Grex Oldcoop Conference

Item 68: Potential censorship

Entered by naftee on Tue Jan 6 02:27:04 2004:

I have compiled a list of circumstantial evidence, if, when taken in context,
shows a very disturbing sequence of events.  Mr Wolter, login janc, when
repairing the GreX machine, happened to stumble across item 39 in the agora
conference on m-net's bbs, regarding his wife's baby diary, which he found 
very insulting. He entered a response about this; here is the header:
#211 Jan Wolter [janc] (40) (Mon, Jan  5, 2004 (07:23)):

Later on, Mrs. Mates read the same item and responded to it; here is the
header:
#217 Valerie Mates [popcorn] (4) (Mon, Jan  5, 2004 (11:49)):

In it, she alludes to the fact that the diary had been purged.  Research
revealed the diary was located in the femme conference.  However, some items
are missing.  Having a look at the bbs errorlog, we find this:

----Valerie Mates: valerie(112) pid=13463
cf=/bbs/femme  81 ps T3.3a Mon Jan  5 11:59:08 2004
prompt="(oops)? " (prompt) cmd was: kill 81^J
  error was:You can't do that!

----PicoSpan file owner: cfadm(60) pid=13712
cf=/bbs/femme  81 ps T3.3a Mon Jan  5 12:00:01 2004
prompt="(oops)? " (prompt) cmd was: kill 81^J
  error was:Deleting message 81

----PicoSpan file owner: cfadm(60) pid=13712
cf=/bbs/femme  106 ps T3.3a Mon Jan  5 12:00:13 2004
prompt="(oops)? " (prompt) cmd was: kill 106^J
  error was:Deleting message 106

----PicoSpan file owner: cfadm(60) pid=13712
cf=/bbs/femme  145 ps T3.3a Mon Jan  5 12:00:19 2004
prompt="(oops)? " (prompt) cmd was: kill 145^J
  error was:Deleting message 145

----PicoSpan file owner: cfadm(60) pid=13712
cf=/bbs/femme  142 ps T3.3a Mon Jan  5 12:00:25 2004
prompt="(oops)? " (prompt) cmd was: kill 142^J
  error was:Deleting message 142

----PicoSpan file owner: cfadm(60) pid=13712
cf=/bbs/femme  117 ps T3.3a Mon Jan  5 12:00:34 2004
prompt="(oops)? " (prompt) cmd was: kill 117^J
  error was:Deleting message 117

----PicoSpan file owner: cfadm(60) pid=13712
cf=/bbs/femme  113 ps T3.3a Mon Jan  5 12:00:42 2004
prompt="(oops)? " (prompt) cmd was: kill 113^J
  error was:Deleting message 113

I would like to point your attention to the dates and times.  Ten minutes
after responding in m-net's agora conference, Mrs. Mates enters the femme
conference and tries to delete some items.  A few minutes later, the
conference admin enters and deletes them for good.

I sincerely hope these items were not the aforementioned baby diary.  However
I have good reason to believe it was.  If so, a great and evil act of
censorship has taken place.  Regardless of the potential sensitivity of the
material, they did not merit censorship.

I demand action.
393 responses total.

#1 of 393 by willcome on Tue Jan 6 02:38:09 2004:

I thank soup for bringing this matter to our attention.


#2 of 393 by gelinas on Tue Jan 6 03:09:09 2004:

Valerie reported her actions, but not their cause, to the Board and staff.

I see no reason to assume any wrong-doing on her part.


#3 of 393 by willcome on Tue Jan 6 03:12:22 2004:

If I mail bombed the system, but I reported it first, would I be let off? 
No.  Neither should Valerie:  she actually censored items with HUNDREDS of
responses from other users.  That is a SERIOUS offence, and no-one but someone
fucking a staff member would be given the priviledge.


#4 of 393 by valerie on Tue Jan 6 03:53:24 2004:

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#5 of 393 by willcome on Tue Jan 6 05:36:04 2004:

Um, Valerie, you know it's not.  That's why people can't do it unless they
abuse their staff powers.


#6 of 393 by willcome on Tue Jan 6 05:37:54 2004:

(Of course, we know for a fact that Valerie IS a liar.  She said in a previous
item that she'd restore my polytarp account if I fulfilled certain conditions.
I did, and she never restored the account; no PRAGMATIC harm was done, of
course, because cross eventually restored it for me, but there's, I should
think, harm done in that LIES are INHERENTLY unjust.  that's just imho,
though.)


#7 of 393 by ryan on Tue Jan 6 05:56:30 2004:

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#8 of 393 by willcome on Tue Jan 6 06:35:17 2004:

Right, especially ignore us when we're trying to prevent abuse of the system.


#9 of 393 by ryan on Tue Jan 6 06:53:08 2004:

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#10 of 393 by willcome on Tue Jan 6 08:25:45 2004:

Right, let's let Grex become a place absent of free speech, because you don't
like the a subset of the people complaining about the erosion of free speech.


#11 of 393 by remmers on Tue Jan 6 12:14:53 2004:

#4: "It's longstanding Grex policy that the person who created an item
 can delete it."

Really?  I don't think so.


#12 of 393 by remmers on Tue Jan 6 12:18:23 2004:

To clarify:  People are allowed to purge their own responses, but
not those of other people.  At least, that's always been my
understanding.


#13 of 393 by jp2 on Tue Jan 6 13:32:28 2004:

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#14 of 393 by valerie on Tue Jan 6 13:53:47 2004:

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#15 of 393 by mary on Tue Jan 6 14:57:06 2004:

It's never been the case that one user could remove another person's 
posts.  No without root power.  Didn't you notice then when you 
first tried to remove the entire items while on as valerie?

Is it possible for you to put the items back (I assume you have them 
backed up somewhere) then delete only your responses?  I know that 
would be a job, but it's the right thing to do.  In my opinion.


#16 of 393 by naftee on Tue Jan 6 15:11:03 2004:

re 11 The only time that can happen is if that item has responses only 
by the person who created it.  Once other people respond to it, that 
ability is removed.

As you can see, it required an abuse of Conference Admin priviledges to 
delete these items.  There were several other alternatives, such as 
freezing and retiring them, or censoring her own responses, rather than 
the deletion of not only Valerie's posts, but other, innocent users.

Not to mention she hid the fact that she deleted these items.  At least 
on m-net, this doesn't happen.


#17 of 393 by jp2 on Tue Jan 6 15:26:00 2004:

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#18 of 393 by gull on Tue Jan 6 15:29:42 2004:

Valerie took advantage of staff powers to do something that the rest of
us wouldn't be allowed to do.  I don't think she had any ill intent,
though.  I'd have to say I think it's a bit "unfair" but I don't find it
too troubling beyond that.  If this is the most inappropriate thing Grex
staff has ever done, we're doing pretty good.

I think valerie at least owes an apology to people who posted.  If the
items can be recovered I think they should be replaced.  I'm not willing
to call for her to resign, though; as far as I know this hasn't happened
before, so I don't see a pattern of abuse here.


#19 of 393 by other on Tue Jan 6 15:31:17 2004:

Your demand has no force.  

If you are serious about it, make a specific proposal in Co-op, and 
if the majority of the membership agrees with you (which I seriously 
doubt will happen, especially if the removal of the posts by other 
users is undone), then Valerie's staff staus would be revoked.


#20 of 393 by other on Tue Jan 6 15:31:57 2004:

gull slipped in


#21 of 393 by mary on Tue Jan 6 15:39:44 2004:

Oh for Christ's sake, naftee, get a clue.  Nobody hid anything.

And this wasn't a malicious action.  I expect Valerie was very hurt by
what she found on M-net.  Why not talk about this in reasonable terms and
see if there is a less drastic "fix" before we bring out the stones. 

Maybe we should even see if folks care.  Lots of forums seem to function
pretty well with censorship the norm.  It's been a long long time since we
looked at how our fairly rigid censorship policy is working for Grex. 
I know how I feel about it, but I'd be curious how others see it. 



#22 of 393 by jp2 on Tue Jan 6 16:08:44 2004:

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#23 of 393 by other on Tue Jan 6 16:20:52 2004:

If you think the welcome line should be changed, make a proposal and 
if the majority of the membership agrees with you then it will be 
changed.


#24 of 393 by jp2 on Tue Jan 6 16:29:32 2004:

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#25 of 393 by aruba on Tue Jan 6 16:41:54 2004:

It's not childish to be hurt.  Adults get hurt.


#26 of 393 by jp2 on Tue Jan 6 16:45:48 2004:

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#29 of 393 by ryan on Tue Jan 6 17:20:53 2004:

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#33 of 393 by gelinas on Tue Jan 6 18:06:43 2004:

I've long thought the general practice here on the deletion of text to be
too strict.

The "ownership" of a collaborative work is always murky.  In the case of a
conferencing item, the responses often are worthless without the text of the
item that led to those responses.  To remove large pieces of an item is to
destroy its coherence.  It makes no sense to me to leave anything behind.

An item that is largely about one person's experience, and the reactions to
that experience, seems to me to belong more to the person being described than
to the person doing the describing.

Prose, despite the poetry, is rarely deathless.  Sooner or later, the medium
it is recorded on disintegrates.  Often, the disintegration is none too 
soon.

Let it go.


#34 of 393 by jp2 on Tue Jan 6 18:10:16 2004:

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#35 of 393 by cmcgee on Tue Jan 6 18:19:35 2004:

Yes, Valerie did something the rest of us can't do.  Yes, Grex has had a long
standing policy that once you've posted something, youo can never change your
mind about having it online.  Fortunately, Grex members changed the policy
a few years ago to allow you to scribble things you've changed your mind about
so that they aren't publically available any more.  

Frankly, the things in her baby diary were things I'd m never put on the
Web/Internet in the first place.  And they involve personal informationo ab
out people too young to have an opinon about what was being done/said.

I wish we -all- had the authority to kill items we started.  Let me mull that
over, because it may be time for a member vote on a well-crafted version of
that.  The whining about free-speech is ludicrous.  As has been explained,
on a word for word percentage the content of those items was about 95% Valerie

This whole bit has me thinking we should move toward MORE ability to censor
items on Grex, not less!


#36 of 393 by scott on Tue Jan 6 18:24:39 2004:

I'd want to hear complaints from the people whose content was deleted, not
the usual troublemakers like polytarp and jp2.


#37 of 393 by jp2 on Tue Jan 6 18:25:02 2004:

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#40 of 393 by slynne on Tue Jan 6 18:36:02 2004:

While I am a little surprised about valerie's feelings in this matter, 
I am not surprised that she wanted to remove the baby diaries. I mean, 
she has talked about a lot of very private things and I can totally 
understand that she might not want those lingering around here. Maybe 
it is time to revisit our censorship policy. Maybe making the author of 
the item the "owner" could have some advantages. 



#41 of 393 by gelinas on Tue Jan 6 18:58:33 2004:

On what basis is it "wrong," jp2?  I don't see it.


#42 of 393 by jp2 on Tue Jan 6 19:00:14 2004:

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#43 of 393 by gelinas on Tue Jan 6 19:06:15 2004:

"Arbitrarily"?  No.  For good reason?  Yes.


#44 of 393 by jp2 on Tue Jan 6 19:11:59 2004:

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#45 of 393 by ryan on Tue Jan 6 19:14:22 2004:

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#46 of 393 by gull on Tue Jan 6 19:21:43 2004:

I feel that staff shouldn't be allowed to remove their personal items
just because they no longer want them public unless the same ability is
granted to everyone.  I know there are probably items in old agoras that
I'd prefer to go back and delete, but since I'm not a staff member that
option isn't open to me.


#47 of 393 by gull on Tue Jan 6 19:22:50 2004:

(So I guess I agree with jp2 to the extent that I feel this was wrong,
and that valerie should, at very least, get a stern "don't do that
again."  I'm not willing to call for her resignation; I see this as an
isolated incident and not a pattern of abuse of staff powers.)


#48 of 393 by ryan on Tue Jan 6 19:22:51 2004:

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#49 of 393 by gull on Tue Jan 6 19:23:25 2004:

I actually doubt that.  But it would probably depend on what staff
member you asked.


#50 of 393 by ryan on Tue Jan 6 19:28:22 2004:

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#51 of 393 by willcome on Tue Jan 6 19:57:50 2004:

I'm not stupid.  :(


#52 of 393 by mynxcat on Tue Jan 6 19:58:42 2004:

>#36 of 50 by Scott Helmke (scott) on Tue Jan 6 13:24:39 2004: 
>I'd want to hear complaints from the people whose content was 
>deleted, not the usual troublemakers like polytarp and jp2.

I resent having my posts deleted. 

While I can understand why Valerie did what she did, it's not like she 
didn't have an alternative to just nuking the complete items. There 
were a large number of side-discussions, like any other item on grex, 
that could be pretty beneficial to the community. 

And it's not like she knew it wasn't allowed. She did try to delete 
them as herself, but when that didn't work.. out came the magic staff 
powers. Nice work.

 


#53 of 393 by other on Tue Jan 6 19:59:31 2004:

Funny, all the evidence I've seen points to the contrary.  You're 
welcome to attempt to provide some counter evidence, but I doubt 
you're up to the challenge.


#54 of 393 by other on Tue Jan 6 20:00:02 2004:

Mynxcat slipped in


#55 of 393 by slynne on Tue Jan 6 20:08:53 2004:

Would an author of an item have the power to retire it?


#56 of 393 by carson on Tue Jan 6 20:19:53 2004:

(I could have sworn that, as a FW, I had the option of killing an 
item.  I don't believe this to be anything new and, when I was actively 
FWing the games conference, it was a standard practice.  isn't valerie 
a FW in the conference where she had posted the items?  doesn't that 
give her the power to kill said items, regardless of her staff 
position?  and, if that's the case, will the jackasses who have 
groundlessly claimed that valerie abused some nebulous staff power [and 
the list appears to be getting longer] apologize to her?)

(what was the problem, again?)


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#59 of 393 by willcome on Tue Jan 6 21:04:36 2004:

I also object to having had my posts removed.


#60 of 393 by gull on Tue Jan 6 21:10:21 2004:

Re resp:53: These lines from resp:0 would tend to support mynxcat's
interpretation:

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----Valerie Mates: valerie(112) pid=13463
cf=/bbs/femme  81 ps T3.3a Mon Jan  5 11:59:08 2004
prompt="(oops)? " (prompt) cmd was: kill 81^J
  error was:You can't do that!

----PicoSpan file owner: cfadm(60) pid=13712
cf=/bbs/femme  81 ps T3.3a Mon Jan  5 12:00:01 2004
prompt="(oops)? " (prompt) cmd was: kill 81^J
  error was:Deleting message 81

---

It looks like Valerie tried to delete them as a normal user, then when
she couldn't, switched to doing it as cfadm.  That should have provided
her with a pretty strong hint that this isn't something normal users can
do.  I'm sorry but pleading ignorance isn't very convincing.


#61 of 393 by gelinas on Tue Jan 6 21:28:38 2004:

Response 57 highlights the disagreement:  I think the author of an item
has the right to remove the item, EVEN IF OTHERS HAVE RESPONDED.  This
includes agora's "happy", "bummed" and "license plate" items, where the
item author is often just the 'lucky' one who got there first.


#62 of 393 by willcome on Tue Jan 6 21:35:23 2004:

Do you think it'd be appropriate for, say, naftee to be able to delete this
item, despite how obviously important it is?


#63 of 393 by albaugh on Tue Jan 6 21:35:40 2004:

I'm not thrilled that valerie used her extra powers to do what she did.
But if all grex users without those extra powers can request of those that
do, at any time, to have their items similarly killed, and that arrangement
is duly documented, then I would be satisfied.  (I'm not happy about the
precedent this sets, but OTOH I don't see this coming up that much.)
However, if grex is not willing to guarantee all users this capability,
then it should freely admit that some users, for right or wrong (and it might
be "right"), get special treatment.


#64 of 393 by albaugh on Tue Jan 6 21:37:54 2004:

Please clarify #61 - by "has the right" do you mean "currently possesses the
capability" (i.e. via picospan commands) or "philosophically should have the
ability"?


#65 of 393 by slynne on Tue Jan 6 21:56:04 2004:

resp:61 I would agree with you but I think I have to admit that I would 
be kind of angry if someone entered the "happy" item and then later on 
in the month decided that they wanted to be a pain and kill it.  (not 
that I think that is very likely to happen)

However, an item such as the baby diary where so much of the content 
was personal and from one author is different. In my mind it is anyway. 
Maybe the answer is to give authors control over their items. That way 
folks who are worried that their responses might get deleted can 
refrain from posting in items where that is likely to happen. 


