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response 150 of 823:
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Apr 4 19:03 UTC 2002 |
if he wants to be treated like he's a tenant in your house, charge him rent.
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beeswing
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response 151 of 823:
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Apr 4 19:10 UTC 2002 |
..yep. If that's his attitude, he needs to move somewhere else, pay his
own rent, and take care of his son and son's mother and just plain be a
man.
IBB I got a speeding ticket yesterday. Now I'll be $49 poorer.
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jep
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response 152 of 823:
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Apr 4 19:11 UTC 2002 |
I'm bummed because I had to pay for the traffic ticket I got in
February, for turning through a red light after waiting at it for a
long time. $105 and 3 points. It seems kind of stiff.
re #149: I think I'd be explaining that he's free to act like an adult
at any time, which would involve taking responsibility for his child
and getting his family a place of their own. Until he does that, he's
accepting a favor by having them stay with you, and favors of that
magnitude don't have to come without conditions.
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richard
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response 153 of 823:
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Apr 4 19:12 UTC 2002 |
hate to say it but I think bradley is right. He and Rhiannon are the
parents of that child and, even though the child is in your house, surely
its important that they take as much responsibility as they can. This
stuff about charts and wanting to know where they are at all times is
or seems like an attempt to maintain control. Like it or not, they are
adults and its their child, and they have to swim on their own. It would
be different if you and bruce were adopting the child from them, but they
are retaining custody right? Its great if you want to pay Rhiannon support
money for a while, but dont you think she might resent it if you held that
money over her to get your way on other things. And if it was my baby, I'd
want 24/7 access wouldnt you?
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aruba
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response 154 of 823:
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Apr 4 19:22 UTC 2002 |
Maybe some compromise can be worked out if the couple shows some progress
toward making it on their own. In other words, rather than give them a
binary choice between getting their own place and having to abide by rules
they don't like, offer them something in between.
Dunno if that makes sense in this context.
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keesan
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response 155 of 823:
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Apr 4 19:41 UTC 2002 |
Bradley seems to be acting like a child, not an adult. Maybe Twila and Bruce
can do a better job helping him grow up than did his own not-too-functional
family. There is nothing forcing Rhiannon to continue renting from her
parents, who have a right to decide when and whether she has visitors if she
is renting from them. Twila, do you want to start a new item on this?
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anderyn
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response 156 of 823:
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Apr 4 19:52 UTC 2002 |
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glenda
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response 157 of 823:
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Apr 4 19:54 UTC 2002 |
Re 153, Richard, they are not talking about them paying Rhiannon support
money. They are talking about Bradley, the father of the child, paying
Rhiannon support money for the care and feeding of his child, i.e. paying
child support.
Twila, if he has that attitude, tell him he is not welcome at your house and
that someone will be contacting the courts to force him to pay child support
for the care of his child. When he can and does start ACTING like an adult
then and only then will he be welcome in YOUR home. Just because he fathered
a child that is currently residing in your home doesn't give him carte blanch
access any time he wants.
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anderyn
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response 158 of 823:
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Apr 4 19:54 UTC 2002 |
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glenda
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response 159 of 823:
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Apr 4 19:56 UTC 2002 |
Twila slipped in..
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anderyn
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response 160 of 823:
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Apr 4 21:03 UTC 2002 |
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brighn
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response 161 of 823:
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Apr 4 21:14 UTC 2002 |
IBB my tax accountant has been sitting on my forms for several weeks now, and
just called me to tell me that oops! there was an oversight, and I won't get
them until Monday or Tuesday now.
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janc
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response 162 of 823:
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Apr 5 01:53 UTC 2002 |
I agree you have a right to regulate who is in your house when. I
agree that you have a need to know who is responsible for the baby
whenever the baby is in your house, because every gap is going to land
in you lap by default. I don't think you have a right or need to know
where they are or what they are doing when they are out. It's
certainly good manners to keep people well enough informed to keep them
from worrying, but I wouldn't make it a requirement.
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keesan
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response 163 of 823:
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Apr 5 02:23 UTC 2002 |
If someone is babysitting it is usual practice to be informed where the
parents can be reached. There is a new item for this discussion.
I just tried to download PTS-DOS and the download speed was 200 bytes and
dropping. ISP problems?
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jiffer
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response 164 of 823:
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Apr 5 02:44 UTC 2002 |
IABB I have lost a listing of possible essay topics for my Philosophy 1000
class... grrr... I have emailed my prof. but I am totally embarressed for
doing so. I wish I knew someone in my class but I don't. (jiffer yells at
her self and kicks herself in the butt for her stupidity)
Yeah, this only counts for 25% of my grade.
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russ
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response 165 of 823:
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Apr 5 05:10 UTC 2002 |
IBB I drove all the way to #$*&!! Ferndale to try to catch a concert
on the spur of the moment, only to find that the venue is so full of
smoke that people leave "smelling like a smoked ham". I'm not willing
to put up with a couple weeks of bronchitis for a concert, much less
pay for the priviledge.
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happyboy
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response 166 of 823:
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Apr 5 13:48 UTC 2002 |
tough shit.
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orinoco
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response 167 of 823:
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Apr 5 14:03 UTC 2002 |
Uhg. Sick. Sick sick sick. Some sort of unspecified stomach bug, and I
still have to haul my ass to class.
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snowth
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response 168 of 823:
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Apr 6 01:05 UTC 2002 |
Generally homesick... all of my friends seem to mysteriously have plans this
weekend, all without me, and it just makes me miss the people at home who have
just as little of a life as me.
That, annd I've alternately got the lyrics to Vanessa Canton's "thousand
miles" and various dar williams songs stuck in my head, and if that doesn't
make you homesick, you're a lot more independent than most.
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scott
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response 169 of 823:
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Apr 6 05:56 UTC 2002 |
Finally had the dojo banquet tonight, and the band played well. My singing
and playing was passable (got a fair number of compliments), but very few
people danced. That's *incredibly* frustrating. Gahh... I'm still bummed
about it hours later.
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tsty
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response 170 of 823:
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Apr 6 06:56 UTC 2002 |
real dancing is a lost social art .. dont feel bummed, feel good'
that SOME parents had had their children learn dancing.
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vidar
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response 171 of 823:
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Apr 7 01:36 UTC 2002 |
IBB on Thursday my Economics professor cost me 6 attendance credits
with the Ring of Steel
IBB my right refused to drain when I showered this morning, and instead
of getting better throughout the day it got worse.
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slynne
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response 172 of 823:
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Apr 7 13:45 UTC 2002 |
I dont understand any part of #171 *shrug*
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vidar
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response 173 of 823:
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Apr 7 18:24 UTC 2002 |
Not even the second reason for being bummed?
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slynne
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response 174 of 823:
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Apr 7 18:53 UTC 2002 |
Well, NOW I understand that it is an ear thing because of what you
wrote in the happy item but when I first read it I wondered: "What
right refused to drain? His right ear, eyeball, nostril, boil on the
toe, WHAT?"
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