Grex Oldcoop Conference

Item 75: Member Initative: Restore the Murdered Items

Entered by jp2 on Fri Jan 9 19:12:05 2004:

I forget what I have to do to make a formal policy initiative, but I propose
that, in any case of whole items being deleted by valerie and any other staff
member during the past week, that these items be restored from back up tapes
and individual posters be presented with the opportunity to decide for
themselves if they wish to scribble their posts.
424 responses total.

#1 of 424 by willcome on Fri Jan 9 19:51:27 2004:

I vote yes.


#2 of 424 by gull on Fri Jan 9 20:20:32 2004:

I agree in principle, but I think this is a touchy issue since valerie 
is no longer around to scribble her responses if she wants to.  Since 
she's scribbled all her other responses, I think we should take that as 
a sign of her intentions and scribble her responses in the restored 
items.


#3 of 424 by flem on Fri Jan 9 20:23:29 2004:

Astonishingly, I'm in agreement with jp2 and willcome, both at once. 
The sky must be falling.  


#4 of 424 by richard on Fri Jan 9 20:31:02 2004:

I think users should only be allowed to scribble new posts. If they posted
something a year ago, its part of grex's history, and there is no guarantee
that the other users in that item are still around.  In which case, you could
have old users whose own comments could well be taken out of context by the
scribbling and they might not be around to better explain what they were
responding to.  It is not fair.

Everything, every response and every item Valerie deleted should be restored
via backups and then she should only be allowed to scribble stuff that was
posted a reasonable amount of time (six months? a year?) ago. 


#5 of 424 by krj on Fri Jan 9 20:36:38 2004:

Heh, what happens if this passes and no staff member is willing to 
implement it?


#6 of 424 by richard on Fri Jan 9 20:45:18 2004:

How can users feel comfortable posting on Grex, if staff will not protect the
integrity of their posts in the future.  And by that I mean not just
protecting what users had said, but protecting the context of what they said.
Grex is allowing its own history to be revised if it will not firmly protect
its old items from this sort of butchery.  Why even keep the old conferences
and items around if users can do what Valerie did and go back and cut holes
in them?  


#7 of 424 by other on Fri Jan 9 20:48:34 2004:

5: We should not attempt to cross that bridge unless we actually 
come to it.


#8 of 424 by jp2 on Fri Jan 9 20:51:25 2004:

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#9 of 424 by richard on Fri Jan 9 20:58:10 2004:

p


#10 of 424 by other on Fri Jan 9 20:58:21 2004:

You can accept changes without resetting the clock.


#11 of 424 by jp2 on Fri Jan 9 21:01:43 2004:

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#12 of 424 by other on Fri Jan 9 21:06:12 2004:

Right then.  In that case, you're wasting your time because it will 
never pass, as written.  There are too many people here who would 
rather wait for a more reasonable proposal than force the re-posting 
of text which users explicitly and rightfully removed for their own 
perfectly legitimate reasons, even if their methods were messy and 
collateral damage was (at least temporarily) sustained.


#13 of 424 by jp2 on Fri Jan 9 21:10:18 2004:

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#14 of 424 by jep on Fri Jan 9 21:48:26 2004:

I urge a "no" vote for this proposal.  Additionally, item:76 has a more 
limited proposal which would conflict with this one.  I think anyone 
who reads this needs to make sure they read that item, too.


#15 of 424 by richard on Fri Jan 9 21:58:47 2004:

Grex doesn't allow editing of items.  Why? I was always under the impression
that was some old debate back when Grex started, and it was decided that if
users were allowed to edit their items, they'd risk taking other people's
responses out of context by doing so.  But scribbling an item can do the same
damage, and if you scribble an old item where the old users are no longer
there to scribble, or clarify their old posts, how is that fair?



#16 of 424 by other on Fri Jan 9 22:19:02 2004:

It's not fair that I only had one set of grandparents while I was 
growing up.  If you can fix that, I'll fix the scribble problem.


#17 of 424 by gull on Fri Jan 9 22:26:04 2004:

Re resp:4: An odd position from someone who's advocated deleting entire 
old conferences.


#18 of 424 by willcome on Fri Jan 9 22:55:16 2004:

YEAH< RICHARD!  WHAT KIND (OR SHOULD I SAY MEAN?!?!? )  OF JEW SCHEME ARE YOU
TRYING TO PULL ON US?





#19 of 424 by keesan on Fri Jan 9 23:52:03 2004:

I keep seeing the most recent response in an item cut off, for instance gull's
response ends at the end of a line in 'deleting entire'


#20 of 424 by tod on Fri Jan 9 23:52:22 2004:

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#21 of 424 by naftee on Fri Jan 9 23:54:13 2004:

I vote yes.

The count is at 6.


#22 of 424 by aruba on Sat Jan 10 00:53:15 2004:

Richard, of course it's not fair.  Life is not fair.  Some really bad things
happened this week, and they were unfair.  That doesn't mean we can undo
them without doing a lot more harm.

I wish all of this hadn't happened.  But I don't have the heart to force
John's or Valerie's items to be put back up, at least not now.  So I'll be
voting no on this proposal.  We need to all calm down and get a little
perspective before we try to fix anything.


#23 of 424 by gull on Sat Jan 10 01:09:25 2004:

Re resp:19: There's probably a mismatch between the actual number of 
lines of your terminal, and what Grex things your screen size is.


#24 of 424 by cmcgee on Sat Jan 10 02:19:16 2004:

I'm voting no.


#25 of 424 by cross on Sat Jan 10 02:33:25 2004:

I'm voting yes, but with the following caveat: Keep JEP's items offline
for the time being.  Track down all participants and ask them if they
would mind scribbling their responses.  If none do, don't bother restoring
the items.  If there's some subset of users who disagree with scribbling
their responses, then we can move from there.  Otherwise, the effect
would be that of every user scribbling their responses, which would be
basically the same as just deleting the items in question.  Similarly with
the baby diary items (though that's a much bigger job, I imagine).

I didn't, and still don't, understand the point of deleting the baby
diaries.  The mnet parody only took *new* material, and there wasn't
any new material being added to the items here on grex, so what was the
point of deleting them?


#26 of 424 by richard on Sat Jan 10 02:41:55 2004:

#17...gull, I advocated closing old confs and archiving them out of the main
bbs. If I said "get rid of them", thats what I meant. I have no problem with
those conferences that are no longer active and haven't been active in some
time, being kept in some other "museum" area of grex for historical reasons.

And Aruba, I would argue that you are being more sympathetic towards valerie
and jep because you see them here in front of you, and you don't see any of
the many many old users who passed through this place.  Users who participated
honestly on this board, and who don't deserve to have their old words
misconstrued and taken out of context just to satisfy the vanity of a couple
of users.  If you want Grex to grow, you MUST create an environment where
people feel safe posting here, and you can't have that environment if you let
old items get butchered like this.


#27 of 424 by richard on Sat Jan 10 02:50:39 2004:

And I know that people won't feel safe posting here if they can't edit or
scribble new posts.  they should be able to.  But NEW posts, where the other
users interacting with them are known to be still around.  There has to be
a point where staff protects old items and old conferences from further
modification.  And I don't think its unreasonable at all.
./


#28 of 424 by richard on Sat Jan 10 03:02:01 2004:

And if you go back and look at the old Agoras, Agora1 or Agora12 or such,you
can see that they are in fact read only. Those items are not open and you
can't post to them. But you CAN still alter them if you posted in those items.
What is wrong with saying that if an item is closed and archived, and you
can't modify it regularly anymore, that you ought not to be able to modify
it anymore including scribbling?  If Valerie scribbles a post in Agora15,
nobody can go back and post again there if they felt the need to clarify
themselves.  Not that anyone is ever going to read those items again likely,
but it is just the point.


#29 of 424 by jep on Sat Jan 10 03:11:20 2004:

Richard, if you want to propose a different policy change, please 
enter a separate item.  I for one am not going to respond to you in 
all of the current active items in policy, all of which are on 
different subjects.

Thank you.


#30 of 424 by valerie on Sat Jan 10 05:51:30 2004:

[I posted this first in the item discussing John Perry's proposal, but then
I realized that I should post it here too.  So this is a duplicate response.]

Wow... it occurred to me that I should come back for long enough to
make a proposal for a membership vote on keeping my baby diary deleted,
so I logged in to do that, and found that there are at least two such
proposals on the table already.

A couple of thoughts:

At the beginning of Grex, fair witnesses were given very broad powers to
do whatever they pleased in their conferences.  It was expected that they
could delete items and set up their own set of rules for each conference.
If you didn't like the way a fw ran a conference, you were supposed
to start your own similar conference with a different fair witness,
run it your own way, and if it was better than the original conference,
then people would hang out there instead of in the original.  If that
meant that there were 12 cooking conferences, that was cool.

I can remember plenty of instances of fair witnesses legitimately
deleting items.  In the classified ads conference, the fws deleted
old ads.  In the kitchen conference, the fws (I was one of them) deleted
everything and started over, because the conference had gotten big and
we wanted it to stay manageably small.  In the Enigma conference, John
Remmers would change the decor from time to time by deleting old items
and adding a "new western look" or whatever style he wanted to try out.
Nobody objected.

In conversation this evening, Jan said to me that he thinks that the
recent discussions about people being allowed to scribble their own
responses changed people's ideas of what the role of a fair witness is.
I don't know about that -- I sat out from those discussions -- but it
could well be true.

However, if the definition of what a fair witness can do has changed, I
think it is wrong to apply the new rules to old items.  My baby diary ran
for over six years -- that is, it started long, long, before those recent
discussions.  Misti says that for sure she would have deleted the baby
diaries from the femme conference if I had asked her to.  Grace sounds
less certain than Misti, but she says that she thinks she would have too.

What I'm asking is that if people want a rule that says that fair
witnesses can't delete items, don't retroactively apply it to items that
the fair witnesses would have legitimately been allowed to delete --
such as my baby diary items or John Perry's deleted items.

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Also, I have to say, I thought that the title "Valerie's Baby Diary"
made it clear that I owned those items, just like I own the files in
my directory and my books in my home.  Other people could post to those
items, but I viewed them as my own.  The title made that clear.  I had
no idea that people thought that any item in PicoSpan was the collective
property of the Grex user community.  I'm not sure if this is something
that was unwritten and reasonable people made different assumptions,
or if it is something that got decided on during the big discussion
(that I didn't read) about scribbling items.  But to me the idea that if
"Valerie's Baby Diary" is in PicoSpan, then it belongs to the community
and not to Valerie -- that idea was a surprise to me.

The first volume of the baby diary originally had another title, which
was changed later, so maybe some case could be made that this does not
apply to that volume.  But the other five volumes were named "Valerie's
(pregnancy/parenting/childbirth/whatever) Diary" from the time when they
were entered.  If the Grex community decides to make a policy that says
that Grex, and not the item author, owns all items, I hope the policy
won't be retroactive back to items that were entered before the policy
was defined, back when the ownership of items was ambiguous and people
came to different interpretations.

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Hm... I should post this response in the other proposal item too, since
it's much more relevant to that one than to this one.


#31 of 424 by happyboy on Sat Jan 10 11:41:25 2004:

if you're gonna leave then LEAVE.


#32 of 424 by jaklumen on Sat Jan 10 12:46:33 2004:

*sigh* (I am wondering why you're back... not sure it helps matters)


#33 of 424 by willcome on Sat Jan 10 13:28:24 2004:

Jay, does this initiative include the items deleted by mynxcat in the
international conference?


#34 of 424 by mynxcat on Sat Jan 10 13:57:17 2004:

As per Val's post, since there isn't any policy, I was fairly within my
rights.


#35 of 424 by jmsaul on Sat Jan 10 14:11:37 2004:

I wasn't aware that Valerie was a FairWitness of agora at the time she deleted
jep's items.  I must have missed that.


#36 of 424 by willcome on Sat Jan 10 14:31:38 2004:

34: As I understand it, mynxcat, even if you were "within your rights", this
would supercede.


#37 of 424 by jp2 on Sat Jan 10 16:01:37 2004:

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#38 of 424 by mynxcat on Sat Jan 10 16:02:25 2004:

Not really, as per val's post, it seems that fw's had every right to delete
items they thought appropriate and if that had to change now, it should not
be applied retroactively to all conferences and items. Theres fore when I
deleted the items I was perfectly withing my rights.

Also she says that when she created those items the general idea was that the
author was the owner and it wasn't a grex collective owned iece of work.
Agian, if that were to change now, it shouldn't be applied retroactively. And
she says her diaries were named "Val's baby diary" etc. If we were to go with
these arguments, then my fat item should be deleted, ang with my piano item
and any other item I've ebtered over the last couple of years.


#39 of 424 by naftee on Sat Jan 10 17:13:13 2004:

If my name is somehow attached to it, it's mine!!!!! All mine!!!!!! BAHAHAHA


#40 of 424 by willcome on Sat Jan 10 17:18:10 2004:

Re. 37: FWs are at least quasi-staff members.


#41 of 424 by jmsaul on Sat Jan 10 17:53:08 2004:

Re #38:  I wouldn't cite Valerie as an authority on what people with staff
         or FW powers are allowed to do here.  People of equal tenure don't
         agree.


#42 of 424 by mynxcat on Sat Jan 10 18:14:41 2004:

I agree with you. Let's just say that my post is valid if it is ever agreed
that val's post is valid.


#43 of 424 by janc on Sat Jan 10 20:37:14 2004:

I would strongly oppose restoring the items intact and leaving them
on-line until jep/valerie got around to deleting their own responses. 
Grex has recognized the authors right to delete their own posts.  To
temporarily restore them allowing others to grab copies would be in
violation of previously established principles.


#44 of 424 by mary on Sat Jan 10 20:52:20 2004:

And they wouldn't be put back with Valerie's and John's comments
still available.  


#45 of 424 by richard on Sat Jan 10 21:51:30 2004:

#43...but Jan does it not also violate grex's own previously established
principles, if authors delete other people's posts in the act of deleting
their own? I think its a question of whether you can infringe upon other
people's rights to have their own words posted while in the act of enforcing
your own. I posted in some of JEP's items, does he strictly speaking have the
right to request removal of my posts just because he has the right to request
removal of his own?  


#46 of 424 by naftee on Sat Jan 10 22:14:03 2004:

re 43 But they would never get around to doing that!  They'd stall on purpose!


#47 of 424 by tod on Sat Jan 10 23:51:29 2004:

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#48 of 424 by cyklone on Sun Jan 11 02:05:58 2004:

I think jep's divorce item has too many valuable insights to disappear. 
Even if his posts are deleted (which I certainly understand and do not
oppose), I believe the benefits others provided in terms of their own
opinions and experiences far outweigh the "benefit" of deleting the
entire item. 