#66 of 393 by naftee on Tue Jan 6 22:08:11 2004:

re 30 You're an idiot.  It was janc who was the one who found them, 
and he was more upset than valerie.  Do something useful for once, and 
read the stupid item.

re 63 Despite what Mary Remmers says, the deletion of those items was 
not "duly documented" as you wrote above.  I had to find them myself.
Why didn't valerie post an item about it in femme, that the items were 
gone?  Simply because she knew what she did was wrong.  I think jp2's 
demand in response #17 is quite in order.

According to http://www.valeriemates.com/programming.html , it appears 
Mrs. Mates is an experienced programmer.  She certainly had the 
ability to write a script to remove all her baby diary and associated 
text from the femme conference.

Instead, she chose the big red hammer.


#67 of 393 by gelinas on Tue Jan 6 22:54:09 2004:

Re #62: Yes.

Re #64:  Right, not (currently) capability.  (cmcgee made some comment
about drafting a proposition to add the capability.)

Re #65:  Yup, I'd be a tad irritated by such behaviour as well.  However,
I think it self-correcting:  When the item was deleted, someone else
would enter a new one.  If the same person did the same thing enough
times ("enough" is in the eye of the beholder), folks would make sure
that the item was entered by someone they deemed reliable and avoid the
unreliable item.

"Fully documented" means that the procedure for getting an item removed
is published.  (BTW, I've learned something from this item:  I didn't
know there was an "error log" for bbs.)


#68 of 393 by scott on Tue Jan 6 22:59:51 2004:

I don't think Valerie did the appropriate thing here.

However, I'm far more disapproving of naftee, polytarp (whatever the current
login is) and even jp2 for using this as yet another excuse to harass people
while pretending to be outraged.


#69 of 393 by ryan on Tue Jan 6 23:31:35 2004:

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#70 of 393 by jp2 on Tue Jan 6 23:41:27 2004:

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#71 of 393 by scott on Tue Jan 6 23:47:06 2004:

True, there are some people who are *upset*.

You are the only one(s) claiming outrage.


#72 of 393 by jp2 on Tue Jan 6 23:48:09 2004:

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#73 of 393 by naftee on Tue Jan 6 23:56:44 2004:

re 67 You shock me.

re 70 Does that make you the American asshole?  You could be on to something.

re 71 Response #0 does not claim outrage.


#74 of 393 by gull on Tue Jan 6 23:59:45 2004:

Re resp:61: I think that's a valid argument to make.  But it's not what
the item is about.  If you want to make it possible for people to delete
their items, that would be a good proposal to put to a member vote. 
What we're talking about here is a staff member exercising, for their
own benefit, a privilage that no one else has a clearly defined right to.


#75 of 393 by naftee on Wed Jan 7 00:01:50 2004:

and for good reason!


#76 of 393 by gelinas on Wed Jan 7 00:11:18 2004:

Well, I thought that was part of the discussion: _Does_ the item author
have the right to remove their items?  I'd thought so.  So the author
removing the items does not strike me as an abuse of the tools available.


#77 of 393 by jp2 on Wed Jan 7 01:01:21 2004:

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#78 of 393 by mynxcat on Wed Jan 7 01:23:13 2004:

jp2's right. The fact that picospan was configured so that a user could not
delete an item he authored after someone had responded implies that such a
thing is not allowed. And why would one think that it was ok to delete posts
by other people, especially since it's common knowledge that fws are not
allowed to delete items ad hoc unless it contained material that was security
sensitive. If a fw does not pholosophically have this right, it's not hard
to see that a normal user definitely does not have such a right. 

I guess Valerie always thought of her baby diary as a "private" place on grex
and resented any comments in it that didn't match her philosophy. Since she
couldn't ban users from responding, she froze the item. Fair enough. But to
delete the complete items, instead of just her responses is definitely
stepping over the line.


#79 of 393 by gelinas on Wed Jan 7 01:44:50 2004:

FairWitnesses are expected not to delete items because that is more "control"
of a conference than is generally granted.


#80 of 393 by mynxcat on Wed Jan 7 02:26:24 2004:

You can extrapolate that to individual items you enter.


#81 of 393 by gelinas on Wed Jan 7 03:26:10 2004:

I disagree.  FairWitness is an official role, authorship is not.


#82 of 393 by naftee on Wed Jan 7 03:26:38 2004:

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#83 of 393 by naftee on Wed Jan 7 03:29:45 2004:

re 1 Anytime, plongeur.


#84 of 393 by jp2 on Wed Jan 7 03:41:38 2004:

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#85 of 393 by gelinas on Wed Jan 7 03:44:29 2004:

Valerie was the author of the items.  Remember?


#86 of 393 by jp2 on Wed Jan 7 03:45:40 2004:

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#87 of 393 by ryan on Wed Jan 7 03:48:41 2004:

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#88 of 393 by naftee on Wed Jan 7 03:49:33 2004:

Quit talking to your right hand.


#89 of 393 by jp2 on Wed Jan 7 03:58:08 2004:

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#90 of 393 by naftee on Wed Jan 7 04:00:27 2004:

Neither has her husband.


#91 of 393 by gelinas on Wed Jan 7 04:04:48 2004:

What, exactly, does "Nobody from the Board or the Staff has responded" mean?
What kind of response are you looking for?


#92 of 393 by jp2 on Wed Jan 7 04:05:50 2004:

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#93 of 393 by ryan on Wed Jan 7 04:32:29 2004:

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#94 of 393 by naftee on Wed Jan 7 04:42:18 2004:

re 93 Hey, some of us actually care if the staff members abuse the system and
their users.  But wait, since being an abusive staff member is the norm for
you, I guess you trying to push the matter off means that we're doing the
right thing.


#95 of 393 by naftee on Wed Jan 7 04:43:58 2004:

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#96 of 393 by cross on Wed Jan 7 05:12:41 2004:

Wow, you guys have too much time on your hands (all of you).  So do I.
Actually, I don't, but I'm slacking right now so it's all right.

My 2c: You can't unring a bell, and you shouldn't be able to unsay
something you've said.  People need to take responsibility for their
words, even if they're in a public forum.  People also need to realize
that *because* they're in a public forum, it's not only possible but
highly probable that someone with an ax to grind will say something
nasty about what they've written.  It's too bad, but that's the way
it is and the price we pay for our freedom of expression.  Therefore,
I don't think authors should be able to delete their items, even if no
one else has responded.

But, that's just my opinion.

I do fear that grex is stepping dangerously close to censorship in
its grossest form: deleting text of others because you don't like what
they say.  If that happens, I *really* _will_ quit staff and grex in
all its forms.  Freedom of speech is just too important to me; it's
the cornerstone of the country grex is hosted in, and it's under attack
constantly (including in the United States Senate and Congress), and the
first thing I learned in high school journalism class is that as soon as
you start down that slippery slope, no matter how good your intentions
are, you can't pull yourself back up.  It's also the thing that makes me
*want* to support grex.  If it goes by a formal vote of the membership,
then I'll consider grex's mission compromised, its commitment inauthentic,
and I'll go, too.


#97 of 393 by jaklumen on Wed Jan 7 05:58:34 2004:

I've become very aware that it's best to be wary of what to post out 
on the Internet, as people will get a hold of the information and 
lampoon it at their leisure... perhaps because they thought it was 
worthy of a cheap laugh, or it was deemed worthy of scorn, or whatever.

I agree with Mark-- adults do get hurt, but I also agree with Coleen 
(cmcgee)that some information maybe shouldn't be posted public.

Myself, I decided to grow a thick skin about my experience and move on-
- if I wanted to have a journal of sorts, I decided I'd do it 
differently.  Some of the weblogs out there do allow you to lock 
entries to certain users and not the public.  Grex is not equipped to 
do that.

I'm not sure if granting an author the power to kill their own item is 
necessarily the right thing to do.  It wipes away what others have 
said, which may have been off the topic, as Sapna said.  Freezing 
items... well, I'm sure that function is there for many good reasons, 
even if it would seem it functions like a "No more for now" button.  
As for deleting your own posts/entries... hmmm... I am a bit curious 
why Grex members changed that to make that the case, i.e. why that was 
not the case before.


#98 of 393 by cross on Wed Jan 7 06:21:27 2004:

I don't think it's that you couldn't do it before, but that the text
still showed up in the censored log, and people objected to the idea of
being able to delete their text without it really disappearing.

The situation right now maybe isn't perfect, but it's workable.
People have the right to delete their own text.  Okay.  I'm not sure
I agree, but since the capability is there I've made use of it myself.
What I object to is extending that power to include the text of others.
In an ideal world, we probably wouldn't have that ability.  But in an
ideal world, no one's feelings would ever get hurt, so it'd be a moot
point as far as this is concerned.


#99 of 393 by valerie on Wed Jan 7 06:31:40 2004:

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#100 of 393 by cmcgee on Wed Jan 7 06:38:48 2004:

I would be glad to give Valerie permission to delete all my entries on those
items.  The items were -diaries- that she allowed other people to read and
(sometimes, when the items weren't frozen) comment on.  

We are not talking about censorship here.  Valerie didn't remove posts that
she disagreed with.  In fact, it would be pretty hilarious if we could edit
and reenter only mynxcat, jp2,  and the other complainors' posts.  Then
everyone could see how meaningless this attack is.  

We're not talking about throttling free speech either.  anyone is welcome to
start an item to talk about any issue they like.  Valerie didn't keep anyone
from starting new items.  

Any FW of a conference could do what Valerie did; it doesn't require
extraordinary root powers.  

Attacking Valerie is stupid.  What we are grappling with here is our
ever-present balancing act between you-can't-unring-a-bell and the ability
to make amends in some fashion if what you said in an item was something you'd
like to remove from the public record.  Not make people forget, just remove
the words from public display.  

We voted to allow everyone to make that decision for themselves.

The whole thing would be within our policies and non-controversial if Valerie
eliminated all her responses, and those of us who agreed with her eliminated
ours.  We could let mynxcat's immortal words remain on display, along with
anyone else who thought their contribution to the descriptions of Kendra and
Arlo's development processes was significant.  

If Valerie were the conf fairwitness, she could have done this without
violating any Grex principles.  The only real policy violation came when she
did it herself, without having the FW involved in the decision.  

Give it a break.  Troublemakers are stirring the pot again.  We are rehashing
the same issues of "permanently engraved versus able to be erased"  

I think we have come to a reasonable balance by allowing scribbled to be truly
hidden, and allowing FWs to make decisions on an item-by-item basis.  

If people want to remake either of those decisions, then let's discuss the
policies.  If people want to cause a fuss, then don't pretend it's some big
personal affront or some heroic support of freedom of speech.  Fuss about the
policies we have.  Because Valerie's actions were all allowable under current
policy.  


#101 of 393 by cmcgee on Wed Jan 7 06:40:10 2004:

Hot Keyboards! Both 98 and 99 slipped in.


#102 of 393 by cross on Wed Jan 7 06:50:00 2004:

Just for the record, I wouldn't be so sure there *aren't* copies
floating around.  I don't know if anyone did (and I don't have one),
but as you know, it would have been technically possible for anyone on
grex to create a copy if they really wanted to, and there are probably
still copies on backup tape.  I always take the position that anything
I write on the net will never go away.  I've already given up any hope
of attaining an elected position as a result.  :-)


#103 of 393 by jaklumen on Wed Jan 7 09:23:11 2004:

Exactly.  I learned the hard way that what you put out there can be 
scrutinized, copied, and satirized at will.  Also-- I'm sure it's 
worse outside Grex... I've seen some hints of horror on weblogs-- but 
of course, people get much more scarily candid then they do here.

resp:100 Point taken... discuss the policies.  Whining and bellyaching 
and attacking people isn't going to get a lot.  It might breed 
resentment, distrust, apathy, hurt feelings-- any of the above-- all 
of above-- but it probably won't change a lot.


#104 of 393 by remmers on Wed Jan 7 11:37:52 2004:

I don't have a lot of time to respond right now, so I'll just reiterate
what I said earlier:  Valerie's earlier assertion to the contrary
notwithstanding, it has NEVER been Grex policy to allow authors to
delete their own items.  Had it ever been proposed as a policy, I would
have opposed it, on the grounds that it grants people censorship rights 
over OTHER PEOPLE'S WORDS.  I feel that that is contrary to the free
speech principles that Grex supposedly stands for.

I'm very much in agreement with Dan Cross's #96.


#105 of 393 by remmers on Wed Jan 7 11:41:40 2004:

I'll add that, like Dan, I'm a staff member.  There is NOT a concensus
among staff on this issue.


#106 of 393 by jp2 on Wed Jan 7 13:24:03 2004:

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#107 of 393 by keesan on Wed Jan 7 13:38:56 2004:

Do any of the people who posted in Valerie's baby item want their responses
restored?


#108 of 393 by mary on Wed Jan 7 13:55:10 2004:

Yes, I do.


#109 of 393 by naftee on Wed Jan 7 13:55:15 2004:

re 99
>If I was a user without staff privileges,
> at this point I would contact a staffer for help.  I would have explained
> to the staffer that I no longer wanted my baby diary to be public 

<snip>

> And, as a staffer receiving
> that request, I would have deleted the items in a heartbeat.

So now you're saying that your opinion would (and should) be the one adopted
by all staff members.  Wake up; some of the current staff have objected.
Don't assume that just because you are a staff member that your opinion
somehow magically becomes the same as your peers.


#110 of 393 by gull on Wed Jan 7 14:32:22 2004:

Re resp:99:
"Well... actually any discussion of changing PicoSpan is moot, since
there's no legal way we could get changes made to it, because of the way
its ownership is all tangled up with the collapse of the Vancouver stock
exchange and NETI and whatever all else."

That doesn't mean the subject is moot.  It could be implemented in
Backtalk, or someone could create an external command (much like the
"export" command.)  Either one would give users the same right you've
already claimed for yourself -- the ability to delete their items at
will, without having to offer a reason to anyone else or beg a staff member.


#111 of 393 by anderyn on Wed Jan 7 14:32:40 2004:

I entered quite a bit in the baby diary and I don't care that she deleted my
"deathless words". Whoop dee doo. They only meant something in the context
of the diary. 


#112 of 393 by naftee on Wed Jan 7 14:33:09 2004:

Hah, now it remains to see janc's opinion of the matter.


#113 of 393 by other on Wed Jan 7 14:44:07 2004:

I have a radical suggestion.

I believe that taking this action represented a lapse in judgement 
on the part of Valerie, and ultimately, a (relatively minor) 
compromise of the stated values of Grex.

Therefore, and particularly in light of Valerie's ambivalence toward 
the notion of remaining on staff -- which I feel presents the most 
significant risk of harm to Grex -- I would like to suggest that 
Valerie be relieved of staff responsibility, including root, but 
that she be allowed continued access to the staff conference and 
mailing list (if she so desires), so that effectively she will be in 
a staff-emeritus status.  This way, she will still be in a position 
to provide other staff the confidential benefits of her expertise 
and knowledge, but she will no longer feel obligated to spend large 
quantities of time performing services for an organization to which 
she no longer apparently feels committed.

This may seem harsh, but as far as I'm concerned, though Valerie's 
value as a resource is quite significant, her value as root staff is 
compromised by her stated ambivalence about it.

I do not think this action represents a bow to the trouble-makers 
and antagonists, or a punishment to Valerie, but I think it does 
responsibly address both the concerns about actions perceived as 
inappropriate (whether or not they in fact are) and Valerie's own 
need to focus on making her living and supporting her family without 
the distractions of a largely unappreciative crowd of Grexers riding 
her.


#114 of 393 by jp2 on Wed Jan 7 14:53:31 2004:

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#115 of 393 by valerie on Wed Jan 7 15:43:08 2004:

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#117 of 393 by keesan on Wed Jan 7 16:27:22 2004:

I would prefer Valerie remained a staff member and if possible just put back
the responses of Mary and anyone else who wanted their responses put back.
I don't care about my responses.  I want to thank Valerie for being the first
and often the only one to answer all the emails I sent to staff.  I would be
happy to make a special exception for this particular item deletion.  As Jim
points out, parents don't always think clearly ;=).  My mother wrote some
pretty embarassing things in her diary about us kids which I would not have
wanted to be made public.  (At least it was my brother who had the bedwetting
problem, and not me).  Valerie, thanks for sharing with us.


