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Grex > Femme > #109: Disadvantages of being female | |
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clees
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response 55 of 71:
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Jan 13 07:23 UTC 2000 |
One disadvantage of being a woman might be the chance
of getting harassed, molested, raped and such.
That isn't likely to happen to men frequently.
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gypsi
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response 56 of 71:
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Jan 13 15:48 UTC 2000 |
Men can be molested, stalked, sexually harassed, and there have been a few
cases of rape.
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keesan
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response 57 of 71:
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Jan 13 17:41 UTC 2000 |
Jim knows of someone with long blond hair who was grabbed from behind near
the grad library, but when they saw the front they let him go. It had nothng
to do with height. I agree with clees.
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orinoco
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response 58 of 71:
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Jan 13 18:31 UTC 2000 |
There is definitely the attitude that women need to be afraid to be out alone
at night, and that men don't. I know if I were a woman, I _would_ be afraid
to walk alone at night, just because that attitude is so common and so easy
to assimilate. I have no idea how correct it is, though -- Sarah is right,
men do get raped, and I'd imagine men would be even less likely to report a
rape than women would, in general.
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glenda
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response 59 of 71:
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Jan 14 00:54 UTC 2000 |
I have no problem or any fear of walking alone after dark. I am wary and keep
very aware of where I am and what is going on around me, but have no fear.
I refuse to allow the possibility that some slimeball MIGHT try something just
because I am female to restrict my activies in any way. Being the oldest and
smallest of 6 kids I learned to fight dirty at a very young age and would have
no problem fighting to protect myself and walk with that attitude in mind.
This is usually enough to deter any potential problems. The few times I have
gotten whistles, catcalls or comments and cold, direct stare of disgust stops
it dead. Most women that have problems at night usually walk like they are
terrified of anything happening, this is an open invite to trouble.
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gypsi
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response 60 of 71:
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Jan 14 03:31 UTC 2000 |
Exactly. I was taught to walk with confidence and remain *aware* and
*prepared* but not fearful. Plus, I try not to put myself in a situation
where that may be necessary. Walking alone on campus after dark can't be
helped, but I never put on my headphones and walk through the Arb alone at
night.
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orinoco
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response 61 of 71:
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Jan 14 05:11 UTC 2000 |
Whoa....I wasn't saying you _do_ need to be afraid, I was saying that common
consensus seems to think you do.
But yeah, point taken.
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gypsi
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response 62 of 71:
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Jan 14 14:14 UTC 2000 |
Oh, I knew that, Dan. =) I was just echoing a slight tangent on your point.
Heh...
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i
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response 63 of 71:
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Jan 15 05:58 UTC 2000 |
Whether a woman "can't" walk alone at night, or has to to keep
herself on "combat alert", or has to buy/board/train/take along
a large, fierce dog, or whatever, it's definitely a disadvantage
to being a woman in our society.
NPR had a story this evening about a Jordanian woman seeking asylum
in the US....it seems that she had sex out of wedlock, and now all
the men in her family are sworn to murder her to restore the "honor"
of their family....the Jordanian government doesn't seem to view
such "honor" murders of women as much more serious than jaywalking
is here....count your blessings, ladies.....
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gypsi
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response 64 of 71:
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Jan 15 06:50 UTC 2000 |
Whoa. That's terrible.
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mary
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response 65 of 71:
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Jan 15 15:05 UTC 2000 |
What threats are directed at the man who had sex with this woman?
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beeswing
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response 66 of 71:
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Jan 15 23:56 UTC 2000 |
There likely aren't any. The woman is seen as the temptress, so to
speak.
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i
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response 67 of 71:
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Jan 16 00:35 UTC 2000 |
Maybe their "natural bias", but i didn't hear anything in NPR's story
to suggest any threat against the man. My impression is that the
popular culture of that part of the world views women as pretty much
expendable. (Muhammad's (Allah's if you're a believer) more liberal
directives on women, their status & rights, etc. are generally double-
talked around or ignored.)
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clees
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response 68 of 71:
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Jan 26 08:16 UTC 2000 |
In practice nothing much is done against standing up for their
"honor".
It's an Arab country and women are second rate citizens there.
Think of India too where widowed women are supposed to commit suicide.
As for harassment towards men, of course that happens, it happended to
me (by both men and women), but I am a wuss and without any doubt I
brought in upon myself.
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loperbd
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response 69 of 71:
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Apr 16 22:42 UTC 2002 |
I agree with #68 68 and I have about the same backgrond as boy. But
also neglectance, not accepted. But I know girls are then more the
ball. Yes I use such words. And later again with pregnancies, wrong
company. But men the same bad narriages. I wish all women a marriage as
in #120 which will even solve their later problem. And I really believe
that for in you are intelligent you like to talh very deep about many
many new things and you will love sex and talking and this stimulates
the grow of extra neurons and connections exactly needed and the manny
hapier than happy feeling are so nice but also so good for our brains.
Yes I think. Find a husband who looks the much the same as you and
marry him right away go on a pure enyoing way, hedonistic in the
marriage, drinking not muich alcohol, and so happy to a bright future.
Ed
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loperbd
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response 70 of 71:
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Apr 17 01:12 UTC 2002 |
I posted #69 because my concern about child abuse. If you one of the
many people abused during your childhood and you *dare* to read
Scientif American, March 2002. page 54-61, don't panic then, read than
#69 again and later #120. You will then understand why #120 is so
important for you: growing of new neurons and new conctions, more
complexity in your brain.
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loperbd
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response 71 of 71:
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Apr 22 15:26 UTC 2002 |
I don't know If I may call you Keesan, your idea is good to talk about
this subject.
It's believed that in evolution the risks for the woman were as high as
the risk of the men, but it weren't necessary the same risks.
I think men and women have many the same adavantages and disadvantages.
We both grow old and loose flexibility and a lot more. But not all
people in the same way and some not at all, how wonder! But there will
be some extra advantages and bad things for men, and a different
advantages for women. And with this I say nothing at all. Only you have
a good subject and you write a world better than I with my many typos
and latin word order. You could recognize that, I think, others do.
Sometimes I use my Dutch brains other moment my English brains, and why
not, it's only one world.
Sorry #120 has been deleted for lack of support.
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