, and stick it in a
cupboard. Two decades later, this friend was visiting and remembered doing
that. He looked in the cupboard and the oscar was still there, in the paper
bag. Hepburn had never looked at it, much less had it engraved.
She was one of a kind. RIP
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keesan
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response 82 of 594:
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Jul 2 02:38 UTC 2003 |
re 81 - it is not about housemates.
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senna
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response 83 of 594:
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Jul 2 03:10 UTC 2003 |
I'm talking about people who disqualify peotential mates before it gets very
serious. Of course, people don't always realize what's involved in committed
relationships.
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anderyn
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response 84 of 594:
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Jul 2 13:23 UTC 2003 |
Bummed because our office has had windows replaced and my allergies flared
up big time, so had to use personal time to book it out of there. And because
the cat is having a big "MEW MAMA FIX THINGS" breakdown, all night, every half
hour, she'd come in and MEW at me.
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lynne
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response 85 of 594:
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Jul 2 17:19 UTC 2003 |
Gahhh. I have about 48 hours' worth of work to do in the next 24. Also,
my boss is a complete ass. Just in case I haven't mentioned it before.
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gregb
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response 86 of 594:
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Jul 2 17:23 UTC 2003 |
And hope he/she doesn't doesn't Grex.
IBB I bought an SATA HD and didn't know it required a different power
connection than that used with ATA drives. So now I have a drive and
no way to power it. B-(
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eskarina
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response 87 of 594:
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Jul 2 21:20 UTC 2003 |
re 81: I would argue that "living in sin" with a married man could/would and
perhaps should still be considered "scandalous", or at least wrong.
I've said it before, I'll say it again: there's too much cheating in the
world today.
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