#118 of 393 by mynxcat on Wed Jan 7 16:48:32 2004:

With regards to what I read here, looks like if I have something I 
said here parodied on mnet or anywhere for that matter, and I didn't 
like it, I could go to cfadmin, or staff, or root, and ask them to 
delete not only my posts (which is stupid, since I could do that 
myself), but also all posts that quoted me verbatim, or made 
referenace to what I said, so that there would be no trace left.

Where do you stop then? This is the beginning of censorship.

I'm with remmers and cross on this one. 

I understand the issue with the baby diaries. And I understand the 
sentiment behind making this an exception. But you make one exception, 
and you'll have to make many more. 


#119 of 393 by remmers on Wed Jan 7 17:21:25 2004:

I would not be surprised if, under the mistaken impression that
"a user can delete any item that he or she entered" was actual Grex
policy, the staff actually gets requests to delete items in the
Coop conference.  And with them, of course, all of the relevant
policy discussion that is and should remain part of the public
record.

Here's something to think about:  If the deletion policy becomes
a reality, guess who gets to delete this item - and with it,
a lot of discussion of an important policy issue.


#120 of 393 by jp2 on Wed Jan 7 17:27:29 2004:

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#121 of 393 by jp2 on Wed Jan 7 17:29:07 2004:

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#122 of 393 by scott on Wed Jan 7 17:47:04 2004:

Re 120:  "I seem to recall..." is hardly evidence sufficient for a charge of
"pattern of abuse and censorship".


#123 of 393 by jmsaul on Wed Jan 7 17:47:51 2004:

I'm with Remmers.  I think there's a huge distinction between being able to
delete text you entered, and deleting text other people entered.  Entering
the item shouldn't give you control over the text of everyone who has
responded to it.


#124 of 393 by flem on Wed Jan 7 18:21:39 2004:

I think Eric is on the right track here.  I'm not particularly concerned
about the baby diaries as such; I've never read them.  I am pretty
worried that a staff member decided to use root priveleges to delete
entire items with responses from many people for personal reasons.  No
matter how compelling the reasons, that is censorship and I don't think
it has any place on Grex.  I'm even more disturbed that Valerie isn't
willing to restore the responses from other people, even people who have
requested it.  

> the fact that I'm soooo ready to resign means that I'm pretty 
> willing to undertake risks that might get me kicked off staff.  
> [...]
> it did cross my mind that if I get kicked off staff for 
> this, I don't care.  

As far as I'm concerned, this is pretty much a resignation from staff. 
If there's a staff member who is no longer willing to stay within the
consensus bounds of acceptable behavior, it's time to change the root
password.  :-(


#125 of 393 by flem on Wed Jan 7 18:33:34 2004:

Back when there was all the controversy about whether users should be
able to delete their own responses beyond the ability of ordinary users
to read them, I believe there was general consensus that each user owned
the copyright and all the rights pertaining thereto to every post they
made.  (The disagreement was over whether or not Grex still had the
right to continue to publish them since they had been posted here, and
whether, even if we did have that right, we ought to exercise it against
the user's wishes.)  That is; the reason we gave users the right to
delete their own posts was because they were the legal owners thereof. 
Are you people arguing now that they aren't really the owners; the
author of the item is the legal owner?  

If you really want an item in which you are the owner of (and have the
rights to delete) every post, here's how to do it:  moderate it.  Make
an item.  Freeze it.  Enter in the item text that this item is moderated
by you; to respond, one should email you the text of their response, and
that you would enter it at your leisure if you felt like it, possibly
editing it beyond all recognition.  I imagine a sufficiently clever and
motivated person could even automate this process.  


#126 of 393 by gull on Wed Jan 7 18:40:29 2004:

Re resp:124: I agree.  If valerie is, as your quote seems to suggest,
admitting that she's willing to engage in behavior that might not be
acceptable because she doesn't mind losing her position, she should be
asked to resign.  We don't really want people with a devil-may-care
attitude like that on staff.


#127 of 393 by jp2 on Wed Jan 7 18:40:52 2004:

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#128 of 393 by ryan on Wed Jan 7 18:42:18 2004:

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#129 of 393 by mary on Wed Jan 7 18:42:36 2004:

Staff is already getting requests to have whole items removed.
Evidently, others are having second thoughts about the public
discussions they started.  Yuck.

My advice would be for anyone who has responses *they've* made
that they now regret making, censor *your* comments.  Now.

But allowing users to kill other user's responses is a huge
shift in our philosopy.  Any change in policy should follow
public discussion and a vote by the membership.

I would be against any deal which would *sanction* a staff
member's abuse of power in exchange for their resignation.


#130 of 393 by jp2 on Wed Jan 7 18:46:40 2004:

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#131 of 393 by slynne on Wed Jan 7 18:52:11 2004:

I also think there is a difference between changing the policy so that 
some items can be put in control of the authors of said items and 
deleting items (and posts) that were entered prior to this discussion. 

I am not so sure it would be a bad idea to give item authors in certain 
conferences control over their items. In the future. 



#132 of 393 by gelinas on Wed Jan 7 18:58:07 2004:

(jp2, I argued for closing the censored log.  I agreed then that the
owner of the response should have control over its continued publication.
The only difference here is the identity of the owner: here, I claim that
there are, or can be, multiple owners.  I have been arguing in favour of
the desires of the most-restrictive owner.)

jp2 mentioned asking that an item be deleted and not getting a response.
I have not replied to his message because I wanted to make sure staff
agreed on any response I would make before I made one.  So far, the
result has been a clear lack of consensus.  {Left to my own devices,
my answer would be, "Sure.  No problem.  It's gone."  But I'm not left
to my own devices here. :) }

Based on the trend I have seen in this item, and the related items,
I predict the ultimate answer will be, "No."  If that is the answer,
it will apply to any other similar requests.


#133 of 393 by jp2 on Wed Jan 7 19:03:10 2004:

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#134 of 393 by ryan on Wed Jan 7 19:09:08 2004:

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#135 of 393 by gull on Wed Jan 7 19:16:06 2004:

M-net would be the natural choice, but I think that'd be too easy. ;>


#136 of 393 by jp2 on Wed Jan 7 19:29:18 2004:

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#137 of 393 by cross on Wed Jan 7 19:36:57 2004:

Regarding #128; That's specious.  No one yelled fire in a crowded
theater here.  Some people did something that offended someone and hurt
her feelings.  Rude?  Insensitive?  Stupid?  Maybe.  Seriously damaging
to other lives or property?  No, not at all.

There might be valid reasons to delete entire items: a serial killer
decides to pick an item and track down everyone who ever posted to it
and kill them.  That seems like a good reason to get rid of the item in
question (and call the FBI), but that's not what happened here.


#138 of 393 by mynxcat on Wed Jan 7 19:46:06 2004:

Where do you come up with such scary scenarios. It's coz you're a New 
Yorker, right?

Now I'll have to go delete every post I ever made, or I won't be able 
to sleep at night.


#139 of 393 by cross on Wed Jan 7 19:52:56 2004:

This event has set a really bad precedent.  Staff has, so far, gotten two
requests to delete items in other conferences.  One staffer (I'm not going
to mention names here) suggested acting on one immediately and opening the
other for public discussion (which got which response is beyond the scope
of this note).  I think that that sets an even more dangerous precedent.

Folks, this is not good.  The issue goes beyond one person and her
feelings.  We're talking about freedom of expression, and granting other
individuals the right to deny you that freedom by erasing what you've
expressed.  It's a shame Valerie felt hurt by what happened to her baby
diary on mnet, but what she's done is far worse, not in and of itself,
but for the precedent it sets.

A lot of people are seeing the usual suspects complain loudly and saying,
``just drop it.''  But for once the usual suspects are on to something
(even if it is couched in hyperbole and self-righteousness in some cases).
This *is* an important issue, and it goes to the *core* of what Grex
purports to be all about.  Ignoring the argument because you don't like
who's arguing would be a tragic mistake.

At the end of the day, is removing Valerie's baby diary *that* big of
a deal by itself?  No.  But sanctioning it says we're willing to let
people trample on the words of other's when they feel they have reason,
even if those words present no clear and present danger to anyone,
and *that* IS a big deal.

Oh yeah, and for once, I actually agree with Mary!  (Actually, I've
agreed with Mary many times in the past.)


#140 of 393 by cross on Wed Jan 7 19:54:21 2004:

(Sapna slipped in.)

Yeah, living in the city has something to do with it, I guess.  A more
timid example would be someone picking a random item and publically
harassing all the participants in it with endless prank calls, house
eggings, anchovi pizza's, etc.


#141 of 393 by mynxcat on Wed Jan 7 19:59:54 2004:

Even scarier. 


#142 of 393 by jp2 on Wed Jan 7 20:03:51 2004:

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#143 of 393 by albaugh on Wed Jan 7 20:16:10 2004:

Aren't the fairwitnesses being overlooked here?  Since they, too, seem to have
the ability to fully kill items in their conferences, item-enterers should
be starting with the fairwitnesses of the conference in which the item was
entered, before going right to staff.

Now, if you say, "Well, fairwitnesses shouldn't be killing entire items willy
nilly either", then note that is a situation that has been around for a long
time, with this whole issue apparently overlooked.  If valerie had gone to
the fairwitnesses of the femme and kids conferences and got them to unlink
and/or kill her items, thus not needing to use her staff privileges, then no
one would have cause to accuse her of abuse, although this issue still would
remain for discussion.

If it is decided that neither staff nor fw's should be killing items outright,
except for clear security / legal reasons, that is likely to be strictly a
policy decision, since you can't prevent staff / root from doing anything,
and it might be the case that you can't take away fw's ability to kill items.


#144 of 393 by slynne on Wed Jan 7 20:20:02 2004:

I have mixed feelings about this. On the one hand, if I had an item 
here that had really personal things in it, I would want to have 
control over that item. I was kind of experimenting recently with blogs 
and tried to do a sort of diary item blog thing (it is in the 
enigma.cf) similar to valerie's baby diary item. There are a number of 
reasons why grex's software isnt working for me for this purpose but 
one of them is the lack of control over an item's posts *and* the 
comments (although that isnt the biggest reason it isnt working for me) 
I also know that if I had an item here and I wanted it gone and I was 
on staff, I probably would use my staff/root powers to delete it but 
only if deleting it was more important to me than staying on staff. In 
other words, if I were in valerie's position, I would have done the 
same thing. 

I dont think it would be a good idea to adopt a policy where already 
existing items are deleted at the author's request. I do think it would 
be ok to adopt a policy where items in certain conferences are 
considered the property of the author. That way, anyone who really is 
worried about having their comments deleted can refrain from posting in 
those items if they wish. 

There also should be some policy about conference cleanup since if we 
make it a policy that no items can ever be deleted, things could get 
crowded around her real quick. 


#145 of 393 by mta on Wed Jan 7 20:34:43 2004:

FWIW, had Valerie asked me, as moderator of the Femme conference, I 
would have deleted her baby diaries immediately.


#146 of 393 by jp2 on Wed Jan 7 20:35:07 2004:

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#147 of 393 by mynxcat on Wed Jan 7 20:37:22 2004:

Re 144>The worry that things could get crowded around here hasn't come 
up 
before. I thought that it was a moot point. I could be wrong. 

If there are limitations to wht you can or cannot do on grex, and 
these limitations are cramping your blog style, and don't give you 
enough control, in terms of censorship, then move to another system. 
There are various sites out there. valerie has gone on to create her 
own software, and no one's complaining. But if you use grex to jot 
down stuff in, and you have people respond, what you're agreeing to is 
not deleting other people's comments. There's no screening here, 
unless it's the author of the comment. 


#148 of 393 by mynxcat on Wed Jan 7 20:38:55 2004:

Re 145> And this discussion would have come up about the fw of femme 
abusing her powers. This discussion has grown to beyond whether 
valerie was hurt or abused her staff powers. It's now whether one is 
allowed to delete posts made by other people, just because you created 
the item


#149 of 393 by mynxcat on Wed Jan 7 20:40:27 2004:

Re 142> You make it sound like kissing my favorite body part is a bad 
thing :(


#150 of 393 by valerie on Wed Jan 7 20:43:32 2004:

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#151 of 393 by albaugh on Wed Jan 7 20:51:40 2004:

Sorry valerie, you still should have asked the fw's to help you first, before
alighting your light sabre.  But I personally don't care that much.

Re: #148 - The *discussion* might have been about a fw abusing her power, but
it would have been a false accusation - fw's have the power to exercise
discretion about what items to nuke.  It's been that way "forever",
apparently.  If that is not desirable, then a policy change / establishment
is needed.  I know, have a discussion about it!  :-)


#152 of 393 by naftee on Wed Jan 7 20:55:57 2004:

re 120 It's all about the logs.

re 135 What staff?

re 143 
>If valerie had gone to the fairwitnesses 
The scary thing is, she didn't go to anyone.  Except maybe to her 
husband to ask for the cfadm password.  Don't forget that 
fairwitnesses are not immune to being abusive.

re 144
>There also should be some policy about conference cleanup
Good point.  But at least on M-net, there's a time period where 
*everyone* is allowed to object or ask if some items are kept, etc.  
I'm going to wager a guess that the GreX policy is comparable.  But it 
is impossible to keep everything, and people accept that.  However, 
what happened in the femme cf was an act of selfishness, really, and 
was pretty much hidden from public view (e-mailing board and staff 
doesn't count.  Most of the posters don't receive their mail).

 


#153 of 393 by naftee on Wed Jan 7 20:59:57 2004:

re 150 I suggest you and Misti learn about the 'retire' command.


#154 of 393 by aruba on Wed Jan 7 21:02:07 2004:

There was a case, a few years ago, when the fairwitness of the sex
conference went through and deleted all the items in the conference, to
avoid them becoming available on the web.  As I recall, everyone agreed that
that was an abuse of power, and the items were restored from backup.  Am I
misremembering the outcome?


#155 of 393 by slynne on Wed Jan 7 21:25:18 2004:

resp:147 - I realize that. I am not asking that any comments be 
removed. I am pointing out a reason why we may want to consider 
changing the policy. 


#156 of 393 by mynxcat on Wed Jan 7 21:27:42 2004:

Re 151>Re: #148 - The *discussion* might have been about a fw abusing 
her power, but it would have been a false accusation - fw's have the 
power to exercise discretion about what items to nuke.  It's been that 
way "forever", apparently.  If that is not desirable, then a policy 
change / establishment is needed.  I know, have a discussion about 
it!  :-)

Actually it would be abuse of power. Just because a fw has the ability 
to delete an item, doesn't mean that they can when they need to. From 
what I understand, you can only delete items if they're a security 
threat or contain some illegal matter. I've had my wrist slapped on 
mnet for deleting items which were irrelevant and no-one read. Being 
fw ain't all that it's cracked up to be ;)




#157 of 393 by mynxcat on Wed Jan 7 21:28:42 2004:

Re 155> I don't quite get what you're trying to point out. It sounds 
like we need to change policy so that people can post stuff that they 
want to censor. Or maybe I'm mis-reading


#158 of 393 by slynne on Wed Jan 7 21:40:00 2004:

I am saying that we may want to consider changing the policy so that in 
certain specific cases, item authors retain control of the entire item 
including other people's posts in that item. 


#159 of 393 by mary on Wed Jan 7 21:41:48 2004:

I'm curious.  Folks who want to discuss personal issues here have a
choice.  They can run it like a diary, entering responses and then
freezing the item until they have more to say.  Or they can encourage
discussion by leaving the item open for postings.  If it's displayed as a
diary (frozen) then the author remains in control and the item can be
killed at any time. 

If it's left open for discussion the person who started the discussion
doesn't own anyone else's comments.  I find it mind boggling to think
otherwise. 

If Valerie had run her baby diary as a frozen item, and someone else had
entered a companion item for comments, would Valerie consider it her
privilege to kill the comments item?  What's the difference, really. 

I think the baby item should be restored from backup and Valerie allowed
to completely expunge her comments.  The resulting item will be one long
mess making no sense whatsoever.  But this change in policy allowing users
to censor other users will be far worse, I believe. 



#160 of 393 by slynne on Wed Jan 7 21:54:42 2004:

I think that keeping an item frozen is a pain. It is very common on 
many blog sites to allow the author control of everything, including 
comments. I have noticed some big advantages of this. Discussions stay 
on focus. 


#161 of 393 by cross on Wed Jan 7 21:55:20 2004:

Regarding #149; He was referring to me.  This does not induce me to want
to get him an anchovy pizza, though.


#162 of 393 by jep on Wed Jan 7 22:06:50 2004:

I had entered responses in Valerie's items, too.  Valerie's items were 
linked to parenting, Misti; you could only unlink them from your 
conference.  You couldn't actually delete them from Grex.

