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dan, there was nothing inane in my question. hmph. (; brighn: I think your lif eis interesting enough without adding an Erinn to it. *smirk*
i want erinn in my life, by the grinder please
I've been gone for a real long time, and now I'm back! *sigh* I don't know what lingering reputation I've left, but.. (long story) well, I hope no one will think ill of me for attempting to grow up and become a family man.. Julie's almost 3 mos. pregnant now.
neat.
Wow. Congratulations, both of you.
<blinks at #32> Don't I know you?
IWLTA that I spent probably two or three minutes staring at #35, marvelling at its zen-like qualities. Well, more Discordian than Zen, I suppose.
<bow> zen and the art of BDSM, new from time life books... no, wait, that's this old house of bondage..
the author of #30 is nearly my hero, nearly the wind beneath my wings. chloe sevigny.
whats up
nothing much
you said it.
Been rather inactive here for a while. A BBS was the last place I'd expect to find a singles thing, not very interactive, but don't knock it until you've tried it! I suppose...?.
hey, grex used to have massive amounts of fly honeys ahh, those salmon days
I distinctly remember those perverts who'd come in and pester people with requests for pornographic chats.
this was before then
What, am I not a fly honey?
no comment:)
'eeyore' wasn't such a looker among those at club ashdown.
club ashdown?
That's what I was gonna ask.....
http://www.just-pooh.com/ashdown.html
This is the most insane conversation I have ever seen, I like it, how you doing greg? and again, club ashdown?
i'm doing quite well actually. getting a chance to use my madz skillz again
resp:36 We're at 18 weeks now (going on five months.) So neat to be a daddy-in-training. But back to the topic of this forum, and perhaps a twist to the conversation.. Anyone else experience a change in the sex life before, during, and after pregnancy? Did it make a difference whether it was planned or not? To how few people would this question apply? Maybe we could make it a new item, or discuss it in another existing item.. I know this one probably isn't the most appropriate, with intros here and all.
Pregnant women are known to have increased sexual desire from six months on, due to pressure from the baby on the cervix/uterus.
it FEEDS the baby
Is more sex late in pregnancy Mother Nature's way of keeping Mr. Hope-He's- Right around a bit later to provide for baby & chase off the sabertooths?
It seems like if Sarah's explanation is right, a higher sex drive late in pregnancy isn't something that would need to evolve separately: it would be a natural consequence of human babies getting so big in the womb. (But I guess if a high sex drive turned out to be an evolutionary problem for a pregnant woman, we might have evolved something to counteract it -- maybe a hormonal shift of some sort. Still, it seems to me like a convenient coincidence, not a `design feature.')
There is also the possible idea that it keeps the men coming back. For the first few months you aren't feeling well enough to have sex, and his eye might wander a bit after a little while. Then, you are horny as hell, and he's really happy, happy enough to stick out the fact that the moment that baby is born, you aren't having sex again for a couple of months.
It's nothing more than pressure. The same is true for enjoying orgasms more if you have a semi-full bladder.
Ah, six months then.
Well, it varies... a lot depends on how the woman is carrying and if her hormones are at the right levels. The downside is that a woman is usually quite large at that point and doesn't *feel* sexy.
Woman should feel sexy.... I think so.... :))
women should feel soft and wrm:) that is sexy
It's hard to feel sexy when you can't bend over far enough to tie your own shoes... :)
Is that innate, or because you've been programmed by Giant Media, Inc. to believe that women must comform to a very restrictive shape standard in order to be sexy?
innate mostly. i don't like the style of women on media. they never show the honies i like. blond is ich mostly and more than a handfull can be too much. well. except it doesn't bind well. i have to give mad prps to the japanese, that's hard work
I'm sure it's perceptions of both said woman and her partner.
Greg - is there any way to access the old cflirt items?
The old cflirt conference is still around as "sexuality2". In PicoSpan, the command "j sexuality2" takes you there, i'd have to peek at Backtalk and it might depend on which interface you were using (ask if needed).
well..umm. there yha go
Wow...I take off for a while and y'all restart the cf. Nice decor.
thanks <bow> i worked hard, but everyone else filled itup
Greg, if you moved the "rules" section of the conference into a
one-time file (I forget what those are called, but I'll look it up) and
tidied up the intro, it'd be under a page, and we wouldn't have to go through
a pager while reading it.
one time file? ok. poing
resp:64 I'll have to remember that Sarah. Approaching the end of the 7th month now. Aside from a whole lot of psychiatric problems, everything is as you predicted. Now I just gotta get past the psychiatric stuff and I'm home free. Wooohooo!