#49 of 424 by jp2 on Sun Jan 11 02:08:28 2004:

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#50 of 424 by cross on Sun Jan 11 04:04:38 2004:

Naming of an item is irrelevant.  In a forum like this, creating an
item is an invitation for public discussion, by definition.  There is
no ownership of a discussion amongst public participants; that's an
impossible concept.  It's like asking, ``Who owns `speech'?''

If, therefore, there is no owner, then it is inappropriate for one person
to decide they have any authority to delete the words of another person.
Think of it this way: if someone else had created an item parallel
to Valerie's baby diary items entitled something like, `discussion of
valerie's baby diary', would Valerie `own' that too?  Of course not,
it doesn't make any sense.

That said, I feel empathy for jep and valerie's emotions in wanting to
make their posts go away.  I still think my previous suggestion is an
acceptible way to go that has the potential to accomodate all parties.


#51 of 424 by jep on Sun Jan 11 04:05:50 2004:

I agree there was value in my divorce items.  However, it was all 
intended for me, and for my situation.  There was virtually no drift 
in those items.


#52 of 424 by cyklone on Sun Jan 11 04:26:00 2004:

That's not the point. People said what they said, and just because those words
were placed in an item you began, and about you, does not mean you own those
words. Especially when those words may have independant value for someone
other than you.


#53 of 424 by jep on Sun Jan 11 04:58:50 2004:

I regret that that value was lost, cyklone.  I wish I didn't think 
there was a need to remove those items.  It is possible someone would 
have someday come across my items when in a similar situation and with 
a similar mindset, and could thereby have gotten through the 
experience a little easier.

You see, I do understand that aspect of the issue.  What I would have 
given for an account of that type of experience, while I was going 
through it...

But those items mean something else, too.  I wouldn't have entered 
them, or at least wouldn't have said as much in them, if I'd had 
appropriate concern for what might come of them some day.  I just 
*didn't care*.  It seems to me to be pretty harsh to force someone to 
have something remain when it was created under those types of 
circumstances.

Also, that they're deleted now is an important fact about them.  They 
can not again be an obscure, past account of my feelings about my 
divorce.  Now they'd be a part of a political storm, a target for 
people who have no concern about me at all, and also a target for 
people who don't like that I had them deleted.  They're deleted now.  
That's real, and it has real impact.  Undeleting them doesn't put 
things back to where they were.  Undeleting them is a completely new 
action, which has never been done before on Grex.

That is of course true for Valerie's items, and for items all over the 
conferences which once contained Valerie's responses.  Restoring them 
does not set back the clock.  It'd be a whole new type of action, 
compounding the consequences -- not erasing them -- of what has 
already happened this week.

If I hadn't gotten my items deleted, they might well have gained new 
usage from a different group of people; those who are archiving 
controversial items just to show people they can't delete even their 
own text.

It is *not* as simple as "the items were created once, now they should 
be here permanently".  Both because my items were deleted, and because 
of other events, much has changed here this week.


#54 of 424 by janc on Sun Jan 11 07:59:23 2004:

Richard - nobody is arguing that their deletion was procedurally correct.
The person who deleted them has already resigned.  We are all willing to
agree that that should not have been done in that manner.  There is no need
to keep debating that point.

If I'd had my way, the items would have been deleted with the formal
approval of the board temporarily, so that we could have this discussion.
If that had happened, then there would be at least a little reason to
debate whether or not it was the right thing to do - it would have been
an official Grex action, not an accident that happened to Grex.

In any case, if they hadn't been deleted, one way or the other, then we
couldn't even be having this public discussion of the merits of deleting them.

The question here is to weigh the potentials for harm in each course.
One way, JEP is exposed to some risks that he has outlined.  The other
way, Grex might have taken a small step closer to the slippery slope
of censorship.  The first risks a person (two really), the second risks
an institution.  None of us can do anything to mitigate the risks to
JEP if we restore his item.  All of us can do things to prevent Grex from
sliding down the slope into routine censorship if we do don't.

I think there's no comparison here.  It's a no brainer.


#55 of 424 by jp2 on Sun Jan 11 14:15:22 2004:

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#56 of 424 by gelinas on Sun Jan 11 14:24:22 2004:

That deleting the items was wrong does not make restoring them right;
restoring them is also wrong.


#57 of 424 by cyklone on Sun Jan 11 14:48:52 2004:

I disagree with jp's assertion that valerie and jep lack moral character. They
just made mistakes, as we all do from time to time.


#58 of 424 by tod on Sun Jan 11 14:59:03 2004:

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#59 of 424 by jp2 on Sun Jan 11 15:30:20 2004:

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#60 of 424 by jmsaul on Sun Jan 11 15:58:39 2004:

Jep isn't insisting on that.  I believe he'd be fine if his items were
restored minus all of his comments.


#61 of 424 by jp2 on Sun Jan 11 16:01:20 2004:

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#62 of 424 by jmsaul on Sun Jan 11 16:07:16 2004:

His objection to doing that is procedural -- he doesn't want the whole item
restored to public view while he removes his posts from it. 


#63 of 424 by jp2 on Sun Jan 11 16:14:31 2004:

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#64 of 424 by gull on Sun Jan 11 17:19:05 2004:

jep, would you argue, then, that the standard for removing whole items
should be that the person who entered them regrets having done so and
feels their mental state was different when they did?  That seems pretty
low.  Would it also apply to items that the person hadn't entered, but
had posted a large number of responses to?


#65 of 424 by jep on Sun Jan 11 17:46:42 2004:

I am not arguing for a standard for removal of items.  I am arguing 
against the idea that Valerie's actions can be undone.  They 
happened.  There are effects which cannot be undone now.

Overall, it would be better in most ways if no items had been removed 
at all.  If I'd been involved with writing a policy a week ago, I 
would have tried to influence it against removal of items by staff 
members.  That would, of course, have prevented my items from being 
removed by staff, too.

But circumstances are different now.

My expectations for my items is certainly different now than it was a 
few days ago.  Then, they were there and nothing could be done about 
them.  Now, they're gone and it would take a staff action to restore 
them.  That action would be an action to hurt me.  That would be it's 
main effect from my perspective.  It would, by the way, hurt me more 
than it would help Grex.  I will not, of course, stand by while 
something like that is done to me.


#66 of 424 by janc on Sun Jan 11 17:56:11 2004:

OK, Jamie.  Let's all decide to delete JEP's items temporarily while we
discuss whether we should permanently delete them or not.  Thus we
magically change their status from "deleted because Valerie was bad" to
"deleted because we want to be able to discuss them."  This fairly
effortless transistion now allows us to declare Valerie bad without
being coerced by simplistic logic into instantly restoring the items. 
Does that serve?

David:  I think the standard for removing items should be that the risk
of harm to the person requesting the deletion if they are left up is
substantially greater than the risk of harm to Grex if they are deleted.


#67 of 424 by mary on Sun Jan 11 18:10:54 2004:

That makes it an easy call then, Jan.  With the items restored, and all of
Jep's comments and Valerie's comments removed, then there is very little
left to cause them any harm whatsoever.  And Grex is left with the clear
understanding that users can't censor other users.  Which I find a biggie
in terms of what makes Grex special.



#68 of 424 by mary on Sun Jan 11 18:17:45 2004:

And this is going to sound very harsh, but has to be said.
Jan, are you quite sure that Valerie doesn't have access
to the pumpkin where she could tamper with the backup tapes
before this issue is resolved?  I'm sorry I have to ask.


#69 of 424 by naftee on Sun Jan 11 20:43:24 2004:

re 65 
>That action would be an action to hurt me. 

Don't you agree that the action of censoring other people's text hurt them
as well?  Or are you as selfish as valerie and refuse to acknowledge other
people's feelings?


#70 of 424 by janc on Sun Jan 11 20:53:34 2004:

It's theoretically possible that Valerie could swipe my keys and go to
the pumpkin.  Actually the key would hardly be necessary.  The outside
door is frequently open since the remodeling and the inside lock ...
well, we should get the deadbolt rekeyed so we can use that to prevent
people who sneeze strongly as they walk by from accidentally entering
the pumpkin.

The question mostly indicates that you don't understand what is going on
here.


#71 of 424 by richard on Sun Jan 11 20:55:02 2004:

Jan, you mention considering what is in Grex's best interests.  I'd think
that insomuch as Grex is in effect publishing what people type onto its
board across the web, that there is solid legal reason for wanting to
maintain records of what has been typed.  In this age of paranoid security
fears, and things like communications decency acts (which you shouldn't be
surprised if it is reintroduced in some form soon in congress), you have
to consider the extent to which Grex may or may not be held accountable in
the future for what it is transmitting.  

Lets say that somebody enters an item on how to make bombs, or discussing
where good places are to bomb.  Then staff deletes the item.  Then
somebody sues Grex claiming the item posted actually advocated or promised
specific bombing.  Grex is hauled into court.  Where is the item? Its been
deleted.  Are old backups kept forever?  I believe that allowing wholesale
deletion of posts, without the presence of the scribble log, could open
Grex up to a potential situation where it can't defend itself against
legal challenges.

I think when you enter a post on grex it is not speech, it is nor oral
communication, it is verbal communication, print communication of which it
becomes part of a public record.  It is publishing.  And Grex needs for
its own protection, to have active records of everything it transmits, and
to not allow wholesale changes to what it transmits, where posts can be
taken out of context or changed and Grex find itself unable adequately
defend against outside allegations.

If somebody prints a column in a newspaper, and that column is available
on the paper's web site, the columnist can't go in the future and revise
the words in his column or delete it and pretend it was never published.
It was, its out there, and so is everything posted on Grex.  You never
know who has read, printed, or saved what has been posted here.  Once
something gets posted, its a matter of public record.  


#72 of 424 by janc on Sun Jan 11 21:02:30 2004:

Jim:  John has repeated acknowledged that some harm would be done to
others and Grex as a whole by the full deletion of his items.  But I
don't think that it can be argued that that harm is of anywhere near the
order of magnitude as what JEP could be exposed to.

My memory of the divorce item was that all the most controversial parts
of his responses, the expressions of anger and such, could be completely
reconstructed from the comments of other users in those items.  Exactly
the parts that are most likely to be embarrassing to him and most
harmful to him are the ones that would still be there if only his
responses were deleted.  After all, those were the parts that obviously
triggered the most discussion.  So restoring only other user's comments
would be almost as bad as restoring the whole thing.

I only made a few responses to that item - it's not a subject I'm too
knowledgable about.  But if something I said about what JEP had said
were used to his harm someday, I would really hate it.  So I'm going to
request that any responses that I made to those items not be restored,
if we make the poor choice of not leaving the whole thing buried.


#73 of 424 by janc on Sun Jan 11 21:15:31 2004:

Richard has a far-fetched theory about what might happen to Grex if this
special case became a precident for doing this as a general rule and if
we were too stupid to keep an archive copy of anything deleted.  Buy as
much of it as you like, but it still adds up to much less risk to Grex
than keeping the item would exposes JEP to.


#74 of 424 by slynne on Sun Jan 11 21:44:48 2004:

I think that it is ok to have special cases and I think jep is going 
about things correctly. I think that the only precedent this will set 
is one where it is ok for this system to take special cases into 
consideration. 



#75 of 424 by richard on Sun Jan 11 22:15:16 2004:

Jan, it was just acknowledged by Mary that a staffer with access could alter
the backup tapes.  Something is only far fetched until it actually happens.

I would argue that if JEP thinks he has been damaged by his posts-- which I
don't think he has, I thought his posts were heartfelt and anyone could
sympathize-- that he can't eliminate that damage by removing the posts now
and pretending they never happened.  JEP, how do you know that your ex-wife
hasn't already made copies of everything you posted here, or her lawyer, or
members of her family?  I think it is at least as likely that your son might
come across these posts from someone who saved them, as he would from someday
in the future actually reading these old conferences.  In fact your scenario
seems quite remote in terms of possibility of actually happening.  

The fact is that I and others posted in those items, and I believe that your
needs don't supercede ours, that we still have the right to see our words
posted as we intended.  Grex is putting itself in a position where staff has
to decide whose rights mean more?  And the logical way to answer that is that
the rights of the many outweigh the rights of the few.  Staff has to act in
the best interests of the majority of grexers.  I want staff to recognize that
my rights and the rights of every other user who posted in those items is as
important as JEP's.  And Valerie's.  I mean how many people posted in her baby
diary items and now have no access to their own words?


#76 of 424 by slynne on Sun Jan 11 22:25:54 2004:

Actually right now, it isnt staff who get to decide whose rights mean 
more. It is the members who get to decide. I think that is a good way 
to handle a situation like this. 


#77 of 424 by mary on Sun Jan 11 22:46:38 2004:

I agree.

I suspect even some of those most outspoken about restoring
these items will *elect* to delete their own responses given
the opportunity.


#78 of 424 by naftee on Sun Jan 11 23:15:11 2004:

I'm in agreement with Sir Richard's #75.


#79 of 424 by cyklone on Mon Jan 12 01:02:16 2004:

I keep reading comments like "the harm to jep from reinstating his items,
even with his posts deleted. is far greater than the harm to others." Yet
know one seems to have any real evidence in support of this premise. For
those of us who disagree, we have been denied access to the very text that
will enable us to make an informed evaluation as to which position is
correct. I swear Grex is beginning to look more and more like the Bush
administration, with such "trust me when I tell you about that which you
cannot be allowed to know" positions.

What I seem to recall, and now cannot confirm, is that jep was cautioned
more than once about what he was doing in terms of publishing his thoughts
and feelings. Now he says " But those items mean something else, too.  I
wouldn't have entered them, or at least wouldn't have said as much in
them, if I'd had appropriate concern for what might come of them some day.
I just *didn't care*.  It seems to me to be pretty harsh to force someone
to have something remain when it was created under those types of
circumstances."

What jep calls "harsh" others might call "expected results." I guess he is
essentially saying that he was temporarily insane and should therefore be
allowed to avoid potentially difficult consequences arising from that
insanity. I question that premise as well. There is a lot of "awfulizing"
going on here, which is a sign of some pretty distorted thinking. So what
if his son someday finds out his dad was distraught over his divorce and
that he cared very much about his son. This is not about protecting jep
from legal liability. This is apparently about making it easier for jep to
avoid a difficult talk with his son. I say deal with it. Jep is going to
have to have lots of hard talks with his son if he is to truly be a good
father. The remote possibility of one more such conversation should not be
creating this kind of controversy. 
 
So once again we are back to the real issues: grex wants a warm fuzzy amd
therefore favors a feel-good approach instead of free speech.  This means
that faced with a hard choice, Grex decides to give extreme weight to the
feelings of a favored user over all others who could possibly benefit from
the words people *other than jep* posted. This is total and utter BS. 

