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bookworm
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response 22 of 47:
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Nov 2 06:17 UTC 1998 |
Re #4: That surprises you?
I always thot a "fag-hag" was a hetero woman who chased after gay guys. Do
you think there could be a male version that chases lesbians?
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lumen
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response 23 of 47:
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Nov 2 07:45 UTC 1998 |
Not really..most of my sister's beards were gay or bi guys. Beards are even
more of a cover, in my opinion.
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orinoco
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response 24 of 47:
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Nov 2 12:41 UTC 1998 |
I've never heard 'fag hag' applied to a woman who _chases_ gay guys, but I
guess that works too. And of course there's a male version, there just isn't
an insulting name for him yet.
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jazz
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response 25 of 47:
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Nov 2 15:46 UTC 1998 |
It's generally been applied to women who *surround themselves* with
gay men. The male equivalent is a "dyke daddy".
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orinoco
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response 26 of 47:
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Nov 2 22:38 UTC 1998 |
Oh. Of course.
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brighn
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response 27 of 47:
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Nov 3 03:46 UTC 1998 |
Women who *chase* gay guys are typically called "nuns," if the aim is to sleep
with said gay guys (they're trying to convert the gays, hence "nun.")
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lumen
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response 28 of 47:
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Nov 4 07:14 UTC 1998 |
oh. Nuns. Hrm..never heard that term.
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bookworm
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response 29 of 47:
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Nov 6 00:30 UTC 1998 |
So then guys who "chase after" lesbians would be....priests?
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font
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response 30 of 47:
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Nov 27 03:10 UTC 1998 |
<sputter> <lol>
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jazz
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response 31 of 47:
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Nov 27 13:54 UTC 1998 |
No, no, priests chase after little boys ...
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lumen
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response 32 of 47:
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Dec 1 03:08 UTC 1998 |
ooooohhhhh..I did not need to hear that..that brings an entirely different
concept to mind (;
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bookworm
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response 33 of 47:
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Dec 4 22:45 UTC 1998 |
Mmmmmmyeah.
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explorer
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response 34 of 47:
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Apr 17 01:27 UTC 1999 |
I don'think the term "fag hag" implies anything that the user of the world
would not intend it to imply. For example, in Armisted Maupin (a prominant
gay writer)'s classic novel, Tales of the City, the character uses the term
to describe herself to her gay friend Mouse. Furthermore, several of my
female friends have described themselves as "fag hags" and see nothing wrong
with the idea. It happens by default and the group you hang around...nothing
psycological
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jazz
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response 35 of 47:
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Apr 17 15:01 UTC 1999 |
There's definitely a prejorative meaning, as well, that refers to a
woman that habitually falls in love with gay men. I'd say there's something
psychological to that meaning.
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katie
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response 36 of 47:
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Apr 20 03:19 UTC 1999 |
I always thought it meant she attracts gay men, not is attracted to them.
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brown
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response 37 of 47:
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Apr 21 06:29 UTC 1999 |
woman who loves and/or hangs around gay men
shrinks love it; shit load of theories
<shrug>
i just use the term good naturedly w/ friends
(comming from a dyke daddy)
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gypsi
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response 38 of 47:
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Apr 21 12:02 UTC 1999 |
<snickers then lol>
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lumen
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response 39 of 47:
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May 28 04:39 UTC 1999 |
The interesting thing is that fag hags can be straight. I can't see a
dyke daddy being straight; seeing as you are bi, Beebo, I figure they
see you as safe.
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jazz
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response 40 of 47:
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May 28 12:39 UTC 1999 |
It depends. If you're really hanging around with diesel dykes then
a certain amount of anti-male sentiment goes with the politics, but most
lesbians in the area are usually fairly open-minded about gender. I've been
called a dyke daddy before, and I'm not, in emotion or attraction, bisexual.
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brown
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response 41 of 47:
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Jun 1 04:47 UTC 1999 |
sure I['m safe, yeah safe, that's it, yeah...
hey doesn't hurt, i take no offence to that title and have some realy good
friends <shrug>
hmm beebo out
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lumen
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response 42 of 47:
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Jun 2 01:36 UTC 1999 |
My point was I figure lesbians avoid men that will hit on them or
otherwise show natural attraction. I should have said, "I wonder if a
dyke daddy can be straight?"
I suppose a dyke daddy can be anyone who's sympathetic to sexual
preference, and is not likely to hassle a gay woman in any way.
Since I live out west in a non-urban area, I don't see very much of
these comfortable relations. I could safely say that most all over
Washington, folks aren't exactly uptight, but they aren't comfy, either.
Capitol Hill in Seattle is the only obvious place I know where it's
relatively safe. When I came out to my psychiatrist before I got
married, he suggested a move to Seattle.
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bookworm
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response 43 of 47:
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Jun 11 23:20 UTC 1999 |
Question: If I am friends (just friends mind you) with a large number of gay
men, does that make me a fag hag?
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jazz
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response 44 of 47:
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Jun 12 00:45 UTC 1999 |
Yup.
Not in the derogatory sense though.
Kind of like being in your thirties in a group of people in their
twenties will make you the "old man" or "old woman" - but not necessarily
actually old.
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brighn
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response 45 of 47:
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Jun 12 05:16 UTC 1999 |
I disagree. To be a "fag hag" in my mind, you need to seek out or gravitate
towards gay men. If it just happens by coincidence that most of your friends
are gay, the term doesn't apply.
That's my interpretation, though.
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jazz
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response 46 of 47:
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Jun 12 20:31 UTC 1999 |
Pretty odd coincidence even if you agree with the community's ten
percent figure (moreso if you agree with Kinsey's figures).
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