Re: #78/79 It's called a bulletin (bull for short). The fw can edit it using the PicoSpan "set bull" command. (Backtalk's probably got a button somewhere.) It's similar to an item in the sense that it's displayed once to every user who hasn't already seen the current version of it. (Or anyone can use the "display bulletin" command to view it again, or.....)
hi ppl
After such a long absence that I was able to get my old login using "newuser", I'm back, for anyone who may remember me. (It has been almost 2 years.)
TZAR TZAR <POUNCEHUGGLESLURP>
Hey there, Falcon.
wb Jess.
Slurp? *grin*
Aiie. The visuals. Aiie.
Jess! How's life? How's the music biz, or you doing something else these days? So good to see you again =)
dude. too much acid:)
Things are good. I'm biding my time while waiting to go to grad school (maybe in the fall.. we'll see what happens) and planning a wedding.
another one bites the dust another one bites the dust uh uh uih and another one down and another one down another one bites the dust
*offers consoling hugs to greg*
eh. i'm just feeling my age;)
Somehow, a guy hug is not what I think Greg was wanting ...
<chuckle> what i'm wanting is for all the avalible non-psychotic atractive intelegent women to not disspier on me;)
Well, there's your problem. Your standards are too high. I dropped
the "non-psychotic" requirement years ago.
Anyway, who says I'm not psycotic? ;)
psycotic or psychotic? grad school.. man, I wish I could afford that. I'm down in the trenches with a sucky local economy, debt, and a baby on the way.
i'm sorry. i think i've done my part in dating borken women. i think i'm entitled to a little nookie that won't drive me down the path of the dark side. and my standards are high, hell yha, 'cause i deserve it
I know what you mean. I'm beginning to think, these days, that
relationship insanity isn't something that a person has, but something that
two people do. But it's one of those things that people understand so little
about intellectually that they find themselves acting in ways they can't
explain, for reasons they're not fully in touch with.
Granted, some people really are whacked. But even the most whacked
of them, and the worst relationship material of the bunch, eventually find
something. If only for a while. So there's a lot of give and take there.
#101 sounded like Fred Durst and Trent Reznor tried to write a song together.
why thank you. though i'd prefer lincoln park and tretn reznor, 'cause reznor is da man and all. but seriously, it's enough to make a man drink. tempted to cruise the virgin vaults for unfucked up women. either that or, ok, anyone notice that women have a "slut" phase? why can' ti ever find a girlie in that mode? like, what's up with that, sex is fun for like, 2 years or so and then all of a sudden it's "a special and wonderfull gift" wtf
I dunno, but if you find a girl in that mode, find out if she has a friend you could send my way.
i love how women who love sex are in 'slut mode'. c'mon people.
Actually, the reverse is true. I find taht women in "slut mode" are almost never actually interested in sex. [*] It's the image, the bad-girl thing. [*] or if they are, they still ahve just as high standards as ever. They may want sex, but not with you, loser.
haha
i said "slut" mode, not slut mode. personally the world would be a happy palce if slut were as good a compliment as playah
oh i didnt know playah was a compliment..
It's less of an insult than "slut."
most people i know would not be horribly offended and become social pariahh's for being called playah
"Playa" is about as much of an insult as "capitalist" - if someone is
one, they're not really likely to be offended by calling them one.
If I'm understanging Greg right here, the concept is pretty much the
same for both genders. Guys can have their "slut phases" too, and I'm pretty
sure I've referred to myself as having one, somewhere in this conference.
Fuck the occupation, we're reclaiming the word!
However, when people are in their "slut phase", it's not that they're
crazy for anything to come their way, or even that their standards have
dropped, necessarily, but that they don't want to commit to any one person,
or want to explore different options, so things like long-term compatibility
can be completely eclipsed by a nice ass. People who're in one tend to make
more superficial choices.
You're telling me you want someone to go after you for more superficial
reasons?
no, i'm looking for the exploritory bit;) most people on the other side of the phase have gotten "board" wit hsex or had such bad experinces that they don't want to have it or only have it one or two particular ways. the "slut" phase is characterized by sex not being dirty, or sex being dirty but fun and desierable, as opposed to an activty done soley to please a mate or in a ritualitic fashion as some sort of bonding exercise
Or put more simply, you want Fun Sex, not Relationship Sex. BTW, great comments recently. This is one of the best Grex discussions I've stumbled over in a long time.
well, yha. fun sex. though my idea of fun sex may be more like peoples deviant/relatouinship sse err, sex oh well.
Just remember, it's easier for women to go from Fun Sex to Relationship Sex than it is to go in the other direction. At least from what I've observed.