I like jep, and wish him no harm. However, I do not think he is acting
maturely when he causes this kind of harm with such weak justification. 
Again, I see no liability issues. I see a man too cowardly or embarassed
to face the *extrememely remote* possibility he may have to tell his son
"we all make mistakes. I make them too. Here's what I learned from this
one." Please reconsider jep. This does not reflect well upon you at all.



#80 of 424 by keesan on Mon Jan 12 01:04:21 2004:

Whether or not my responses are actually likely to hurt JEP, I would not want
them restored if they are likely to make him fear that he will be hurt.  


#81 of 424 by cyklone on Mon Jan 12 01:12:46 2004:

Ah yes. Now we are at the very heart of why grex is becoming a system in
opposition to what it once claimed to be. At this point Grex lacks any
credible claim to support free speech. Drop the "agora" folks; you make a
mockery of the concept. 

<Oh yeah, "know" in the first para of #79 sb "no">


#82 of 424 by naftee on Mon Jan 12 01:15:00 2004:

I doubt keesan reads your responses.  Your opinions are too strong.


#83 of 424 by janc on Mon Jan 12 01:57:33 2004:

Cyklone:  You complain about the injustice of being denied access to
JEPs item so you can decide if it should be deleted.  Was that a serious
suggestion?  We should put JEP's item back on line so that everyone can
study it while we have this discussion?  And incidentally save copies to
post all over the place?

I can't imagine that you actually want think that makes sense.  But if
not then what is the point of your complaining about this?  Do you have
any suggestion for something practical that could be done to satisfy
your complaint, or are you just complaining because you like the sound?

Yes, JEP was told many times in that item that it was a very bad idea
for him to have such an item.  I would guess that having just lost his
wife JEP felt a strong need for a support network and didn't have a lot
to fall back on besides his on-line community.  He wasn't "temporarily
insane" but he was way off balance and reaching out for help and not
thinking very hard about the long term.  I doubt that he actually
regrets it.  At the time I think it was a huge help to him that did a
lot to help him navigate a very difficult time.  It was a great item,
one of the best in Grex's history.  But there has always been a chance
that it could someday be taken and used against him.  Deleting the item
doesn't eliminate the chance.  Someone might well have made copies
already and may be storing them away to whip out if ever they want to
use them against JEP.  Why should we increase the chance that this item,
which was such a help to John back then, should someday become a weapon
to be used against him?

The idea of free speech you are pushing is a joke.  Not only must people
be allowed to talk, but every single thing they said must carefully be
preserved in the public record forever.  Suppose I had the last existant
copy of a pamphlet that was passed out on street corners a year ago.  Do
you think you could get a court to stop me from destroying it on free
speech grounds?

I think it's pretty likely that John has a copy of these items.  Maybe
he'll want to show them to his son some day and maybe he won't.  Though
we're obviously all bigger experts on parenting than John is, are you
sure that it is our place to make this decision for him?

You keep talking about what Grex does and what Grex thinks.  Have you
noticed that Mary and I, for instance, see this completely differently?
How exactly have you determined that I'm Grex and Mary isn't?


#84 of 424 by cyklone on Mon Jan 12 02:21:32 2004:

Actually, I do notice that and probably should come up with a way of
making my point clearer. I suppose I could always say "some or most on
grex". Again though, the basic point is missed when you say "But there has
always been a chance that it could someday be taken and used against him.'
I am really beginning to see that *some on grex* absolutely cannot see
dysfunctional thinking and behavior when it is staring them in the face.
'Awfulizing" and imaginary harms are NOT a good basis for making any
decisions. Maybe I missed something but so far nobody has pointed out any
concrete example of how the posts of others could be harmful to jep in any
meaningful way. C'mon,janc, tell us exactly what harm we are protecting
jep from. 

Surely you don't mean to suggest when you say "Though we're obviously all
bigger experts on parenting than John is, are you sure that it is our
place to make this decision for him?" that any user can use his/her status
as a parent to request such extreme measures solely based on unsupported
claims it *could* harm the children. Otherwise you are saying an addicts
item about drug use could also be deleted simply because an addict was
going through a hard time and now doesn't want his children to know? Even
if the deleted item contained information valuable to other addicts? 

Please stop with weak red herrings such as the "last flier." We are
talking specifically about a long-standing policy in which users
understood their posts could not be deleted except under very limited
circumstances. Jep's situation was not one of those exceptions. Stop
trying to complicate what is a very simple issue. If jep can demonstrate a
credible harm I will reconsider my position. However, until then the
"default" has always been permanence and jep, or you or someone has the
burden of showing the harm. No one has done that. All I keep hearing is
bullshit claims something bad might result. I am seeing very little in
terms of credible risks to jep. As I said before, this willingness to take
extreme action in the face of virtually no real risk of harm is classic
dysfunctional behavior (and Bush White House behavior).



#85 of 424 by gelinas on Mon Jan 12 02:28:42 2004:

There have been a lot of books published over the years.  A large proportion
of them have been lost.  Why should the text here be expected to more
long-lasting?


#86 of 424 by jp2 on Mon Jan 12 02:34:27 2004:

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#87 of 424 by gelinas on Mon Jan 12 02:40:03 2004:

I disagree.  Any way this goes, grex will continue.  We may loose some people,
we'll probably pick up others.  We won't be the same as were a week and a half
ago, though.  The genie cannot be put back in the bottle.


#88 of 424 by jep on Mon Jan 12 02:56:15 2004:

I don't really want to go through details of what happened two years 
ago, but I sought help on Grex and I got it.  I owe Grexers 
enormously.  I don't regret what I did then.

I don't regret what I've done now, either, in getting those items 
deleted, though I regret some of the ramifications it may have.

re resp:79: Let's just all assume I do what I think is best for my son 
to the best of my ability, and leave it at that.  Nothing I will say 
about my discussions with him will have any influence on this 
discussion.


#89 of 424 by janc on Mon Jan 12 03:00:51 2004:

Cyklone:  You said yourself that many people at the time cautioned John
against posting this material.  There are certainly lots of people who
thought that this item was dangerous to John. One of the people who said
that then and now was Joe Saul.  As an attorney he could probably tell
you about the risks better than I can.

As a person who knows next to nothing about divorce, I think that there
is always potential for a joint custody situation to turn nasty in
either a legal or personal sense.  My recollection is that there was a
lot in that item that could be thrown in John's face, though not
anything that could be made to stick if he had a good lawyer at his
side.  You yourself pointed out the possibility that someone might try
to embarrass him with it by showing it to his son.  That can be a harder
situation still, because you can't necessarily hire a lawyer to help you
out in a case like that.

Yeah, its not a certainty that it would ever be used to harm John.  It
is also far from a certainty that leaving it deleted will cause any harm
to Grex.  Maybe I'm "awfulizing" the risk to John, but folks talking
about Grex not being able to defend itself in a law suit if it were
deleted were doing some rather less plausible "awfulizing".

When you say you don't want to complicate a simple issue, what is the
simple issue you have in mind?  "This is the rule, so we should always
follow it?"  Oh, yes, it's very important not to think when applying
rules.  Civilization would collapse if we ever showed any adaptability
in the applications of rules.  Grex is all about rules.


#90 of 424 by cyklone on Mon Jan 12 03:35:29 2004:

You missed my point. I agree with the last paragraph and have specically said
if you are making a new exceptions you damn sure better make sure you have
a good reason. Speculation is not a good reason. If you want to argue law then
here's what I propose: Delete all of jep's posts, print them out and have his
lawyer review them. If in the lawyer's opinion those posts could cause jep
harm, then I would agree to the deletion. Anything less than this is an utter
abdication of any concepts of free speech and principled applications or
exceptions to the rules. I will even kick in $50 to defray the cost to jep.
Feel free to match it.


#91 of 424 by jep on Mon Jan 12 05:40:24 2004:

re resp:90: My lawyer charges $200 per hour.  There were maybe 2000 
responses in the items.  I'm not seeking a lawyer's opinion on the 
matter because it is not a legal issue.

A court can order Grex to recover the items.  If it is possible, the 
staff will then be legally obligated to do so, and I am sure they will 
comply.  I would encourage them to do so.  I am not trying to 
influence or avoid the legal system.

Many people cautioned me against saying too much in those items, 
including (I believe) at least three lawyers on-line.  I've 
acknowledged many times that I was told not to post so much.  I keep 
saying "Yes, I was told" and also "I just didn't care", and also, "I 
care now".  How many times do we have to go over that?


#92 of 424 by naftee on Mon Jan 12 06:01:01 2004:

Just a side note:  Not having the items around for "study" as was pointed out
some time ago, does make it a little hard to discuss legal implications,
albeit rather harshly on jep's part.


#93 of 424 by remmers on Mon Jan 12 11:18:16 2004:

I'm pretty much in agreement with what cyklone has to say about this.


#94 of 424 by jaklumen on Mon Jan 12 12:43:53 2004:

I missed posting earlier.  So am I.


#95 of 424 by naftee on Mon Jan 12 14:02:37 2004:

Me too!


#96 of 424 by slynne on Mon Jan 12 14:09:02 2004:

jep, if you have copies of these items and thus know who else has 
responded to them, you may want to consider writing emails to everyone 
who responded asking for their permission to delete their responses. 
Then, if the vote goes to restore your items, you can still get most of 
them deleted. The few comments that would be left probably wouldnt be 
very damaging to you. I imagine that most folks would be willing to 
allow you to delete their comments. I know I would. 


#97 of 424 by gull on Mon Jan 12 16:04:31 2004:

At this point I'm not sure restoring the items would solve anything.  To
me the issue isn't the items themselves, it's the decision to remove
them.  Putting them back won't change that that decision was made.


#98 of 424 by naftee on Mon Jan 12 16:25:43 2004:

I still have some copies of valerie's responses, in the cache of my web 
browser.


#99 of 424 by slynne on Mon Jan 12 16:32:10 2004:

Resp:97 - Nevertheless, no one is planning on jumping into their way 
back machine in order to change that. 


#100 of 424 by jep on Mon Jan 12 16:59:13 2004:

re resp:96: If my user proposal to keep the items deleted is turned 
down, then maybe I'll have to do that.

I really don't want to go through those items again at this time.  I 
started to do so, before I requested they be deleted, and I stopped 
after not long.


#101 of 424 by cross on Mon Jan 12 17:18:19 2004:

Regarding #96; Hey, that was my suggestions!

Regarding #100; You don't have to go through them one by one; you can
use grep and a sufficiently clever regular expression to pick out who
posted to them, if that's all you want to do.


#102 of 424 by janc on Mon Jan 12 17:19:14 2004:

Cyklone says "Delete all of jep's posts, print them out and have his lawyer
review them. If in the lawyer's opinion those posts could cause jep harm,
then I would agree to the deletion".

I'm not clear what you are proposing to show to the lawyer.  Only JEP's
posts?  The entire item?  The item without JEP's posts?

I'm amazed that you would suggest such a thing, and that John Remmers
would agree with it.  I don't think I've ever heard any lawyer say
"don't worry, be happy."  I think Joe Saul would find in John's favor,
and he's hardly unbiased.

Are you guys saying that if anyone can get a lawyer to say about a
response by another person "that statement may be harmful to my client"
then it could be deleted?  I know my arguments are danged persuasive,
but I hardly expected you two guys to jump headlong into the "anybody
should be able to delete anything" camp.

I'm arguing that if you can convince half the membership of Grex that
something is worth deleting, then maybe it's a good idea.  No way would
I agree to deleting something just because one lawyer can be found to say
it.  That's setting the bar far too low.


#103 of 424 by jp2 on Mon Jan 12 17:43:06 2004:

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#104 of 424 by slynne on Mon Jan 12 17:47:59 2004:

resp:101 heh. I probably read it and then it took a while to sift 
through my brain. ;) 


#105 of 424 by remmers on Mon Jan 12 18:01:54 2004:

To clarify my rather vague #93:  I was referring mainly to the sentiments
cyklone expressed in his #79.


#106 of 424 by jep on Mon Jan 12 18:57:44 2004:

resp:79 is advising me to deal with the consequences of those items and 
not to duck conversations with my son.  As I said in resp:88, let me 
worry about how I present the divorce to my son.  And also how I dealt 
with the divorce.  Would it really surprise people if I tell you that 
it has come up in conversations between him and me?

Do you really think you can force me into being a better parent, 
meaning someone who lets (or will let) his son see him as a person with 
powerful and often negative feelings, by getting those items restored?  
That's what it looks like is being advocated in resp:79.

Would you care to add a timetable for me to use, as well, or shall I 
just dump the whole item to my printer and give it to my boy this 
evening?  Maybe I can find some age-appropriate cartoon pictures to 
illustrate it, too?  ("Here's Muffy's Dad feeling suicidal.  But he's a 
good parent who shares his feelings.")  Got some "suggestions" on that, 
too?

I found resp:79 to be presumptuous, myself.  How about telling yourself 
that I care about my son, and you don't, and therefore it's a good 
thing that I am in charge of raising him?


#107 of 424 by jp2 on Mon Jan 12 19:01:00 2004:

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#108 of 424 by other on Mon Jan 12 19:05:29 2004:

pot:kettle;black


#109 of 424 by willcome on Mon Jan 12 19:10:28 2004:

"(x)(Cx>~Vx)|-(x)[(Cx&Px)->~Vx]"


#110 of 424 by cyklone on Mon Jan 12 21:53:51 2004:

Re #102: Here is what I proposed: delete all of jep's posts and print out
what remains for his lawyer to review. Your position re the involvement of
lawyers is nonsensical in view of *your own* statements that legal
liabilities for jep may justify removal. And if you want to approach it
from a "let the grexers decide" position, then I think most sane grexers
will be more likely to accept an argument based on potential legal
liability if a lawyers opinion is actually presented as opposed to your "I
am not a layer but I think a lawyer would be bothered by this" argument. 

Re #106: I'm not going to get into it with you on this jep. If this has all
hit such a nerve, then I suspect there are deeper underlying issues you may
want to discuss with a counselor. And while I do care about the welfare of
children, regardless of whether I know them or not, that is not the main
thrust of my argument. I am saying that Grex needs a clear policy as whether
a given policy can be over-ridden by a concerned and well-meaning parent.
I'm sorry that you are the parent caught up on the controversy. That does
not diminsh the importance of the issue being decided, however.


#111 of 424 by jmsaul on Mon Jan 12 23:06:38 2004:

I did say that the items could be dangerous to jep, but that was a long time
ago, when there was one item, and it was newer.  At this point, his ex-wife
undoubtedly has a copy if she wanted one, and leaving it up here wouldn't do
any further damage.


#112 of 424 by gull on Tue Jan 13 00:01:57 2004:

Re resp:110: I doubt there's a lawyer out there who would look at the
printout and say, 'Yeah, go ahead.'  He's being paid (very handsomely)
to protect jep's interests.  He's going to err on the side of caution. 
I see no point in shelling out $200 an hour for such a foregone conclusion.


