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resp:80 yep, I figured I'd get that. If you'd rather I be specific, it has been noted that it is more particular among numbers of young black and Hispanic gay males because of cultural taboos, machismo among them. For example, "tops" are not seen as necessarily gay, while "bottoms" most certainly are. In general, it has been found that infection is once again on the rise in the gay/bi youth population, and it is surmised that it is because the fear of AIDS is not as prominent as it once was; these young men do not have friends who have died yet. Why it's not equally a concern among the lesbian/female bi population, I'm not sure, but I think risk factors are not considered as high. They also don't seem to be interested so much in cruising for sex. (Not all gay/bi men are, but if you think the cruise culture doesn't exist, you're kidding yourself.) It has been reported in the news media: I remember hearing about it on NPR and in a Seattle newspaper. Clearly, numbers this high among either gender would indicate a degree of sexual addiction, which is a concern. However, it is folly not to examine that gays and bisexuals may be part of the picture. Men with both male and female partners are a concern: there is a larger potential pool of infection. I congratulate you if you haven't been there, Dan, but trust me, I have. Pretending that everyone *is* equally sexually promiscuous to this kind of degree isn't quite fair. Besides, I didn't say the rock stars and athletes were necessarily gay/bisexual. Freddy Mercury fits the bill, but Magic Johnson, Wilt Chamberlain, Gene Simmons, and others who have boasted or spoke of their numerous conquests clearly do not (yes mynx, they did get away with that and then they told everyone). Also, the numbers of Catholic priests who are now being found to be pedophilic or otherwise sexually predatory-- I don't think homosexuality is really a root cause here. There are indeed homosexual priests-- this has been confirmed-- but I doubt they necessarily comprise a significant portion.
No one really knows about woman-to-woman HIV transmission. There was one study in 1991, and all the women in the study were IV drug users, bisexual, or both.
Studies are scarce, but available scientific evidence points to a much
lower rate of transmission for cunnilingus than for fellatio, fisting, or anal
sex.
Possible, but no one knows. 'Sides, who says lesbians don't fist or share anal toys?
(ding!)
Just out of curiousity, again, how does one sanitize toys? I had a gay friend who said he knew how to do it, with bleach-- I think it was similar to the way you sterilize needles, the way they teach nurses.
you can a) boil 'em b) use bleech c) only use them on one person. basically if it's a porous surface your stuck with c
Re #85:
I certainly didn't. I was just listing different types of sex.
Obviously a gay male that is only into mutual masturbation is safer than a
gay female who's into bloodsports.
or any of the "vampyr" varity of pud monkey
Re #87: AFAIK, there is no "way you sterilize needles" at a hospital. Unless I'm very much mistaken, hospitals don't re-use needles.
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Medical-quality sterile is easy to do with the right gadget. It looks like a very-high-end all-stainless toaster oven. Stuff goes into it on thin metal trays, and gets cooked in 250-300 degree steam for 10+ minutes. Re: #78 Going home from the meat-market singles bar with a different sex partner every night is (very sad to say, disease-wise) how some people live. Do that for a few years, and 1000+ sex partners is fairly easy to reach. No need to be a model or famous - fairly young & 90th percentile attractive is more than good enough for most meat-market bars.
I've known a few people who've lived that way, but for most it's just
a short phase.
You don't even have to be young and ninetieth-percentile attractive.
..people can get by on just the mere fact that they are intersting.
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Yup.
or human.
or there.
or an inanimate object with an orifice.
I don't think toys count as 'slutty,' really. A sex toy with scruples and discretion would probably be considered defective...
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It depends - does it say anything about scruples or discretion on the personality module that you just plugged into your Bimbobot(r)? Did you pay enough attention to know? Or did you download a pirate person- ality and flash it into a hotwired pm? Count yourself lucky if the pirate per' wasn't rescripted by some sicko with torture fantasies, Mr. Flasher!
i dunno that grapefruit is probably pretty discrete before someone cuts a hole in it and has his way with it, even with his brand new prince albert.
the cherry 2000 is a high class model.