I'm figuring it must be a biological urge. It's beneficial to want the male to be around for the potential kids. I suppose you could find some horny, unfufilled housewife.. but I doubt that would be a good idea (y'know, being in the "other man" role).
Um, I'm not in a slut phase, and it's not because I'm bored with sex.
There are a couple of factors in the decline in the frequency of sex
from the first months (of sexual activity, cough cough) of a relationship
until the last, and only one of them is a decline in a biological urge. The
one that's most significant to me, because it's most controllable, is that
communication becomes ever so much more important as a relationship goes on,
and a breakdown in communication can really kill a libido.
Insofar as the "sex being dirty" bit, good luck. I've never seen a
phase wherein people who think sex is somehow wrong temporarily change their
mind. Even if they did, the guilt aftermath would be untenable. I cannot
suggest strongly enough that no one, except for their own kind, date prudes.
Now about exploration, your mileage may vary. A couple of people here
have mentioned that sitting down and talking about exploration works for
them. It doesn't work for me. I work towards trust, and then once I have
trust, I experiment a little, and if they enjoy it, then I continue; if they
don't, I stop, and often later ask why. Works pretty well.
It would be great if you could ask someone if they are a prude and expect an honest answer.
You can't tell, really?
Well, there are prudes and prudes. You can spot the ones that won't swear and get offended by dirty jokes a mile away, but... I consider them prudes also who talk a good game but are all talk. Those are harder to spot.
otherwise known as type b prudes, closet prudes, and teases
That's strange. I've really never had a tough time knowing if
someone's sexually interested or not.
I get flirted with often because I'm married, ergo, "safe," even from people who know I'm not "safe."
yha, that safe thing is annoying. like, duh, why would you chase after something you cant have gah people are stupid
yep
Hang on, weren't you complaining about being unattached? Or were you just complaining about not getting laid by enough people 'cause you're poly? ;-)
no clue. i can never keep track of Grex: the whining
"As the hard drive turns ..."
It could also be a case of Denied Bisexual Privilege; not having one
partner of *each* gender.
#129> I don't complain about being unattached because I'm not unattached.
Come on now, Jazz, you're going to give us a bad name. That's _not_ what we want, remember? Repeat after me.... ;) I'm starting to think that part of the problem comes from looking for too many kinds of satisfaction from one person. That is, our culture's deemed it proper that we get all our sexual satisfaction from one person (well, not all of us from the _same_ person, but you know what I mean), and that's okay on its own, but on top of that we want to get all our psychological support, most of our companionship, our sense of stability, our sense of adventure, our need to be admired and to admire someone, and our help around the house... all from the same person. That's a nice ideal, but to _expect_ it -- or worse, _demand_ it -- is gonna make your relationships devolve into strange little bitchy dependent black holes, the way relationships often do. And even if you don't demand it, dating someone who does will turn out just as badly.
I'll agree with that. Except in unusual cases, it's completely
unreasonable to expect one person to meet all of your needs, and when you're
in a monogamous relationship you do need to have friends, family, and
associates, and generally step out of the bedroom into the outside world once
in a while.
That said, it doesn't mean that if you're bi, monogamy means one
partner of each gender. There are a good number of people who actually think
that. And it doesn't have anything to do with bisexuality; I enjoy the
company of blondes, brunettes, and redheads, completely equally, but I would
never assert that because they appear different I get to have one of each
and still call it monogamy.
That's BiPriv.
(Ooh, that's what I get for putting a joke and a real response in the same entry. I didn't mean to sound like I was plugging the "one cookie good, two cookie better" school of bisexuality. Thanks for catching that.)
i could go for two cookies, preferably a brunette and a redhead:) but then, i'm not bi:)
People who do try to meet all of each other's needs are in serious trouble. Ever seen a married couple that works in the same workplace? What do they talk about at dinner? Ther's nothing there. Monogamous marriages are still the joining of two *lives*, as in, separate lives involving different people and experiences. You can't be healthy without that. Unfortunately, I've seen too many people who hold out for relationships that they think will solve all of their problems. They don't last long.
On the contrary, some people can, and do, do just that. It's not for
you. It's not for me. But some people really do crave that kind of
closeness much more than they do something interesting to talk about over the
dinner table.
Jon and I once held jobs at the same business once. Big mistake. We argued all the time. They shuffled me around a lot and eventually fired me. In short, we were stuck in another town and, though I tried to call in, I called the wrong phone number and, so, was away from work for two scheduled shifts. I'm not entirely sure but, considering how loud our arguments were (we'd only just been married) I would think they were most likely looking for an excuse to be rid of one of us. I just provided an opportunity that was too good to miss.
