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anne
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response 50 of 245:
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Oct 19 17:38 UTC 1994 |
Oh, okay, I see.
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eeyore
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response 51 of 245:
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Oct 20 14:42 UTC 1994 |
ok. whatever
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bhelliom
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response 52 of 245:
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Nov 5 20:24 UTC 1994 |
I understood. . .
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gerund
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response 53 of 245:
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Nov 8 01:59 UTC 1994 |
Sometimes I think friends need too much and those might be the awfulest
people to be friends with.
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kami
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response 54 of 245:
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Nov 8 05:54 UTC 1994 |
need can be reciprocal- one week I'm the needy one, the next I can use the
help and strength that was given me to turn around and help other people or
even those who were helping me so recently. the best policy is to state
one's needs clearly in an non-demanding way, and on the other end of things,
to feel safe saying a gentle "no" if one hasn't the energy to give at that
moment.
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gerund
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response 55 of 245:
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Nov 8 13:02 UTC 1994 |
There... that's one of those things.
I don't think my friends NEED me, but I could not live w/o them.
I'm sutre they'd be peachy w/o me though.
Or so I feel.
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eeyore
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response 56 of 245:
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Nov 8 13:24 UTC 1994 |
you are too damn pessimistic for your own good. friends lean on each other.
yes, there are time when we all lean a little more, but then later on,
somebody else is the one that is leaning, and you are the one supporting.
if you look back, i'm sure you could find times that you wre the support.
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gerund
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response 57 of 245:
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Nov 9 00:55 UTC 1994 |
I duuno, i'll get back to you on it.
pessimistic... i put the question to you again... how do i stop?
it's not intuitive in me to know how.
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brighn
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response 58 of 245:
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Nov 9 06:34 UTC 1994 |
I don't know how to stop, being familiar with the cycle. If I knew, I would
tell you. But I know some of the rules of the game, and when I see you trying
to (unconsciously) start the cycle, I'll just decline to play and insist on
being insufferably nice to you instead. :-)
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eeyore
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response 59 of 245:
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Nov 9 14:40 UTC 1994 |
gerund, we are just trying to beat love and happieness into you, because you
need it! we will do that everytime you do stat the cycle!
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gerund
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response 60 of 245:
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Nov 9 22:52 UTC 1994 |
What cycle? I missed something.
Beat (i repeat) beat love and happiness in me? That sounds like a
contridiction. Besides, I honestly think I'm so unfamiliar with
love and happiness that it's hard to know how to be.
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brighn
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response 61 of 245:
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Nov 9 23:08 UTC 1994 |
You do seem to go in cycles of good days/bad days. That's what
I meant.
I won't beat anything into you that you don't want beaten. :-)
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gerund
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response 62 of 245:
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Nov 10 01:40 UTC 1994 |
No comment.
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kami
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response 63 of 245:
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Nov 10 21:40 UTC 1994 |
I just got "called" on this idea of reciprocity being immediate: a friend
pointed out that she works on the same basis, having learned it from her
mother, but trusts the friendship to last long enough that help will be
reciprocated sooner or later- why rush it?...
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dang
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response 64 of 245:
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Nov 11 18:09 UTC 1994 |
Works that way with flem and I. We even work money that way.
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kami
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response 65 of 245:
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Nov 12 04:07 UTC 1994 |
sounds like a good and lasting friendship.
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eeyore
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response 66 of 245:
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Nov 15 16:38 UTC 1994 |
everything is shared. about half of my stuff is at carolyn's house. dan
has a lot of my music and books, and thde ones that he doesn't have, grefg
does! at this point, i've lost track of all of my books...
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anne
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response 67 of 245:
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Nov 15 18:05 UTC 1994 |
Well, I have a few...
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eeyore
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response 68 of 245:
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Nov 15 18:08 UTC 1994 |
of mine?
oh that's right, the eddings. i'm not too worried about those. i basically
have another complete set of that series...
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gerund
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response 69 of 245:
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Nov 15 22:51 UTC 1994 |
Heh... I even have a book of yours. WOW.
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eeyore
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response 70 of 245:
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Nov 16 13:28 UTC 1994 |
yup! i need that back soon...i might even be able to get to you the next book!
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gerund
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response 71 of 245:
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Nov 16 16:15 UTC 1994 |
Oh bother... I haven't even BEGUN to read it.
I suppose now I must.
Sigh.
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eeyore
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response 72 of 245:
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Nov 17 13:09 UTC 1994 |
yes, you MUST!!!!!!
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gerund
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response 73 of 245:
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Nov 17 17:56 UTC 1994 |
Care to give me a three hour stretch of time, free of interuptions?
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eeyore
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response 74 of 245:
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Nov 17 17:57 UTC 1994 |
i would love to, if i had oit to give.
like i have it for myself!
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