Some of my responses were about topics that weren't exactly about Arlo 
and Kendra.  There were no other active items in parenting while 
Valerie's items were there.  Valerie brought up Asperger's Disorder 
last summer, and since I am interested in the topic as well, I created 
an Asperger's item in parenting.  It never got off the ground; the 
discussion all stayed in Valerie's item.

I don't mind much that my responses got deleted with the rest of those 
items.  I doubt if I ever said much of any value.

However... now that the staff has granted Valerie the right to delete 
items she entered, I think there *has been* a policy change, and others 
who want their items deleted should be able to have them deleted as 
well.  The staff shouldn't be debating it internally, or asking the 
Board, or waiting on the outcome of discussion or a user referendum.  
Not now.  The policy *has* changed.

I think, by not accommodating user requests, the staff is in danger of 
making a second policy change.  Staff members are Special People; above 
the rules.


#163 of 393 by jep on Wed Jan 7 22:14:50 2004:

Valerie's action changed a lot of things by a large amount.  I am 
positive she didn't intend that.  I am positive there was no bad 
intent.  Things have gotten out of hand.

I do not mean to be on the side of those who are shrieking, "She broke 
the rules!  Corruption!"  Valerie is not corrupt.  I hope this won't 
end her contributions as a staff member.  She's a very valuable staffer.

I think Valerie made a big mistake.  It's just a mistake, but it has a 
lot of consequences.  We all need to learn from it and move on.  I know 
what I wrote in resp:162, but nevertheless, the most important thing is 
going to be for Grex to not panic or overreact, and for Grex to find a 
reasonable course and stick with it.


#164 of 393 by naftee on Wed Jan 7 22:24:12 2004:

I find it interesting that valerie is worried that some people in the baby
diary items had quoted her verbatim and as such, their posts should remain
purged.  However, she has neglected to mention that on the m-net agora
conference, some of her work remains, probably in verbatim form!  Of course,
she can't bring that argument over there, because it would clearly be seen
for what it is:  censorship.


#165 of 393 by cross on Wed Jan 7 22:35:48 2004:

Regarding #162; Just to clarify, staff didn't grant Valerie any extra
`right'.  She acted on her own, outside of the rhuebric of staff.


#166 of 393 by jep on Wed Jan 7 22:45:33 2004:

re resp:165: If that's the case, then there's no need for a debate.  
The items need to be restored.  It couldn't be more straightforward.


#167 of 393 by albaugh on Wed Jan 7 22:45:57 2004:

> Actually it would be abuse of power. Just because a fw has the ability
 to delete an item, doesn't mean that they can when they need to. <

First of all, does the fw have the *power* to kill an entire item at any time?
If the answer is "yes", then they *can* "when they need to".  If this is the
case, then it's a matter of *policy*, what *should* the fw do.  Is there
anything documented along these lines?  If so, where can we find / read it?
If not, it's probably high time to document something.  If there is something
already documented, that could be updated if grexians though it should be.


#168 of 393 by albaugh on Wed Jan 7 22:51:22 2004:

Re: #166 - Whoa fella!  So far I haven't seen anyone pointing to something
clearly documented that says when staff / fw's can / cannot kill entire items,
that is, policy-wise.  It sounds like at least certain staffers, and certain
fw's, could kill an item if its enterer requested it.  Others might disagree,
but it is not cut-and-dried that such a killed item must be restored.
In this case, the item-enterer was also staff, so she wasn't deleting someone
else's item without permission.  My main complaint there is that she didn't
try to work with the conf. fw's first.

Since there is no established policy, I don't agree that it's
"straightforward" that the items must be restored.  I think that the focus
should be on establishing / updating a policy to handle this situation in the
future.


#169 of 393 by willcome on Wed Jan 7 22:54:30 2004:

(entrant.)


#170 of 393 by cross on Wed Jan 7 22:55:19 2004:

Given the lack of policy, I still think we can say it was in violation of
the spirit and stated intentions of grex.  Whether it can or should be
undone is another matter.


#171 of 393 by other on Wed Jan 7 23:06:27 2004:

Frankly, Grex is not a closed circle, and Valerie has known that all 
along.  There is no such thing as a guarantee of privacy or even 
obscurity for anything we choose to post in any public conference, 
so I am at a loss to understand (without having read either the 
diaries or their parodies) the urgency which necessitated her 
actions.

As I understand it, FW's have the ability to remove items, but are 
encouraged to use it rarely, with proper observance of the law being 
a primary goal and protection of the free speech rights of Grex 
users as a secondary.

If I were an FW/cfadm/staff member asked to remove these items, 
based on my understanding of the responsibilities, I would respond 
by removing only Valerie's text from the items, and out of respect 
for her ownership of her posts, I would also remove any direct 
quotes of her text from the posts f other users in those items (with 
appropriate indications of excision left in their places).  That is 
as far as I could see properly exercising the powers of 
administration in honoring the request for retraction, and that is 
what I would have expected Valerie to do on her own.  I have no 
doubt that if those were the limits of her actions, she would have 
been satisfied and she would be receiving full support and backing 
from all other staff.


#172 of 393 by naftee on Wed Jan 7 23:13:35 2004:

re 171 Great, nice, thanks for your opinion on what you would have done in
those hypothetical situations.  But we need to move towards a decision.
I think jep's proposal is a great idea.  A lot of stuff from those items can
still be read on M-net.


#173 of 393 by mynxcat on Wed Jan 7 23:36:12 2004:

I agree with other. That's what should have been done. In this case, I think
that the items should be restored, and the specific responses deleted. 


#174 of 393 by jmsaul on Thu Jan 8 00:00:08 2004:

I also agree with other.


#175 of 393 by cmcgee on Thu Jan 8 01:14:33 2004:

My comments can be left out as well. Or else make sure that I have the ability
to delete them myself.  



#176 of 393 by gull on Thu Jan 8 02:13:55 2004:

Re resp:143: I wouldn't feel the same about this if valerie had asked
the fairwitness or another staff member to remove the items for her.

Maybe there should be a policy that staff members ask another staff
member to act when staff powers are needed to do something that affects
them personally as a user.  I think it should be clear when people are
acting as staff and when they're acting in their own interest as an
ordinary user.  Valerie overlapped the two, using her privilages as
staff to benefit her personally, and that's my main objection to what
happened.

Re resp:163: You may feel valerie made a mistake, but she doesn't seem
to feel that way.


#177 of 393 by bhoward on Thu Jan 8 02:21:40 2004:

Wow.  What a difference a day can bring...should have known better than
to go to bed before reading through the responses and weighing-in.

First, to the extent my view in this matters, I don't and won't support
calls for Valerie's resignation.  I don't think she should have removed
the baby diary discussions the way she did but as the range of views in
this item show, there is definitely room for interpretation and argument.
I reject the conspiritorial assumptions and mean-spirited polemic used to
describe what was at worst a mistake aggravated by understandable emotion.

It is funny how the people quickest to express disproportionate outrage
and call for staff resignations have typically been those that have
made the least positive contribution to grex and don't even come close
to meeting the standard of perfection they would require for staff.

Moving on...

Valerie's baby diary ceased being hers when the first person other than
her responded to them.  Arguments that they were private information
don't make sense to me considering they have been publicly available
for the years since first posted and could well have been copied at any
point since.  In fact, we know they were, in quote or parody form
on m-net.

We give people the ability to remove their own words on grex.  While in
some ideal world, I prefer that history remain immutable, I recognize that
search engines and effectively permanent online records have shifted the
balance of things rather against personal privacy and keeping a reasonable
shelf life on the impact of one's words.  So we changed grex's rules to
allow scribbling to level the playing field a bit.

(Btw, I actually don't like scribbling very much for another reason; I
remember the chaos and social damage caused on the well when Tom Mandel
did a mass scribble of all his words from all the Well conferences in
which he had ever participated.  As it is said there, "You own your own
words.  ..."  but it is also true your words form part of a tapestry and
an individual's threads are removed, some of the larger fabric unravels.)

But what someone else writes, belongs to them and it is their decision
under the current policies whether to scribble them.  Not someone elses
just because they happened to have entered the item or because they
think their personal judgement is sufficient to make the call.

If Valerie or others wish to remove their own words from an item, it is
their choice but they need to individually make that decision and take
action themselves to do so.  If technical reasons prevent folks from doing
that (can you scribble your own response if someone has frozen the item?
Don't know...), we ought to provide a tool, change picospan or define
clear policies for fw/cfadm assisted deletions to work around that.

So I think the baby diary items ought to be restored sans whatever of
Valerie's responses she's wishes to have deleted.

Eric you mentioned:
   "I would also remove any direct quotes of her text from the posts f
   other users in those items (with appropriate indications of excision
   left in their places).  That is as far as I could see properly
   exercising the powers of administration in honoring the request for
   retraction, and that is what I would have expected Valerie to do on
   her own."

I agree with much of what you has said but think you go too far
in asking fw/cfadm's to start rewording other folks responses.  If I
quote someone else in my response, well, they said it in a public forum,
and it is my words that are stating it back at them.  Sorry they decided
to retract their own words, but that doesn't give them any right to
retract mine.



#178 of 393 by naftee on Thu Jan 8 02:38:34 2004:

re 177 Someone mentioned a conspiracy? Where?


#179 of 393 by cross on Thu Jan 8 02:58:13 2004:

I am in complete agreement with bhoward.  Well said.  Very well said.

Btw- another problem with deleting quotes is the level of granularity
one goes to in doing so.  If someone quotes whole paragraphs of text,
it's easy.  If someone quotes a sentence, less so.  If one quotes a phrase
or handful of words, it's almost impossible to excise them and remain
faithful to the other author's intent.  So, what's the cutoff?  This,
like restriction of freedom of speech, is one of those instances where
it's really better to do nothing instead of risking doing something wrong.

An aside: the mnet parody only grew when Valerie added to her baby
diary here.  Since Valerie had already more or less moved the diary away
from grex at the time Jan discovered the parody on mnet, it was already
starting to be the case that the mnet item was dying.  I think it's a
given that no one over there is going to delete anything in that item,
but it's run its course.  So, I *do* have to wonder what the point of
deleting the diary here was; there was no new `fodder' to canibalize
over there, and what was there wasn't going away.  So what difference
did removing the baby diary from grex make?


#180 of 393 by cmcgee on Thu Jan 8 03:13:54 2004:

I like the idea that instead of changing Grex's flexible policy for fws, that
we have staff not be user/staff simultaneously.  

I would not like to see fws "kill" power removed.  In fact, if Valerie had
asked Misti to kill the items, and Misti had done so, there would have been
no violation of policy.  

So, I think the only error Valerie made was in short-circuiting a process that
Misti would have done anyway.  

If you want to control staff behavior, change the staff-behavior policy, not
the fw policy.  


#181 of 393 by gelinas on Thu Jan 8 04:47:06 2004:

Some day, I will try to re-read this entire item, to better connect people
with their thoughts in my mind.

For now, a few quick commments:

        It's really too bad Mary never experienced Confer on MTS.
Marcus has very different ideas from Bob Parnes, and he left out some
things that Bob included when he tried to "Do Confer better than Confer".
Authors' deleting their items was, apparently, one of those things Marcus
disagreed with Bob about.

        The rules, and culture, on m-net are very different than the rules
and culture on grex.  It is very dangerous to try to apply m-net rules here,
just as it would be to try to apply grex rules there.  It's not going to
work, and people are going to get angry if folks insist, either way.

        I *know* that the cultures are different, and I'm still new to this
one (even after four years of active participation), so I tend to check
and double-check before acting.  Valerie has been around a long time.
I expected her to be attuned to the culture and expectations here, and so
I'm very surprised to see the wide divergence of opinions on and memories
of tradional practices and policies.

        Where I come from, authors' deleting items is accepted.  I *thought*
it was here, too.  I'm now discovering differently.

Live and learn. :)


#182 of 393 by cross on Thu Jan 8 05:07:34 2004:

Joe, even outstanding staffers like Valerie can do things they may not
do otherwise when under the sway of strong emotions.  I can't think of
much a mother wouldn't feel stronger about than her children.

Then again, Valerie says she did it in a calm state, and who am I to
disbelieve her?


#183 of 393 by gelinas on Thu Jan 8 05:21:17 2004:

My real point was that even long-term members of the community have different
ideas of what the underlying philosophies and resultant policies are.


#184 of 393 by cross on Thu Jan 8 06:00:47 2004:

Roger that, Staff Sergeant.


#185 of 393 by gelinas on Thu Jan 8 06:13:48 2004:

 <grins>


#186 of 393 by mary on Thu Jan 8 12:38:43 2004:

I did participate on Confer, some.  I'm old.

Had Misti granted Valerie's wish then we'd also be telling Misti she
erred.  Some of us, at least.  She's given the kill command to use for
very special occasions, like when someone comes through and drops the
same exact response in every single item in the conference.  Leaving one
for discussion and nuking the rest can be seen as a courtesy.  But under
no circumstance I can remember, and I've been here a while, did a FW
delete response from users for the reason that one of the participants
didn't want the discussion to exist any longer, and receive support
for those actions.

So the fact that Misti would have been part of the action doesn't
make it any more appropriate, in my opinion.


#187 of 393 by mary on Thu Jan 8 12:50:07 2004:

There is something else that belongs in this public discussion.
Over the past day or so a number of users have written staff
asking, demanding actually, that their items be killed, in 
total, too.  I'm not sure of the numbers, but this idea didn't
get wide support.  It was felt the subject needed more discussion
and a better sense of policy.  In the interim the users could 
delete anything *they had entered*.

Valerie, knowing of this lack of consensus, plunged ahead, deleting
whole items on the request of a specific.  She then resigned.

I too am sorry it came to this.  


#188 of 393 by jep on Thu Jan 8 12:59:06 2004:

I wrote a long response in Backtalk, but when I posted it, it was 
lost.  I asked that my divorce items from a couple of years ago be 
deleted, and this was done.


#189 of 393 by mynxcat on Thu Jan 8 13:55:21 2004:

And they allowed it? Were there other people's responses to these items?


#190 of 393 by jp2 on Thu Jan 8 13:59:49 2004:

This response has been erased.



#191 of 393 by sholmes on Thu Jan 8 14:01:43 2004:

They can delete in their own sweet time , it's not a paid job.


#192 of 393 by gelinas on Thu Jan 8 14:02:51 2004:

Yes, there were other people's responses in jep's items.

Who is "they"?  Did you notice Mary's response on the subject?


#193 of 393 by sholmes on Thu Jan 8 14:05:19 2004:

This response has been erased.



#194 of 393 by gull on Thu Jan 8 14:13:54 2004:

It sounds like valerie felt more strongly about people (maybe only
certain people, since the deletions appear to have been selective)
having the ability to delete whole items than she did about keeping her
position.  That's her choice.  I think she was an excellent staff member
right up until she decided her own opinions were more important than policy.


#195 of 393 by albaugh on Thu Jan 8 16:46:34 2004:

> Had Misti granted Valerie's wish then we'd also be telling Misti she erred.
  Some of us, at least.  She's given the kill command to use for very special
  occasions <

I have seen that notion here and there, and have no reason to disbelive it.
However, I would really like to so where this is *documented* policy.
I think this and similar policies should be freely accessible by all grex
users at any time, so that those who wish to can know what the rules are,
what they're getting themselves into.  :-)  Can someone paste in the
documented policy, or give a grex command, or a URL?


#196 of 393 by krj on Thu Jan 8 17:23:19 2004:

Clearly the best way to read Grex in the future will be to log 
everything read in BBS to your local machine, since one now has to 
expect that huge chunks of the discussion will be destroyed at 
any time.


#197 of 393 by cmcgee on Thu Jan 8 17:33:24 2004:

I disagree with Mary that we'd be telling Misti she erred. 

As I understand Grex's policy, it's  up to the people in the conference to
discuss the fw's decision.  If the people in the conference can come to
consensus, that's what happens in that conference.  


#198 of 393 by flem on Thu Jan 8 17:45:12 2004:

> Valerie, knowing of this lack of consensus, plunged ahead, deleting
> whole items on the request of a specific.  She then resigned.

<shocked silence>   

Oh my god.  I hope someone changed the root password(s).  

Seriously, I feel this is a security breech on the order of a root
breakin.  Shame on you, Valerie.  You've spent how many years protecting
Grex from vandals, and now you're the worst vandal Grex has ever had.  


#199 of 393 by jep on Thu Jan 8 18:16:39 2004:

This morning, I tried to explain about why I asked staff to delete my 
items.

