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twenex
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response 201 of 318:
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Feb 1 22:56 UTC 2006 |
*ISA* slots?!
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jep
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response 202 of 318:
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Feb 1 22:56 UTC 2006 |
I don't see my former stepson much, or even talk to him on the phone
much. It's been a long time for him, and he has pretty well moved on
with his life. I've had little choice but to do the same.
My wife has custody of her 3 kids. I have made it clear to them from
the start of my relationship with their mother that I will never try to
replace their dad. Nevertheless, I have a lot of responsibility for
those kids.
Anyone who becomes aware of child abuse is obligated to step in and do
what is necessary (and what he can) to protect the child. Surely that
is in no way a controversial statement, is it? I can't see any way
that I as a stepfather could be less obligated to take appropriate
steps. And further, the boy explained in some detail to me things that
happened which I consider abusive. He asked me for help. No decent
person could refuse to at least try to help. Could they?
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tod
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response 203 of 318:
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Feb 1 23:00 UTC 2006 |
You dont want the kid to turn introverted or have social coping problems later
on cuz he got smacked around and had nobody to turn to. You're doing the
right thing and its good you can get a dialog going. It has to be
embarrassing and guilty ridden for him to even discuss it.
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mary
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response 204 of 318:
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Feb 2 02:49 UTC 2006 |
Really difficult stuff you're dealing with, Jep. Err on the
side of safety. Hope it all works out.
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bru
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response 205 of 318:
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Feb 2 06:07 UTC 2006 |
My mother was smart and never tried to re-marry. My dad remarried but
Jean never tried to be my mother. Dad was Dad, Jean was Jean, and Mom
was Mom.
That said, I resented Dad and Jean for quite a while. Mom amd Dad
divorced when I was 9, and I damn near destroyed my grandmothers
basement when I was told. Dad couldn't face me to tell me, I found out
long distance after the fact. I was NOT happy.
I grew out of it. I learned when I was 24 that it probably was not
wholely dads fault, but he did bear the 75% of the blame. My older
sister and younger brother have never really forgiven Dad for what he
did. I learned to understand him and I forgave him.
My son has just married and picked up two young children along with the
new wife, and one in the oven as we speak. On Thanksgiving he went to
pick up the kids from their father, and their father put a gun in my
sons face and said if he ever hurt the kids, he would kill him. NOT
the best way to start a relationship that is probably going to last the
next 20 years.
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tod
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response 206 of 318:
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Feb 2 06:56 UTC 2006 |
It worked on my step-dad. The guy only touched me once.
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jadecat
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response 207 of 318:
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Feb 2 14:13 UTC 2006 |
re #205- but it does go to show how protective that father feels for his
kids. Surely you can understand that. That guy doesn't know your son,
and he just wanted to be sure your son knew he was serious.
This is one of the reasons why I'm glad my step-daughter was an adult
when I married her father, and that her parents had been divorced since
she waslike 2. By the time I came into the picture she was long past the
stage of wanting mommy and daddy back together again, and is willing to
accept me as a friend- and even calls me mom (though she has about 3
other women she calls mom too, including her biological mom).
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jep
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response 208 of 318:
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Feb 2 15:07 UTC 2006 |
The groundhog saw his shadow, predicting 6 more weeks of winter.
Groundhog Day is the most important holiday of the year in Michigan,
because it predicts the length of winter. Not that this winter has
been very challenging; there's been very little snow since December.
Still, it's good to have an indication of whether we'll have 6 more
weeks of winter, or an early spring (which traditionally begins
approximately a month and a half after the groundhog predicts it).
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jep
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response 209 of 318:
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Feb 2 15:09 UTC 2006 |
Note to Rane: I know there's no scientific basis in Groundhog Day.
Also, please note that 6 weeks *is* approximately a month and a half.
Finally, I realize you don't think there's any such thing as God.
(Just pre-empting the usual comments.)
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jadecat
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response 210 of 318:
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Feb 2 15:17 UTC 2006 |
*giggle*
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jep
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response 211 of 318:
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Feb 2 15:20 UTC 2006 |
Another bummer (from my postings this is seeming like a bad week but
it's not all that bad):
I had to work until 11:00 pm last night. When you're the last support
rep in the office, and someone needs help, you're "it" and last night I
was "it".
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keesan
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response 212 of 318:
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Feb 2 15:33 UTC 2006 |
We ARE having an early spring.
My grandfather remarried when he was about 70, after my grandmother died of
a heart attack. We will never know why my stepgrandmother agreed to marry
him after 30 years of being a widow. She was an unbelievably nice person and
he was hard to get along with. She loved all her grandchildren, who thought
she was wonderful. But my mother and her brothers were still upset and
managed to find fault with her. Her daughters seemed to take it better. One
of them sort of adopted me when I moved to Ann Arbor.
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edina
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response 213 of 318:
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Feb 2 15:34 UTC 2006 |
John, I'm sorry on how things are starting out. I am confident that you will
do the right thing by these kids....You're a good egg like that.
Congratulations on the marriage! I hope you both have much joy and laughter
(and less legal hassle). ;-)
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jep
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response 214 of 318:
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Feb 2 16:04 UTC 2006 |
I am confident we are doing the best we can for the kids. I can put up
with a lot of stress if I think I'm accomplishing something good.
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rcurl
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response 215 of 318:
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Feb 2 16:10 UTC 2006 |
Re #s 208 & 209: HAH! I saw through you right away!
But that doesn't mean that there are any gods.
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jep
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response 216 of 318:
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Feb 2 16:21 UTC 2006 |
Thanks, Rane!
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aruba
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response 217 of 318:
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Feb 8 00:45 UTC 2006 |
LOL at #209. Thanks jep.
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naftee
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response 218 of 318:
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Feb 8 04:17 UTC 2006 |
thanks aruba !
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happyboy
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response 219 of 318:
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Feb 8 17:43 UTC 2006 |
thanks naftee!
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tod
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response 220 of 318:
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Feb 8 17:57 UTC 2006 |
Thanks STeve!
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scholar
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response 221 of 318:
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Feb 8 20:31 UTC 2006 |
thanks, todd!
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tod
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response 222 of 318:
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Feb 8 20:35 UTC 2006 |
Thanks Marcus!
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naftee
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response 223 of 318:
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Feb 9 04:24 UTC 2006 |
thanks happyboy!
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tod
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response 224 of 318:
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Feb 9 16:49 UTC 2006 |
thanks soup!
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naftee
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response 225 of 318:
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Feb 10 01:46 UTC 2006 |
thanks tod !
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