#113 of 424 by cyklone on Tue Jan 13 00:32:16 2004:

You may make that assumption. I would not. For one thing, there is a huge
hearsay issue that may or may not make the entire discussion moot. Your
"yeah, go ahead" comment also misses the point. The purpose of the
lawyer's review would not be to inquire as to whether or not jep should
leave *his* posts readable. The questions for review would be "Can these
*other people's* comments cause problems for me? If so, what kind of
problems could I expect?" 

In any case, even if you are right, I consider $200 a small price to pay
to justify the extreme notion that a well-meaning parent can request other
people's posts be deleted. I'm willing to put my money where my mouth is. 
How about you? 

It also appears that your views are contradicted by one of the very people
janc previously cited (joe saul) in support of deletion. 



#114 of 424 by jep on Tue Jan 13 01:05:57 2004:

re resp:113: My lawyer doesn't even use e-mail.  Explaining what a 
conferencing system is should probably be doable in an hour.  I 
estimate reviewing the responses ought to be doable in 8 more hours.  
Probably.


#115 of 424 by jmsaul on Tue Jan 13 01:14:16 2004:

Let me also make it clear that I don't think the responses of other people
are dangerous to John, or that John had anything approaching a right to have
them removed.  I will not be cited as a supporter of this action.  When I
talked to him about it in the past, I was speaking about his own responses.


#116 of 424 by cyklone on Tue Jan 13 01:20:48 2004:

Re #114: You don't have to use the same lawyer. There are plenty who use
email and know what a bbs is. There are also plenty who do not charge $200
an hour. In any case, since you are the one requesting such drastic
action, I can't get too worked up about the cost. Again what we are
getting, at least in my opinion, are excuses and insufficient reasons to
justify the extreme action you are requesting



#117 of 424 by naftee on Tue Jan 13 02:04:15 2004:

I agree with cyklone.  Hire a new lawyer who actually knows something.


#118 of 424 by gelinas on Tue Jan 13 03:40:55 2004:

What useful purpose would restoring the response, minus JEP's comments, serve?


#119 of 424 by cyklone on Tue Jan 13 04:23:21 2004:

The same purpose that would be served if an addict wrote an item that
received lots of responses about addiction and recovery. Jep himself said
he wished there was an item like his already in existence that he could've
read during his divorce. 

There is a considerable benefit to keeping such items readable. Ya'll want
to do the easy or nice thing rather than the principled or rational thing,
however.



#120 of 424 by jep on Tue Jan 13 04:37:03 2004:

It's so easy to be principled at the expense of someone else.


#121 of 424 by cyklone on Tue Jan 13 04:40:44 2004:

Its also very easy to lose your principles when you have to apply them to
yourself.


#122 of 424 by gelinas on Tue Jan 13 04:47:26 2004:

I don't consider restoring the item, even without JEP's comments, "principled"
or "rational".


#123 of 424 by cyklone on Tue Jan 13 04:52:42 2004:

I guess that doesn't speak well for you then if you can't see that other
people's posts have indpendent value above and beyond the person who
initially inspired them. 



#124 of 424 by jmsaul on Tue Jan 13 04:53:30 2004:

Someone took an action they had no right to take.  That action resulted in
the removal of text other people allegedly had control over.  Restoring the
status quo before the illegitimate action *is* a rational remedy.  It's
undoing the illicit act.  That may not be a remedy you agree with, but it's
rational.

"Principled" is a value judgement about which reasonable people can disagree,
so I don't think there's any point in our arguing about it.  I think that
restoring the item -- with jep's text, which is the only part of it he ever
owned, removed -- is principled.  You may not.


#125 of 424 by jmsaul on Tue Jan 13 04:58:57 2004:

Cyklone slipped.

But whatever.  In a sense, John was right when he said the actions could set
a precedent.  The precedent, if there is one, will be that if you want an item
removed, and you can either find a staff member willing to sacrifice their
staff position, or you are a staff member, you can do it.  And the items
will stay deleted, in order to protect your "rights".


#126 of 424 by gelinas on Tue Jan 13 05:16:41 2004:

Thanks, Joe.  Your first paragraph explains the rational.  Don't know why I
missed that particular line of argument.


#127 of 424 by gull on Tue Jan 13 14:09:37 2004:

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#128 of 424 by gull on Tue Jan 13 14:10:16 2004:

(Sorry, had a typo in the above.)

Re resp:125: I believe my proposal addresses that 'precedent' by setting
a formal policy.  If your concern is future policy, restoring jep's
items is not very relevent.  I'm starting to suspect, though, that the
goal of doing so is not to get some benefit for Grex, but to punish jep.


#129 of 424 by cyklone on Tue Jan 13 14:15:46 2004:

See my comment in item #76. I don't consider it "punishment" to ask a user
to make amends to the system when that person's extreme actions in
violation of system policy harm the system and innocent users.


#130 of 424 by jep on Tue Jan 13 14:23:57 2004:

re resp:128: Are you suggesting it's important to make sure staff 
members don't sacrifice their positions to delete items, Joe?  I think 
that's pretty silly.


#131 of 424 by jep on Tue Jan 13 14:35:44 2004:

re resp:128: I don't know if I'd say there's an intent to punish me for 
my wrongdoing.  I've very thoroughly outlined what I did,and why I did 
it.  Anyone who reads item:76 would, I think, have to conclude I acted 
properly.

I think there's a willingness from some people, who have no interest in 
Grex policy other than this issue, to make an example of me.  The items 
weren't being read, and so were important only to me.  Deleting them 
harms no one.  I followed every rule and procedure that existed.  But 
none of that matters.  There's a principle; it affects only someone 
else and therefore is terrific for abstract purposes; it's got to be 
defended, gosh darn it!  What's a mere person or two compared to 
something important like that?


#132 of 424 by jp2 on Tue Jan 13 14:38:44 2004:

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#133 of 424 by jp2 on Tue Jan 13 14:40:11 2004:

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#134 of 424 by bhoward on Tue Jan 13 14:41:40 2004:

Cyklone, what policy did jep violate?  It was Valerie who deleted
the item.


#135 of 424 by jp2 on Tue Jan 13 14:43:49 2004:

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#136 of 424 by keesan on Tue Jan 13 15:25:03 2004:

If JEP wants his responses to stay deleted even if the items were restored,
I would also delete my responses to be nice to him, and other people might
do the same, in which case what is left is hardly likely to be useful to
anybody else getting divorced.  It would be too disjointed.  I propose we
restore the responses only of people who request this specifically, if the
staff has enough time to bother with this.  And put something at the beginning
of the dismembered item explaining what happened to it.  Would this satisfy
everyone?  How many people so far have said they wanted their responses in
JEP's items restored, even if his responses stayed gone?


#137 of 424 by cmcgee on Tue Jan 13 16:37:32 2004:

I was going to suggest the same solution.  If someone will give me a copy of
the items, I will go through and create a file that contains only the
responses of people who -ask- to have their responses posted again.  


#138 of 424 by jp2 on Tue Jan 13 16:41:25 2004:

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#139 of 424 by cmcgee on Tue Jan 13 17:13:23 2004:

"Rampant censorship"???

Perspective:  we are talking about two items in a database of what, 5,000 or
10,000 items??  


#140 of 424 by slynne on Tue Jan 13 17:36:16 2004:

I dont think the outcome would be much different if it only those ask 
to be removed are removed.


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#142 of 424 by mary on Tue Jan 13 17:58:46 2004:

As to my responses - I'll be taking a look at them and making the 
decision as to whether they'll be censored or not.

I guess that means I'm not in the warm and fuzzy club. ;-)


#143 of 424 by happyboy on Tue Jan 13 18:12:09 2004:

i don't want my words censored at all.


#144 of 424 by cyklone on Tue Jan 13 18:23:18 2004:

Re #134: WHile you are technically correct, jep is complicit in the violation
when he opposes undoing the damage of the violation for his own personal
benefit. When a sloppy teller gives me extra money, I give it back.
Technically, only the teller is at fault. However, I do have a sense of
decency to do the right thing. I am asking the same of jep.


#145 of 424 by remmers on Tue Jan 13 18:28:13 2004:

Re #137:  I don't think that's a feasible way to proceed.  The file
you edit would have to be in raw Picospan format (which is quite different
from the way the file displays on the screen), and any hand-editing would
have to be very careful to preserve that format.

This would work and not be excessively labor-intensive:  Create a temporary
closed conference, restore the items from a backup tape to that conference,
run Valerie's scribble script to remove jep's responses and those of 
anybody else who wants their responses removed, then move the items back
to the appropriate Agoras.  That way, there's no point in time when
jep's responses are visible to the public, and most of the work has
been done by software.


#146 of 424 by cmcgee on Tue Jan 13 18:46:03 2004:

Great.  I always vote to let software do the tedious, rote stuff.


#147 of 424 by keesan on Tue Jan 13 20:06:12 2004:

Has everyone who posted in those two items been reading coop?  There might
be people who are not following this discussion who don't mind their responses
being deleted along with jep's.  


#148 of 424 by gelinas on Tue Jan 13 20:40:15 2004:

Not knowing the names of everyone who responded to JEP's items, I can't
answer your question, Sindi.


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#150 of 424 by jmsaul on Tue Jan 13 21:55:06 2004:

Re #130:  No, I'm saying that if a staff member goes rogue again, they
          should do it with the understanding that all will be for
          naught, and any items they remove will be restored from
          backup as soon as is practical.  I don't believe that what
          Valerie did was okay, and as a consequence I don't believe 
          we should let it stand.

          Since I also believe that the person who entered a response
          has the right to remove their own words, and since I agree 
          that this crap has made your items high-profile, I think it's
          completely reasonable to take your responses out of the items
          before they're reopened to public view.  I support that.


#151 of 424 by naftee on Tue Jan 13 22:20:01 2004:

re 145 It's not too different.  Anyone of average computer skills can figure
it out.


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#153 of 424 by willcome on Tue Jan 13 23:53:52 2004:

Personally, I'd support a staff member deleting all the items just to force
the issue.


#154 of 424 by richard on Wed Jan 14 02:42:52 2004:

remmers idea has merit, but it should be done not just with JEP's items but
with valerie's baby diary items as well.  That was a long diary and a lot of
people invested time and effort in posting to it.  They have the right to
decide if they want their posts in those items to stay posted.  Granted,
Valerie's baby diary without Valerie's posts would look a bit strange, but
it is still the point of the matter


#155 of 424 by aruba on Wed Jan 14 02:51:01 2004:

I think if you invest a lot of time in something you write, you should save
a copy yourself and not expect that Grex will always be publishing it for
you.


#156 of 424 by richard on Wed Jan 14 03:02:37 2004:

I disagree Aruba, Grex keeps its old conferences online.  Up until now, any
user should have had the reasonable expectation that their posts would stay
posted for so long as Grex maintains its current conferencing system and
policies against deleting old conferences.  This isn't about users being
able to have their own copies of items and posts, its about users
taking the time and effort to post thinking their comments would remain
publicly posted, and then having other users delete their posts to protect
their own personal interests.  Its a matter of fairness and not letting
one user impose their needs or rights over the needs and rights of others.


#157 of 424 by aruba on Wed Jan 14 03:07:15 2004:

Do you expect that Grex will exist forever?  Do you expect there never to
be a disk crash?  Do you think you have a right to always expect that
there will be people willing to do the increasingly crappy job of
administering Grex, when all they are paid in is vitiol?

If it's important to you, if it's such a magnificent work of art, you
should keep a copy.


#158 of 424 by richard on Wed Jan 14 03:16:06 2004:

no aruba of course not, but expectations regarding staff and grex's hardware
are one thing.  Expectations of what individual users will do is quite
another.  Users posting to Grex have every right to expect that staff will
enforce grex's principles of being an open bbs and won't allow other users
to delete their posts over their own personal issues.  


#159 of 424 by bhoward on Wed Jan 14 10:20:29 2004:

It was a staff member that did the deleting, not a user.


#160 of 424 by aruba on Wed Jan 14 12:53:20 2004:

But the point is, Richard, you keep saying that your valuable work has been
ripped away from you.  If it was so valuable, why didn't you keep a copy?


#161 of 424 by remmers on Wed Jan 14 13:08:02 2004:

No, Grex doesn't have an obligation to publish people's writings forever.
Conferences are restarted; old conferences might need to be taken offline
to free up disk space.

But those things should be done with reasonable notice, so that people have
an opportunity to save what they want to keep.  That was not the case with
the items under discussion.


#162 of 424 by naftee on Wed Jan 14 14:31:31 2004:

re 157 As was stated before, this isn't a case of a conference being retired.
There was no hardware-related issue that caused the items to be deleted.


#163 of 424 by aruba on Wed Jan 14 15:04:28 2004:

Disk crashes don't happen with advanced notice.


#164 of 424 by carson on Wed Jan 14 15:32:58 2004:

(disk crashes [usually] aren't retrievable, either, yet every effort is 
made to restore when that happens, right?)


#165 of 424 by aruba on Wed Jan 14 15:40:06 2004:

Whenever you put anything on Grex, you are trusting the staff not to delete
it.  That's the simple truth.  Grex exists only because of this trust.

I make no excuses for what Valerie did.  I'm pretty angry at her for it. 
Not because I think the text in the items she deleted was essential to
Grex, but because she damaged the relationship of trust between the users
and the staff.  I think the loss of her, and of all her past responses, is
a much bigger blow to Grex than the loss of 6 items.

But you can pass all the resolutions in the world - make a rule against
deleting anything, restore the items that were deleted - whatever.  It's not
going to change the fact that you *have* to trust the staff if you put
anything you think is valuable on Grex.

I'm starting to think that maybe I made a mistake, all these years, trying
to be consciencious about Grex's finances.  I think maybe I gave people
the incorrect impression that they should expect Grex to be run like a
professional organization.  And thus they feel righteous indignation when
it turns out not to be so.

We all feel betrayed - that's what this is all about for those of us who
give a damn.  (There are others here who are just playing games - I don't
care what it's about for them.)  We learned that one of our staffers was
human, and had a limit to how much abuse she could take before she cracked
and did something bad.  I guess that's a hard lesson to learn - kind of
like a little kid finding out his parents aren't gods after all. 

Keep in mind that the only reasons to do work for Grex are a) out of a
sense of duty and obligation, b) because one feels appreciated and
useful, and c) because one believes in the charitable mission of Grex. 

When Grex seems to be mostly a forum for people yelling at each other,
it's hard to believe in the charitable mission.  So if one doesn't feel
appreciated, that leaves only a sense of duty, which will only get you so
far.  Because we all have duties to lots of different things.

So keep in mind, when you're making rules and demands that basically say,
"we can't trust the staff", that you *have* to trust the staff.  The only
alternative is to never put anything valuable on Grex.  And if all anyone
ever put on Grex was crap, what would be the point in keeping it going?