As I told Valerie, it is not because I wanted to make a point or 
anything like that.  It's because there was a lot of stuff in those 
items which could have really hurt me It was used to do so at least 
once.  There was stuff which could have hurt my son.

I knew I could come to regret all that stuff when I entered it, but at 
the time, my state of mind was such that I just didn't care.  
Eventually I came to care, but there was nothing I could do about it 
any more.

Then this all happened, and it gave me the chance to have those items 
removed.

I don't think, as a general rule, items should be removed, but I think 
mine were a worthwhile exception.  I am sure Valerie thinks hers were, 
too.  Obviously others are going to say the same thing.

If items are going to be restored, I hope, expect and ask that mine 
will be excluded.  If mine are restored, I will take such action as I 
find reasonable, effective and possible to keep them from remaining or 
being usable.


#200 of 393 by kip on Thu Jan 8 18:25:51 2004:

jep, did you not read item 71 in coop?  I think if you really really want to
do that, Valerie has already given you a tool.

Personally, I'm still undecided about the issue of allowing deletions, but
I must admit to feeling sympathy for Valerie's situation.  

Those of you who have fun poking holes at staffers, feel free to poke away.


#201 of 393 by jep on Thu Jan 8 18:32:54 2004:

I also wanted to discuss policy implications.

You can't go backward.  There have now been circumstances under which a 
root staff member will delete whole items on request from an item 
enterer.  It's obvious to everyone, now, that it *can* be done because 
it *has*.  When I asked for my items to be removed, I argued that the 
precedent had already been set.  Others are going to do that, too.

Overall, I think it would be better for Grex if it hadn't happened.  
Personally, for myself, I am mightily relieved, though.

Please be aware, you cannot just restore all the items and have 
everything be where it was a few days ago.  Now that my items have been 
removed, if they're restored, I will take it as a dangerous action 
against me.  Actions cannot be undone.  The consequences exist already 
for what has happened.  Only new, future actions can be taken.

I think now there *has* to be some difference in policy.  I think you 
can't just stop after Valerie the former president and root has gotten 
to do it, and then John the longtime Grexer.  I think there has to be 
some room for an exception when it's warranted, and some recognition 
that sometimes it *is* warranted.  There has to be some way to do this 
without a firestorm of debate every time.


#202 of 393 by jep on Thu Jan 8 18:34:29 2004:

re resp:200: Kip, you must have received my e-mails to staff.  The 
first, where I requested my items be deleted, was sent two days ago.  
There was no such tool then.


#203 of 393 by kip on Thu Jan 8 18:48:29 2004:

I did receive your email.  I didn't feel qualified to respond to it as I
didn't know the policy by heart.  And yes the tool is new, I'm just mentioning
it because I was under the impression you might have missed the item.

I too want to discuss the policy implications and agree that no rule exists
that doesn't merit some exception from time to time.  And trying to craft a
rule to justify the past actions and moderate the new actions is a little more
difficult than I can do right now in the middle of my regular work day.


#204 of 393 by krj on Thu Jan 8 19:29:34 2004:

So, the new policy is, Free Speech Until Somebody Feels Bad.


#205 of 393 by jp2 on Thu Jan 8 19:30:38 2004:

This response has been erased.



#206 of 393 by krj on Thu Jan 8 19:31:33 2004:

Oh, and the other new policy:
  I Own Your Comments About Me.


#207 of 393 by jep on Thu Jan 8 19:35:15 2004:

I don't think we know what the new policy is, or is going to be.  
Things are really mixed up right now, but they won't be forever.


#208 of 393 by jp2 on Thu Jan 8 19:39:22 2004:

This response has been erased.



#209 of 393 by gull on Thu Jan 8 20:03:24 2004:

Valerie's tool only automates the scribbling of your own responses, 
something people have always been able to do.  Whan Valerie did, and 
what jep asked to have done for him, is the removal of entire items, 
including other users' comments.  That's a different matter.  Basically, 
it means Grex discussions are now temporary, and can go away as soon as 
the item author is no longer pleased with the direction the item has 
taken.  I find that troubling.


#210 of 393 by remmers on Thu Jan 8 21:25:41 2004:

In my view, and speaking as a Grex staff member, I don't believe
that "deletion of an item on poster's request" is Grex policy,
despite the fact that a couple of staff members thought that it
was, and one actually acted as if it was.

Albaugh has a point about fairwitness powers.  Fairwitnesses have
the power to delete items, and to the best of my knowledge there
is no Grex policy that says they can't.  On the flip side of that
coin, there is no policy that says they have to on request, either.
There's feeling among many users, myself included, that in general
it's a bad idea to censor items, but that doesn't make it policy.
So if the FWs of the conferences containing Valerie's items had
killed them on her request, there would have been no violation of
any written policy that I'm aware of.

There would have been some vigorous and in my view highly justified
disatisfaction with the fw's.  But not any breaking of rules that I
can see.

My main concern about all this was stopping the idea that "users can
delete any item they've posted" was some kind of system-wide policy.
It isn't, never has been, and in my view never should be.


#211 of 393 by gull on Thu Jan 8 21:48:02 2004:

It seems to be rapidly becoming a de-facto policy.


#212 of 393 by aruba on Thu Jan 8 21:51:15 2004:

No, that's not true at all, David.


#213 of 393 by davel on Thu Jan 8 22:00:08 2004:

Re 198:
Um, Greg, that's pretty extreme.  It was an abuse of root privileges, & should
not have been done.  But removal of one item making her "the worst vandal
Grex has ever had"?  Give me a break.  There have been remarkably few really
*serious* vandal incidents on Grex, but I can remember a few.


#214 of 393 by krj on Thu Jan 8 22:09:48 2004:

It's not the removal of one item; it's the removal of all of her 
pieces in all discussions over 12 years.  I find the word "vandalism"
appropriate.


#215 of 393 by willcome on Thu Jan 8 22:12:56 2004:

It really wants to make me cry, and I'm no sissy.


#216 of 393 by willcome on Thu Jan 8 22:18:19 2004:

(I'm a Tough Texas New Yorker.)


#217 of 393 by jep on Thu Jan 8 22:23:15 2004:

Valerie's script removing all of her responses from Grex is having a 
severe impact on the system.  I think it's impacting system speed; the 
system has been very slow all day today.  It's also wreaking havoc on 
the conferences.  She discussed a lot of things over the years, in a 
lot of places.

According to 'top', the bbs process run by popcorn right now is 
occupying aruond 13-14% of the CPU.  Hmm, the "bbs" process isn't 
constant; it comes and goes.

Her perl script is occupying around 8% of the CPU.  

I can't think of Valerie Mates as a vandal or a system abuser... but 
her action is having a much greater negative impact on Grex than when 
jp2 sent e-mails to a group of users in December.


#218 of 393 by mary on Thu Jan 8 22:26:19 2004:

So, are we ready yet to actually talk about what to do next?
I'm not sure, but I'll suggest this - one, we not jump into any
type of membership vote to change the way we've done business.
I propose posters still have the opportunity to permanently remove
any responses they've entered.  But whole items, with responses 
from other users, are not under the editorial control of the person 
entering the item.  

Two, some text be added, wherever it belongs, advising fairwitnesses 
to be very very careful with the kill command and pointing them 
toward this discussion or warning them that censorship tends to draw 
a lot of fire.  No hard rules.  It wasn't the lack of hard rules 
that precipitated this issue.  

A new conference be setup that will be for blogs where it will be 
completely upfront that the rules there are quite different.  The FW 
will, on request, kill entire blogs on the request of the person who 
started one.  If you enter responses there you do so with the full 
knowlege, expectation even, that they could be censored or removed 
at any time.  The blog owner rules the item.  The conference FW is 
simply going to follow the blog owner's orders.  The conference FW 
is still strongly discouraged from removing items they feel are 
inappropriate.  The items belong to the posters in blog.

As to reinstalling items that have been deleted, I suggest we give 
this some time, and allow everyone to cool off.  See if in a less 
volatile atmosphere some reasonable solution could be found.  How 
long?  Don't know.  We'll just have to see how this goes.  In the 
end they may just be better off left gone and we move on.

I really don't see any place for the Board to jump in with help 
here.  If folks disagree with that I'd be interested in hearing what 
you'd like the board to do.

Valerie should be thanked for all she's done for Grex over the 
years.  She will be missed.  

Anyhow, that's probably how I'd like to see this proceed at this 
point.  I'd be curious what others would want done.  I'm speaking 
here as Mary, the user, and not for any group.


#219 of 393 by naftee on Thu Jan 8 22:49:06 2004:

re 217 valerie, the system administrator and longtime programmer, has yet to
learn of the unix command !nice and the picospan command 'retire'.
She will be missed.

re 218 None of us are really "mad".


#220 of 393 by cross on Thu Jan 8 22:56:16 2004:

Regarding #218; That mostly sounds reasonable, but I'm personally opposed
to the idea of a `blog' conference.  Such things already exist in other
places, and that's Not what grex is supposed to be about.


#221 of 393 by jep on Thu Jan 8 23:00:48 2004:

I think Mary just jumped in with an entirely reasonable response.  
Except for the blog conference -- about which I am ambivalent just now -
- I agree with everything she said.

Actually, I have more comments for the blog conference, too, but 
there's another item for that.


#222 of 393 by mary on Thu Jan 8 23:10:23 2004:

Would you be willing to give it a six months trial run, Dan, just to 
see how it goes?  I'd hate to think we can't try something new here 
just because it's done elsewhere.  We're talking one conference, 
clearly labeled as different.  It would also serve as a bit of an 
experiment for those who might feel all of Grex should move in this 
direction.


#223 of 393 by cross on Thu Jan 8 23:15:41 2004:

If done in an experimental manner, contained, and clearly delimited from
the rest of the conferences, I would have a hard time arguing with its
existence.  I personally wouldn't use it, but it's hard to argue with
the idea of a forum in which people enter into it volunteerily knowing
ahead of time they may be censored.  If someone wishes to submit to that
with their words, that's their decision.

That's a long winded way of saying no, I wouldn't object with the
qualifiers you mentioned.  I'm tempted to say it would be better to
build a new conferencing system for things like that, but that'd be a
big undertaking.


#224 of 393 by bhoward on Thu Jan 8 23:27:51 2004:

Grex is about conferencing and to my mind, that includes being open to
experiments in alternative ways of using this media.

I'd like to see this blog conference experiment given a chance to run.


#225 of 393 by jmsaul on Fri Jan 9 00:02:29 2004:

Has naftee demanded the removal of this discussion yet?


#226 of 393 by aruba on Fri Jan 9 00:46:07 2004:

I agree with Mary's proposal.


#227 of 393 by gelinas on Fri Jan 9 01:28:46 2004:

Not that I've noticed, Joe.

I think "vandalism" is the wrong word to describe Valerie's actions.
I agree that the result is a huge whole in many discussions.  But
"vandalism" implies a malicious intent to cause harm.  I don't see that
in Valerie's actions.  Harm has, and will, result, but I don't think that
was her intent.

Mary is right that we need to figure out where we go from here.  I also
think that she is right that we are not ready to vote on a change to
the policy.  However, I think she doesn't go far enough: I think we are
not ready to vote on any policy on this subject at all.

So no, I don't think we are ready to talk about where we go from here.
Too many of us are still reacting from emotion, not from thought.


#228 of 393 by naftee on Fri Jan 9 02:17:08 2004:

re 225 Why, was I supposed to?


#229 of 393 by slynne on Fri Jan 9 02:58:03 2004:

I totally agree with mary and gelinas too. 


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#231 of 393 by jmsaul on Fri Jan 9 03:15:45 2004:

I would urge calm too.  I don't think that the acts of one stressed-out
root should either establish a new policy or require policies to prevent a
repeat.  (I'd suggest preserving the most recent set of backups in order
to maintain options, however.)

Re #228:  If enough people were claiming that Valerie had set a precedent,
          it's be worth doing.  At this point, I think whoever the coop
          FWs are would just tell you to piss off.  That's the appropriate
          response, so don't bother.


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#233 of 393 by naftee on Fri Jan 9 05:14:33 2004:

re 231 She didn't claim to be stressed-out!

re 230 Kiss my ass, bucko.  It's hairier than yours.


#234 of 393 by janc on Fri Jan 9 06:27:04 2004:

I don't plan to take a large role in this discussion.  I'm obviously
very biased on aspects of it.  And there is a fairly broad range of
censorship policies that we could have that would be OK with me.

Various points I think I should comment on:

  - No defacto new policy has been established.  All these actions were
    taken by one staff member who is now off staff.  I don't think any
    other staff member would have done the same.

  - When I heard that Jep had requested that his divorce item be
    removed, I didn't know what to think.  I felt his that his desire
    to have them deleted deserved respect, but Grex had no policy in
    place to by which this could be done.  I felt that it was an issue
    that needed to be discussed in public.  However, if the issue
    was raised for public discussion, I knew that two dozen people would
    immediately download copies of Jep's item and post it everywhere
    they could, making the whole discussion moot.

    In an attempt to resolve this dilemma, I sent mail to all board and
    staff members suggesting that Jep's items be *temporarily* deleted
    before starting a public discussion on the issue.  In this way the
    full Grex community could evaluate the request on it's merit,
    without the discussion becoming instantly moot the moment it was
    begun.

    Several staff/board members thought this was a sensible plan,
    especially since these were not active items - if we didn't tell
    people that they had been deleted, then probably nobody would
    notice for months.

    Other staff/board people rejected the idea of even a temporary
    deletion very strongly.

    Before the discussion of this issue got very far, Valerie deleted
    the items, in full knowledge that the board had not agree to either
    a permanent nor a temporary deletion.  I had no idea that she was
    even thinking about doing this until after it had been done.  My
    expectation was that I'd have to pursue an argument in baff email
    in hopes of winning a consensus of board to agree to a temporary
    deletion.  My guess is that a majority could have been achieved on
    that point, though it would have taken time.

    So, while I thought Jep's item should be deleted at least for long
    enough to allow general discussion (and, in my personal opinion,
    forever), I was fairly confident that that could be achieved "within
    the system".
 
  - No, Valerie didn't ask me for the cfadm password.  I don't know the
    cfadm password.  If I ever knew it, I forgot it long ago.  I also
    routinely forget the root password.  In the past I solved this
    problem by asking Valerie for it, since she used it much more
    frequently than I did, and has a much better memory.  I'll need to
    find a different strategy in the future.

  - Staff should probably have a staff meeting soon.  Probably not at
    my house this time.


#235 of 393 by janc on Fri Jan 9 06:36:25 2004:

Oh yeah, I'm completely opposed to any policy that says the item author
can always kill an item with responses from others in it.

That Valerie and Jep were the ones who started these items is pretty
much incidental.  The thing that distinguishes those items is that they
were the effective leaders of the discussions and the primary subjects
of the discussion.  The fact that they entered the original item is the
very least part of what made the items "theirs".

If we were to make a policy enabling such deletions (and I'm not at all
sure that I think we should), then it would have to be something more
complex - having some kind of board of review that would decide each
case on a case-by-case merit.  I think it's an icky concept, but it's
about the only sane way it could be handled.


#236 of 393 by jep on Fri Jan 9 11:55:10 2004:

Once I requested that my items be deleted, they became a time bomb and 
a source of greater anxiety for me.  There must be 12-15 people on the 
baff e-mail list.  That's a lot of people for keeping a secret, 
especially on a system which is as open as Grex.  There are 
discussions all over Grex as a result of Valerie's items being 
deleted.  How long until someone slipped and said "valerie and jep", 
and people started thinking about what that means?  How long until 
someone made a moral decision that the items shouldn't be deleted, and 
so they'd just go ahead and mention them and make it impossible to 
ever delete them?  How long until it occurred to someone to archive 
all the controversial items, just in case -- and thought of my items?  
I'm still hoping no one on that list made a copy for themself before 
the items got deleted.

It seemed to me that, if it became known publicly what I had 
requested, then those items could come back as an active discussion 
again, with excerpts posted around, and who knows what all else.  I 
really didn't want that, obviously.

When I found out the baff discussion was taking place, I pressed for 
the items to be deleted right away.  It took two days to delete my 
items as it was.  I wasn't prepared to wait for two weeks or two 
months.  I appealed strongly to Valerie.  I told her (and the rest of 
the list) that it didn't take a discussion when she wanted her items 
deleted; it shouldn't for me, either.  That appeal, as it turned out, 
worked.  Under the highly unusual circumstances, I think she did what 
she had to do.

