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tod
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response 368 of 563:
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Feb 24 20:08 UTC 2006 |
Is the guy an alcoholic or just a midget? The boy is 13. It wont be long
before he can kick the old man's butt and then the old man won't have anybody
he can intimidate into being a serogate sympathetic mommy for him.
That's a real toughie situation, jep. My father never laid a finger on me
but my step dad tried once. Luckily, gramps (not my dad cuz he's a pacifist)
encouraged my participation in kickboxing so by the time step-dad and I got
into a confrontation (he was choking my mom to death) then I was able to crack
his head open pretty handily. Its not something I'm proud of and emotionally
it sucked really bad (especially since mom got the cops after me) but at least
I didn't take a beating like my mom. I'm recommending you get him into some
kind of self defense class just for the sake of self esteem. People might
frown on that idea but trust me..its not a bad idea when there's an abuser
somewhere in the immediate family. Meditation and focus from those types of
sports help relieve unseen mental stress which could adversely affect him in
other parts of his life.
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jep
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response 369 of 563:
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Feb 24 20:41 UTC 2006 |
He's an 80 pound 13 year old. His dad is 6'2" and I guess about 260
pounds. My stepson is running track this spring. If he has to go back
to his dad's, maybe that will help him. You will understand, I hate
being forced into this course of action, but I will try to make sure he
(and the girls) don't have to go back to their dad's house.
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keesan
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response 370 of 563:
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Feb 24 23:09 UTC 2006 |
Could they meet each other some place where there are other people around,
not related to them, such as a public building?
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happyboy
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response 371 of 563:
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Feb 24 23:33 UTC 2006 |
i'm with tod on the martial arts angle. learning to run really
fast is a good start as well.
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richard
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response 372 of 563:
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Feb 26 03:02 UTC 2006 |
I think JEP needs to spend time with this kid's father. Take the guy
out for a beer and just talk. Get to know him. Because right now you
are basing your opinions of him, and therefore your actions, on what
your wife is telling you. You need to hear his side of things and not
just take her word for it. If he still cares about his ex-wife, he may
just be concerned whether/if you'll be a good husband for her. You
deal with his concerns, and he can deal with yours. Man to man.
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glenda
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response 373 of 563:
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Feb 26 04:19 UTC 2006 |
Richard, get real. Bad idea, very bad idea.
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scholar
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response 374 of 563:
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Feb 26 04:52 UTC 2006 |
Richard suggests a lot of things that other people should do that he would
never do in similar circumstances.
You aren't special or helpful for being able to point it out, no matter how
many times you use the word 'bad'.
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tod
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response 375 of 563:
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Feb 26 05:39 UTC 2006 |
re #372
Yea, and be sure not to let anyone know where you're going. Keep large bills
in your pockets.
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mcnally
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response 376 of 563:
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Feb 26 09:35 UTC 2006 |
I'm happy because I like the color I picked for the bedroom in the
downstairs rental apartment still looks good to me *after* I painted
the room in that color. Since I've already had one "I picked
THAT?" experience with paint colors while redoing the apartment
I'm glad not to repeat the experience.
Just one more room to go (the bathroom..) and I'll be done with
painting. Carpeting and tile arrive next week and after I get
them laid down and the plumbing fixtures put back into the bathroom
I'll have a rentable apartment pretty much ready to go. It doesn't
sound like I'll need to advertise, either -- I've already had
several people stop me and ask me when it's going to be available
for rent.
At this point I'm less concerned about getting rental income from
the apartment than I am about getting my weekends back. I think I
need a vacation from renovation.
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tod
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response 377 of 563:
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Feb 27 00:58 UTC 2006 |
IHB Victor just peed in the potty
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twenex
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response 378 of 563:
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Feb 27 01:00 UTC 2006 |
Small pleasures for small minds
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tod
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response 379 of 563:
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Feb 27 01:17 UTC 2006 |
He's a year and a half old and got on the potty on his own and wizzed. I dont
consider myself smallminded for finding joy in his development.
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twenex
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response 380 of 563:
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Feb 27 01:19 UTC 2006 |
Only joking, tod.
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jiffer
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response 381 of 563:
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Feb 27 05:32 UTC 2006 |
That is great! May you have many more great toddler achievements soon.
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kingjon
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response 382 of 563:
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Mar 2 11:55 UTC 2006 |
I'm happy because Open Office finally finished compiling on this 350 MHz
computer.
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nharmon
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response 383 of 563:
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Mar 2 13:37 UTC 2006 |
How does it run?
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kingjon
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response 384 of 563:
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Mar 2 13:41 UTC 2006 |
Haven't tried it yet -- I hadn't updated in days, so now I have to re-emerge
(some upgrades, some with changed USE flags) 49 packages, starting with GCC.
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keesan
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response 385 of 563:
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Mar 2 15:23 UTC 2006 |
What happens if you don't upgrade 49 packages? Are these hardward upgrades,
security upgrades, bug fixes? Surely you don't need GCC to run Open Office.
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kingjon
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response 386 of 563:
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Mar 2 18:53 UTC 2006 |
Some of these are security upgrades, some are bug fixes, some are just changes
because I told it to globally not include some features anymore. The reason I
need to wait is that compiling uses so much of the CPU that I couldn't tell the
difference if OO would even run. GCC was upgrading from 3.4.3 to 3.4.4, I
think.
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kingjon
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response 387 of 563:
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Mar 2 19:55 UTC 2006 |
And 49 packages isn't really all that much. In the six or so hours it's got
only 19 left, counting glibc, which it's finished compiling but not installing
yet right now.
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keesan
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response 388 of 563:
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Mar 2 22:57 UTC 2006 |
It sound like you are spending at least 8 hours a week compiling upgrades.
Have you noticed things working better after each one?
We upgraded Opera from 7.23 to 8.51 and discovered the latter would not load
(seg fault) and went back to 7.23, which may lack a few bug fixes but also
lacks some new bugs.
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kingjon
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response 389 of 563:
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Mar 3 01:55 UTC 2006 |
I'm spending probably more like 4 hours, mostly in the middle of the night or
while I'm doing something else. All the non-upgrade updates are recompiling
because I told it to not link in some libraries, so the things that had them
linked in are recompiling to remove those dependencies.
As for "getting better": there's about 5 major security announcements each week
on average recently from Gentoo, all of which say "upgrade to such-and-such a
version", which I have had for a few days.
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keesan
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response 390 of 563:
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Mar 3 03:54 UTC 2006 |
Do you need a security update when you are not running a server?
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kingjon
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response 391 of 563:
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Mar 3 04:08 UTC 2006 |
Yes. There were holes in gpdf (the replacement for xpdf) which would allow a
specially crafted pdf file to execute arbitrary code on my machine, for
instance. If my computer were never connected to the Internet, it wouldn't need
updating, but mine doesn't fit that description. :)
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keesan
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response 392 of 563:
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Mar 3 04:27 UTC 2006 |
Does gpdf do something better than xpdf?
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