#166 of 424 by other on Wed Jan 14 16:35:36 2004:

Damn!  They ARE turning Grex into M-Net!


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#168 of 424 by keesan on Wed Jan 14 17:39:55 2004:

My primary purpose in posting to jep's items was to help jep. If he thinks
it will help him to delete my postings, that is fine with me.  Are there
people who posted there for some reason other than to help jep?
If not, why would they object to having the entire items deleted?
Valerie's items are a different case and I think the non-Valerie parts of it
could be restored without hurting anyone.  But if they make her feel bad, I
also think people should be willing to delete them.
But not required to do so.


#169 of 424 by cyklone on Wed Jan 14 17:53:08 2004:

My posts in jep's item were not just for his benefit but for others in similar
situations. I object vehemently to their removal. However, I would probably
be willing to edit any portions that contain quotes ascribed to him, if in
fact I did so.


#170 of 424 by slynne on Wed Jan 14 18:11:26 2004:

I dont think they'll be of much benefit to anyone after jep's posts and 
the posts of those people who are willing to have them removed have 
been purged from it. 

I would really hope that you would reconsider your position about 
voluntarily removing your posts. Sure, your position that things you 
wrote shouldnt be removed without permission is totally correct. I 
completely agree with you on that. However, there are real people 
involved here. And even though their reactions might seem extreme, I 
still think that there is no harm in respecting their wishes here. 

Perhaps you would consider deleting your posts from jep's divorce item 
and then re-posting them into an item of their own that doesnt 
reference jep's particular case. That way it really can be a benefit 
for others in a similar situation. I dont remember specifically what 
you wrote, cyklone, but I seem to remember that you did have some good 
things to say. 


#171 of 424 by naftee on Wed Jan 14 23:55:52 2004:

re 165
>take before she cracked
Patently false.  She was not crazy or psychotic with anger when she deleted
those items.  In fact, her husband was more angry about it than she was.  Read
the items and do some research, for a change.

re 166 There are plenty of users who ouse both systems, dipshit.


#172 of 424 by gull on Thu Jan 15 02:07:18 2004:

I can't even remember if I ever posted anything to jep's items.

I think if none of this had happened and jep had asked me to scribble my 
responses because he thought they were damaging, I probably would have.  
So if they items are restored and he asks me to do so, I'll consent to 
have my responses removed.


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#174 of 424 by naftee on Thu Jan 15 03:39:04 2004:

#171 "ouse" should read "use".


#175 of 424 by slynne on Thu Jan 15 16:11:54 2004:

resp:173 Yes, it promotes self censorship which is ok as far as I am 
concerned. I think the real reason you dont like that solution is that 
it solves the problem in a fair way. 


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#177 of 424 by slynne on Thu Jan 15 17:13:56 2004:

The proposal in #0 specifically says that individuals should be given 
control over their own posts. 
from resp:0 -
"...these items be restored from back up tapes and individual posters 
be presented with the opportunity to decide for themselves if they wish 
to scribble their posts."

I am merely asking cyklone to scribble his own posts in the jep divorce 
item. Not only that though, I am also asking him to save his posts and 
enter them as a seperate item because I agree with him that what he 
wrote very well may be helpful to someone else. 


#178 of 424 by naftee on Fri Jan 16 02:43:14 2004:

Wait, if you can't get a staff member to write a simple script, how the hell
do you expect a user of GreX to go through all that work?


#179 of 424 by remmers on Mon Jan 19 15:40:39 2004:

<donning my voteadm hat...>

Since this proposal was made 10 days ago, it's appropriate to review
the timelines and procedures regarding voting on it.

There's a two-week discussion period prior to any vote.  After that,
the proposer may post a final wording and ask that it be voted on,
or may elect not to bring it to a vote.  The vote takes place over
a period of 10 days.  The proposal passes if a majority of those
members who vote cast a ballot in favor.

The earliest that voting could begin on this proposal is January 23.


#180 of 424 by krj on Mon Jan 19 23:41:32 2004:

Does allowing a book to go out of print promote censorship?  


#181 of 424 by cyklone on Tue Jan 20 00:40:16 2004:

Bad analogy. What is going on here is more a case of a collected work
where some authors would like it to go out of print and the remaining
authors wish to continue printing with the unwilling authors' works
removed. 



#182 of 424 by krj on Tue Jan 20 01:30:57 2004:

So where's the censorship?  No one has stopped you from writing anything.
If what you wrote a year or more ago had any enduring value to you,
why didn't you keep a file copy of your comments?
There are large warnings in various places that 
Grex is not to be relied upon for safe file keeping.

I think the "censorship!" charge is way overblown in this situation.


#183 of 424 by naftee on Tue Jan 20 01:44:43 2004:

Sir, the staff worked extremely hard to bring back GreX's email, which could
have been lost.  It seems to me they would work hard if one of GreX's hard
disks failed and some of the content on the bbs was removed.  But like we said
before, this is not a hardware issue.  A GreX staffer removed text from the
bbs that wasn't hers.  How would you like it if the staff removed your mail?
Surely, they aren't responsible for it.
But the staff won't do this, and for good reason.  Just as they won't remove
items at random from the bbs.

I think the censorship charge is justified in this situation.


#184 of 424 by willcome on Tue Jan 20 01:58:43 2004:

Re. 182:  It's rather cynical, I think, to delete someone's work because of
content years after it was posted and not call it censorship.  Do you really
think it's reasonable to expect people to keep everything they write and be
prepared to republish it when it's deleted?  And, of course, censorship isn't
reliant on content being of any value, let alone important enough to do what
you sugeST.!!


#185 of 424 by cyklone on Tue Jan 20 02:27:18 2004:

Yeah, krj is ducking an obvious issue by throwing up red herrings. The value
of a post does not depend on whether or not the poster chooses to save it.
I could have all my items posts saved yet deletion still removes them from
the original context which others may find beneficial.


#186 of 424 by aruba on Tue Jan 20 23:46:02 2004:

I think Ken's points are very good ones.  The fact that some authors of a
collected work want some organization to publish it doesn't oblige that
organization to comply, nor does letting it go out of print constitute
censorship.


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#188 of 424 by jmsaul on Wed Jan 21 00:06:41 2004:

Re #186:  It depends on what the practices have been up to that point, and
          what the expectations are.  I think you'd agree that there was
          an expectation here that items stick around.


#189 of 424 by cyklone on Wed Jan 21 00:56:28 2004:

Even more blatantly disingenuous is to equate allowing staff to violate a
professed policy in favor of free and uncensored free speech (while
granting a "personal favor to a favored person") with a system crash or
other inadvertent loss of text. I also like how suddenly grex is being
described as some anonymous "organization" which may or may not have
policies about censorship. 

It's one thing if the New York Times sells out all its back issues and
declines to make copies. It is a much different thing if the editor sneaks
into the warehouse late at night and torches all the back issues. Guess
which analogy more closely fits Grex? Just come clean folks. Quit the
mental masturbation and intellectual gymnastics and admit your want to do
a personal favor for a favored person. 



#190 of 424 by jmsaul on Wed Jan 21 03:12:35 2004:

Don't make the mistake of believing that all the Grexers you're talking to
are in agreement on this issue.  I might be remembering wrong, but my
recollection is that aruba does not think that what Valerie did was okay.


#191 of 424 by gelinas on Wed Jan 21 03:28:35 2004:

(And others have changed their minds.)


#192 of 424 by cyklone on Wed Jan 21 03:56:40 2004:

Of course I do not mean to generalize, and I do hope more level heads on
grex prevail. I am responding to those who are twisting logic into shapes
not even a pretzel would recognize. Unfortunately, some of those posters
are people I expect better from . . . .

Re #190: But I get the feeling he doesn't want to reinstate jep's item.  I
strongly believe those items should not get a pass just because he is once
removed from the acts of valerie. Again, it's like getting too much money
from the teller. I may not have any legal liability but I still give the
money back. Jep should not be trying to benefit from valerie's wrongful
acts at the expense of free and uncensored speech. The items should be
returned to grex. 



#193 of 424 by naftee on Wed Jan 21 04:29:25 2004:

Yeah I agree.  It's actually an insult to the staff to say that if there's
a disk failure, they're not responsible for any lost content and won't do
anything about it, tough shit, etc. etc., when they worked EXTREMELY hard to
recover mail from the failed mail disk.  They could have just forgotten about
that now, couldn't they?

But of course, saying that someone willfully deleting files is the same as
a hardware failure is patently ridiculous.



#194 of 424 by bhoward on Wed Jan 21 06:50:51 2004:

Re#192 and others: Briefly digressing from festivities...

Ultimately, the heads that will prevail in this matter are those of the
members who bother to vote on the current proposals.  Whether they are
level will depend on your view of things and on which way the votes go.

You amongst several others seem hell-bent on browbeating jep into
admitting he is wrong and that all of this is his fault.  In the
processing of doing so, I think you are confusing the fact that you
disagree with his view and the fact that you don't like that he even
asked that they be removed with some notion that jep had any authority
in this matter or responsibility for them having actually been deleted.

jep can ask until he's blue in the face but he is not responsible for
them having been removed in any way relevant to official procedures
on grex.  Valerie made the call, deleted the items and in doing so
assumed responsibility for the act.

Staff receive ridiculous threats, requests, commands and demands everyday.
Part of their job is to try sorting through all of that and make
judgement calls on which should be actioned, which should be ignored,
and what should deferred to the membership or board for resolution.

Now if you are arguing that jep had some moral responsibility to not make
the request, he might counter that he has a greater moral responsibility
to protect what he sees as a threat to his family.  Fine, whatever.
Pick your priorities, chose a side and argue away but that's his opinion
versus yours and the results of such a debate still in no way makes jep
responsible for Valerie's actions.


#195 of 424 by cyklone on Wed Jan 21 13:22:24 2004:

You are missing the point, then. I do understand the difference between jep's
request and valerie's actions. What I would like made clear to voters is that
they are participating in an ad hoc process in which a user such as jep can
make a request, the granting of which directly contradicts grex's professed
dedication to free and uncensored speech. In such cases I would submit the
person making the request has a very high burden to show harm that outweighs
the harms to grex's professed principles. Jep has not even remotely met that
burden. And the "personal favors for favored persons" crowd has been offering
up justifications that are contradicted BY JEP'S OWN WORDS! 


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#201 of 424 by gull on Wed Jan 21 14:45:53 2004:

I'm impressed with how official-looking it is, at least...


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#203 of 424 by jep on Wed Jan 21 16:14:30 2004:

I would like to ask the Board to clarify the precedent of member 
proposals before either this proposal, or my proposal as outlined in 
item:76, are voted on.  This proposal and my proposal will be voted on 
at the same time, and will conflict with one another.  I think it is 
necessary to make it clear which will override the other before either 
or both are presented to the membership for a decision.

I hope jp2 will agree with me on my request, and agree to have his 
proposal, along with mine, postponed until that determination is made.  
I hope all participating parties will see this as a reasonable 
request.  My intent is to keep from having to have another round of 
user proposals, which is what will happen, I think, if two proposals 
are passed at the same time which directly contradict one another.


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#205 of 424 by other on Wed Jan 21 16:52:56 2004:

There is no established precedent of which I am aware on Grex for 
two or more conflicting proposals with simultaneous or overlapping 
voting periods, so here is the most basic logical approach I can 
think of:

1) Assuming there is no specific timeline for implementation of the 
proposal included within it (or any of them) they should be 
implemented in chronological order of the determination of the 
outcomes of voting.  However, in the interests of resource 
conservation, implementation should be delayed until the outcome of 
the final resolution is determined.  In other words, if three 
potentially conflicting resolutions are in process simultaneously, 
then implementation should be done in order but after all three are 
determined.  This way, the end result is the same as it would 
otherwise be, but the minimum of doing and undoing is undertaken.

2) If the proposals incorporate implementation timelines, then those 
timelines should be observed as closely as is reasonably possible 
considering that such implementation is dependent on the efforts of 
volunteers whose priorities do not necessarily allow Grex member 
resolutions to take absolute precedence.

3) If some proposals include timelines and some do not, then the 
approach should be 2) where applicable and 1) where applicable, 
though in practical terms it should be expected that the overall end 
result is likely to resemble 1) a lot more than 2).


#206 of 424 by jep on Wed Jan 21 17:19:51 2004:

Eric, as jp2 mentioned, and the numbering of the items shows anyway, my 
proposal was entered after his.  Would mine therefore modify his and 
take precedence in that way?  Can his exclude mine from passing?  Can a 
user proposal ban further user proposals on a subject?  Or will they be 
concurrent -- the vote start and end at the same time for both?

It has been suggested that mine is more limited and would take 
precedence on that basis.  Do you agree?  Does the Board and the 
Staff?  (This is what led to my request.)

Both his proposal and mine have an implied timeline of "take effect 
immediately upon passing".  My proposal is to *not* take an action.  
There's no timeline for being inactive on something; you can not-do 
something today, or next week, or in 2010.

I don't think it's clear on what happens if both his proposal and mine 
pass.  I think it's valid to ask that that be determined before the 
proposals are voted on.


#207 of 424 by jep on Wed Jan 21 17:26:39 2004:

re resp:204: Jamie, it would be in the best interests of Grex that 
there be no conflicting proposals.  Do you agree?

It would be best if you and I can agree to merge our proposals so as to 
avoid conflicting simultaneous votes.  The clearest way to do that, in 
my opinion, is to split the issue of valerie's items from the issue of 
the items I asked her to delete.  Then there can be two unambiguous 
votes with direct and clear consequences.  We'd just have to agree how 
the one on my items would be worded.  It seems to me possible we can do 
that.

What say you?


#208 of 424 by gelinas on Wed Jan 21 17:29:47 2004:

You are right that it is not clear what happens if both proposals pass.  I
suggest that people consider that when casting their votes, and vote
accordingly.

I am aware of a Constitutional precedent for Section 4, but I still think
it inappropriate for grex.  On that basis alone, I'm inclined to vote
against this proposal.


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#212 of 424 by other on Wed Jan 21 17:47:56 2004:

Each proposal must be weighed on its own merits and implemented 
within the context of the state of reality at the time it is passed.

If the wording of one proposal is mooted by the wording of another, 
then so be it.  The later proposal has the advantage of being 
modifiable after the earlier is set in stone and being voted upon.  
The proposals do not carry any weight however, until they are 
successfully passed.


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#214 of 424 by jep on Wed Jan 21 18:14:05 2004:

Jamie, I am not going to drop my proposal.

Your point #4 isn't relevant to my proposal, you know.

I've offered a clear way to avoid any ambiguity, any conflict between 
the two proposals, and to put the issues to the users in the most 
straightforward way.  I don't see any advantage to anyone in making it 
confusing.  I don't see any reason why we can't disagree but be 
collegial.  I'm not willing to give up my proposal just to get along, 
though.


