Grex Inferno Conference

Item 7: Depression 101

Entered by bhelliom on Wed Jun 26 15:29:06 2002:

163 new of 170 responses total.


#8 of 170 by jmsaul on Thu Jun 27 15:19:17 2002:

I have a friend who's a clinical psychologist, who works with some severely
messed-up people.  His advice to people who are depressed is to drink a ton
of water (more than you're thirsty for -- like a couple pints) and get out
in the sun and exercise, even if it's just walking around the block five or
six times.  He doesn't claim this will work for everyone, because some really
will need medication and/or therapy, but it should at least lessen the effects
and in mild cases can lift the depression.

I don't know why this works, exactly, but I've seen it do the trick, and he's
got hands-on experience to back it up.

Your mileage may vary, but his method costs nothing and is good for you even
if it doesn't lift the depression, so it may be worth giving it a try.


#9 of 170 by slynne on Thu Jun 27 15:44:57 2002:

When I worked at ASH, one of the things we did for people who were 
depressed was to strongly encourage them to get out and walk around the 
block a couple of times a day. It really does wonders even with folks 
who really need the medication. I also have had personal experience 
with depression and I have found that walking in the daylight makes a 
huge difference. Socializing helps too if I feel up to it but like 
others have described here, sometimes I am not. A walk around the block 
and good cry go a long way. 

I have also tried the water thing. Sometimes it works for me, sometimes 
it doesnt. The theory behind it is that a small bit of dehydration will 
make you feel low energy which can feel like depression. You wont 
necessarily feel thirsty. So drinking some extra water might help. I 
know that I feel really tired when I dont get enough water so there 
might be something to that.

Personally, I think that doing something, no matter what, does help 
lift depression. Taking action helps depression. I think it even can 
help if that something is simply talking about it with others. This is 
why it is a real shame that there is a stigma attached to depression 
and therapy. It keeps people from taking action to deal with the 
depression and ends up making the illness worse. 


#10 of 170 by bhelliom on Thu Jun 27 16:36:59 2002:

In part, I think it's simply a part of larger picture.  We're emerging 
from a culture that taught people to keep their problems under wraps, 
whether it be illness, addiction, abuse, you name it.

Actually, I do think that everyone's moods can benefit to some degree 
with regular physical exerise of varying levels.  In my case, I used to 
work out 2 hours everyday, and it felt really great.  For me it was also 
a distraction, not just theraputic.  A double-edged sword. I think it 
will be easier for me to do the things I enjoy, including physical 
exercise, sports, etc., once certain variables are more under control.


#11 of 170 by slynne on Thu Jun 27 17:05:12 2002:

I think part of it might also be that in the past, people's daily lives 
involved a lot more physically hard work. And it was easy to get 
motivated to do all that exercise because if one didnt get up and farm 
the land, one ended up starving or in the poor house or whatever. 
People didnt have time to be depressed. 




#12 of 170 by edina on Thu Jun 27 18:26:56 2002:

My grandmother says that about divorce.  People didn't have the time to
examine if their marriage was good - they were too busy working.


#13 of 170 by bhelliom on Thu Jun 27 18:46:05 2002:

That does in fact make sense to me . . .

For some, including myself, staying busy is a great way to forestall 
the worse parts of depression.  The more one focuses on their work, be 
it manual labor or any other type, the easier it is to ignore, if you 
notice it at all.  I was one of the ones without a clue.


#14 of 170 by jep on Thu Jun 27 18:48:13 2002:

People my age grew up facing the real possibility of global nuclear war 
and the expected result of most or all life on the planet being 
destroyed.  We had bombing drills when I was in elementary school.

My parents grew up during the Great Depression and World War II, then 
brought me into the world to face the aforementioned nuclear war.

Their parents grew up when smallpox and polio killed and crippled many.

The generation preceding them worked 15 hours a day on farms, every 
day.  They came here from various places around Europe, for the most 
part, so they could enjoy that kind of luxurious lifestyle in relative 
peace.

I don't think young people now have it all *that* tough.


#15 of 170 by edina on Thu Jun 27 18:51:40 2002:

One set of stressers got exchanged for another, that's all.


#16 of 170 by orinoco on Thu Jun 27 18:56:25 2002:

That's an interesting comparison.  I like it because it says something about
the way we look at depression.  Everyone, I think, will agree that something's
wrong if you're too busy to tell how your marriage is going.  But I'll bet
that "too busy to be depressed" sounded pretty good to you, at least at first.
It sure sounded good to me.  


#17 of 170 by orinoco on Thu Jun 27 18:57:00 2002:

Er, that was re #12.  


#18 of 170 by mary on Thu Jun 27 19:05:29 2002:

Something I've noticed about mild or moderately depressed 
people is that they spend a whole lot of time thinking about
themselves.  They are doing this moment to moment thing measuring
how they are doing in this situation and what is that person 
thinking about me and why in the world did I do that, etc. 

I'm not sure what comes first, they get depressed because they
see themselves under such a microscope (who wouldn't) or the
depression draws them into a "me" circle.



#19 of 170 by bhelliom on Thu Jun 27 19:56:05 2002:

My guess is that it comes in all forms, and that even the "me" circle 
that you talk about shows up even in the most subtle of ways, including 
self-critical behaviours.


#20 of 170 by eskarina on Thu Jun 27 21:16:48 2002:

Good point, Mary.  Yeah, I find that my mood goes down when I'm not working
with kids as much, probably because when I'm working with a roomful of them
I don't think of me nearly as much as I do when I'm not.  The post-camp
depression is the worst.


#21 of 170 by slynne on Thu Jun 27 21:25:43 2002:

I get very self focused when I am depressed. I have no idea if the self 
focus comes first or not. I will have to pay attention to that. 



#22 of 170 by clees on Thu Jun 27 21:44:59 2002:

Isnīt it a chicken - egg question?
I honestly canīt tell which comes first.
But, Mary certainly has got a point.


#23 of 170 by mdw on Thu Jun 27 23:27:28 2002:

Exercise will definitely have a profound effect on mood.  Most people
don't get enough exercise -- the result of 20th century labor saving
devices.

So far as water goes -- if you're sendentary and you're going to get
more exercise, you'll need more water, even if you were drinking
"enough" before.  More exercise means you need more oxygen which means
you need more blood flow -- and hence more water.  A lot of people don't
drink enough.  In former centuries, when water wasn't always safe to
drink, natural selection favored people who didn't get as thirsty.
Basically, long-term problems like heart problems were less bad than the
short-term risk of cholera.  I know I'm one of those people who don't
get thirsty often enough, and sometimes it's a chore to drink what I
know I should.


