edina
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response 8 of 109:
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Mar 25 22:00 UTC 2004 |
You know, I came to this argument incredibly late. So instead of seeing how
it was all going to play out, I got to read it all at once. And I got to
seriously wonder just what the hell was going on with Grex. Can someone tell
me please?
First off, I am friends with John. A fairly good friend in some ways, I'd
like to think. And while I've never met Valerie, I consider her a friend as
well. I post on her current baby diary, have apologized for my making fun
of her on m-net and consider her an invaluable source of information and
warmth.
Secondly, I can't believe that I feel so betrayed by both of them. Strangely,
I am far more upset with John than anyone. Yes, Valerie did wrong - I won't
deny it. But her wrong can be restored. John saying "Please wipe out my
items because I'm scared of the repercussions"? Please. Like he wasn't
warned about a bizillion times . . . .
Thirdly. Censorship. Do I feel censored? In a way, yes. I contributed a
fair bit to the divorce items, as, if any of you recall, I was getting
divorced at the same time. Were my words stolen from me? Sure. And as many
objectors have pointed out, I should have saved my words myself if they were
that important to me. But then, why did I have to? It's true, if an act of
nature destroyed them, I'd be sad, but I'd move on. But they haven't been
destroyed. They are on a backup tape. I mean, if I got John's permission
and I asked for a copy of the items, could I have it? I said a lot of things
on there. It was nice to go back and look at them and realize how far I'd
come, in terms of how I feel about my marriage splitting up.
The best part of this whole thing? Valerie is gone. And John has turned tail
and run. Grex is cliquish. I know this. But I feel it truly condoned a
wrong act with another wrong act.
And as for Glenda's "give it a rest" remark, why? Because you've had enough?
Because nothing anyone says will change your mind? Because you don't want
to think about it anymore? (Given your schedule, I'd almost consider that
valid.) I guess I just don't get it. It wasn't right what was done, and I
don't get why it's being backed up.
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scott
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response 9 of 109:
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Mar 25 22:34 UTC 2004 |
Well, at this point I do think that Valerie went a bit too far. But at the
same time, the discussion of the restoration issue was effectively forced by
jp2 and others, and I still can't see what possible good they were up to as
opposed to just doing it for their own amusement. It certainly had the effect
of making a lot of us "circle the wagons" in the argument.
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