It was a job at the university. It was unfortunate at the time, but we learned from it.
Weren't you just saying that couples can't survive without outside connections, John?
There's a married couple who both teach in the music school here... their offices are right down the hall from each other. Sometimes, if you're there in the late afternoon, you'll hear them shouting down the hall about dinner options. I honestly don't know how they take it. Then, I've never been much for 24-7 contact with any one person.
hello to every one i wanna have a friend out here any body interested here?
Sure, I'll be your pal.
I did some photography wed night. She is a very open type of girl. Descrip: 5'5", 110, blonde/brown hair, brown eyes, cute. Thing is she has a boyfreind, and he knows about it and didn't care. I got 70+ pics, both on film and digital. We had a blast. I also found out last week that a girl I met at clutch cargo's a year age who now lives in cali is now doing porn. She said her screen name is something like harley-croft or cross, not sure which. she is 19 and bi. Its kinda cool but sucks 'cause i did like her. She tells me she'll be back to see me this year when she comes to visit family, but not within the next 3 months. I don't really get on computers much but I have alot of experiences I could share and I guess this is a good place for it. comments/questions? ?
What? No URL for the pictures?
It's much more fun if they don't KNOW you're taking the pictures.
Yes, I'm kidding.
or if they know but they're 16 yes i'm kidding as well. <dodge><duck><roll> heh i remember back in the day when i was working at Mammon's when we'd get "naughty" rolls in the good old lab what a blast this one time, in the photolab, there was this 15 year old gir, and her nsync photos got swtiched for nekkid people doing coke off each other's genitals. oh yha. her face was precious. sheer fun for hours. we also used to hve websites that'd come in, in the dark days before direct digital cameras <sigh> the good old days workn' for da man. now i'm part of the man vive la digerati
Whether you be glad, sad, or bad, you've got to know that there's fun
to be had.
Boys have wants, girls have needs
'boys have penises, girls have vaginas'
Argh, that's not in the song.
We weren't on the same song anyway, were we? Just the same group. Oval's young. She's probably too young for Nitzer Ebb.
i know nitzer ebb dammit!!! (not well enough to know the lyrics though) i think i'm the same age as jazz btw...
Yeah, but Jazz is weird. =} *ducks from oval*
quack.
Paul, far as I've seen the people you spend time with are weirder than
I could ever aspire to be. Weird compared to what?
what is 'normal' anyway?
Apparently the frat boys who live next to me are "normal".
scary.
Yeah, but they're "normal" only with the quotation marks. Some of us aim to be normal without any punctuation.
Why?
#157> I dunno, I was mostly teasing Oval.
it's fun and easy?
teasing me? ;)
Uh oh ... don't get Paul started ... ;)
paul is a cunt tease anyway :P
yeah, probably =S
teasing can sometimes lead to better things........
Yes! Like fistfights!
and BIG HAIR!
Hallelujah!
Reminds me of the time when I was out celebrating my birthday at a
local Irish pub with me mum - they have fantastic smoked salmon - and she
made a comment about a man with closely-shaved red hair, saying that you
don't see that, that often. And who should walk in then but another friend
of mine with closely-shaved red hair, and a ring through her nose. Love it
when my friends provide a human punchline.
what red hair? or closely shaved red hair?
Closely-shaved red.
i think poeples individual style, red hair, shaved or not, is fine. Peircings, tatoos, whatever. Who cares how poeple express thewselves in public...poeple are who they wanna be...ive never been one to poke fun at anybody. Especially thier sexuality. I have an uncle thats gay and he told me that he wasnt gay because he didnt find women attactive, but because he had different emotional needs. He said that he did find women attractive, beauty wise and sexually as well, but they didnt have what he needed emotionally. I myself am not gay, but it did help me understand what being gay is about. I know that there are some gay poeple out there that have very bad opinions about the other sex, but that is there choice, but i dont make fun of them, i just dont think its right to make fun of poeple because of who they are, red hair and piercing or whatever. I guess thats my opinion tho.... its been awhile since anyones been on this conf eh?
That's nice, but what I was making fun of in this case was a closeted
mind.
The "I understand" testimonial item?
exit
nkeeid photo's. where where where????????? ;-)
... someone didn't read the intro, did they?
hi
well, at least we know the answer to that question
Howdy all, just peeking in to see the slow moving forum.
[insert "spurts of activity" pun here]
it's more of spasms
Eww.
Ah, but are they "happy spasms", that is the question.
now we see if the system took my new name
Doesn't look that way (to the name bit).
Hello, folks!
morning
Hi.