#24 of 170 by lelande on Fri Jun 28 00:15:47 2002:

emotional modes i excel at when displaying include: glee, scorn, contempt,
lust, adoration, giddiness, anxiety usually of a contorted type, and
depression; i can do depression like a scarecrow of honey and suet coming
apart on the davenport; i can do depression like digging a dustbowl in my
stomach with a broken bottle of wine; i can even do a depression rich enough
to give my reflection in the mirror halitosis.
despite my talents in this latter modality, i gave it up. the reason i exude
these emotions with significant clarity (minimal disparity between interior
& exterior) is because i've been expressing them longer, more often, and more
freely than emotions i either tend to not have (like pity, remorse, and
boredom) or have in some way been restricted from expressing (such as sorrow,
anger, and pride). when i adore an object, or when i'm stimulated into (a
shallow wet bag of) anxiety, i don't make a mistake about how i feel, my body
responds along a thread woven back uninterrupted to early years. i'm better
at glee than at contempt; better at contempt than at lust. i was a gleeful
kid. i didn't take up contempt until 4th grade, when friends mike + stephan
and i entered personal competition making models of the solar system from
scratch. (i don't know where they are today, but if stephan isn't dead from
drugs -- he had an atrocious pair of parents to raise -- i expect and hope
he's excelling in some esoteric corner of some branch of science. about mike
i'm too unresolved to comment.) lust began occurring when i was 10, but i
didn't figure out how to display it until i was 17. frequency of occurrence
and opportunity for display has given me the chance to better learn
displayment in a shorter period of time than some other feelings.
i took up depression -- the optional, easy to swallow grape-flavored
child-formula depression -- when my family moved from the comfortably shitty
ranch house and trailer trash hood to the two a story subdivided
gentrification project, where we lived in a house of cards that rained down
quicker than i could keep the mawn lowed, so that'd be age 13. it was long
preceded by anxiety. anxiety is useful: it can be entertaining, funny, and
you can get work done. even sadness (i'm told, although i've tried out this
modality a handful of times only in the last year) can turn to song.
depression is like a nightmare spent eating spoonfuls out of a 5 lb bag of
quicklime.
by 'giving up' depression (oh if it were so), i mean, i think, that i replaced
it. suppose for sake of an argument that depression isn't itself an emotion
but a complex of sincerely beheld emotions gone unexpressed, thus a bilious
residue of stifled feelings, their potency choked and reduced to crap coating
the inside of your skull. imagine that every sincere emotion is NOT not-like
an orgasm; now attribute individual character and livelihood, here in the land
of make-believe, to each emotion and imagine the complaints of those
within you who never get to come, or at least not as much as the others
get to, or AT LEAST not as much as they get hard up for a pop. fucking
inhumane treatment of one's self, i'd believe.
is this an excessively cartoonish depiction of that oddball social enemy,
Depression -- an umbrella state of mind pushed open by complexes of
malnourished feelings? i don't go in for -- i'm not so far convinced of --
physical theories of mind, in which, say, every state of mind in an
individual ("in" an individual? a topic for another time.) corresponds
with a quantifiable brain-state; so i'm also not convinced that
depression, well and workably alleviated by rest, pharmaceuticals, and
exercise on sunny days, is solved (unknotted? discord!) other than by
expressing repressed thoughts and feelings. (belatedly noteworthy: i don't
think i want to include the phenomenon of depression in cases of clear
physical brain trauma, debilitating psychosis, and other messy odds and
ends, in the preceding exploration. not because i have some dividing line
in mind between these 'errors' or 'broken' people and the 'properly
working' humans to which the exploration applies -- i would have to accuse
myself of dense solipsism, nobody likes that. rather, instead, that the
capital-D depression much in the headlines yesterday and today is
something like an epidemic, which is of normative concern, mysterious in
origin But that we are human. possibly even contagious -- have you ever
caught a case of depression? answers below.
this is still murky, i think, but i don't intend to tell a man with a
butchered cortex that he just needs to let it all out to get rid of the
blues and expect it to work, even in cases where he could comprehend me. i
do wonder, though: people with life-changing brain injuries, and certainly
those with emergent psychosis, are probably disoriented (scared) enough
that without the ability to express it molts into depressed spells. this
is grossly speculative without being necessary but it occurred to me to
mention it.
so eat well, get plenty of exercise and rest, and strip yourself of all
self-censorship and inhibitions if you'd like to leave the poppy fields of
depression. and no, i'm not on meds delizia, you cocksucker.


#25 of 170 by oval on Fri Jun 28 03:00:52 2002:

*glee*



#26 of 170 by jaklumen on Fri Jun 28 05:55:19 2002:

again, I would that people could be convinced that depression and other 
disorders aren't necessarily temporary states.  Bipolar and some types 
of depressive disorders are chronic, but they can be managed.  Perish 
the thought (but perhaps some would rather remain ignorant than do the 
research) that anyone would seriously believe they are contagious.


#27 of 170 by edina on Fri Jun 28 12:53:02 2002:

This is true - but many people get slapped with meds after an initial
diagnosis, seek no counseling and thus, never get their meds readjusted. 


#28 of 170 by lelande on Sat Jun 29 06:56:43 2002:

26
what organizing cause do you suggest underlying chronic cases? or causes.
do the causes of chronic cases lead us necessarily to pharmaceuticals as
method of management? 
my suggestion of contagious depression is pointed at cases where organizing
cause can smoked out with psychoanalysis; the easiest example of adapting
depressive modes of thought and responsiveness to feelings is a depressive
parent to dependent, learning child. if the child grown to adulthood becomes
depressive, what is there to assure us that it's physical illness (mental as
physical) and not complex of neurosis?


#29 of 170 by jaklumen on Sat Jun 29 09:10:46 2002:

resp:28  Well, yes, trauma, family dysfunction (cases of nuture, not 
nature) could be treated fairly well without pharmacopia.

The important thing to remember is that patients need to be informed 
and knowledgable of both the conditions and treatments they are 
receiving, know what options are available to them, and be sure that 
their doctor is willing to work with them to achieve the best possible 
outcome.  Talking to my last psychiatrist was like talking to a brick 
wall sometimes.  I'm glad I'm rid of him and hope to see someone new.

I'm looking into Rapid Eye Therapy (RET) as a means to treat addiction; 
perhaps mood outlook might improve.  It's nothing for sure, of course, 
but after 17 years of traditional counseling, I'm ready to try 
something new.


