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Feb 7 03:04 UTC 2002

Re: #19-23
If it's just "manipulating your partner into trying something he/she isn't
interested in" (implying that he/she's already your sex partner and he/she
has no stronger objection than "not interested in"), then i don't see any
harm in it.  Manipulating him/her into letting you eat peanut butter &
jelly from between his/her toes is no worse than manipulating him/her into
mowing the lawn.

If you're pushing them into something that they'll regret later, then does
it really matter if it's BDSM or changing his/her last name to match yours?