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#217 of 424 by cmcgee on Wed Jan 21 18:51:06 2004:

It is possible for members to defeat this proposal, and have none of its
suggestions go into effect.  Just vote no.


#218 of 424 by aruba on Wed Jan 21 19:14:28 2004:

I agree.


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#220 of 424 by gelinas on Wed Jan 21 19:57:40 2004:

There are several things embodied in this proposal.  Because it is
presented as "all, or nothing", it leaves us with no way to accept the
good without also accepting the bad.  In my opinion, the good it does is
not worth the bad it does.


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#222 of 424 by mary on Wed Jan 21 21:17:30 2004:

Unless you keep it very short and focused on just
the restoration of the deleted items I suspect this
vote won't get much support at all.



#223 of 424 by gull on Wed Jan 21 21:21:25 2004:

I'm also not happy with section 4.  I really don't like the idea of
voting to limit what I have the right to vote about later.


#224 of 424 by jp2 on Wed Jan 21 21:21:44 2004:

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#225 of 424 by jp2 on Wed Jan 21 21:22:16 2004:

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#226 of 424 by mary on Wed Jan 21 22:12:56 2004:

Just keep section three.


#227 of 424 by tod on Wed Jan 21 22:37:50 2004:

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#228 of 424 by albaugh on Wed Jan 21 23:05:55 2004:

Here is all proposal #76 says:

I wish to make a user proposal that my two items recently deleted by
 loginid valerie not be restored.

Since without passage of #75 I don't see anyone moving to restore jep's items
even if his proposal fails, I believe the practical outcome is this:

#75 passes and #76 passes - only valerie's items are restored
#75 passes and #76 fails  - all items are restored
#75 fails                 - no items are restored

Can we agree to that?


#229 of 424 by tod on Wed Jan 21 23:31:00 2004:

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#230 of 424 by naftee on Wed Jan 21 23:44:16 2004:

If no items are restored, does this mean the content on GreX's website
regarding free speech will have to be modified?  I think we should consider
that.


#231 of 424 by gelinas on Wed Jan 21 23:46:11 2004:

Section 2 is irritating.  It is unnecessary vebiage.  (Section 1 is also
unnecessary vebiage, but it is not as irritating as Section 2.)  Section 4
is bad policy.


#232 of 424 by jp2 on Wed Jan 21 23:47:08 2004:

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#233 of 424 by gelinas on Thu Jan 22 00:06:48 2004:

I can live with Section 5.


#234 of 424 by gull on Thu Jan 22 00:32:45 2004:

Re resp:228: Makes sense to me.  I think that's the most logical way to
approach it.


#235 of 424 by cyklone on Thu Jan 22 00:40:54 2004:

In that case, I would hope someone makes a proposal to reinstate those items,
or else staff properly interpret a vote against jep as an implicit endorsement
to restore.


#236 of 424 by willcome on Thu Jan 22 00:48:39 2004:

(yeah.  I like 228, because, at least to me, other's proposal was
incomprehensible.  did anyone else understand it?  perhaps I'll try to reread
it when I'm not tired.)


#237 of 424 by gull on Thu Jan 22 00:50:47 2004:

Re resp:235: I don't see why someone couldn't make a proposal to
reinstate them.  I don't think having something happen because people
voted *down* the proposal makes sense, though, unless jep words his
proposal that way.


#238 of 424 by keesan on Thu Jan 22 14:07:49 2004:

Can we vote whether to restore jep's items including his responses (which he
might be given time to scribble first) or without his responses or without
his responses and without the responses of anyone else who agrees not to have
their responses restored?  


#239 of 424 by remmers on Thu Jan 22 14:38:19 2004:

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#240 of 424 by remmers on Thu Jan 22 14:48:36 2004:

I don't think that kind of fine-tuning is necessary.  Should this
pass, and assuming that the items can be recovered in raw Picospan
format, I'll volunteer to do the item restoration, and will honor
anyone's request to have their own responses scribbled before the
items are returned to public view.

<donning voteadm hat...>

Proposal wording that appears in the vote program should be simply
a statement of the proposed policy and not include the rationale.
In other words, proposers don't get to advocate their proposal
while the voter is in the voting booth.  This has been past
practice, and I think that it is a reasonable requirement.

The vote program text always references the associated discussion
item and recommends that people read it before voting.  That's
where arguments for and against belong.

</hat>


#241 of 424 by jep on Thu Jan 22 18:14:19 2004:

re resp:214: You're a great American, Jamie, and a true leader on 
Grex.  Please act accordingly.  To the extent people don't follow your 
wise leadership, I am sure you can just outsmart them into doing what 
you want.  I, along with all other Grexers, am hopelessly outclassed 
and outmatched when it comes to contending with your intentions.  It is 
incomprehensible that you give in to us sheep on policy points when you 
know so much better than any other what we should do.


#242 of 424 by jep on Thu Jan 22 18:24:50 2004:

re resp:228: If Jamie's proposal fails, the users have not directed an 
action in any way with regard to Valerie's items in the femme 
conference.  The staff will be as free as they are now about what to 
do.  If his and mine both fail, they're also free to do what they wish 
with regard to mine.  The users won't have decided anything.

If his passes and mine passes, Valerie's items will have to be 
restored, but it's not clear what happens to mine, because the users 
will have spoken ambiguously.

If his passes, and mine fails, then all of the items get restored.  
That's the only case where all is clear with regard to the user's 
decisions on these items.

If his fails and mine passes, my items stay deleted, but there's been 
no decision to do anything about valerie's items

75 passes, 76 passes -- valerie's items are restored, jep's ???
75 fails, 76 passes -- jep's items stay deleted, valerie's ???
75 passes, 76 fails -- all of the items get restored
75 fails, 76 fails -- jep's items ???, valerie's items ???

I don't think you can confidently state anything beyond that.  For 
items where the users haven't made a decision, the staff could make 
them available on M,W,F,Su each week if they agreed among themselves 
that that's what's needed; there's no (new) policy and so there will 
still be uncertainty.


#243 of 424 by jp2 on Thu Jan 22 18:31:45 2004:

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#245 of 424 by carson on Thu Jan 22 22:12:37 2004:

(yes, 1(a)(2) and 1(b)(2) should be modified to read "scribbled" instead
of "censored," as they refer to software functions, not Jamie's opinion.)


#246 of 424 by gull on Thu Jan 22 23:20:30 2004:

I think 'erased' would also work, since it's the name of the analogous 
function in Backtalk.  It's also probably clearer for people who don't 
use Picospan.


#247 of 424 by willcome on Thu Jan 22 23:36:22 2004:

Personally, I don't see how changing the word would change what's being voted
on and about.


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#250 of 424 by richard on Fri Jan 23 01:56:29 2004:

that is forcing staff to do all the scribbling of jep and valerie's items.
wouldn't they have to be logged on as "valerie" to scribble valerie's items?
I note that when I posted an item from mnet on grex in an agora item where
we were discussing whether user's owned their own words, and it was decided
to remove that post, that marcus (who took the action) did not scribble it,
he went in and edited the post and put xxx's through everything.  Can staff
actually "scribble" a post of another user without being logged on as that
user?  If staff would have to use root and edit each individual post and take
out the words one by one, that would take a lot of time.  Why pass such a
proposal unless its clear that somebody on staff is willing to volunteer to
take the time to do all that work?


#251 of 424 by jp2 on Fri Jan 23 02:31:28 2004:

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#252 of 424 by gelinas on Fri Jan 23 03:34:43 2004:

And John Remmers has volunteered to do the grunt work.


#253 of 424 by jp2 on Fri Jan 23 14:10:55 2004:

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#254 of 424 by mary on Fri Jan 23 15:15:50 2004:

Please consider removing all but what was part three.  That
last is more editorial comment and doesn't belong in the
motion.


#255 of 424 by jp2 on Fri Jan 23 15:48:58 2004:

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#256 of 424 by willcome on Fri Jan 23 15:53:24 2004:

I'd like to thank naftee for brining this matter to our attention.


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#258 of 424 by remmers on Fri Jan 23 19:07:54 2004:

Hi, this is your friendly voteadm person again.

The wording in Section 1 of #255 is acceptable, although I don't
think Section 2 is necessary and could give a misleading impression.
By default, policies take effect as soon as a passing result is
announced, and staff is always supposed to implement policies as
soon as practical.  Having that language in the proposal suggests
that those things are not the default.  Jamie, are you willing
to take that part out?

It appears that for the first time in Grex history we might be
voting on more than one proposal at the same time.  The current
vote program can handle that okay with a minor amount of
hack-work on my part, but I'm working on a rewrite that will
handle parallel votes with different expiration times gracefully,
and that will automate some things that I currently do by hand.  
I'd like to delay the start of voting until tomorrow (Saturday)
to see if I can get that operational.  If I do, I'll start the
vote using the new program; if not, I'll start it using the old
one.  Hopefully that's acceptable to folks.


#259 of 424 by jp2 on Fri Jan 23 19:14:17 2004:

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#260 of 424 by remmers on Fri Jan 23 19:32:42 2004:

Thanks for the willingness to be flexible.

Refresh my memory -- was more that one staff member involved in
deleting the items?  The proposal refers to "staff members".


#261 of 424 by jp2 on Fri Jan 23 19:43:10 2004:

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#262 of 424 by naftee on Sat Jan 24 04:25:22 2004:

I would also like to thank willcome and jp2 for their tireless efforts in
discussing the matter with the users of GreX.


#263 of 424 by ryan on Sat Jan 24 16:38:18 2004:

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#264 of 424 by remmers on Sat Jan 24 17:27:11 2004:

Re #261: You can avoid naming names and still be factually accurate.


#265 of 424 by remmers on Sun Jan 25 22:02:50 2004:

To clarify:  I think the wording in #259 is okay except that the
phrase "by staff members" is contrary to fact.  Simplest fix would
be to leave it out.  Once that's fixed, I'll start a vote whenever
Jamie says.  Other things came up this weekend that slowed down work
on the new vote program, and I doubt I'll have a chance to work on
it again until next weekend, so in the interest of expediting 
a decision it may be best to start the vote under the old program.


#266 of 424 by jp2 on Mon Jan 26 01:11:19 2004:

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#267 of 424 by gelinas on Mon Jan 26 02:26:46 2004:

(That only works if the bill is sure to pass, jp2.  You know that.  Except
in the case of "poison pill" riders, which are added to ensure the basic bill
does NOT pass.)


#268 of 424 by jp2 on Mon Jan 26 10:54:28 2004:

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#269 of 424 by remmers on Mon Jan 26 11:06:49 2004:

When I start seeing some kickbacks for my efforts, I'll give more
serious consideration to imitating shady legislative practices.  But
darn it, Jamie didn't offer me any bribes at all.  You get what you
pay for.  :)

Okay, I'll start the voting either later today or first thing
tomorrow.


#270 of 424 by jp2 on Mon Jan 26 11:12:09 2004:

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#271 of 424 by bhoward on Mon Jan 26 13:17:04 2004:

That ought to buy you some creamer for your Starbucks latte, James.


#272 of 424 by jp2 on Mon Jan 26 14:10:45 2004:

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#273 of 424 by jep on Tue Jan 27 14:07:35 2004:

I request, once again as I did in resp:203 on Wednesday, January 21, 
that the Board resolve the questions that have been raised by myself 
and others about what happens if both proposals pass, before the 
proposals are placed before the voters.  I think otherwise the voters 
can not know what they are voting to decide, and that therefore the 
outcome of the two votes will possibly be moot.

I don't know of a procedure for bringing this request into the decision 
making process.  I hope someone on the Board can take charge, though.


#274 of 424 by slynne on Tue Jan 27 15:06:41 2004:

It is my understanding that the most recent proposal takes precedence. 
Since jp2's proposal was made first, your proposal would be the most 
recent. 

So, if jp2' proposal passes and yours passes, only the baby diary items 
will be restored. If jp2's proposal passes and yours doesnt, then the 
baby diary items and the divorce items will be restored. If jp2's 
proposal fails and yours passes, then the staff could decide to restore 
the baby diary items but they would not be allowed to restore the 
divorce items. If both proposals fail, the status quo prevails. 

I am not sure we need a board action to clarify this officially. 


#275 of 424 by other on Tue Jan 27 15:07:36 2004:

Here's how it works:

Each proposal is voted upon as it is, as if it were the only one on the 
table.

In case of direct conflict between successfully passed proposals, the 
later one takes precedence (assumed to be a change of mind/heart on the 
part of the membership -- it makes no difference if the time lapse 
between conflicting proposals is minutes or years).

How much more simplification/clarification do you need?


#276 of 424 by other on Tue Jan 27 15:08:16 2004:

slynne slipped in


#277 of 424 by jp2 on Tue Jan 27 15:13:28 2004:

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#278 of 424 by jp2 on Tue Jan 27 15:16:34 2004:

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#279 of 424 by mary on Tue Jan 27 15:25:13 2004:

  "It would be best to avoid an unpleasant situation."

Too late. ;-)


#280 of 424 by other on Tue Jan 27 15:29:17 2004:

There should be a time lag between the beginnings of the voting periods 
for the respective proposals roughly equivalent to the lag between 
their originations.  I would be in favor of making that lag one day at 
minimum, in order to make it easier on the voteadm, and to make it 
easier for the membership to treat the two proposals individually.


#281 of 424 by jp2 on Tue Jan 27 15:33:06 2004:

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#283 of 424 by gull on Tue Jan 27 15:57:04 2004:

Of course you would, since that would let your proposal override his.


#284 of 424 by naftee on Tue Jan 27 16:06:46 2004:

heh


#285 of 424 by gelinas on Tue Jan 27 16:11:24 2004:

According to the minutes of the most recent board meeting, the votes
are to be run concurrently.  

The only conflict is if both initiatives pass, which would quite clearly
indicate that the membership wants the items restored but agrees that
the divorce items should not be restored.  

The consensus appears to me to be that if both initiatives fail, no action
should be taken.


#286 of 424 by remmers on Tue Jan 27 18:03:39 2004:

I was busily setting up the vote program this morning and getting
ready to start the voting, since Jamie had given me the go-ahead.
Then I decided to catch up on Coop.  Big mistake.  :)

According to the rules, once the discussion period on a proposal
is over, the proposer has control over when the vote starts.
From Jamie's response #282 it sounds like he's reconsidering the
timing, so I'll wait until I get clarification from him on that
before starting the voting on his proposal.

However, once the vote starts, there's no turning back....


#287 of 424 by jp2 on Tue Jan 27 18:08:38 2004:

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#288 of 424 by naftee on Tue Jan 27 18:51:53 2004:

 :-0


#289 of 424 by albaugh on Tue Jan 27 23:07:38 2004:

"I'm coming up, so you better get this voting started."