#30 of 170 by lelande on Sat Jun 29 19:29:23 2002:

a friend of mine began RET six months ago. i don't know if she's still doing
it, and i haven't heard any update. between me and my friends (we talk about
our shrinks a lot) this usually means it wasn't successful, but i'm not
prepared to settle on that conclusion. it sounded fascinating as hell when
she told me about it.
i've seen shrinks off and on since i was 14, and, of 8, 2 have been worth a
damn. the first was a fluke, a chill fella who wore hawaiian shirts open at
the chest and his hair long and in a tight braid. (a lot like happyboy,
really.) because i was assigned to him by the court and because he was
changing his schedule to work with alcohol-troubled teens in groups, i had
to stop seeing him. the 2nd good shrink, my current one, was found on referral
from the first one. this, along with the multitude of tales from friends and
acquaintances on the difficulty of finding a decent shrink these days,
combined with the decor of shrinks' offices changing over to pamphlets,
calendars, clocks, inspirational posters, and stress-relief squeeze sponges
all bearing the corporate logo of some pharmaceutical company or another, has
suggested to me a crisis in the current state of american psychological mental
health.
email me if you'd like any contact info for my current so-called good shrink.


#31 of 170 by jep on Sun Jun 30 02:07:30 2002:

What's the difference between RET and EMDR?


#32 of 170 by jaklumen on Sun Jun 30 06:54:59 2002:

what's EMDR?


#33 of 170 by mynxcat on Sun Jun 30 12:03:36 2002:

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#34 of 170 by jep on Mon Jul 1 02:34:07 2002:

EMDR is Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing.  It's supposed 
to be a way to move irrationally strong feelings from seeming immediate 
to seeming more remote.  My therapist wants me to try this for my anger 
with regard to my divorce.


#35 of 170 by jaklumen on Mon Jul 1 04:27:31 2002:

RET= Rapid Eye Therapy.  Apparently, RET and EMDR may be similar yet 
independently produced theories.  I am not sure of the second, but RET 
is recreating and using rapid eye movement (REM) as in active sleep 
(dreaming stages) to reprocess thoughts and memories associated with 
certain traumas, addictions, etc.


#36 of 170 by jep on Mon Jul 1 16:03:53 2002:

RET is a philosophical, spiritual thing.  EMDR is a psychological 
treatment.  That's about all I know about them.


#37 of 170 by bhelliom on Mon Jul 1 16:59:04 2002:

What are your thoughts on trying EMDR, John?  Do you know yet how it's 
supposed to work?

I suppose one of hardest things to do is to know where to begin?  
Despite the fact that  a lot of the depression discussion can consist 
of chicken or egg first arguments sometimes, somtimes it's a matter of 
figuring out from which angle to begin, to help you focus on other 
things, progressively changing certain learned behaviours.  (I don't 
know if that made sense to anyone.)


#38 of 170 by jep on Mon Jul 1 17:58:54 2002:

I've told my therapist I'm all right with trying it.  He says he's 
worked with it for several years and seen it work a lot.  I don't know 
how it's going to help me exactly.

He gave me some examples.  One was a mid-30's man who broke down and 
was unable to stand up to his mother whenever she was critical to him, 
going through EMDR and then he was at least able to say "no" to her.

No one knows *how* it works, from what I understand.  It just does.  
Okay, fine.  I can live with that.  It's supposed to take feelings that 
seem very immediate and move them into a part of your brain where they 
seem less immediate.

It won't help me get over what he calls my grief over the divorce.  It 
could help me get over being unable to control my inappropriate anger.  
The problem for me is, I don't consider my anger inappropriate.  I 
guess I have to get over it anyway.  That's a hard part for me.

My depression is pretty specific and situational.  I don't think I was 
depressed before the divorce came along.  I don't know of a good way to 
deal with the divorce.  That's my whole problem.  I guess.

I risk taking over this item and turning it into another divorce item.  
I don't want to do that.  


#39 of 170 by bhelliom on Mon Jul 1 19:20:59 2002:

Don't worry, I don't think we'll let that happen. :)

On your anger in general . . . not admitting or not believing that the 
anger is inappropriate, I would think, may hinder your ability to make 
a success out of the EMDR.


#40 of 170 by keesan on Mon Jul 1 19:56:59 2002:

Anger is inappropriate when you cannot control it and when expressing it does
not do anybody any good.


#41 of 170 by jep on Mon Jul 1 21:44:30 2002:

re #39: Right, it is difficult for a therapist to help you solve a 
problem you don't want to solve, or don't regard as a problem.

My therapist usually describes EMDR in idyllic terms.  I have wondered 
what would happen if I asked him to help me get over my inappropriate 
inhibitions against attacking someone... surely such things can be used 
for different types of goals.  I'm sure he would not be willing to help 
me in that way, though.

re #40: The anger is inappropriate, or expressing it is inappropriate?

What do you mean by "control"?  Control when to feel it?  I'm a failure 
at that.  Control what happens as a result of it?  To what degree?  I 
haven't physically attacked anyone yet, or raised my blood pressure to 
the point where I have a stroke.  I've said and done things I regretted 
because I was angry, both during my current divorce and accompanying 
depression, and in the past.

Anger is an emotion.  It's just there.  It's not right and it's not 
wrong.  It's a thing to be dealt with, like intelligence or a headache.


#42 of 170 by russ on Tue Jul 2 01:48:06 2002:

(Reports I've seen have said that EMDR shows zero effectiveness in
trials which compared "correct" therapies versus "wrong" therapies
for the disorder to be treated.  You'll get something from the
placebo effect, but that's no reason to pay someone a buncha dough.)

(If you have an ethical problem with feeding scammers, even if it's
your insurance company's money and not yours, avoiding EMDR is probably
a good way to feel better about yourself.)


#43 of 170 by keesan on Tue Jul 2 01:55:11 2002:

There are more useful ways to react to situations than with anger, whether
or not you act on the anger.  Anger can hurt the person feeling it
(interfering with sleep or with doing something to improve the situation) and
expressing it can make things worse.  People who get angry assume that the
other person did something specifically to hurt them, when they were probably
just acting to help themselves and did not care much how it affected other
people.  It is less stressful if you can just try to forget what they did,
or deal with the consequences without getting angry.


#44 of 170 by clees on Tue Jul 2 07:58:56 2002:

Anger is an inappropriate emotion? That reminds me of Marge Simpson 
when she gives advice to sad, depressed Lisa to push the emotion deep 
down to your toes and forget about it. (o yes, I get my ideas from the 
magic black box called tv :)
Anger is quite natural as such.
It only depends whether that emotion is justified.
John is right, it's just an emotion. 
IMHO storing emotions in another part of the brain with EMDR seems 
pretty insensible to me, but I may have an entirely wrong impression of 
the process.
I remember I have done RET for awhile.