This shit is getting a might weird ...
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hey man, you ain't seen the half of it.
... and this is coming from a man who's seen things. I mean, just this
morning, I heard the theme song to Gilligan's Island sung to the tune of
Amazing Grace (it works, try it) and heard the subject of necrophillia
discussed before noon.
better is gilligan's island sung to the tune of that led zepplin song
Er... which Led Zeppelin song would that be? I suppose you could do it to the first half of Stairway to Heaven, but after that "if there's a bustle in your hedgerow" bit it wouldn't work out so well.
Is this the slutty phases or slutty phrases item?
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resp:111 It's already been done, Dan-- a tune called "Stairway to Gilligan's Isle" and Dr. Demento has played on the show in the past. Betcha dimes to dollars Tim Ryan has a copy of it.
I just have to say that I have the utmoast respect for women especially when they are in there slutty phases. How can you tell a women is in her slutty phase though? Now that is the question? enter stop
Because they'll loudly announce how they just broke up with their
boyfriend, if they're interested in you (either as potential dating or ONS
material, or as someone to have around to bolster their self-esteem).
or they go around announcing to everyone else how great the fucking is with so-and-so.
It's all about booty language . . . .
If she's going with a guy, she is no more than distantly polite. If she isn't going with a guy, she is very friendly to me, with a sort of open & eager expression in her face & voice. I'll be polite and maintain a definite distance from her, but respect is too nice a word for my attitude.
I guess the question is really how to *get* with someone who's in
that phase. I'm not entirely sure why you'd want to, but hey, whatever
works.
If you're curious whether someone's seeing someone, it's pretty easy
to figure out. Just ask them. Tap her on the shoulder and ask if she has
a beau. Or approach it indirectly, like, "damn, I bet your boyfriend loves
that", or "I sure hope your boyfriend appreciates that."
Well, that won't tell you whether they have one or not, but it'll
tell you if they want you to think they do. :P
Well, it's not the original topic, but I should do that. There's this woman in RoS whom I like, but I don't know if she's seeing anyone. Granted, even just asking will be hard, I rarely have an opening for flirting or it's awkward to create one.
they just go up and ask if she's like some luv juice
I've accidentally scared enough people I'm interested in that I don't want to seem like frightening her is my intention. What I have found, however, is that if you just up front ask somebody out, if they're seeing somebody they mention that when they tell you no. Next time I see her, I'll ask her out on something minor. Like a drink after Ring (not the alcoholic kind, she's a little young for that).
I have the opposite experience; if you're asking someone out, and
they're seeing someone, they don't often tell you at all. May have to do with
the people I ask versus the ones you ask, though.
Might also have to do with whether it's "just dating" or "going steady". In any case, I'll respect a no, and follow through if response is possitive.
From a female perspective, the "I bet your boyfriend love that" line is so transparant, and pretty obnoxious in my mind. I'd much rather be asked a question directly, I'm not a fan of all the round-a-bout, yet obvious nuances in getting to know someone.
It is pretty transparent, and a lot of people need that it seems.
Crafting conversation is always more of an art than a science, though.
y'know. ot. i feel bad for the poor boy (or whoever) that says that to katy.. but yha, i've been to quite a few sci-fi cons, and i have to say, the thrid most painfull thing is watching a semi-suave geek blow it with that kinda line
Cheesy works.
Among the cheesier I've seen work personally.
"You know, it occurs to me that I owe you an apology, for leaving
last night without asking you out. Can I make it up to you, over dinner?"
"I've decided something ... " "That you're just too cute to not ask
out."
"How are you going to return it when you're done? I know, here's my
phone number. Call me when you're done. Or give me yours. And I'll call
you well before you're done."
None of the above would work if you really took yourself all that
seriously. But then if someone takes themselves that seriously, then I
don't want anything to do with them.
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