#290 of 424 by jep on Wed Jan 28 03:23:56 2004:

I apologize for the confusion, but there was really no consensus a 
week ago on how this situation ought to be resolved.  It appears there 
is now.  That being the case, I have no objection to the voting on 
both items commencing.


#291 of 424 by remmers on Wed Jan 28 11:56:20 2004:

Okay, I'll start the vote tonight.


#292 of 424 by polytarp on Wed Jan 28 13:54:39 2004:

Thanks, remmers!


#293 of 424 by naftee on Wed Jan 28 22:33:58 2004:

THANKS jremmers!


#294 of 424 by remmers on Thu Jan 29 02:19:42 2004:

The polls are now open.  Type "vote" at a Unix shell prompt,
"!vote" just about anywhere else.  You get to choose which of 
the two propositions to vote on.  When done with your first
choice, you get to choose again.

You can vote more than once; your last vote overwrites any
previous one.  Therefore, it is appropriate to continue discussing
the proposal here during the voting period.


#295 of 424 by gelinas on Thu Jan 29 02:23:04 2004:

Thank you, remmers.  My votes have been cast. :)


#296 of 424 by polytarp on Thu Jan 29 02:41:43 2004:

I don't like the way proposal B is phrased.  It makes it seems as if it was
a typical staff action to delete items on request.


#297 of 424 by albaugh on Thu Jan 29 19:43:08 2004:

Even though I'm not excited about this whole affair, I guess I recommend a
"Yes" vote on this proposal.  That would ostensibly restore things to where
they were before the "unauthorized" item deletions took place.  I'm sorry that
staff will have to spend time on this should it pass, but that is not the
fault of the membership - the fault lies elsewhere.


#298 of 424 by jp2 on Thu Jan 29 20:06:26 2004:

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#299 of 424 by cmcgee on Thu Jan 29 20:13:35 2004:

I voted no on this proposal.


#300 of 424 by jep on Thu Jan 29 21:09:10 2004:

I definitely don't agree with jp2 that the Grex staff has any contempt 
for the users.  I've never seen any indication that any of the users 
feel that way -- until jp2 said it.

Like cmcgee, I voted against this proposal.


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#302 of 424 by cmcgee on Thu Jan 29 21:26:51 2004:

Logic and precedent are not the only criteria for making decisions.  One of
my favorte "Bill of Rights" lists is in a book on independent thinking.

VIII  You have the right to be illogical in making decisions.

A common way for people to manipulate others is by claiming that you cannot
do anything illogical.  They try to force you to go against your own values,
which may place a higher priority on relationships and feelings, by insisting
that you must  be "logical".    Logic and precident are simply -one- way to
make good decisions.  


#303 of 424 by polytarp on Thu Jan 29 21:37:49 2004:

ROckon, McGEe


#304 of 424 by jp2 on Thu Jan 29 22:04:22 2004:

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#305 of 424 by cyklone on Thu Jan 29 22:13:26 2004:

"Personal favors for favored persons"


#306 of 424 by remmers on Thu Jan 29 23:01:34 2004:

I voted in favor of this.


#307 of 424 by gelinas on Thu Jan 29 23:05:32 2004:

May I draw your attention response 124, above?


#308 of 424 by gelinas on Thu Jan 29 23:19:27 2004:

Re 298: The membership is obviously divided on this question.  Is it really
any wonder that the staff is awaiting instruction from the membership?

It seems to me that the real contempt would be pre-empting the membership's
decision.


#309 of 424 by jmsaul on Fri Jan 30 01:23:11 2004:

Jamie, being a dick about it may convince some people to vote against your
proposal just to spite you.


#310 of 424 by jp2 on Fri Jan 30 01:27:18 2004:

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#311 of 424 by jmsaul on Fri Jan 30 01:32:22 2004:

I read it.


#312 of 424 by naftee on Fri Jan 30 01:49:35 2004:

Yeah it's about as polite as you can get.


#313 of 424 by aruba on Fri Jan 30 03:27:20 2004:

I voted "no" on this proposal.


#314 of 424 by mary on Fri Jan 30 09:56:44 2004:

I voted yes.


#315 of 424 by witzbolt on Fri Jan 30 10:16:39 2004:

I voted "no".


#316 of 424 by jp2 on Fri Jan 30 13:14:42 2004:

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#317 of 424 by gelinas on Fri Jan 30 13:49:31 2004:

(It's a form of campaigning, jp2.)


#318 of 424 by jp2 on Fri Jan 30 13:51:44 2004:

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#319 of 424 by gelinas on Fri Jan 30 14:01:05 2004:

Glad to be of help. :)


#320 of 424 by davel on Fri Jan 30 14:03:36 2004:

Actually, if you go back and look, it's not in the least uncommon for people
to announce how they are voting or have voted.


#321 of 424 by gull on Fri Jan 30 14:44:22 2004:

I'll sometimes announce how I intend to vote, but I rarely announce how
I *have* voted.  And I always reserve the right to change my mind.


#322 of 424 by scott on Fri Jan 30 15:17:11 2004:

I've seen people announce their vote on previous elections/initiatives.

I voted "no" on this.


#323 of 424 by jep on Fri Jan 30 16:01:00 2004:

I don't announce my vote for candidates for Board seats, or endorse 
candidates.  I don't have any similar reservations about proposals, 
though.


#324 of 424 by keesan on Fri Jan 30 16:48:03 2004:

People put election signs in their yards so that prospective neighbors will
know whether they fit in.  Jim's street has a lot of flags, relative to the
rest of his area of town (pro-war).  


#325 of 424 by gelinas on Fri Jan 30 18:47:03 2004:

(That is a different perspective on yard signs.)


#326 of 424 by tod on Fri Jan 30 18:48:45 2004:

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#327 of 424 by gull on Fri Jan 30 18:51:52 2004:

I've been told it does.


#328 of 424 by tod on Fri Jan 30 19:10:09 2004:

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#329 of 424 by gull on Fri Jan 30 21:15:10 2004:

That's the vibe I've gotten from listening to Bush...


#330 of 424 by tod on Fri Jan 30 21:57:38 2004:

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#331 of 424 by gelinas on Fri Jan 30 22:22:32 2004:

No, he joined the Reserves and then skipped out on the meetings.


#332 of 424 by tod on Fri Jan 30 23:30:51 2004:

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#333 of 424 by cyklone on Fri Jan 30 23:52:00 2004:

> Date: 29 Jan 2004 05:45:09 -0000
> From: valerie@unixmama.com
> To: xxxxxxxxxxxx@cyberspace.org
> Subject: a request  

> Hello.  I'm writing with a request that is very important to me.
> I deleted my online baby diary from Grex.  There is a vote that has
> just started, to undelete it, against my wishes.  Please, even if
> you haven't used Grex in a long time, I urge you to log in and vote   
>to leave the baby diary deleted.  The vote also includes John Perry's
> divorce diary, which I deleted at his request, and which he wishes
> to also stay deleted.  I encourage you to log in and vote to leave all
> these items deleted.  My baby diary items contain lots of personal
> information about me and my children that I no longer wish to be
> posted on the Internet.  Even if my items are restored without my
> postings, my baby diary items are still all about me and my children,
> and the other people's postings are full of my personal information
> that I no longer wish to have posted.
>
> Here are the details of what happened: Back in 1997, I started
> keeping an online baby diary on Grex, logging many personal details
> of pregnancy, the births of my children, and many details of raising
> them, and about my personal life.  I originally posted it because
> I thought people who hadn't experienced pregnancy and childbirth
> might be interested to read about these things.  I figured that
> since it was located in a back corner of Grex, the only people who      
> would wade through my baby diary were people who were interested
> enough in parenting to wade through hundreds of postings about messy
> diapers and other topics of interest only to people who were truly
> interested in parenting issues, and also to people who were very
> patient friends of mine who wanted to keep up with my life.
>
> A few weeks ago, I discovered that a parody of my baby diary had
> been running on M-Net for the past 2 1/2 years, without my knowledge.
> (If you would like to see it, it's item 39 in the "Agora" conference
> on M-Net.)  Some of the postings there are funny, some are nasty.
> Finding the parody explained a lot about why the real baby diary
> had, in the past 2 1/2 years, acquired a number of people who didn't
> really seem to be interested in parenting, as you could tell by
> their postings.  They were visiting my baby diary to acquire
> material to parody on M-Net, or better yet to post my words verbatim
> and laugh about how outrageous or personal the information was.      
> The rules of the parody game in M-Net's Agora conference say that
> anything posted anywhere on Grex is open to parodying.  There is
> no way to opt out of being parodied.  That is, if you post anything
> on Grex, the people in M-Net's Agora conference take it as an open
> invitation to parody you.  I wished to opt out.  So I deleted my
> baby diary.  I used my Grex staff access to do it, just as I would
> have done for any user of Grex who asked staff to delete an item that
> was full of his or her personal information that they no longer wanted
> to have online.
>
> When I deleted the baby diaries, someone started a discussion
> in the co-op conference, claiming that my deletion of the baby
> diaries was "root abuse".  User jp2 started a vote, this vote that
> I am writing to you about, to undelete the baby diaries.  His
> reasoning is that since there were other people's words in the baby
> diaries, he claims it was censorship for me to delete their words    
> without their permission.  I find this claim bizarre.  The information
> in those baby diaries is all about me and my children.  If someone
> else had posted my credit card numbers, it would clearly be appropriate
> to delete that posting, because it contained my personal information.
> Most of the postings in the baby diaries are likewise all about my
> personal information.  I no longer wish to have this personal
> information online.
>
> So, if you would log in to Grex and vote "no" on proposal "A",
> I would very much appreciate it.
>
> To vote, log in to Grex, and, type    !vote    from a menu, or
>    vote    from a shell prompt.  Then follow the menus from there.
>
> -Valerie                                                           


#334 of 424 by tod on Fri Jan 30 23:57:54 2004:

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#335 of 424 by naftee on Sat Jan 31 00:27:09 2004:

And she doesn't even mention my username.  I'm just a "someone".


What a bitch.


(btw Thanks, cyklone)


#336 of 424 by va1erie on Sat Jan 31 05:21:33 2004:

If Va1erie were a member, it's clear how her vote would go.


#337 of 424 by jaklumen on Sat Jan 31 07:44:30 2004:

resp:333 Again and again, the message seems to be-- cyberspace is 
pretty open, so be wary of posting personal information; people can and 
will exploit it.  Be knowledgable of how secure the forums are that you 
post to.  Can you trust the folks you're sharing information with?  And 
who might those folks be?

Of course, a lot of those ideas and questions seem moot... moot to be 
asked or applied, at least to that particular situation.  Yes, the 
issue at hand now is policy.  But that's just a matter of symptom... I 
think the concerns described above probably are matters of prevention.

Policies do guide decision-making.  But people have to put thought in 
those choices-- and should, each and every time.


#338 of 424 by naftee on Sat Jan 31 19:51:54 2004:

va1erie. heh


#339 of 424 by sarahlee on Mon Feb 2 17:22:33 2004:

I vote no to the restoration of deleted items or posts from tape.

I feel perfectly okay with the risks I take posting on Grex. One of the
risks is that the item could be deleted at any time, including all of my
posts. If I write something I particularly care for, it's my
responsibility to keep a copy of it. Not Grex's.
I also reserve the right to delete every post I ever made on Grex,
without regard to the "damage" that action would cause to the context of
other people's posts. 
I have no expectation that my posts on Grex are guaranteed against
anything, including deletion. Same with anything I write anywhere
online, unless I personally signed a contract giving me that guarantee. 
I posted a great deal in Valerie's baby diary and don't care one whit
that my posts there are gone. If that item is restored, with or without
her posts, I request my posts there be deleted.


#340 of 424 by tod on Mon Feb 2 18:21:39 2004:

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#341 of 424 by albaugh on Mon Feb 2 19:59:16 2004:

(sarahlee is not a member, BTW)


#342 of 424 by witzbolt on Mon Feb 2 20:38:12 2004:

i'm ejaculating on your tits.


#343 of 424 by naftee on Mon Feb 2 21:52:23 2004:

 !members >> fags.on.GreX


#344 of 424 by jep on Tue Feb 3 16:22:14 2004:

From M-Net:

#7 of 7 by James Howard (jp2) on Tue Feb 3 11:14:55 2004: 

I think the vote ends on Saturday.  Regardless, be warned now, under any
circumstance but A passing and B failing, the initiative for A will be
re-entered and Grex will continue voting on it every ten days until 
they get it right.


#345 of 424 by jp2 on Tue Feb 3 16:38:16 2004:

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#346 of 424 by dpc on Tue Feb 3 16:47:35 2004:

Sorry, I don't think so.   8-)  There is no provision for repeated
voting on something that fails.

I voted yes on A and no on B, FWIW.


#347 of 424 by jp2 on Tue Feb 3 16:56:27 2004:

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#348 of 424 by krj on Tue Feb 3 19:19:49 2004:

The censored log issue sat for a long time -- over a year? -- before 
being revisited.  Maybe it'll be necessary to have a bylaw change to 
dictate a waiting period before revisiting an issue that's been voted
on.


#349 of 424 by other on Tue Feb 3 19:56:40 2004:

There is a by-law amendment on the table right now, which I would 
consider amending specifically to allow the voteadm to exclude system-
abusive, repetitive proposals.


#350 of 424 by jp2 on Tue Feb 3 20:05:36 2004:

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#351 of 424 by krj on Tue Feb 3 20:17:40 2004:

Sure thing, Diebold!


#352 of 424 by other on Tue Feb 3 20:21:30 2004:

For the record, the response jp2 wants removed quotes a posting he made 
on m-net [#7 of 7 by James Howard (jp2) on Tue Feb 3 11:14:55 2004] 
declaring that his initiative, should it fail, will be re-entered 
repeatedly (every ten days) "until they get it right."


#353 of 424 by jp2 on Tue Feb 3 20:30:09 2004:

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#354 of 424 by other on Tue Feb 3 20:40:16 2004:

By the way, Jamie, can you prove that the text posted in resp:344 was 
originally written by and is owned by you?  Pointing to its origination 
on m-net alone would not constitute proof without some verification 
that the account jp2 on m-net is owned by you, which cannot be verified 
by grex staff unless they also have sysadmin privileges on m-net, or 
unless the m-net sysadmin vouches for the accuracy of any origin-
specific log data...


#355 of 424 by albaugh on Tue Feb 3 20:45:32 2004:

Quoting someone, with full attribution, isn't going to be deemed copyright
infringement to begin with.


#356 of 424 by boltwitz on Tue Feb 3 20:49:24 2004:

Re. 354:  According to 352, you already know jp2 owns it.


#357 of 424 by jp2 on Tue Feb 3 20:54:19 2004:

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#358 of 424 by albaugh on Tue Feb 3 20:59:55 2004:

Prove it...