#45 of 170 by bhelliom on Tue Jul 2 12:49:59 2002:

Russ, do you have more information on that.  Now I'm really curious.  
If you just point me to one of the beeter sites . ..  or would APA or 
like groups be a decent place to start?


#46 of 170 by edina on Tue Jul 2 13:02:55 2002:

Re 43  Gee - I can't imagine why you aren't a therapist.


#47 of 170 by brighn on Tue Jul 2 13:18:23 2002:

#44> The father on King of the Hill's advice is much simpler: "Swallow it.
Just swallow it."


#48 of 170 by jep on Tue Jul 2 13:38:58 2002:

There is very little information on the WWW about EMDR, and I didn't 
think any of it was very objective.  There are sites which promote it 
as an ideal therapy for almost anything, and others which denounce it 
as completely without basis (without saying anything about whether it's 
effective).  My therapist is a proponent who says he's seen it work a 
lot; at least I know him somewhat and so I'll go with his opinion.  
When I give it a try, I'll bring back a report about what it was like.


#49 of 170 by bhelliom on Tue Jul 2 17:49:11 2002:

Well, obviously, people respond differently to such therapies as they 
do with everything else. Good luck with it, John.


#50 of 170 by jep on Tue Jul 2 19:48:46 2002:

Thanks!


#51 of 170 by russ on Wed Jul 3 03:44:33 2002:

Re #45:  Try searching csicop.org.  Unfortunately all of my back
issues of Skeptical Inquirer are buried pretty deeply (dead trees
are nice for reading, lousy for searching).

Re #48:  If you look at the claims for EMDR and the claims once
made for snake oil, they sound eerily similar.  Probably for good
reason, too.


#52 of 170 by jaklumen on Thu Jul 4 13:10:37 2002:

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#53 of 170 by jaklumen on Thu Jul 4 13:14:44 2002:

((inferno item #7 <----------> recovery item #21))

see also item:19


#54 of 170 by jazz on Fri Jul 5 20:13:31 2002:

        There's no real basis in snake oil - outside of the placebo effect -
and EMDR has a real basis, though it doesn't follow most of the research I've
read in the field, in eye positioning based on emotional states combined with
creating physiological states to influence psychological ones.  Insofar as
I can tell, both phenomena are real, and therefore EMDR may have some basis
in fact.


#55 of 170 by md on Sun Jul 7 14:13:11 2002:

from http://www.quackwatch.com/

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)

EMDR is promoted for the treatment of post-traumatic stress, phobias, 
learning disorders, and many other mental and emotional problems. The 
method involves asking the client to recall the traumatic event as 
vividly as possible and rate certain feelings before and after visually 
tracking the therapist's finger as it is moved back and forth in front 
of the client's eyes [6]. EMDR's developer and leading proponent, 
Francine Shapiro, Ph.D., received her doctoral degree in 1988 and 
established the EMDR Institute to train mental health professionals. 
She and her associates have trained more than 22,000 clinicians 
worldwide in workshops that in 1997 cost $385 [7]. EMDR resembles 
various traditional behavioral therapies for reducing fears in that it 
requires clients to imagine traumatic events in a gradual fashion in 
the presence of a supportive therapist. However, controlled research 
has shown that EMDR's most distinctive feature (visual tracking) is 
unnecessary and is irrelevant to whatever benefits the patient may 
receive [8]. Recent reviews have concluded that the data claimed to 
support EMDR derive mostly from uncontrolled case reports and poorly 
designed controlled experiments and that the theory of EMDR clashes 
with scientific knowledge of the role of eye movements [9,10].


#56 of 170 by jep on Mon Jul 8 01:09:42 2002:

re #55: I've read that type of comment about EMDR, but the comment 
doesn't address whether it works or not.  My therapist claims it does 
work.  However, I think he's giving up on trying it on me at least to 
help with my biggest problem -- anger over my divorce -- since I think 
my anger is appropriate and not something that needs to be cured.

So, those who were concerned (from the divorce item) that I was going 
for some quack therapy can relax about that.  I at least have not tried 
it yet.


#57 of 170 by jep on Mon Jul 8 10:42:10 2002:

There's another article in USA Today, questioning the value of 
antidepressants.

http://www.usatoday.com/news/healthscience/health/drugs/2002-07-08-
antidepressants.htm

The article says tests show they work only 18% better than placebos, 
which I expect means they helped 18% of people.

Maybe I'm lucky, but I believe my Zoloft prescription is helping me a 
lot with my depression.  It hasn't cured everything, but it's given me 
a break from hopeless despair to a much more normal state of mind.


#58 of 170 by mary on Mon Jul 8 10:58:09 2002:

Some of the best and most powerful treatments out there
work because of the placebo effect.  So your 18% is probably
far too low an estimate.  


#59 of 170 by cmcgee on Mon Jul 8 11:16:35 2002:

As I recall, placebos work pretty well for depression, so wouldn't that
mean antidepressants work pretty-well+18% ?


#60 of 170 by jep on Mon Jul 8 13:52:34 2002:

I can believe my own positive effects were a placebo effect, or at 
least partly so.  I got even more depressed when it looked like it was 
going to be a month or two before I could see the psychiatrist who was 
to prescribe something for me.  I felt a lot of hope once I got the 
prescription, and had one terrible day when I forgot to take it, not 
long after I'd started.  Then I gradually but steadily started feeling 
less inescapably down.  All of that could as easily be a placebo effect 
as a real medical improvement.

I don't care what helped me, though.  I've felt a lot better since 
taking the Zoloft than I did before that.


#61 of 170 by orinoco on Mon Jul 8 15:12:37 2002:

There's a variation on the placebo effect -- unfortunately, I don't remember
what it's called -- that might be relevant too.  I seem to remember hearing
that a placebo with some tangible but irrelevant effect -- a caffeine pill,
say -- will work better than a totally inactive placebo.  


#62 of 170 by lynne on Mon Jul 8 16:03:49 2002:

I too have found that the Zoloft has helped enormously; however I can still
sense the underlying habits of thought that caused the problems in the first
place.  Man shall not live by drugs alone...or something.
I'm actually finding it enormously difficult to remain semi-organized since
starting on the medication.  I'm quite sure it's related.  Normally I often
need to reach a certain state of agitation about something in order to get 
off my butt and go take care of it; since starting zoloft my reaction to
nearly everything is along the lines of "aaah, who cares."  Perspective, but
at what cost?


