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Jun 20 19:44 UTC 1999

I'm sure you don't need to be told this, but I feel compelled to say it
anyway:
Communicate often. Communicate honestly. The poly road can be a dangerous and
painful one. It can also be an emotionally rewarding one, but it 's not always
worth the risk.
  
As for other suggestions: I myself avoid non-bisexuals, and strongly prefer
other pagans. I've had relationship with monosexuals and monogamists, and
those have always broken down because they couldn't get along with Valerie.
The relationships I've had with bisexual polys, otoh, break down for the more
traditional reasons of incompatibility. Having a relationship break down
because of your SO tends to put a strain on the relationship between you and
your SO... they feel gulty for getting in the way of your happiness, and you
resent having to choose. It's much easier to be dumped because of your own
problems then because of someone else.s. =} At least, that's been my
experience.

Your experience may vary.TM