#359 of 424 by gelinas on Tue Feb 3 21:06:22 2004:

jp2 really do *not* want this resolved in his favour.  If it is, then
there is another can of worms opened:  how to track down all of the other
copies of his words that exist on the Internet.  Of course, it is not _his_
problem to track down all the copies of the baby-diary and divorce items,
but it becomes attractive to some to try.

While parody is protected, I wonder how much was directly quoted in m-net's
parody conference, and what relation the quotations bear to the totality
of the original work.

This really isn't something you want to start, jp2.


#360 of 424 by jp2 on Tue Feb 3 21:24:56 2004:

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#361 of 424 by jp2 on Tue Feb 3 21:31:36 2004:

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#362 of 424 by boltwitz on Tue Feb 3 21:54:58 2004:

(this is coop, not agora).


#363 of 424 by jp2 on Wed Feb 4 11:07:02 2004:

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#364 of 424 by naftee on Wed Feb 4 14:16:48 2004:

HEY DIDSOMEONE METION THE DMCA?


#365 of 424 by remmers on Wed Feb 4 17:12:22 2004:

As long as we're mentioning things, somebody should mention "fair
use", which I believe #344 to be.


#366 of 424 by jp2 on Wed Feb 4 18:18:50 2004:

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#367 of 424 by jep on Wed Feb 4 18:32:13 2004:

It's a paragraph, Jamie.

It was quoted directly, in context, from a public site, and with the 
intention of conveying information relevant to an ongoing policy 
discussion.

But by all means, take legal action if you find it necessary.  Please.


#368 of 424 by twinkie on Wed Feb 4 18:50:47 2004:

What about the fair use rights of people who posted in your item?



#369 of 424 by jp2 on Wed Feb 4 19:09:07 2004:

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#370 of 424 by jp2 on Wed Feb 4 19:13:47 2004:

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#371 of 424 by naftee on Wed Feb 4 21:21:15 2004:

LOOK WHO"S TALKING, MR " I HAVE THE TIME TO TRY TO BAN ALL OF CANADA FROM
ARBORNET YET WON'T GET OFF MY ASS TO PURSUE A LOUSY LITIGATION" . HAHA YOU"RE
WORSE THAN TWINKIEASS.


#372 of 424 by jp2 on Thu Feb 5 16:37:16 2004:

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#373 of 424 by other on Thu Feb 5 18:50:58 2004:

Presumably, ten days and around three hours after it began.  If 
you're going to take us to task for not specifically allowing for 
the voting period to fluctuate for purposes of convenience in the 
by-laws, then you're wasting your time.  If you think it's a 
problem, propose an amendment to solve it.


#374 of 424 by albaugh on Thu Feb 5 18:52:19 2004:

As the motd says / alludes to, end of the day Feb. 7 (i.e. 11:59.999...pm ET)


#375 of 424 by jp2 on Thu Feb 5 19:02:37 2004:

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#376 of 424 by gelinas on Thu Feb 5 19:13:06 2004:

The Treasuerer cannot check the mailbox on Saturday, to see who might have
joined that day.  So the results cannot be certified before Monday.

Reporting tentative results before the membership list is certified
compromises the secret ballot, by allowing of 'traffic analysis.'


#377 of 424 by jp2 on Thu Feb 5 19:24:31 2004:

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#378 of 424 by naftee on Fri Feb 6 00:00:16 2004:

re 374 Not exactly; a day is really only 23 hours and 56 minutes long
(approx).


#379 of 424 by boltwitz on Fri Feb 6 04:28:29 2004:

Except if you're moving.


#380 of 424 by remmers on Sat Feb 7 13:02:27 2004:

Voting will end at midnight tonight (Saturday, Feb. 7).  I'll report
the results as soon as Mark can certify the list of eligible voters,
which as Joe pointed out might not be until sometime Monday.


#381 of 424 by naftee on Sat Feb 7 14:36:00 2004:

I CAN'T WAIT !!!&**&(*(&


#382 of 424 by valerie on Sat Feb 7 15:15:51 2004:

Some things on my mind:

1) Someone asked, "If Valerie said she is leaving, why is she still posting
here?"  The answer to that is that I said I was leaving before this kangaroo
court trial of my own integrity started.  I DON'T want to be here now, and I
do intend to go far, far, away after this is over.

2) Jp2 may well be in this for revenge on me, because I locked his account
in December after he sent out 909 e-mail messages.  Cyklone and others who
participated in the baby diary parody (iggy, cross, seldon, and others) may
be arguing so vehemently because I deleted the baby diary as a reaction to
the parody of it.  If they can convince people that deleting the baby diary
was wrong, it de-legitimatizes my reaction to the parody.  That is, they may
be looking for someone to tell them that parodying the baby diary was okay,
and getting people to vote against the deletion is a way of defending their
participation in the parody.

3) I still firmly believe that I acted ethically, to the highest moral
standards, when I deleted the baby diary.  The fair witnesses of the two
conferences were not easily available to be found (even now I've only
managed to locate 4 of the 5, and for some of them it took weeks).  I 
believe that most, quite possibly all, of the fair witnesses of those
conferences would have deleted the baby diaries when I asked.  Time was
critical for getting the baby diaries deleted before parodiers made copies,
and the 4-5 weeks it has taken to locate some (but not all) of the fair
witnesses would have been way too long.  It *is* the role of staff to
help out users who have time-critical problems like this one, where the
fair witnesses are not readily available to fill their roles.  Another
example of staff filling a fair witness's role when the fair witness
was not available: Nobody asked Katie, the fair witness of Agora, who logs
in only rarely, to delete the gaggle of copies of Plato's Republic that
polytarp posted there recently.  A staffer went in and just did it.  And
deleting those items wasn't even time-critical, yet it is okay that a
staffer deleted someone else's postings.

4) Iggy argues that since people warned me not to post personal information
and I did it anyway, people should vote to undelete the baby diaries to make
me live with the consequences of my actions and teach me a lesson.  I find
this argument weird, since so far the only bad consequence of posting
personal information in the baby diaries is that Iggy and other people
parodied it.  If you warned me not to post it, and I did it anyway, isn't
the best solution to delete it, rather than "teaching me a lesson" by putting
the items back on-line?

5) Even if you do think I should be "taught a lesson," please think of my
children.  This is THEIR personal information that we are talking about
putting back online.  Even if I "ought to be punished" for my stupidity in
posting this stuff on-line, my children are innocent.  For their sake, if
for no other reason, I urge you to vote to leave the baby diaries deleted.


#383 of 424 by boltwitz on Sat Feb 7 15:44:36 2004:

2) Right.  It's impossible for anyone to argue anything without having
ulterior motives.


#384 of 424 by cyklone on Sat Feb 7 15:44:54 2004:

Just so you know valerie, if you read my numerous posts on the issue, I have
personally much more invested in jep's item. My belief you acted improperly
has zero connection to my parodies. I certainly have no intention of digging
through your diaries for material if they are restored (as they should be).
And I certainly don't need your items restored to feel any sense of
"vindication." Just thought I'd clear that up, since there seems to be a great
deal of unsupported speculation going on.

I am curious, though, how you believe your children would be harmed by
restoring your items.

Finally, it seems to me you are muddying up the issues when you try to
compare your deletions with those of the multiple large files posted by
the polyboys. It is my understanding that those items were impairing
system performance and therefore were well within the purview of staff to
take immediate action. Your items did not impact system performance, and
you were therefore out of line to take staff action of any sort. The same
applies to jep's items.


#385 of 424 by jp2 on Sat Feb 7 15:49:19 2004:

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#386 of 424 by jmsaul on Sat Feb 7 16:17:32 2004:

No, I'm not looking for validation that the parodies were okay.  I didn't
participate in them much, and I felt bad about posting the direct quote,
so I scribbled it.  Your reactions here have reduced my sympathy for you,
but whether the parodies were okay, and whether your deletion of other
people's responses was okay, are independent questions

My reaction to your abuse of your Cfadm privileges is completely consistent 
with my reaction to similar actions by FWs on M-Net, and my support of
allowing posters to control their own text.  (Not item authors, the people
who actually wrote the text.)  Abuses of staff privileges shouldn't be
rewarded by allowing them to stand.


#387 of 424 by keesan on Sat Feb 7 16:59:29 2004:

I hope the m-net parodists have also 'learned a lesson' and will restrict
their artistic efforts to dead authors, or to people (like me) who are not
easily offended.  People who never make fun of other people or themselves
(like Valerie and Twila) are not good choices for parodying.  


#388 of 424 by naftee on Sat Feb 7 17:03:17 2004:

The above is an excellent choice for a parody.


#389 of 424 by jp2 on Sat Feb 7 19:31:37 2004:

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#390 of 424 by naftee on Sat Feb 7 21:36:07 2004:

I filter your mom


#391 of 424 by jp2 on Sat Feb 7 21:45:19 2004:

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#392 of 424 by gelinas on Sun Feb 8 01:10:02 2004:

Re 382, where Valerie comments on the deletion of the items quoting
Plato's Republic:  In fact, staff _did_ contact the fairwitness and _did_
wait for her to remove the items.  There were one or two staff members
who were willing to act, but most of us felt the right thing to do,
in light of the current controversy, was to wait of Katie.  So we did.


#393 of 424 by tod on Sun Feb 8 03:37:39 2004:

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#394 of 424 by albaugh on Sun Feb 8 04:33:33 2004:

valerie, you lose more credibility and respect with every additional word you
write.  Your reaction to something done elsewhere and overt action (negative,
IMO) against grex do not demonstrate justification one iota.  I acknowledge
that those you feel wronged you are also participating in the issue here on
grex.  But you did not take the high road.  And that is something you will
not admit, and that is what I dislike the most about this whole thing.


#395 of 424 by jmsaul on Sun Feb 8 07:02:50 2004:

Re #387:  For better or worse, people who have no sense of humor about
          themselves are excellent targets for parody.


#396 of 424 by jaklumen on Sun Feb 8 09:59:12 2004:

resp:382 #4 & #5 Good God.  Have you read *anything* concerning what 
has been written say, in the discretion of blogging?  What has been 
written there could well be applied to a situation such as yours.  The 
point is not so much "punishment" but that personal information should 
be handled carefully on public forums, be they bbs, weblog/live 
journal, etc.  We've said that a number of times now.

I think what the big issue has been with the deleted items is that 
people replied to them.  Their responses were deleted without their 
permission.  Anything else, other arguments, I believe, are lesser-- 
arguments that the items had value for others besides the authors, etc.

What do people want from Grex?  This is a public forum-- personal 
information is going to be subject to some scrutiny.  Policy is always 
a band-aid/tailpipe solution at best.  People will either have to be 
comfortable with the fact that such words can be exploited, or they 
maybe shouldn't share-- or share so much.  I think we said there are 
forums a little less public than this-- a little more secure.


#397 of 424 by naftee on Sun Feb 8 15:19:11 2004:

Your 'big issue' is correct.


#398 of 424 by keesan on Sun Feb 8 15:39:22 2004:

Re 395 - by 'excellent targets' do you mean for the purpose of hurting
people?


#399 of 424 by jmsaul on Sun Feb 8 16:10:36 2004:

Re #398:  No, I mean that people with no sense of humor about themselves are
          usually extremely funny to others.  (If they had a sense of humor
          about themselves, they'd know how funny they are, and could either
          change their behavior or accept it as humorous and move on.)  


#400 of 424 by tod on Sun Feb 8 18:10:07 2004:

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#401 of 424 by iggy on Sun Feb 8 18:55:05 2004:

"wont somebody please think of the CHILDREN? My poor innocent babies?"
um.. 
were the excruciating details of your personal life entered under duress?  
Was someone forcing you to not thinkk of your own words or how they would
affect your own children when you entered them?  
Really, If it was harmless to them THEN, it is harmless to them NOW.


#402 of 424 by happyboy on Sun Feb 8 20:37:18 2004:

...even if she entered them in some sort of OCD spaz-out
she still ENTERED them.

YOU CAN'T TAKE BACK WHAT YOU SAID, VAL, EVEN IF YOU
WERE FLORIDLY PSYCHOTIC WHEN YOU ENTERED THOSE ITEMS.

you stole from me, vandal.


#403 of 424 by naftee on Sun Feb 8 22:55:10 2004:

She violated you, did she.


#404 of 424 by happyboy on Mon Feb 9 07:46:36 2004:



        *sniff*


        :(~~~


#405 of 424 by remmers on Mon Feb 9 18:03:51 2004:

The treasurer has informed me that the voter list is up to date.
With 52 out of 82 eligible members voting, the results are:

        yes     15
        no      37

The motion fails.


#406 of 424 by ryan on Mon Feb 9 19:08:51 2004:

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#407 of 424 by boltwitz on Mon Feb 9 20:43:00 2004:

Thanks for eating your own children, Jews.


#408 of 424 by naftee on Mon Feb 9 21:45:31 2004:

Nazis.


#409 of 424 by cyklone on Tue Feb 10 00:13:07 2004:

Pussies


#410 of 424 by boltwitz on Tue Feb 10 00:19:32 2004:

Whores.


#411 of 424 by anderyn on Tue Feb 10 00:30:11 2004:

Now that's a mature response. And so mysogonistic too.


#412 of 424 by boltwitz on Tue Feb 10 00:34:38 2004:

Yeah.  Whores.


#413 of 424 by naftee on Tue Feb 10 01:50:44 2004:

Penises.


#414 of 424 by boltwitz on Tue Feb 10 02:15:21 2004:

Are churls.


#415 of 424 by happyboy on Tue Feb 10 09:11:16 2004:

re411: you are right. fatso foureyes.


#416 of 424 by anderyn on Tue Feb 10 16:26:25 2004:

re 415: What in the world brought that on? *blink* I don't believe that
anything I've said merits schoolyard insults. 


#417 of 424 by jp2 on Tue Feb 10 16:45:53 2004:

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#418 of 424 by anderyn on Tue Feb 10 17:04:46 2004:

"Now that's a mature response" does not parse to "you're being totally
immature". It does parse to I think those are rather odd insults to be letting
fly in the coop conference (or anywhere, actually).


#419 of 424 by jp2 on Tue Feb 10 17:11:04 2004:

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#420 of 424 by anderyn on Tue Feb 10 17:34:35 2004:

My exposure to Cartman is nearly nil, so I don't recognize any quotes. 


#421 of 424 by tod on Tue Feb 10 18:39:54 2004:

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#422 of 424 by naftee on Tue Feb 10 21:56:03 2004:

BATMAN


#423 of 424 by salad on Wed Mar 3 15:06:31 2004:

UYEAHmM ANDROBIN>


#424 of 424 by jesuit on Wed May 17 02:14:34 2006:

TROGG IS DAVID BLAINE


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