#63 of 170 by slynne on Mon Jul 8 16:33:44 2002:

I took Zoloft for 6 months. I found that it helped me quite a lot. It 
doesnt matter to me if it was a placebo effect or not. 


#64 of 170 by brighn on Mon Jul 8 17:16:45 2002:

#62> that sounds like my reaction to Paxil. I was still Socially Anxious, but
I didn't care anymore. I still sat on my butt on the couch constantly, but
it didn't depress me, and I was content with that. If I hadn't had the
(substantial) physical side effects, I might still be on Paxil, to my own
significant detriment.


#65 of 170 by anderyn on Mon Jul 8 17:27:59 2002:

I've been on Zoloft for eight years now. It helps. I have been told that
I'll be on it forever, since for me it's more of a maintenance thing than
not. I have a chronic chemical depression which doesn't react well to
therapy or to muich of anything except the anti-depressants. I have noticed
that I can function much better with it than I ever did without it, and
since my mother's family has had similar long-term depression (both my
grandmother and mother for sure, and most of the other female relatives)
I am pretty sure it's genetic and not something I can just "snap out of" or
deal with without my Zoloft.


#66 of 170 by oval on Mon Jul 8 17:36:48 2002:

apathy pills

i found that taking apathy pills helped me not be depressed, but i hated the
feeling of being apathetic. i also felt like i couldn't concentrate on
something for very long. i also don't like being around people who take apathy
pills. the people i know who take them are generally just as neurotic, they
just don;t know it. or don't care.

cocaine has a similar effect, only it makes you a real asshole - but it's
okay, because you'll think "ahh, who cares".


i apologize to those whom i may have offended.



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#68 of 170 by brighn on Mon Jul 8 17:51:49 2002:

Yeah. Whatever.


#69 of 170 by jep on Mon Jul 8 17:54:55 2002:

One side effect the Zoloft has had on me, which would be a major 
detriment to most people, is the loss of my sex drive.  I probably have 
an erection about 1 time per week these days.  That's a fair amount 
less than before I started taking the prescription, though I was never 
the most sexual man anyway.

As it is, this isn't much of a disadavantage to me.  I don't want to 
date right now anyway, and don't expect I will until quite a while 
after the divorce is finalized.


#70 of 170 by edina on Mon Jul 8 18:28:10 2002:

Loss of sex drive would depress me.


#71 of 170 by oval on Mon Jul 8 18:43:34 2002:

heh yea .. even if i didn't want to date.

lol@#67



#72 of 170 by jep on Mon Jul 8 19:07:45 2002:

Loss of sex drive is not enjoyable, but when you're celibate anyway, 
it's dispensable.  I'd probably be even less happy if I had any sex 
drive, under the circumstances.


#73 of 170 by lynne on Mon Jul 8 19:46:46 2002:

The psychiatrist was very concerned that I let her know if I should experience
loss of sex drive as a side effect (I haven't).  I *am* still capable of 
being excited or enthusiastic about things, but it takes more energy to get
over the initial who-cares activation energy hump thingy.  The biggest side
effect I've noticed is being almost perpetually sleepy.  I used to sleep 7-8
hours a night, these days I want about 10 hours and then I still have an 
overwhelming urge to nap in the afternoon.


#74 of 170 by jep on Mon Jul 8 21:04:20 2002:

I told my psychiatrist right from the start that I could tolerate the 
loss of my sex drive, given that I'm going through divorce anyway.  He 
hasn't ever asked me about it, and was not interested when I mentioned 
it to him once.


#75 of 170 by gull on Mon Jul 8 22:54:10 2002:

I was on Prozac for a while, in college.  I don't remember it making me
apathetic or inactive -- actually, it made me more active, by lessening the
depression that was robbing me of all my energy.  I didn't have any side
effects while I was on it, but I had some coming off.


#76 of 170 by orinoco on Mon Jul 8 23:23:11 2002:

The sense that I get is that different people respond to low serotonin levels
in different ways.  If your usual response is to get anxious, Prozac might
calm you down.  If your usual response is to get sluggish, Prozac might give
you a bit of a boost.


#77 of 170 by oval on Tue Jul 9 00:15:01 2002:

There are abundant historical references to the use of cannabis as a suggested
treatment for mood disorders like depression. (1) However, human studies are
scant and the results are mixed. A 1947 study of 50 depressed patients
administered synthetic THC found the drug beneficial to 36 of the
participants. (2) A double-blind controlled study conducted three years later
on 57 patients reported that the administration of small doses of synthetic
THC did not improve their symptoms. (3) A pair of more recent studies also
yield conflicting results. One reported that cannabis helped relieve
depression in cancer patients, while the other determined that THC failed to
improve depression in eight hospitalised patients. (4)

A 1994 survey of 79 mental patients found that those who used cannabis
reported relief from depression, anxiety, insomnia, and physical discomfort,
as well as fewer hospitalizations. (5) Lastly, a 1996 study cited in the 1999
Institute of Medicine (IOM) report, "Marijuana and Medicine: Assessing the
Science Base," found that Dronabinol (oral THC a.k.a. "Marinol") significantly
assuaged mood disturbances and anorexia in 11 Alzheimer's patients. No side
effects were observed. (6)

The conflicting data concerning cannabis and depression should caution
patients considering experimenting with the drug therapeutically.
Additionally, cannabis' ability to occasionally produce paranoia and other
dysphorias (typically among inexperienced users) could heighten some patient's
feelings of depression. Cannabis' most promising potential to mitigate
symptoms of depression likely lies with patients who have previous experience
with it, and are failing to respond to traditional therapies.

http://www.gwpharm.com/cann_ther_depr.html



#78 of 170 by clees on Tue Jul 9 06:41:55 2002:

Being single for a long time makes you lose part of your sex drive as 
well. (lack of practice, guess) That reminds me of dr. Ruth: 'use it or 
lose it'. Celibate by choice, but not the first choice.
Yet, I am certain things might stirr again (grin) once I start dating 
again, or meet somebody I can relate to. One night stands just for 
physical pleasure has never been my cup of tea. Fortunately I am not 
really depressed about it.


#79 of 170 by slynne on Tue Jul 9 15:13:20 2002:

Well, even if a person is single, one can still have a sex life. You 
know...develop a relationship with your hand ;)


#80 of 170 by edina on Tue Jul 9 18:08:39 2002:

Amen, sister, amen.


#81 of 170 by swargler on Wed Jul 10 01:18:36 2002:

I read an article today in the Chicago Tribune "Depression looks more like
a physical thing". 
http://www.chicagotribune.com/features/health/chi-0207070369jul07.story?col
l=c
hi%2Dleisurefamily%2Dhed

Basically, it says advances in brain-imaging technology like PET and fMRI may
indicate that depression may be more physical than functional.  An excerpt:

"Before we had the new imaging technology, we couldn't get inside the brain;
it was just a black box," said Dr. Jan Fawcett, chief of psychiatry at
Rush-Presbyterian-St. Luke's Medical Center.

"Now, if you look at the PET scans of people with just depression, what you
see is a shutting down of activity in their frontal lobes," he said. "It won't
explain all depressions, but it'll explain many causes of depression. The most
important thing it'll do is to show that depression should be considered a
medical illness."

The new findings should go a long way in helping to end the long-standing
debate over whether depression is organic or functional. Organic means there
are physical and chemical changes in the brain that produce depression;
functional means it's purely psychological.

"It used to be thought that there was nothing really physical in the brain
that's causing depression," said Dr. Emil Coccaro, a University of Chicago
professor of psychiatry. "Now we're actually starting to focus on the organic
reasons for these behavioral problems and to locate where they are."

A massive problem

Understanding the causes of depression is vital because the problem is
massive. About 1.5 million Americans suffer brain injuries each year, and 25
percent to 40 percent will experience depression, many of those with lifelong
depression.

Post #65 seems to go along with this.  I wonder if regular short term
depression (due to bad things happening like death of loved ones) tend to be
functional and long and recurring depressions tend to have physical origins.
I've been guilty in the past of suggesting to someone with depression that
they just needed to change their attitude.  A family member who later opted
out of life, which made me very depressed for a while.  But after a while,
I found not dwelling on what happened, prevented depression.  So the attitude
thing seemed to work for me (after a while), but I probably wouldn't suggest
that to someone with chronic or long term depression.  


#82 of 170 by gull on Wed Jul 10 12:42:39 2002:

Hopefully this discovery will help reduce the stigma that's currently
attached to depression and mental health care in general.


#83 of 170 by jaklumen on Wed Jul 10 16:22:11 2002:

no kidding.  This is good.  I know there are studies for chemical 
causes of bipolar disorders; it shouldn't be unreal that unipolar 
disorders shouldn't have roots in chemical imbalance.


#84 of 170 by jmsaul on Wed Jul 10 16:53:29 2002:

There are actually a lot of studies out there demonstrating that depression
is biologically real, this is just the latest one to get picked up in the
media.  A friend of mine is a PhD in biopsychology, and it's frankly pretty
well established -- understanding the mechanisms themselves, and the etiology
of depression, is a different story.


#85 of 170 by slynne on Wed Jul 10 17:44:48 2002:

While they have determined that depression is biologically real and 
that there are measurable differences in brain chemistry between those 
with depression and those who arent depressed, they have no idea what 
causes depression. They dont know if the observable brain chemistry of 
depressed people is the cause of depression or not. They have not ruled 
out functional depression. 


#86 of 170 by jmsaul on Wed Jul 10 18:24:39 2002:

All true.


#87 of 170 by bhelliom on Wed Jul 10 19:18:19 2002:

There is also the understanding that MDs and Psychiatrists often 
prescribe antidepressants in combination with one another, though there 
are some that you cannot mix at all.  Wellbutrin increases the levels 
of norepinphrine and dopamine and is primarily a stimulant to brain 
activity, and Celexa is an an SSRI.  These drugs work with different 
chemicals in the brain.


#88 of 170 by jmsaul on Wed Jul 10 19:37:17 2002:

...and nobody really understands why they work for depression.


#89 of 170 by brighn on Wed Jul 10 20:04:33 2002:

or whether they do, for that matter (the effect of SSRIs isn't that much
better than placebo).


#90 of 170 by jmsaul on Wed Jul 10 21:04:03 2002:

True, though placebos can apparently work very well for depression...


#91 of 170 by brighn on Wed Jul 10 21:17:28 2002:

Sure. Just don't tell people it's a placebo, and they do wonders.
 
Which means that depression really IS heavily perspectually, but I don't think
very many people really ever questioned that.


#92 of 170 by jaklumen on Thu Jul 11 06:44:17 2002:

Well, yes-- cognitive therapy *is* a fairly good approach, and meds 
rarely are even close to 100% of the answer.


#93 of 170 by brighn on Thu Jul 11 13:22:00 2002:

"perspectually"? Wow. How the Hell did I mangle it THAT bad?
Oh well, I guess y'all knew what I meant.


#94 of 170 by bhelliom on Thu Jul 11 13:58:31 2002:

It is definitely an issue that is not black and white.  The reasons 
behind depression and what perpetuates depression are so many and the 
varying treatments--both medical and otherwis--so numerous that it 
makes sense that individuals perceived as having depression be 
considered on an indivisual basis.


#95 of 170 by orinoco on Thu Jul 11 18:05:55 2002:

Part of the problem, too, is that nobody's really sure where the line is
between physical and psychological causes.  After all, thoughts -- at least,
as we understand them now -- are events in the brain, and the brain is a
physical thing.  It's very hard to come up with a medically useful definition
of a psychological cause that will actually distinguish it from a physical
one.  But, like pornography, everyone's convinced that there is such a thing
as a psychological problem, and that they know it when they see it.


#96 of 170 by amethyst on Thu Jul 11 19:41:06 2002:

From a personal point of view, I would have to say depression must have
a fair physical basis.  I've been diagnosed with dysthymia (as has my
father and brother).  All three of us have tried various drugs (I took
Paxil, my brother took Zoloft, I don't know what else dad tried), and 
NONE of us responded well to those.  All three of us responded well
to wellbutrin (I felt like I was on speed, which was what I needed to
get up and get going).  Also, all three of us eventually quit taking
wellbutrin because it wasn't helping any more.  This was over different
time spans for each of us, and we didn't necessarily know any of the 
others were or weren't taking anything.  So it's a small sample, but 
to ME it points pretty clearly to some sort of genetic link.  I've also
thought of going back on wellbutrin, but when i call the psychiatric
center to see if there is information on antidepressant tolerance they
refer me to my insurance company, which is less than helpful.


#97 of 170 by bhelliom on Thu Jul 11 21:25:45 2002:

That's the biggest barrier to getting competent care for mental heath, 
besides the shortcomings of individual  patient involved -- Insurance 
Companies.


#98 of 170 by jaklumen on Fri Jul 12 10:00:28 2002:

yeah =P  Insurance coverage for mental health sucks.


#99 of 170 by keesan on Fri Jul 12 12:45:34 2002:

But that at least keeps the cost of insurance a bit lower.
Zoloft is also used for obsessive-compulsive disorder and other things. 
Serotonin seems to have lots of different functions.


#100 of 170 by edina on Fri Jul 12 13:53:34 2002:

My insurance for my mental health care is actually quite good.  


#101 of 170 by bhelliom on Fri Jul 12 14:48:14 2002:

My insurance coverage is pretty decent for mental health.  But they way 
that administer the mental health portion of their services is not.  
You have to call a specific number and tghey'll give you a list of 
names from a list, and you go and see if they are taking patients.  So 
you can't even go to the therapist you want if they do not take your 
insurance.  So I dedcided that I would go on my own and find a 
therapist and opay for it myself.  It's not cheap, but I didn't like 
the alternative and could afford to avoid it.  I get the prescriptions 
for antidepressants from my MD, who is cleared to speak with my 
psychologist.  So insurance does in fact help me out


#102 of 170 by lynne on Fri Jul 12 18:57:37 2002:

My health insurance is through MIT.  They jump three feet in the air, rush
you to the mental health center, and hand out one free straitjacket for each
friend brought in with depression.  Something to do with the suicide rate....


#103 of 170 by bhelliom on Sun Jul 14 16:12:48 2002:

Hey, Carolyn, have you heard about ehnotorious prof in Harvard's chem 
program? A couple of this guy's studends committed suicide.  This was 
before either you or I got to Boston


#104 of 170 by lynne on Wed Jul 17 19:06:30 2002:

Yes; last I heard (which was a couple of years ago) he was being forced into
retirement.  I've heard some pretty crazy stories about the way he treats his
students and particularly his postdocs.  My undergrad advisor worked for him
for about a week (was called up for military duty, I believe?) and really
really hates him--he went to work for someone else on his return.  According
to his story, he went to say goodbye before leaving and the secretary 
wouldn't let him in, saying that the prof was busy.  The door to the prof's
office was standing wide open and he was sitting at his desk at the time.


#105 of 170 by jaklumen on Thu Jul 18 07:52:24 2002:

I would have shouted "Fuck you, then; burn in hell," but then I'm 
rather fiery if my sincerity was to be so blatantly disregarded like 
that.


#106 of 170 by bhelliom on Thu Jul 18 12:50:38 2002:

Yeah . . . I heard story after story from my friends in the grad chem 
program.  If he's being forced into retirement, that's definitely for 
the students' benefit! Grad school as it is can be rather difficult 
emotionaly/mentally; you don't need professors making it worse.


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#108 of 170 by bhelliom on Tue Aug 20 20:12:46 2002:

I thought I would give this item a kick in the pants rather than add 
more to the bummed item, which is chugging along at a good pace without 
clogging up the works.  

As noted in the bummed item recently, somewhere between my Dr. and the 
pharmacist, one of my medications was screwed up.  Although I was 
frustrated and wanted to get this cleared up, I though this would also 
be a good oportunity to find out if I needed both medications, while 
making a damn concerted effort to get this cleared up and not simply 
stop taking one of them.  Well, nearly two weeks later and five days 
since running out of my Wellbutrin, I've been taking Celexa by itself, 
and still trying to clear up the mess.  I am pretty sure it has 
affected my mood, and my roommate, Mooncat, has noted as much.  I'm 
more irritable, close to crying, in the numb state all at the same time.

How have have any of you fared under similar circumstances, and what 
did you do to get through them?




#109 of 170 by scott on Tue Aug 20 22:53:14 2002:

I haven't had any problems with depression, but I will say this:  You stand
a much better chance if you take charge of your own health here.  Grab your
doctor by the throat and demand detailed explanations; if you have any risk
of remembering them then write it all down.  Keep a log of what you take each
day and how you felt, and look back at it periodically for patterns.


#110 of 170 by lowclass on Wed Aug 21 03:57:24 2002:

        I'd been on Navane for about 8 years when some of the newer sedatives
came out. My Psychiatrist suggested a change to Risperdal, which I arssented
to. Even the smallest dossage turned out to be too much, an we switched to.5mg
by cutting the smallest tablet dose in half. I was one of the few who didn't
metabolize it well, and ended up calling his answering service. My only
comment was "either take me off this medication, or I'm going to admit myself"
he switched me back to Navane, and i was okay in a couple of hours.

        Except for my behavior while i was on Risperdal. that helped to end
my employment at what I concidered a pretty good job, with decent bosses and
quality benefits. It's been pretty tough since then, but I'm stable on
Zyprexa, at 12.5 mg per day.


#111 of 170 by jaklumen on Wed Aug 21 09:33:34 2002:

Treating the depressive side of bipolar seems to be a trickier job.  I 
don't respond well to the common anti-depressants.  I got addicted to 
Prozac, Paxil made me aggressive, and Zoloft sent me to giddy heights 
(I don't experience full-blown mania).

Currently, I take Depakote alone, but even that still has down sides-- 
still lethargic, and still fat.  My med nurse hates it and seems to be 
looking to transfer me to a new med soon.. something he and the 
psychiatrist are looking at.  Can't remember the name, but the sedative 
side effect isn't there, and it gives a bit of a mood boost.  I'll have 
to look more into it (and it will be a while before we start it).

resp:109  I fully concur with what Scott says.  *anyone* being treated 
for any sort of mental health problem *must* be fully aware of the 
treatment and meds they are receiving.  It is sooo important, because 
chemistry from person to person is so individualistic that this is a 
black art in some respects.  You need to be aware of how you are 
feeling, and report this very clearly to your doctor.

Zyprexa drugs me out.


#112 of 170 by bhelliom on Wed Aug 21 13:07:16 2002:

resp:109 and resp:111 - That's what's so bloody irritating.  I gave my 
Dr. and psycholoist clearance to be able to speak, though I'm due to 
sign another release in November.  I confirmed the dosage with my 
doctor a couple of weeks before this happened.  I call to confirm again 
if there's a dosage change, and normally I'm quick to notice if there's 
been a mistake.  

I know without a doubt that this dosage was, for now, the minimum 
required dosage, given how I felt before adding the additional mg. for 
one of the medications, and the lack of one of these prescriptions is 
evident for me in how I feel, and the folks I see most often are aware 
of it also.  This is a great step for someone who was not always aware 
of these things before. 

It seems in this case that my Doctor's memory is worse than mine.  I'm 
trying to decide if this is my fault, or if this is a good indication 
that I need to seek a new physician.  I'm meeting with my therapist 
tonight, so hopefully this wil be resolved before too long.