I'm not sure how to set a policy on such deletions, either.  It sure 
seems to me my items were a good candidate for being deleted, and 
worthy of an exception even if it's specifically against system 
policy.  Valerie felt her items merited an exception (or that she was 
actually staying within system policy; I guess I'm unclear on what she 
thought).  The possibility now exists for other exceptions.  I don't 
think it's reasonable to say, "Okay on deleting valerie and jep's 
items, but no other items can ever be deleted".


#237 of 393 by naftee on Fri Jan 9 13:11:05 2004:

jep: Did you try retiring them?


#238 of 393 by gelinas on Fri Jan 9 13:59:48 2004:

I think she thought she was within the limits when she deleted her items.
I think she thought she was beyond the limits when she deleted your items.

Recently, someone mentioned having copied the entirety of /bbs to their
local disk, for ease of off-line reading.  Last night, in party, someone
said they were in the process of copying off the entirety of /bbs to
their local disk so that they, at least, would have a "complete" archive.

I don't know if copying /bbs will include retired items.  However, it
is very clear to me that the genie is out of the bottle and is NOT going
back into it.  Further deletions will serve no useful purpose.

I do not know exactly how many people are on the 'staff' list; only
seven are on the 'board' list, and at least one of them is also on the
'staff' list.

jep, I don't know that your follow-up plea went to the board.  I know
that I tried at last three times to bounce it to the board, but I never
received a copy of those bounces.  It was addressed to Valerie, with a
carbon-copy to the staff.

When staff first request, I asked for consensus because, although I thought
your items could and should be deleted, it was clear to me that others
disagreed.  Staff should not act unilaterally.  One staff member replied
almost immediately, in favour of deleting your items.  Another replied
within eight hours (given the hour of my request, a reasonable delay),
opposing the deletion.

The community of grex is divided on this issue.  The staff is divided
on this issue.  The board is divided on this issue.   No rapid decision
is possible.

The losses of the past week, both of text and people, are regrettable.
I think we are learning from them.

I am going to take the liberty of quoting from your plea:

"Additionally, I feel strongly that, since you [Valerie] were allowed to
delete your items, I should be allowed to have mine deleted."

She was not "allowed" to delete her items.  No one who had read the
discussions from Monday to Wednesday, when your message was sent, could
reasonably conclude that she had any permission to act as she did.  I think,
knowing the harm she had suffered, and recognising the very similar harm
you could suffer, she acted in the only way she ethically could.

Note well: I can consider her actions ethical, even though they are not
actions I, myself, would have taken.  I also consider my *in*action in
this case ethical.



#239 of 393 by jp2 on Fri Jan 9 14:11:26 2004:

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#240 of 393 by naftee on Fri Jan 9 14:35:13 2004:

Some users are more equal than others, jp2.


#241 of 393 by kip on Fri Jan 9 14:40:08 2004:

Here's an answer for you then.  I, as just one member of staff, am opposed
to deleting item 39 in the co-op 13 conference because it involved a policy
discussion. 

This is my personal opinion and is open to change with appropriate discussion.


#242 of 393 by jep on Fri Jan 9 14:54:50 2004:

Yes, Jamie; there is a debate going on about the appropriateness of 
fulfilling such requests.

re resp:238: You have my permission to post anything I wrote in any of 
my messages which reached staff regarding this issue.

Joe, there are a lot of ways to interpret what happened this week.  I 
interpreted Valerie's actions in a way that would allow me to call for 
my items to be deleted, too.

I regret some of the policy implications which this may have had.  I 
knew of those implications when I did what I did, and also I brought 
them up here before I made my request.

I don't regret getting my items deleted.  I'll be very vehemently 
opposed to any possibility that they may be restored.

I don't think the staff, or the Board, or myself, have done anything 
unethical.


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#244 of 393 by bhelliom on Fri Jan 9 15:23:55 2004:

I'm surprised she didn't leave before...this is how grex operates. 
Something goes down and everyone immediately goes into attack mode.


#245 of 393 by mynxcat on Fri Jan 9 15:49:04 2004:

I asked that my items be removed, and the response I got from party 
was that I needed to find a staff member who was willing to lose their 
staff position to delete them for me.

It is most unfair that jep is allowed to use the "but Valerie did it" 
argument, and the rest of us have to have it debated. I guess Valerie 
just went ahead and deleted them, because a)Having done something like 
that herself (for lesser grounds), she was really in no position to 
deny that to another user and b)She was leaving anyways, policy really 
didn't matter to her, at that point.

I believe that jep did have a more legitimate reason to delete his 
items, as compared to Valerie, though I'm sure she thinks otherwise. 
Likewise, at least a few people will feel that they have valid reasons 
to have their items deleted. Hell, I told all of grex, I was 
overweight. I want to erase that from the system. Where exactly are we 
going to draw the line on what a legitimate reason is to delete an 
item.

Or we have to live with the response "You missed the bus. Should have 
got Valerie to do it before she left. Or get another staffer who 
doesn't mind being kicked off of staff".

Basically it's true, some members are more equal than others.


#246 of 393 by other on Fri Jan 9 16:08:17 2004:

You are smart enough to know that your conclusion does not follow 
from your premise.


#247 of 393 by flem on Fri Jan 9 16:10:36 2004:

I stand behind my use of the term vandalism.  I fail to see how this
situation is any different than if polytarp had hacked into grex and
deleted the items in question.  

Jep, I consider you a vandal, too, just as much as if you had begged
polytarp to hack into grex and delete the items.


#248 of 393 by mynxcat on Fri Jan 9 16:18:37 2004:

The last statement I made was not a conclusion. You're right, it 
doesn't follow from the premise, or the analysis.

It's what I believe. 


#249 of 393 by slynne on Fri Jan 9 16:56:20 2004:

mynxcat. I know exactly why you might feel the way you do. I wish there 
was something I could do to make you feel more included and part of 
things here. 

The thing of it is that all groups, including grex, consist of people 
with normal human characteristics. It is normal for people to have 
biases towards people they like and consider part of their social 
group. Of course grex has cliques. All large groups have smaller groups 
contained in them. This is human nature. I will say that at the very 
least, most people here really do try to be as inclusive as possible. 

I can see why you might see this business of folks favoring valerie and 
jep over others who have requested item deletions. But please recognize 
that valerie's actions were hers alone and not official policy. And 
while I admit that I dont personally hold it against her that she 
deleted the baby items or jep's items, I do recognize that feeling 
comes from my personal feelings about them. 


#250 of 393 by keesan on Fri Jan 9 17:16:32 2004:

I'm sure mynxcat is not the only overweight member of grex.  I am underweight,
can I delete all my items too?  There is one about eating off dishes and
someone might think eating off dishes makes you lose weight.  


#251 of 393 by other on Fri Jan 9 17:18:32 2004:

Sindi, are you sure you're not trying to parody yourself?


#252 of 393 by albaugh on Fri Jan 9 17:23:54 2004:

From #235: >> Oh yeah, I'm completely opposed to any policy that says the item
author can always kill an item with responses from others in it.
That Valerie and Jep were the ones who started these items is pretty
much incidental.  The thing that distinguishes those items is that they
were the effective leaders of the discussions and the primary subjects
of the discussion.  The fact that they entered the original item is the
very least part of what made the items "theirs".<<

That's very interesting, because consider this:  What if someone entered an
item to discuss another person, perhaps in a very mean-spirited way.
Would the "victim" of that item, who is not the one who entered it, be able
to have a fw or staff kill that item at the victim's request?


#253 of 393 by albaugh on Fri Jan 9 17:25:58 2004:

In case you were wondering:

help kill
****    KILL    ****
kill (f-w and item author) -- delete the entire item.

help retire
****    RETIRE  ****
retire -- mark this item as "retired" so it won't appear in
future "all" item-ranges.  (f-w and item author only)


#254 of 393 by bhelliom on Fri Jan 9 17:38:03 2004:

resp:252  I guess it depends, doesn't it.  Several years ago, someone
went onto my account as me (i know who they are) and had a conversation
with another individual that revealed some very sensitive information. 
The other user was so annyoed at what the person said, thinking it was
me, that they copied the material, posted it in agora and left grex. 
That item was killed per my request.


#255 of 393 by gull on Fri Jan 9 18:35:39 2004:

Re resp:246: I don't know.  I think mynxcat is right.  So far it looks 
like the policy is "if you're jep or valerie, you can have your items 
deleted.  Otherwise you can't."  Or maybe, "if you can find a burned-out 
staff member who doesn't care anymore, you can have your items deleted."

Re resp:247: I agree with you.  I think valerie deleted all her items as 
a petty slap in the face to the rest of Grex.  An "I'm taking my ball 
and going home" sort of action.


#256 of 393 by gull on Fri Jan 9 18:37:30 2004:

Err, all her comments, rather.  She didn't delete all her items, 
thankfully.


#257 of 393 by albaugh on Fri Jan 9 18:43:10 2004:

222 newresponse items in info - how......"delightful".


#258 of 393 by mynxcat on Fri Jan 9 18:55:49 2004:

Re 250> Sindi, I'm not overweight, just trying to make a point. I 
think you're joking or trying to make a point too, but I'm not sure.

Re 252>"The thing that distinguishes those items is that they
were the effective leaders of the discussions and the primary subjects
of the discussion."

I was the effective leader and the primary subject of the "mynxcat 
wants to be svelte" item. I'd like it to be killed, because people 
could have the mistaken impression that I'm horribly obese (and 
possibly parody it on *the other system*). I would not like my friends 
to ever stumble upon this.


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#260 of 393 by jep on Fri Jan 9 19:06:50 2004:

I can understand why people would be upset with me.  What I did was not 
blameless.  I requested items be deleted which contained other people's 
responses.

It was not fair.  I was able to convince someone to take an action for 
me which is not available to everyone.

I think it was justified in the case of my two items.  I recognize that 
many people will disagree, either that it should ever be possible to 
get an item deleted, or that mine should have received an exception to 
a general prohibition against removing items.

I also think I caught a break.  There have not been that many times in 
the last two years that circumstances would have allowed me to get my 
items removed.  The chance came along, and I grabbed it, and it was 
done.

Greg, you can call me a vandal if you'd like.  I think no one had read 
those items in over a year.  I *know* no one had responded to either of 
them in that time.  I can assure you I had no intent to cause harm to 
anyone.  I wasn't trying to make a point, or get a thrill from damaging 
Grex, or cause a discussion to put myself into the spotlight, or 
anything of the sort.  I wasn't trying to get back at anyone.  I was 
trying to protect myself and my son from possible negative consequences 
of things I did a couple of years ago, at a difficult time of my life.  
I don't think I'm a vandal.  My motives certainly weren't what I would 
expect a vandal's to be.  I am very sorry if you can't respect the 
reasons for what I did, or the way I went about doing it, but there's 
my explanation.


#261 of 393 by mynxcat on Fri Jan 9 19:43:47 2004:

Jep, I understand why you did what you did. flem is being a little 
harsh terming it vandalism (The image of you sitting at your computer 
rubbing your hands in glee and cackling comes to mind, and it makes me 
laugh) I'm glad that you found a break, and got those items that could 
have caused you potential harm deleted.

However, Grex did have a rule. Either you make it cut-and-dried - 
there will be no deleting, you may only use retire, or come to the 
realisation that if we think it ok for your situation, you have to let 
other people be able to do it too. Your divorce could be a highly 
stressful subject for you to have on agora, in someone else's case it 
could be something else. Who is to judge how much concern an 
individual has about an item that is out there, that they may have 
started in a moment of vulnerability. 

(And while we're at it, I'd like that item I entered about the piano 
in the music cf to be deleted. People might read it and make fun of my 
piano playing skills, or lack thereof ;) )


#262 of 393 by keesan on Fri Jan 9 19:55:46 2004:

Mynxcat, you are obviously joking about people thinking you are obese,
considering you posted your original weight and we all admired you for sticking
to an exercise program.  Plus I doubt you are thin-skinned enough to care if
mnet decides to use your item for a parody.   And yes, of course I was joking.
If I were going to get embarrased about anything I posted, it is not my weight.


#263 of 393 by flem on Fri Jan 9 19:57:37 2004:

I'll confess that my anger over what you and valerie have done is
somewhat mitigated by circumstances.  If you stole a loaf of bread to
feed your starving son, I'd be sympathetic -- but you'd still be a thief.  

Insofar as Grex has any policy covering events like this, it's that no
permanent action will be taken until public discussion has taken place
and either consensus or a member vote occurs.  We empower staff and
board to act in emergencies and other situations where lengthy public
debate would have a detrimental effect, but we expect that they will
come up with temporary solutions that can be removed once the lengthy
public discussion has taken place.  
  As I understand it (I no longer have access to the mailing lists where
I understand the discussions took place, so I may be wrong about
sequence of events), Jan proposed a temporary solution, that your items
be removed from public view while a discussion was held over whether or
not you could delete the whole item.  Instead of accepting this
proposal, which would have addressed your (understandable) concerns
about someone posting an archive of the items, you took matters into
your own hands.  

I can understand and accept that you felt it necessary to take steps to
make sure no one could read your own comments in those items.  I don't
really care why; it's none of my business.  It is for your decision that
the rest of us had no say in what was to be done with *our* responses
taht you have lost my respect, and that I consider you a vandal.  


#264 of 393 by gull on Fri Jan 9 20:13:32 2004:

jep, I somehow got the impression that you had done this in an attempt 
to force Grex towards a policy of deleting items.  I seem to have 
misunderstood your motives, and I apologize for that.  I still wonder if 
that was valerie's goal, though.


#265 of 393 by mynxcat on Fri Jan 9 20:18:55 2004:

When you say that you wonder if was valerie's goal, do you mean when 
she deleted her own items, or when she deleted jep's items. I don't 
think that was her goal either case. But I guess, only she and people 
she's confided in would know what she hoped to accomplish.


#266 of 393 by jep on Fri Jan 9 20:29:50 2004:

re resp:263: Greg, no one told me of Jan's proposal of temporarily 
deleting the items.  At first, when I made my request, I heard 
nothing.  I sent a second request.  That time time, Valerie told me 
there was a discussion among Board and staff.  That's when I pressed 
for immediate removal.  She sent me another e-mail after I'd gone to 
bed, asking if scribbling all my responses would sufficiently resolve 
the situation, then later that night, before I'd responded again to 
her, she told me she deleted my item.  No one else communicated with me 
at all until after the item was deleted.

Whups, one other person did e-mail me.  Mark Conger apologized for 
going outside the bounds of his role as a recipient of baff e-mail, but 
asked me to save the items before they were deleted in case I ever 
wanted to show them to my son.  Administratively speaking, he shouldn't 
have said that, and he acknowledged it.  However, he was so kind and 
thoughtful, and was so clearly only trying to help me out, I wouldn't 
dream of criticizing him for what he did.

Before anyone asks, you will have to conjecture on what I did with 
regard to his suggestion.  I prefer not to say.


#267 of 393 by krj on Fri Jan 9 20:34:15 2004:

(( I was expressing support for the concept of "vandalism" as ripping 
   out everything a person had ever written on Grex, everywhere, 
   covering a period of years.  The removal of the baby diary and 
   divorce items have quite understandable motivations for me and 
   while I'm not happy with how it was done, I don't consider it
   POINTLESS damage to the conferences, nor is the damage 
   widespread. ))


#268 of 393 by jep on Fri Jan 9 20:38:56 2004:

re resp:264: I expressly did *not* ask for my items to be deleted in 
order to change system policy.  I knew I might be causing changes in 
policy, but asked for my items to be deleted despite that.  I did so 
solely because of the harm I believe could have come from those items, 
and because an unexpected, unsought-for opportunity arose for me to get 
them removed.

I regret any policy changes that occur because of anything I did.  I 
liked it for Grex better before any items were deleted.

I made some remarks about the consequences of Valerie's actions in this 
item before I asked for my items to be deleted.  Those were because I 
was preparing my position, trying to establish that my items should be 
removed when I requested that be done.  I didn't want to change 
policy.  I just didn't want a public debate before my items got deleted.


#269 of 393 by cross on Fri Jan 9 21:43:02 2004:

Regarding #234; I don't think I got that email.


#270 of 393 by mary on Fri Jan 9 21:46:41 2004:

John, quite honestly, do you really believe there aren't
copies of your items out there?  Get realistic.  For one,
I'd be shocked if your wife wasn't holding a hard copy of
the entire discussion.  Nothing entered here is private 
or safe from being archived.  It's a public system.  A 
very public system.  