YEEEHAH! Beats a regular hello
Hi I thought that people talked dirty here, which I now see is not true.. Why is this so.. I assume all of u would be interested in that..at some point.. So why the fake decency that is prevailing here..?
This is the public part of the conference. If you want to talk dirty, type "!stty 0" at the Ok: prompt. I promise you you'll be encouraged!
Heh.
I guess everyone's been trying it. ;-)
Cute, very cute. Useful to know Joe too...thanks for letting me in on the secret. s.
I don't think he "let you in" on it ...
women are strange
but very nice
Very very nice 99% of the time, the other 1%, add another very.
actually women are inscrutable and evil. i'm on to them i know the game. yes. yes....
Naw, they just *act* that way. It's gotcha fooled, doesn't it?
Actually, it depends, just like everyone else. If you really need
nice, it's in hard supply. If you're fine, everyone's nice.
wow, kinda like pussy eha?
Hm. Seems like when I need nice the most, it takes a whole lot of it to get through my bitter cranky-ass shell. I think _that's_ why it seems like it's in such short supply.
Well, it's also like this. If you're a person who makes other people
feel good, then a lot of people want to spend time around you, and you are
in high demand. You can pick and choose who you want to spend time around
- those who also make you feel good, or those who don't. Usually it's the
former.
Hey NIce BBS. I am quite interested about sex talks, discussions and other things too. Well, Sex comes more as excitement and problem to me as I am a virgin boy and not having a girl friend :(. So sexy talks make me feel too sexy and the company of girls makes me on the seventh heaven.... Think I am.. Think I am.... Think I am...... Think..... A Sex Maniac
Wait, you'd need to HAVE sex before you can be a sex maniac.
uh. what did he say?
He's a virgin, so he gets excited by sex talk, as it interests him. He also loves the company of girls and wants to be a sex maniac.
Oh, I understood the post.
I just have a different definition of 'sex maniac', though I usually
get all schmantzy and say "nymphomania". Gotta love 'em, anyways, those
nymphomaniacs.
heh. nymphomaniac virgin? sorry, i'll only buy that from isabelle hupert
who's Isabelle Hupert?
Well, I can't consider myself a virgin anymore, albiet the only sex I've had was a blowjob . . . and not from the gal I'm after currently.
Hrm, everyone seems to not be quite getting what other people are
talking about.
it's from a movie called "amateur" by hal hartly. watch it. it's wunderbar
Is it an indie film? Doesn't sound terribly familiar, and my gut says it's likely on the skanky side. Is it?
Jazz - I was talking to Greg. Sorry about the ambiguity.
Accountancy. Murder. Amnesia. Torture. Ecstasy. Understanding.
Redemption.
And you bought it just for the cover picture of Isabelle Huppert
wearing PVC and sporting a drill ... :)
I loved that movie. :)
It has the funniest scene involving shooting a handgun at a person from
less then 6 feet.
Is it funnier than "Oh man, I just shot Marvin in the face"?
actually danny got me into it.
Yes, it's MUCH funnier. Even funnier than the scene in Fight Club.
All right, what movie is this again?
Amateur, by Hal Hartley.
Hi, Can some hunky Male show me around?
<laugh>
Hahaha, I had some guy at Divine tell me that he would waive my cover
(not like he could) if I went in without a shirt. How Club 54.
I guess you must be that hunky male that Simon's looking for, then.
well hello i go by NeonLightning and this is nice to find a organized yet not anal alternate sexuality conf i'ma bisexual male who is a nerd that tends to be called a goth(wtf is with that) and i'm not sure how often i'll remember i'm signed up on here(bad A.D.D.) so if people want to catch me i'm a staff member on irc.liquidvoltage.net and my nick is NeonLightning i'm not adverting here just letting people know my site is Http://neonbox.16bit.at that one was a ad :P and it would be interesting to talk to you people excpecially if your in canada pref ontario well hope to talk again ttfn ,
well well for the first time i am here ( at last ) i took me a lot of time to co me here and find some good people to talk to and say whatever i want. whatever , i think i am the only one here from Africa , and that wont stop me , on the contrary , this will make me try to respond more and more here. so if anyone wants to talk , lets just pick a topic , and i will be more than happy to participate. Love you all , and till later.
Are you black?!
hello pips w exit quit quit quit hi quit at the start of a line
i wonder how many girls actually use this....
Define "girls".
I think he means "girls who will have sex with him" in which case the answer is almost certainly "none."
Define "sex". See? Stranger things have happened.
What's the "this" he's talking about, anyway?
are we trying for a rule #34 violation? Lots of women use grex, most of them are hot. I'm guessing 99% won't be interested. but hey try the 1% and tip your server.
You have several choices: