response 32 of 55:

Mar 31 08:21 UTC 2002

        Well, yes, and no.  I've been told that some guys are blissfully
unaware of the existence of the clitoris, but it really doesn't seem like
that closely guarded of a secret to me.  I mean, it's right there.  Unless
you're not paying any attention whatsoever, you'd at least wonder what the
little nub is for, and might chance to brush up against it in the process of
fingering.  So I don't buy the argument that bad head is the result of men
who don't know what a clitoris is.

        Now, men who don't know what to do with it (or, I understand from a
friend, women) are a different story.  Different people need different
degrees of stimulation.  Some women are capable of having the normally
covered portion of the clitoris stimulated immediately, and some can't handle
anything except for indirect stimulation at all.  I can completely buy
someone not doing THAT right, or learning one particular way and continuing
to use it with people it doesn't apply with.

        The REAL key with head, though, is enjoying it.  And letting your
partner know you enjoy it.  It's a complete turn-on to have a partner who
really enjoys giving you pleasure and would prefer at times that you simply
enjoy yourself while they give it to you.  If someone has issues with their
body, I can see accepting even the most direct partner being difficult.