#271 of 393 by jep on Fri Jan 9 21:51:28 2004:

I am aware that it's possible someone has a copy of my items.  It's 
also possible there are no other copies.  I can't be sure, now, that 
there are no copies, but I can be sure if the items are restored, then 
there certainly will be copies.


#272 of 393 by jep on Fri Jan 9 21:56:16 2004:

(I don't believe my ex-wife ever read them.)


#273 of 393 by flem on Fri Jan 9 22:04:13 2004:

re #266:  Ah, interesting.  That does make it seem that the matter was
much less under your control than you had made it seem previously.  So
maybe vandal isn't quite the right word for you.  

But I'm currently unable to think of any reason not to call Valerie a
vandal.  


#274 of 393 by gull on Fri Jan 9 22:23:43 2004:

While it's possible there are copies out there, I doubt most people 
would have found them personally interesting enough to keep.  It also 
sounds like jep might have squeezed in before this became enough of an 
issue for people to start copying whole conferences on general 
principle.


#275 of 393 by naftee on Fri Jan 9 23:39:52 2004:

re 244 ACTION mode, not attack mode.

re 247 Yeah, a no-good HACKER<>.

re 249
>valerie's actions were hers alone and not official policy 
Yes, and valerie's actions suddenly became temporarily official 
policy.  Who knows, they may have become permanent, had this 
discussion not taken place.

re 253 Thanks.  I'm sure there were still people wondering.

re 264 I think her goal was to keep it secret and hope her staff 
buddies didn't spill the beans.

re 271 What is your opinion of the "parody" copies on the m-net agora 
conference, regarding valerie's baby diary?

re 273 Just try not to hurt her feelings, k?  She might resign from 
something spontaneously.  Go on a mad hacking spree.  Who knows?


#276 of 393 by jmsaul on Fri Jan 9 23:50:51 2004:

When were Grex's most recent backups performed, and who has custody of them?

And does Valerie still have physical access to the Grex machine?


#277 of 393 by naftee on Sat Jan 10 00:18:48 2004:

She said she'd turn over her keys.


#278 of 393 by tod on Sat Jan 10 00:38:00 2004:

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#279 of 393 by aruba on Sat Jan 10 00:41:41 2004:

Valerie gave her Pumpkin keys to Jan.


#280 of 393 by jmsaul on Sat Jan 10 04:46:25 2004:

Seems reasonable.


#281 of 393 by willcome on Sat Jan 10 08:38:20 2004:

Wait till you hear about the bizzarre sexual game under which the exchange
took place, though.


#282 of 393 by void on Sat Jan 10 09:47:52 2004:

  IIRC, one of the arguments used in the great censor-log-closing
debate was that the entity Grex does not own anything posted here, and
therefore cannot force authors to continue publishing their material
here if they decide they want it removed.  It seems to me that a
corollary of that is that item originators do not own the posts of
others in the items they start, and therefore cannot force those
authors to stop publishing their material here if the authors want it
to remain visible.


#283 of 393 by jaklumen on Sat Jan 10 11:59:58 2004:

resp:261 To be honest, I hope you don't get that item deleted, Sapna.  
I studied piano for a while myself, but was relating a little more 
directly as an beginning/intermediate guitar student at the time.  
(Right now my studies are on hold.)  I enjoyed the discussion... felt 
it inspiring to new music students.  I feel deleting the item would be 
a loss to the conference.  But that is my opinion.


#284 of 393 by mynxcat on Sat Jan 10 13:48:45 2004:

I'm sure the paino item would not be of as great loss to the system as teh
baby diaries were or jep's divorce items. They wre definitely items I would
return to if I ever found myself in those situations, and I'm sure many people
related to them. On a much broader sense than the piano diary. Or the fat
diary.


#285 of 393 by cyklone on Sat Jan 10 13:54:32 2004:

While I tend to agree with you, especially about the divorce item, which I
think was one of the best ever and contained some of the best advice and
observations I have ever seen on mnet or grex, lumen's point is valid to
the extent he suggests items have value beyond what a poster may intend or
believe to be the case. As a songwriter, I subscribe to the John
Mellencamp philosophy that songs are like children. At some point they
leave the nest to stand or fall on their own merits. A person's items and
posts are similar in that respect. The issue is not one of ownership but
control. The last few days clearly demonstrate, in my mind anyway, that
certain posters are incredible control freaks.



#286 of 393 by jmsaul on Sat Jan 10 14:08:41 2004:

Come on.  That's why you parodied her in the first place.  It's the most
obvious and provocative trait that comes through in her posts, especially
if you were ever around when someone entered a response that didn't fit what
she wanted people to say.  Her item was the Singapore of conferencing.

I have some sympathy for jep, but I would have had more sympathy had he done
it sooner to keep them out of his ex-wife's hands.  By now, I'm sure Mary
Remmers or someone has already given her copies, so the only purpose deleting
them served was to annoy everyone else and help Valerie burn more bridges.


#287 of 393 by jmsaul on Sat Jan 10 14:28:44 2004:

(Incidentally, I don't think either of those points was jep's intent, but
 he did delete them far too late to protect himself from any actual damage
 they could cause.)


#288 of 393 by naftee on Sat Jan 10 17:03:22 2004:

[Actually, valerie deleted them.  Detail, counsellor!]


#289 of 393 by jmsaul on Sat Jan 10 17:50:55 2004:

[Causation is an interesting subject]


#290 of 393 by janc on Sat Jan 10 18:50:15 2004:

Valerie and I were talking yesterday about how it came about that she
and I had such different ideas about what the rules for item deletion
were.  Valerie started the baby diary almost six years ago.  Since then,
for various reasons, she has reduced her conference participation until
in the last few years those items were about the only conferencing she
did here. In particular, she was not involved in the coop conference
very much during the big debate about the closing of the censored log. 
I think the long discussion surrounding that proposal crystalized Grex's
policy about deletions in the minds of many of us in ways that extended
far beyond the actual proposal.  The proposal just said the censored log
is not permitted any more, and clearly implied that it is OK for people
to delete their own past responses.  The implications that it is NOT OK
to delete other users responses is not at all clear in the proposal, but
certainly was clear in the discussion.  So those of us who were in that
discussion probably have a much sharply focused idea of Grex's deletion
policy than those who weren't.  Probably this is an argument that Grex
staffers should all be active participants in Coop.  However, it is also
true that with my active participation in discussions this week, my
actual work on Next Grex has ground to a complete halt.  So forcing
staffers to be part of these discussions isn't exactly going to improve
their efficiency, and a few would resign from staff rather than have to
involve themselves deeply with periodic frabbles like this.


#291 of 393 by other on Sat Jan 10 18:54:31 2004:

An alternative conclusion might be that policy which is clear should be 
stated clearly and that at least one staff member should be charged 
with keeping current in Co-op and informing other staff either at 
meetings or by email, whichever is most timely, of any effective or 
actual changes in policy.


#292 of 393 by janc on Sat Jan 10 18:59:14 2004:

I wonder if it really makes sense to keep everything around forever as
we do.  Maybe Grex should just always automatically delete every item
that hasn't had a response for a year.

Yeah, the old items have value.  There were, as others have said, some
very intelligent and thoughtful responses to JEP's divorce items, and if
you were going through a divorce, looking back on that might be helpful.

But you know, you could probably get as good advice or better by
starting your own divorce item.  Oops, no, I forgot.  We all know today
that we would never be so stupid as to do that, especially considering
that our item could never ever be deleted if we had second thoughts
later.  So I guess we'd better keep JEP pinned to the wall for future
reference.  Discussions of that quality aren't going to happen again.


#293 of 393 by willcome on Sat Jan 10 19:06:04 2004:

You don't think there's any value in preserving Grex's history?


#294 of 393 by janc on Sat Jan 10 19:50:46 2004:

Sometimes it's history, and sometimes it's deadwood, and sometimes it's
historical deadwood.

Eric:  It would be hard to make that work.  All staff knew what the
conclusion of that discussion was - the closing of the censor log.  But
the whole discussion caused a shift and clarification of the Grex
community's outlook on several related issues.  Who's going to be
insightful enough to recognize those shifts, figure out who didn't know
about them, and accurately convey the right message to the right people.
I had no idea that Valerie didn't have the same understanding that I
did, and I talk to Valerie much more than I talk to, say, Marcus, and
know her much better.


#295 of 393 by gelinas on Sat Jan 10 19:54:38 2004:

Interesting comments on the "censored" log, Jan.  I participated in that
debate, but I didn't come away from it thinking items couldn't be deleted.

Sure, there is a value in preserving Grex's history.  But a complete record
of anything ever said on grex is NOT necessary to that preservation.


#296 of 393 by other on Sat Jan 10 20:17:40 2004:

Perhaps an ongoing policy discussion in the Staff conference would be 
in order.  The idea would be to discuss practical implications of 
policy changes, and perceptions of implicit changes could be discussed 
and validated.

One of the strengths of Grex is that the policies by which we operate 
are not vast and complex, but one of the weaknesses of our system is 
that the fluidity of our policy sometimes results in controversial 
judgement calls, and over time, resolving those controversies has 
become a more difficult and noisome process.  So the logical responses 
are either to increase the degree to which our policies are clearly 
codified, or take steps to insure that there is broad and clear 
understanding of those policies by those charged with their 
implementation.


#297 of 393 by gull on Sat Jan 10 21:15:14 2004:

Re resp:292: I would oppose that as a general policy.  I find a lot of 
the old items in conferences like micros and jellyware interesting, and 
I'd hate to see them deleted just for the sake of clearing out deadwood. 
 I think individual fairwitnesses should be free to set policies like 
that for their own conferences, though.


#298 of 393 by cmcgee on Sat Jan 10 22:01:28 2004:

I think automatically clearing old items is a bad idea.  The info conference,
for example has a lot of "old" info that is still useable.  In fact, I really
hope valerie can later be convinced to restore her responses in that
conference.  


#299 of 393 by naftee on Sat Jan 10 22:10:16 2004:

Maybe GreX needs a classics conference!


#300 of 393 by tod on Sat Jan 10 23:39:21 2004:

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#301 of 393 by styles on Sun Jan 11 00:46:54 2004:

you mean the common sense of not trying to do something as root when the
conferencing system clearly does not allow you to do it as yourself?


#302 of 393 by jp2 on Sun Jan 11 01:04:24 2004:

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#303 of 393 by jep on Sun Jan 11 04:26:17 2004:

re resp:296: I would be interested in the perceptions of staffers for 
the rules being established in the coop conference.  So would others.  
I think it might be hard to argue that the common users should be 
excluded from knowing how the staff might be interpreting the rules.


#304 of 393 by gelinas on Sun Jan 11 08:11:46 2004:

I think the purpose of Eric's suggestion was to make sure that all of the
staff are on the same page, that all agree on how the rules established in
coop should be implemented.  Reporting that agreement is only necessary if
it results in something different from what the membership established here.

We want to avoid a repeat of this week's experience, where different staffers
had different opinions of what the rules were and how those rules should be
applied.


#305 of 393 by naftee on Sun Jan 11 20:33:46 2004:

Haven't all the staff voiced their opinions in this item?


#306 of 393 by gelinas on Mon Jan 12 00:11:22 2004:

No, they've not.  Several staff members do not read coop, as I think Jan
mentioned some time back.  If reading a coop is a requirement, they'll quit.


#307 of 393 by spooked on Mon Jan 12 00:59:10 2004:

As a staffer (and general onlooker), I don't think adding my opinion on
this will advance the issue.

What is clear, to me, is that we need to move forward constructively and
I'm putting my faith in the board to see some sense and get Grex back on
track - we must not let those who wish to destroy us win.



#308 of 393 by naftee on Mon Jan 12 01:08:46 2004:

menuadm


#309 of 393 by willcome on Mon Jan 12 10:01:23 2004:

(Anyone who thinks there's anyone who wants to destroy Grex, or that there's
a concerted effort to do so, is fucking paranoid.)


#310 of 393 by davel on Mon Jan 12 13:31:16 2004:

Re 307: too late, I'm afraid.


#311 of 393 by albaugh on Mon Jan 12 22:21:50 2004:

Note that my recollection on the reconsidering of "closing the scribbled log"
was in response to the anonymous internet reading of grex conferences that
backtalk allowed.


#312 of 393 by mary on Tue Jan 13 01:01:20 2004:

I have a question for Jan.  

Let's say we do indeed decide not to restore these items.  We'll say that
Valerie has a right to remove the responses of all those who participated
in the discussion, because the discussion was about her. (I'm not going to
argue that point but concede it for the moment.)  And we're going to
remove the entirety of the divorce items because, at some point, what
other people said about or to jep may be harmful to him or his custody
battle or his child or even his wife.  Yes, John, even your wife. 

Anyhow, we do this because it's the right thing to do.

So when the next person comes along, all upset, begging for responses
entered by someone else to be censored because they could indeed hurt
him, or someone he loved, or his job status, or whatever, then what? 
Do we say our kindness was a one time gift?  Do we ask for the whole of
Grex to vote but first remove the item?  Do we elect a censorship czar to
decide whether the request is authentic? 

That's the end of my question.

You can say Valerie's action was that of a rogue staffer, acting on her
own.  But if we, meaning staff, board or even the whole of our membership,
agrees to censor these items for the reasons that have been given, then we
will have set some precedent.  We will have instituted censorship of each
other's posts if only you can make the case the responses are really
about you or hurtful. 

Yuck.  Double yuck.

I'm very anti-censorship.  I'm pro informing people of how the system
operates and warning them to join in, with this warning: they might not
like everything they see.  And they won't be able to erase what others
say.  We all get to have opinions, for better or worse.  Welcome to 
Grex.


#313 of 393 by naftee on Tue Jan 13 02:01:33 2004:

Great!  But neither jep NOR valerie told the general public that they 
had killed items until AFTER the fact.


#314 of 393 by jaklumen on Tue Jan 13 02:58:13 2004:

Would doing otherwise have changed things?  I'm curious.


#315 of 393 by gelinas on Tue Jan 13 03:37:16 2004:

The question was for Jan, but I'll venture my answer:

Valerie deleted her items because she thought that such action was within
the guidelines for grex.  We have all since learned that she was wrong:
her action was NOT within the guidelines.

Valerie deleted JEP's items because she could not think of any way to NOT
delete them, after having deleted her own.  (I'm reminded of a line from
"Joan of Arcadia":  "Don't blame me for your lack of imagination.")

We are all now very clear on what current policy is:  we can delete our
own text, but not the text of others.  The events of last week were an
aberation that will NOT be repeated.

So why not restore the erroneously deleted text?  Because to do so would
serve no USEFUL purpose.  It might make a few people feel better, but
it would not improve the state of grex.  It would NOT undo the harm of
last week.  However, it WOULD do fresh harm:  those items could never again
lie fallow.  They would be instantly copied and recopied by all interested,
and many disinterested, parties; we are all sensitised to them.  Better to
live with the single wrong of their deletion than the double-wrong of
their restoration.


#316 of 393 by gull on Tue Jan 13 03:43:02 2004:

I've kind of come around to agreeing with the view expressed in resp:
315.  I think we need to look forward from here, not backward.


#317 of 393 by jmsaul on Tue Jan 13 04:44:41 2004:

Re #315:  I don't think Valerie cared whether her actions were within the
          guidelines or not; her own comfort and feeling of control were
          paramount.  She herself said that she was prepared to be removed
          from staff for it, so it's clear she at least suspected she was
          doing something she wasn't supposed to.


#318 of 393 by bru on Tue Jan 13 04:58:51 2004:

delete and be damned!  They are no great loss.


#319 of 393 by jmsaul on Tue Jan 13 05:00:12 2004:

If that's the standard, let's torch 80% of the conferencing system.


#320 of 393 by other on Tue Jan 13 05:24:00 2004:

Mary, I would respond that if it came to it, our answer would be 
that this was an aberration, not a one-time kindness.  Our answer 
would be that this was the result of an internal communication issue 
we didn't know existed, and we're using this opportunity to insure 
that it doesn't happen again.  Our answer would be that this WAS a 
violation of existing policy.  

My guiding principle here is the one of least harm.  That principle 
dictates that the text rightfully removed remain removed, and the 
text not rightfully removed be restored, except insofar as it quotes 
significantly (an admittedly unclear standard) from the rightfully 
removed text.  The stated purposes of item removal were specifically 
prevention of future parody (Valerie) and prevention of future abuse 
(John).  Valerie's case is easier, since it is her text in specific 
which represents the potential, and it can easily be identified and 
separated.  Jep's case is a bit harder.  Not having great 
familiarity with the precise content of the items, I can't say 
exactly how best to serve both his need and the need to protect 
against censorship, but I'm SURE there is a balance to be struck.  
However, that compromise will likely be less satisfactory to jep 
than to those others who posted in his items.  

