response 17 of 55:

Mar 28 02:27 UTC 2002

        I'm with Greg.  The idea that anyone would view sex as an exercise in
power over someone both disturbs and angers me.  I don't think I've ever wound
up with someone like that, but if I did, I would leave in a heartbeat.  But
then I don't react well at all to most manipulative tactics, and I've noticed
that people who are normally manipulative don't seem to try it around me, at
least not in the more obvious ways.

response 19 of 55:

Mar 29 02:54 UTC 2002

I've never had any issues with oral sex, other than the fact that it does
absolutely nothing for me.  I get bored.  I kinda feel bad about that too,
since there have been a few guys that have tried really really hard, and I
certainly don't blame them!!!

As for giving oral, once again, as a basic deed, I have no issues with it.
For myself, I try to avoid it, for a few decent reasons.  I tend to gag
pretty easily, and no guy wants to be puked on.  I do have jaw issues, and
can't always open my mouth all the way.  Also, when I'm excited, I tend to
be fairly nippy, and nobody wants to be bitten there.  Lastly is the
taste...that whole gag things comes right back up as an issue.  I've
certainly gone down on most guys I've dated, but the rule has almost always
been to let me know before anything comes out, or there will be hell to pay.

Yeah, the guys I've known would be thrilled to have me go down, but never
never never have I ever tried to use it as a power tool....that's just all
sorts of sick and wrong.  Sex is a beautiful thing..,..don't try to ruin it
with power.

response 21 of 55:

Mar 29 10:05 UTC 2002

Senna!!!  :)

response 23 of 55:

Mar 29 20:05 UTC 2002

I'm inclined to agree with jazz, eeyore.  It sounds like you've had some
rotten luck and met some real cunnilingual morons.

response 25 of 55:

Mar 29 23:14 UTC 2002

        It doesn't roll off the tongue well, does it?  That's inappropriate.

response 27 of 55:

Mar 29 23:21 UTC 2002

i like head.

 :D

response 29 of 55:

Mar 29 23:40 UTC 2002

head eh? that work

response 31 of 55:

Mar 31 05:15 UTC 2002

resp:18  Well, yes.  The key is you said *smart*.

resp:20  I think Julie meant that you get a lot of favorable 
response.  Hey, this guy will beg and grovel as far as that's 
concerned.

resp:23 resp:22 resp:19 I also agree with jazz and void.  Those few
 guys may have tried hard, but maybe they still didn't know what they  were
doing.  Both the woman and the man need to be educated as far as  oral
stimulation of the female genitals is concerned.  First of all..  it has to do
with the clitoris, and not the vagina (assuming that's  it.)  Then there's
experimentation, finding out what works.. what  amount of stimulation and
pressure is right, etc.

In our last sex cf, I seem to remember that much of the consensus was 
that semen is an acquired taste, so to speak.  I don't know if putting 
food on top helps any, such as body butter, chocolate, honey..  Can't 
remember the old item, but perhaps looking back is worth it.

response 33 of 55:

Mar 31 16:17 UTC 2002

Actually, I'm pretty sure that it's me and not the guys, and deffinately
know that one of the guys is thought of highly in that area.

You guys do realise that this doesn't bug me at all, right? :)

response 35 of 55:

Mar 31 23:38 UTC 2002

#32 is right on. and the key really is enjoying doing it. that eventually make
taste etc a non-issue. i couldnt enjoy receiving head if i knew the other
person had to apply something in order to be able to do it. [not that thats
out of the question - just the motive behind it] it would make me feel like
i'm gross or something..

but it think it is also easier to master the task on a man than on a woman.

response 37 of 55:

Apr 1 02:04 UTC 2002

resp:20 I never meant that I thought it was an exercise in power.
I've been led to believe that girls don't like to give head for a 
variety of reasons.
Here are a couple I have heard.  

1) they think it's dirty
2) they think that the man is becoming dominant over them (feminist 
response)
3) they don't like the taste of the penis/ejaculate
I was responding in part to response #2

Any other reasons why some ladies don't like to give head?

response 39 of 55:

Apr 1 03:26 UTC 2002

        I don't think it's an easier task to master with a man than a woman,
though perhaps there's a Kinsey three or two in the confrence who could 
comment from experience rather than speculation.  I'd speculate that for
competence, you'd need more of a psychological angle with women than men, but
that for truly outstanding sex you'd need a lot more than just physical skill
with either gender.

        Women don't like giving head to men?  I must've been lucky as hell,
then.  I've noticed in my admittedly skewed sample that some women have had
issues with giving head to orgasm, and that wasn't generally a problem, but
it seemed more that they considered it less intimate, and therefore only
foreplay, than anything else.  I've also noticed, in a few rarer cases,
people who've had issues due to past relationships or inexperience who are
very awkward about head, but did initiate it (as a side comment, I really
have to say not a one of them was bad;  perhaps lacking in skill, but making
up for it in honesty and connection).