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edina
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response 100 of 128:
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Jun 13 13:09 UTC 2002 |
Maybe for you . . . not this woman.
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twinkie
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response 101 of 128:
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Jun 13 13:18 UTC 2002 |
/emote cues "Too Much Is Never Enough"
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edina
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response 102 of 128:
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Jun 13 13:45 UTC 2002 |
/emote cues "Bad Girls"
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anderyn
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response 103 of 128:
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Jun 13 14:42 UTC 2002 |
Sorry, but I have never been enamoured of living with strangers. So family
is more than enough for me.
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slynne
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response 104 of 128:
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Jun 13 15:08 UTC 2002 |
I have a lot of people in my life who are neither family nor stangers.
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eskarina
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response 105 of 128:
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Jun 13 16:20 UTC 2002 |
But why is it more uncomfortable to live with male strangers than female
strangers?
It certainly is odd that you've never lived with anyone who isn't either
family or a stranger.
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anderyn
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response 106 of 128:
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Jun 13 17:21 UTC 2002 |
Because they're male. Makes sense to me.
I have lived with (1) my birth family (2) college roomates (Sweetpea Johnson,
about 2 months, the only one that was a real stranger; Sue Wallenhorst, a
friend (who got married end of sophmore year); Martha Elliott, another
friend); (3) my married famly (Bruce, then Rhiannon and Gareth, with a few
months of living with my mother-in-law and Griffin thrown in...) in my whole
life.
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jaklumen
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response 107 of 128:
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Jun 13 20:05 UTC 2002 |
It didn't make immediate sense to me, but if I understand this right,
Twila, it sounds like you've lived with few people that weren't
family; and of those few, all were women, fewer still that were actual
strangers, in fact, only one.
I think it's fair to say you're a fairly introverted person.
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jmsaul
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response 108 of 128:
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Jun 13 21:20 UTC 2002 |
I certainly wouldn't say she's typical, but it's not like she's saying
that everyone should be the way she is, or that there shouldn't be co-ed
dorms. If she doesn't want to live with men she isn't related to her,
that's up to her, basically.
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eskarina
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response 109 of 128:
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Jun 13 22:34 UTC 2002 |
I'm not being critical, I was just asking if there were any reasons behind
what seemed to me to be a fairly random thing.
Like with everyone else, I don't want her to change, I want her to explain
herself. :)
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anderyn
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response 110 of 128:
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Jun 14 02:03 UTC 2002 |
I'm a *huge* introvert. No, I definitely don't think that everyone should be
like me -- if you *like* living with various people, more power to you. It's
just not something I'd be very comfortable with, ever.
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mta
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response 111 of 128:
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Jun 14 17:53 UTC 2002 |
I experienced my only period of living absolutely alone for six months this
year. It was interesting.
I have lived with big families, the family I gave birth to, and strangers over
the rest of my life and it has made me very adaptable. In living completely
alone, I discovered that I am basically very tidy and organized. But I can
live with almost anyone comfortably, at least for a while. The most fun I ahd
was living in "gerbil warrens" of a bunch of unrelated people ina small space.
Then again, that was 25 years ago, and I don't know that I'd want to do it
again at my age. I have developed a stronger need for privacy as I've gotten
older.
As to men or women, that part never seemed to matter. The prodominant gender
does change the energy of a home, but both are comfortable to me.
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janc
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response 112 of 128:
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Jun 14 18:14 UTC 2002 |
I've lived with strangers, and I'm a big introvert. It's no problem.
As an introvert, you aren't actually required to pay any attention to
the people you live with. Roommates are probably a much bigger problem
for extroverts. I quickly learned that when talking to potential
roommates, the main thing to determine was whether they can be counted
on to pay their part of the rent.
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jaklumen
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response 113 of 128:
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Jun 14 18:30 UTC 2002 |
it might be a difference of social anxiety, then.
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orinoco
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response 114 of 128:
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Jun 14 18:50 UTC 2002 |
"Introvert" can mean a lot of things. Most Grexers are introverts of one sort
or another, even in the strictest psych-jargon sense of the word, but we've
got lots of different approaches to social life even still.
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eskarina
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response 115 of 128:
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Jun 14 19:04 UTC 2002 |
I think when I first move in I'm always self conscious, especially when
someone I barely know is looking through my books or CDs... things that
represent who I am to some extent and its like looking at different parts of
my brain. That and no one wants a stranger to not like their books or CDs.
But what Jan said about the rent is so true.
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anderyn
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response 116 of 128:
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Jun 14 21:01 UTC 2002 |
Grin. See, I've NEVER had to worry about those things -- if Bruce doesn't like
my stuff, he's stuck with it anyhow (a certain painting which a friend bought
me comes to mind here, Bruce is very uncomfortable with it, but I hung it up
anyway) -- of course, that means that I'm stuck with his stuff, too. Good
thing our tastes are pretty congruent. Now, I'd really be worried if my birth
family came and looked at my books/CDs -- they would never "get" a lot of my
tastes. Lord. Just thinking about what my brother would think/say...
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jmsaul
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response 117 of 128:
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Jun 14 21:46 UTC 2002 |
They've never visited your house?
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anderyn
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response 118 of 128:
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Jun 16 22:29 UTC 2002 |
My mother has visited, with my brother and his family on one occasion. But
it's not like they *read*. :-)
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jmsaul
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response 119 of 128:
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Jun 17 01:38 UTC 2002 |
Oh, wow. I can see why you don't want to spend time around them.
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gull
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response 120 of 128:
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Jun 17 15:02 UTC 2002 |
Re #112: An extroverted roommate is a big problem if you're an introvert. A
lot of extroverts consider introverted people defective somehow, and insist
they'd be much happier if they "got out more". An extrovert is also likely
to be constantly bringing friends over, which gets old pretty quickly.
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anderyn
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response 121 of 128:
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Jun 17 15:09 UTC 2002 |
Joe, yeah, it's kind of weird when your birth family thinks that you're
strange because you read books. I've never really dared share my musical taste
with them (mostly because my mother loves 60s country and western and my
brother likes ... well, loud music...)
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jmsaul
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response 122 of 128:
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Jun 17 23:38 UTC 2002 |
What do you talk about when you're in the same place?
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jaklumen
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response 123 of 128:
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Jun 18 11:02 UTC 2002 |
resp:121 strange because you read books? Okay.. well, my wife is
somewhat extroverted but *really* loves books, hence, she enjoys
storytelling a lot.
Me, I'm moderately introverted, but haven't been reading for a bit
because I'm rather picky about my books.
What's wrong with loud music?
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anderyn
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response 124 of 128:
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Jun 18 14:20 UTC 2002 |
Well, loud is fine (I love listening at earmelt to some music) but I can't
really describe what my brother listens to except as "loud". Um. What do we
talk about? Not a whole lot, actually. I avoid talking to my brother as much
as possible, but at least my mother and I can talk about family, and
children, etc.
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