Jep's right to redress his own errors does not supercede the rights 
of others to control over their own thoughts and ideas, nor does it 
supercede the rights of Grex to to what is in its own best interests 
within the limitations of the law, and that's something he'll have 
to accept.  

The point is that we can move on from here with some reasonable 
action which addresses the current issues without establishing a 
precedent Grex can't live with, and we can do it without completely 
backtracking and exposing jep to the full extent he fears.


#321 of 393 by willcome on Tue Jan 13 09:57:05 2004:

Do you know about the harm principle?  It's based on you shouldn't harm the
harmless as a legal law.  What do you think?


#322 of 393 by jmsaul on Tue Jan 13 13:15:10 2004:

Re #320:  That's well said, and a good explanation of my position too.


#323 of 393 by iggy on Tue Jan 13 17:00:33 2004:

(for those of you who are impaired, the following is sarcasm:)
i think that all text on grex should be erased in an attempt to start
over from scratch.  within every conference there should be a warning 
about not entering anything that you wouldn't want to be read on the front
page of a nation-wide newspaper.  and a prodding that you may claim to
not care now, but that if you change yuor mind in 5 years you cannot go
back and un-do what you wrote.


#324 of 393 by tod on Tue Jan 13 20:54:54 2004:

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#325 of 393 by slynne on Tue Jan 13 21:29:22 2004:

That is a little bit of an over-reaction. 


#326 of 393 by jp2 on Tue Jan 13 21:37:42 2004:

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#327 of 393 by naftee on Tue Jan 13 22:13:14 2004:

You should see janc over-react.


#328 of 393 by jaklumen on Wed Jan 14 09:36:21 2004:

Welcome to the theater of the absurd?


#329 of 393 by cross on Wed Jan 14 16:51:21 2004:

I encourage everyone who reads this to ask themselves the following:
What would the reaction be if a random person broke root on grex and
deleted a bunch of conference items?

Wouldn't we restore them?

So what makes this situation different?  That some well known and popular
grexers deleted (either directly or by proxy) their items?  Is it the
fact that these individuals are well-known and popular that allows us
to condone their actions?  Is it the fact that they had good reasons?

This is important.  Why are people willing to let valerie and jep slide
when if the exact same thing happened under different circumstances,
the question wouldn't even be asked: we'd simply restore the deleted data.

I disagree with Joe that restoring the items would serve no useful
purpose.  It would send a message that Grex does *not* tolerate
censorship, and that if such aberations do happen, they will be undone
quickly.

That said, as I have proposed before, I think that jep and valerie
(or someone acting on their behalfs) should be allowed to delete their
responses from their items prior to them appearing publically.


#330 of 393 by slynne on Wed Jan 14 17:04:18 2004:

Honestly, I am willing to let valerie and jep slide on this because 
those items are so personal. I realize that I am not being objective 
about this. 

I think that restoring the items with the comments of anyone willing to 
have them deleted is probably the best solution to this issue. I think 
that most people would be willing to have their own comments deleted 
from those items. The few comments that would be left would not be 
harmful to anyone, imho. 

But honestly, that solution pretty much acomplishes the same thing as 
just leaving them deleted. I get the whole thing about how we dont want 
to set a precident for some users being allowed to delete other users 
posts and all that. I dont think that the posts themselves are worth 
much especially since they will be taken out of any context they once 
had. In the grand scheme of things, I dont think these items are 
important. I personally do not care if they remain deleted or not. 




#331 of 393 by flem on Wed Jan 14 17:35:36 2004:

The difference between leaving the items completely deleted and
restoring them minus the responses of users who *explicitly state* that
they don't mind having those comments deleted is this:  In the former
case we as the community of grex are saying that the desires of a single
user are more important than the rights of ownership and freedom of
speech of all the other users who posted in those items.  We're not even
saying that one person's rights are more important than anothers, we're
saying that one person's *desires* are more important than the rest of
our *rights*.  


#332 of 393 by slynne on Wed Jan 14 18:02:05 2004:

Yes. I can totally see how you can see it that way. And I agree that it 
is wrong to allow a user to delete anyone else's posts. I know that if 
the board were asked to vote on this, I would feel compeled to be 
objective and the objective view is that grex users should not be 
allowed to delete other user's posts. Nor should they be able to have a 
staff member delete other user's posts (unless in the context of 
something like the proposed blog conference). 

Yet, I would hope that anyone who had responded in those items would be 
willing to give their permission to have their responses deleted. To do 
otherwise is, imho, rubbing salt into the wound. I honestly believe 
that most of the people who have commented in those items would be 
quite willing to allow their posts to be deleted. 

FWIW, I understand that there is a big difference between allowing 
one's posts to be deleted and having them deleted by someone else 
without permission even if the end result is the same. 


#333 of 393 by keesan on Wed Jan 14 18:05:44 2004:

So far how many people have said they are NOT willing to have their postings
deleted from Valerie's and JEP's items? The only one I recall is Mary.


#334 of 393 by albaugh on Wed Jan 14 19:16:47 2004:

Re: #333 - it doesn't matter.  The default position must be "as close as
possible to what should have happened", which is all people's responses remain
unless they exclicity go and scribble them themselves.


#335 of 393 by cross on Wed Jan 14 19:38:21 2004:

JP2 said he didn't want his responses deleted.


#336 of 393 by jmsaul on Wed Jan 14 19:49:34 2004:

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#337 of 393 by jmsaul on Wed Jan 14 19:52:27 2004:

I do not want my responses deleted from Valerie's items.  I'm willing 
to discuss with jep whether I'd consent to having them removed from his.

In either case, what matters isn't that my responses were particularly 
valuable, it's the principle:  deleting them wasn't Valerie's decision 
to make.


#338 of 393 by happyboy on Wed Jan 14 20:03:43 2004:

i don't want my posts deleted.


#339 of 393 by naftee on Wed Jan 14 23:50:52 2004:

re 332
>willing to give their permission to have their responses deleted.

But now you're making assumptions about other people's opinions!  Unless of
course you remember exactly who responded to each item and can either vouch
for them reasonably or have spoken to them personally.  I'm willing to bet
you did not do this.

The above point goes for all the other users who made similar statements.


#340 of 393 by jep on Thu Jan 15 03:23:35 2004:

My items being deleted is different from a vandal breaking root in 
these ways:

1) Multiple staff members thought it was okay to delete those items 
and said so publicly before I made my request.

2) There was precedent, at the time I made my request, for deleting 
items of that sort.  Valerie had deleted her items.  

3) I asked for my two items to be deleted.  I made an official request 
through the best means of doing so; a message to "staff@grex.org", and 
this request was granted.

I've already stated that I wouldn't have asked for the items to be 
deleted if it weren't for points 1 and 2.  I had no reason to expect 
they might be restored, amidst a publicity firestorm yet, when all I 
wanted was for them to disappear.

I'd rather, right now, that no items had been deleted, rather than 
have the possibility my items will be restored in the current 
environment and due to the current situation.


#341 of 393 by naftee on Thu Jan 15 03:35:37 2004:

Do you even try reading things in this conference?  All three of those points
are mostly bull.


#342 of 393 by jp2 on Thu Jan 15 03:38:48 2004:

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#343 of 393 by naftee on Thu Jan 15 03:54:07 2004:

Like I said above, mostly bull.


#344 of 393 by gelinas on Thu Jan 15 04:23:51 2004:

In several items, jp2 has mentioned asking that Item 39 be deleted from this
conference.

I thought that item should be deleted, by the rules as I understood them.
However, because of the discussion occassioned by the deletion of the
baby-diary items, I asked for guidance from fellow staff members.   The one
response I remember seeing advocated a double-standard.  While I was waiting
for the discussion to resolve itself, Valerie deleted JEP's items and
resigned.

At this point, the policy appears to be against deletion of items.

I'm not happy with the current situation, but I don't know how best to
resolve it.


#345 of 393 by mary on Thu Jan 15 13:30:49 2004:

 "I'd rather, right now, that no items had been deleted, rather than 
  have the possibility my items will be restored in the current 
  environment and due to the current situation."

It's not *your* item.  Never was.  From the moment you opened it up to
public discussion, and someone else took the time to enter a response, the
discussion became a community effort.  The item isn't yours. 

And what you're really saying is:  I'd rather, right now, that no items
had been deleted, rather than have the possibility that what others have
said will remain. 

Again, you're sorry you took an action.  Maybe you really should think
ahead. 



#346 of 393 by jep on Thu Jan 15 16:16:28 2004:

re resp:342:

Q1 "Can you provide any evidence of this"...
item:68:resp:4 (as quoted in item:68:resp:11)
#4: "It's longstanding Grex policy that the person who created an item
 can delete it."


item:68:resp:61 (gelinas)
 think the author of an item
has the right to remove the item, EVEN IF OTHERS HAVE RESPONDED


Q2: I said that I'd never expected to be able to delete those items, 
and that when the opportunity came up unexpectedly, I took it.  


Q3: I have no control over your item not being deleted.  I didn't bribe 
anyone, of course.  Am I a favored user?  Hmm... I'd say I've earned 
some respect on-line.  I also carry some baggage from my long 
association with Grex and M-Net; I am not universally regarded as the 
ideal Grexer or anything like that.  


#347 of 393 by jep on Thu Jan 15 16:25:33 2004:

re resp:345: Mary, your third paragraph needs work.  I don't even know 
what you mean, let alone what you are stating that I meant.


#348 of 393 by jp2 on Thu Jan 15 17:02:23 2004:

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#349 of 393 by flem on Thu Jan 15 17:05:18 2004:

From the rapidity of the shitstorm which gathered when valerie deleted
the baby items, I'd say it's pretty disingenuous, if not downright
dishonest, ofyou to claim that you didnt' know deleting your items would
produce controversy.


#350 of 393 by jp2 on Thu Jan 15 17:08:36 2004:

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#351 of 393 by mary on Thu Jan 15 18:46:18 2004:

What I was saying John is you took a big chance you'd be able to have
everyone's responses killed..  You simply wanted it done in a real hurry. 
You demanded it be happen before any discussion took place, even among
staff and board.  Clearly, the discussion of the propriety of this
censorship wasn't as important as getting the items killed. 

So now it's being discussed.  It may end up you won't be able to censor
everyone comments.  Opps. 



#352 of 393 by cyklone on Thu Jan 15 18:47:30 2004:

I'm beginning to think jep is not deliberately lying in the typical sense of
the word. What I do find disturbing is that he seems to be showing a
cluelessness very similar to what some of us were discussing in his divorce
item. In other words, I'm seeing more denial and rationalization than lying.


#353 of 393 by jp2 on Thu Jan 15 18:55:17 2004:

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#354 of 393 by mary on Thu Jan 15 19:03:40 2004:

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#355 of 393 by jp2 on Thu Jan 15 20:34:00 2004:

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#356 of 393 by mary on Thu Jan 15 20:36:39 2004:

It was unnecessary.


#357 of 393 by jmsaul on Thu Jan 15 21:07:33 2004:

What was in there?


#358 of 393 by jp2 on Thu Jan 15 21:12:27 2004:

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#359 of 393 by gull on Thu Jan 15 21:19:35 2004:

Wow.  Guess we really *do* have to be careful what we discuss here, if
it's likely to be passed on to the police.


#360 of 393 by willcome on Thu Jan 15 21:20:08 2004:

Huh?!


#361 of 393 by mary on Thu Jan 15 21:33:16 2004:

Yep.  But then I decided how discussion of Jep's divorce didn't 
belong in the item discussing his divorce item.  Hope that makes 
sense.  Anyhow, it didn't belong here.  There are already too many 
hurt feelings.


#362 of 393 by gull on Thu Jan 15 21:58:17 2004:

I am curious, now, if there's any truth to the rumors that mary also
gave a copy to jep's ex-wife.  I'd dismissed those comments as
hypothetical until reading resp:358.


#363 of 393 by jp2 on Thu Jan 15 21:59:43 2004:

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#364 of 393 by tod on Thu Jan 15 22:19:50 2004:

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#365 of 393 by mary on Thu Jan 15 22:43:54 2004:

See, now you're making it up as you go along. ;-)

No hardcopy was given to anyone.  Remember, this is an 
open access public system.


#366 of 393 by tod on Thu Jan 15 22:48:02 2004:

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#367 of 393 by mary on Thu Jan 15 23:01:35 2004:

Nope.  Nope.

At least not because of anything I did.


#368 of 393 by scott on Thu Jan 15 23:35:37 2004:

Re 365:

Well, your  scribbling of your responses makes your denial difficult to
confirm.  I think jp2 was making a point about scribbled responses...


#369 of 393 by jp2 on Fri Jan 16 01:10:54 2004:

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#370 of 393 by naftee on Fri Jan 16 02:40:10 2004:

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#371 of 393 by cyklone on Fri Jan 16 03:24:03 2004:

re #359: That's already happened on mnet, and the user was actually visited
by the police. She laughed it off, according to her posts. Another
difference between mnet and grex I guess.

re #370: Is it time to invoke Godwin's Law now?


#372 of 393 by naftee on Fri Jan 16 03:44:49 2004:

If you think Irving is a Nazi.  However I don't believe Hitler had a website
as slick as Irving's.


#373 of 393 by naftee on Fri Jan 16 16:39:47 2004:

Fuck, I'd laugh if cyklone's postulate becomes true.


#374 of 393 by jep on Fri Jan 16 19:56:24 2004:

re resp:361: Mary, would you clarify what it was you did, exactly, with 
the divorce item, and when?


#375 of 393 by naftee on Fri Jan 16 23:02:33 2004:

She already scribbled the info.


#376 of 393 by mary on Sat Jan 17 00:26:25 2004:

I'll share that with you in mail, jep, and then if you
want it to go public, I'm fine with that.


#377 of 393 by drew on Sat Jan 17 22:12:18 2004:

Amiga, Nazi, Trek!


#378 of 393 by willcome on Sun Jan 18 02:15:02 2004:

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#379 of 393 by willcome on Sun Jan 18 02:15:52 2004:

cross
Dan Cross response 165 of 377:     Jan 7 17:35 EST 2004 

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Regarding #162; Just to clarify, staff didn't grant Valerie any extra
`right'.  She acted on her own, outside of the rhuebric of staff.

 
jep
John Ellis Perry Jr. response 166 of 377:     Jan 7 17:45 EST 2004 

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re resp:165: If that's the case, then there's no need for a debate.  
The items need to be restored.  It couldn't be more straightforward.


#380 of 393 by naftee on Sun Jan 18 05:50:29 2004:

Okay, fine , I scribbled the stupid response.


#381 of 393 by willcome on Sun Jan 18 12:50:24 2004:

(no-one wanted you to.)


#382 of 393 by naftee on Sun Jan 18 18:13:57 2004:

It was freezing up the discussion, thanks to cyklone.


#383 of 393 by jp2 on Thu Feb 5 18:23:24 2004:

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#384 of 393 by naftee on Thu Feb 5 23:52:09 2004:

Started by yours truly!


#385 of 393 by boltwitz on Fri Feb 6 04:25:28 2004:

Isn't that way more than a decent novel?


#386 of 393 by naftee on Sun Feb 8 15:21:04 2004:

Hey, when do we get the vote results?


#387 of 393 by boltwitz on Sun Feb 8 15:42:35 2004:

We don't.


#388 of 393 by naftee on Sun Feb 8 16:33:38 2004:

O yea?


#389 of 393 by gelinas on Sun Feb 8 16:41:23 2004:

It's been said elsewhere, but:  Probably tomorrow afternoon.


#390 of 393 by styles on Sun Feb 8 23:18:18 2004:

say something? !motd
Thanks to the Ann Arbor Observer for the long-running Grex ad on arborweb.com

Grex Statement of Principles: http://cyberspace.org/cgi-bin/grex-principles

Grex Terms of Service:        http://cyberspace.org/cgi-bin/grex-limits

The voting period for the two member proposals has ended.  Final results will
be posted on Monday, February 9, as soon as the list of eligible members has
been certified.  -jhr

      Happy Birthday Richard (bruin) Pirie!



#391 of 393 by naftee on Sun Feb 8 23:31:59 2004:

It's been said elsewhere.


#392 of 393 by boltwitz on Sun Feb 8 23:41:10 2004:

Jappy birthday, Richard (bruin) Price!


#393 of 393 by jesuit on Wed May 17 02:14:32 2006:

TROGG IS DAVID BLAINE


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