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bhelliom
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response 125 of 170:
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Aug 23 21:20 UTC 2002 |
Wow. An honest question, Twila. What kind of environment is it in
which you work?
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jep
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response 126 of 170:
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Aug 23 23:09 UTC 2002 |
My co-workers have been very understanding about my depression, and
quick to offer help (mainly to listen) if I wanted to talk about the
divorce. It seems like everyone has been through a divorce.
I've had countless 1.5 hour "lunches", just driving around or going to
therapy. Lots of days when I just sat staring at my computer, or
pounding angrily away at the keyboard; no one objected and they've
pitched in and carried the load for me a lot.
I work at a great place. I strongly recommend working at a great place
when you're divorcing and depressed.
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tod
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response 127 of 170:
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Aug 23 23:33 UTC 2002 |
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drew
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response 128 of 170:
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Aug 24 02:48 UTC 2002 |
Re #126:
What place is this? And are they/might they be hiring soon?
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jep
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response 129 of 170:
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Aug 24 03:34 UTC 2002 |
I work at Sterling Commerce. To answer your question about hiring
soon: we're owned by SBC. (It's part of the telecom industry, so I do
not see hiring coming in the near future.)
There are rumors SBC wants to sell Sterling Commerce, which could have
the effect of getting us away from the problems of the telecom
industry, but would much more likely be preceded by downsizing.
SBC employees got an e-mail today about "voluntary unpaid time off".
It doesn't apply to Sterling Commerce, but nonetheless, I didn't see it
as a positive indication for the immediate future.
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edina
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response 130 of 170:
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Aug 24 16:13 UTC 2002 |
I wholeheartedly agree with John about being in a great work environment when
going through something stressful, whether it divorce or whatever. Because
of the graciousness I got, I am a very loyal employee.
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anderyn
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response 131 of 170:
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Aug 24 18:09 UTC 2002 |
What kind of environment? It's an office for a non profit publishing
organization. About 75 employees here in Ann Arbor.
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bhelliom
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response 132 of 170:
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Aug 26 15:43 UTC 2002 |
I was just curious, as you mentioned the suicides.
I agree with Brooke and John. My boss is very supportive. I decided to
tell him as I was concerned about job performance, and wanted to assure
him that this was not willful on my part. I was glad to learn that
none of this was noticed as having an affect on my work, especially
since I was improving at my job the entire time.
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anderyn
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response 133 of 170:
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Aug 26 20:35 UTC 2002 |
Actually, it's kind of surprising to me that we have had so many. Because it's
such a low pressure place, with a lot of support.
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bhelliom
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response 134 of 170:
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Aug 27 14:07 UTC 2002 |
Well, I'm sure it may have made the burden somewhat easier, or at least
one can hope. It's good that you *do* have a supportive environment in
which to work.
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clees
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response 135 of 170:
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Sep 3 21:01 UTC 2002 |
Yup.
One of my colleagues recently suffered from a breakdown. She is on sick
leave now for the time being. As I understand it she is currently
spooked by skeletons from the past. What kind of past she hasn't hasn't
revealed yet, but I dread it has to do with over affectionate daddies.
Although I am no therapist I sympathise with her. At least I know what
she has been through. What complicates the whole thing is that she for
now refuses to seek professional help. She is scared what it will
bringto surface. It tried to explain that letting things keep on
festering doesn't help either. Certainly as she is affected by it now.
To make things worse she has had a burglar in her house.
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tod
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response 136 of 170:
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Sep 3 21:15 UTC 2002 |
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clees
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response 137 of 170:
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Sep 5 09:12 UTC 2002 |
I got a hint in that direction (but not in so many words) from another
colleague, who's in closer contact with her than me.
I won't pry.
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tod
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response 138 of 170:
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Sep 5 16:13 UTC 2002 |
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clees
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response 139 of 170:
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Sep 5 22:02 UTC 2002 |
I did. Also because it helped me so much.
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jep
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response 140 of 170:
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Sep 5 23:33 UTC 2002 |
Today I had my first EMDR session. EMDR is Eye Movement
Desensitization and Reprocessing; it's a technique for alleviating bad
feelings about yourself by "reprocessing" them, thinking them through a
different way and then feeling better about them.
Though it's called "Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing", my
therapist does not use anything that requires one to move his eyes. He
had me put on speakers and hold onto a vibrating buzzer gizmo (with one
part in each hand), then go through some of the details of my divorce.
The divorce is what's got me depressed. At intervals of a minute or
so, he'd stop and ask me what I was thinking about, then we'd go on.
It was pretty intensely emotional for me. You'll have to forgive me if
I don't go into details right now. The idea was to shift some of the
ideas around some in my brain, or something. I'm not too familiar with
the theory, but it's supposed to provide permanent relief from the
stuff that's being reprocessed.
I'm going to continue doing this at times for a while. Right now I
don't have much of an opinion on whether it did any good. I can say,
it was a very difficult session in therapy.
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tod
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response 141 of 170:
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Sep 5 23:56 UTC 2002 |
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jep
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response 142 of 170:
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Sep 6 01:41 UTC 2002 |
I appreciate the kind thought, Todd, but it wasn't huge. It was just
difficult.
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tod
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response 143 of 170:
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Sep 6 16:43 UTC 2002 |
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jep
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response 144 of 170:
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Sep 6 18:31 UTC 2002 |
Well, I appreciate the kind thoughts. Thank you!
I don't know if I just burned out during yesterday's session in
therapy, or made some real progress because of the EMDR, but I feel
enormously better today than I did yesterday. I have been burning with
anger for over a week now, but not today. That's quite a relief.
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bhelliom
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response 145 of 170:
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Sep 9 19:54 UTC 2002 |
Well, about two weeks after the lapse of the Welbutrin due to errors not
my own, I'm feeling better. I was secretly hoping that there'd be no
change in mood and that we could reevaluate it, since Wellbutrin is such
a mild antidepressant and I also have Celexa. It's an amazing thing,
to realize how I had felt/could have felt like without it. Okay, so
meds aren't the cure-all, but for now, it's definitely proving
beneficial. I'm glad that I actually feel like coming up with things to
do to get back in shape. It means to me that I have recovered some
motivation. I can't wait to try out my new in-line skates.
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clees
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response 146 of 170:
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Sep 10 06:13 UTC 2002 |
Take care, girl! (hugs)
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bhelliom
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response 147 of 170:
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Sep 11 16:52 UTC 2002 |
I may have to exchange the blades for a pair a half-size larger, but I
did venture out and try them yesterday.
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lynne
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response 148 of 170:
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Sep 11 19:33 UTC 2002 |
I've noticed gently varying responses to missing doses of Zoloft. Sometimes
I'm having a good day and can miss a day without enormous repercussions, but
far more usually I start getting extremely depressed. Sometimes the
depression has a relevant and believable cause, sometimes I catch myself
making mountains out of molehills to have something to be depressed about.
It's sort of a nasty cycle. But there is a very marked effect to missing
doses. I think next time I see the psychiatrist I'll ask about future plans.
Have other people who are still reading this item ever gone off Zoloft? Were
there side effects? What was the trigger that made you decide to stop
taking it?
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slynne
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response 149 of 170:
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Sep 11 21:27 UTC 2002 |
I was on Zoloft for 6 months once. It really helped me. Interestingly,
when I stopped taking it, I didnt get depressed again. I had no bad
side effects from stopping it. In fact, it was nice to finally get rid
of the weird side effects the drug had.
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