#113 of 170 by jaklumen on Thu Aug 22 06:07:15 2002:

It's difficult sometimes; don't let me kid you.  You have to somehow 
learn what your brain is saying.  You have to trust your doctor 
somewhat, but you also have to know when to give him/her the boot if    
s(he) isn't providing you with the care you need.  Same with counselors 
and therapists too.  You also get out what you put in.  It can be a 
dance.


#114 of 170 by jep on Thu Aug 22 12:51:56 2002:

Depression is difficult all around.  It's hard to even *want* to seek 
treatment; you don't have any hope and it's hard to want to bother with 
doing something when you don't have any expectations.

It would be extremely hard for me to give up my current therapist and 
go out to seek out another one.  I'm going through overwhelming 
turmoil.  I don't want to change anything more than what I have to.

I have to get better.  I have to go on with my life.  For me, anyway, 
the way I proceed is to pick a direction and try to keep moving in it.  
I have to trust that my therapist and psychiatrist know what they're 
doing, because I sure don't.

I'm doing better than I was 6 months ago.  I believe that.  I'll be 
doing better yet in another 6 months.  I *have* to believe that.  But 
sometimes, when I stop and think, it feels like I'm really just as 
desperate and unmotivated and angry as I was at the start of the year, 
but just masking it a little with the medication I'm taking.


#115 of 170 by bhelliom on Thu Aug 22 13:17:50 2002:

Well, as you've no doubt read already in teh Happy and Bummed items, 
this bit seems to be taken care of now, much to my relief.

I agree, Jon, that it is a struggle to understand what your brain is 
saying to you.  I think the initial struggle is in making yourself 
listen, as opposed to engaing in activities or behaviours that drown 
out the "noise," so to speak.


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#117 of 170 by tsty on Fri Aug 23 04:54:17 2002:

even less than 12 miles of rollerblading can help a LOT!


#118 of 170 by bhelliom on Fri Aug 23 14:16:08 2002:

Yes, they both can.


#119 of 170 by bhelliom on Fri Aug 23 16:40:19 2002:

I think one of the most irritating things I have to deal with are those 
who don't know what this is like and assume you're not trying hard 
enough.  this has nothing to do with anyone here.  Mooncat and I were 
discussing this last night.


#120 of 170 by jazz on Fri Aug 23 18:04:56 2002:

        It's true of any condition that people experience that isn't one
hundred percent visible and immediate.

        Cut your finger badly at work and people will rush to your side;  get
CTS or long-term spinal injuries from years of poorly designed office
equipment and people look at you as if you're trying to get out of work.


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#122 of 170 by lynne on Fri Aug 23 19:34:36 2002:

I occasionally forget to take my zoloft for one or two days.  I tend to notice
the effect pretty quickly--certainly after one day, often after two.  I get
quite sad and unmotivated.  Taking it again after forgetting is also likely
to lead to mini-mood-swings, which is mildly annoying.
Isn't motivation and lack thereof a fascinating problem?


#123 of 170 by bhelliom on Fri Aug 23 21:02:57 2002:

<grins>

resp:120 - That's pretty much the conclusion we'd come to.  Sorry if it 
sounded as if I was whining.

I've actually been very good about not forgetting.  In all, I've done 
so maybe once or twice.  The last week simply reminded me of what life 
was becoming before I started taking the Wellbutrin and Celexa.  
Unfortunately that means I *do* have to take them, but that doesn't 
mean I'll have to take them forever.  I'm simply thankful that I had an 
inkling that something was wrong, and that I took the steps to confront 
it.


#124 of 170 by anderyn on Fri Aug 23 21:19:01 2002:

Actually, cutting ones' finger at work doesn't mean that folks will leap to
your side. (Speaks the voice of experience -- I cut my right index finger
badly enough to need eleven stitches last August, and I was in a brace for
six weeks, and in rehab to learn how to move it again for another two months.
It was NOT something that everyone understood -- it looked like such a little
cut, but I'd nicked the tendon.) I've had more luck with people understanding
depression, but our awareness may be heightened by the fact that we have had
one coworker suicide and two family members of another coworker suicide, as
well as a few attempts by even other coworkers. 


#125 of 170 by bhelliom on Fri Aug 23 21:20:38 2002:

Wow.  An honest question, Twila.  What kind of environment is it in 
which you work?


#126 of 170 by jep on Fri Aug 23 23:09:32 2002:

My co-workers have been very understanding about my depression, and 
quick to offer help (mainly to listen) if I wanted to talk about the 
divorce.  It seems like everyone has been through a divorce.

I've had countless 1.5 hour "lunches", just driving around or going to 
therapy.  Lots of days when I just sat staring at my computer, or 
pounding angrily away at the keyboard; no one objected and they've 
pitched in and carried the load for me a lot.

I work at a great place.  I strongly recommend working at a great place 
when you're divorcing and depressed.


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#128 of 170 by drew on Sat Aug 24 02:48:17 2002:

Re #126:
    What place is this? And are they/might they be hiring soon?


#129 of 170 by jep on Sat Aug 24 03:34:50 2002:

I work at Sterling Commerce.  To answer your question about hiring 
soon: we're owned by SBC.  (It's part of the telecom industry, so I do 
not see hiring coming in the near future.)

There are rumors SBC wants to sell Sterling Commerce, which could have 
the effect of getting us away from the problems of the telecom 
industry, but would much more likely be preceded by downsizing.

SBC employees got an e-mail today about "voluntary unpaid time off".  
It doesn't apply to Sterling Commerce, but nonetheless, I didn't see it 
as a positive indication for the immediate future.


#130 of 170 by edina on Sat Aug 24 16:13:39 2002:

I wholeheartedly agree with John about being in a great work environment when
going through something stressful, whether it divorce or whatever.  Because
of the graciousness I got, I am a very loyal employee.


#131 of 170 by anderyn on Sat Aug 24 18:09:19 2002:

What kind of environment? It's an office for a non profit publishing
organization. About 75 employees here in Ann Arbor.


#132 of 170 by bhelliom on Mon Aug 26 15:43:28 2002:

I was just curious, as you mentioned the suicides.

I agree with Brooke and John. My boss is very supportive.  I decided to 
tell him as I was concerned about job performance, and wanted to assure 
him that this was not willful on my part.  I was glad to learn that 
none of this was noticed as having an affect on my work, especially 
since I was improving at my job the entire time.  


#133 of 170 by anderyn on Mon Aug 26 20:35:13 2002:

Actually, it's kind of surprising to me that we have had so many. Because it's
such a low pressure place, with a lot of support.


#134 of 170 by bhelliom on Tue Aug 27 14:07:09 2002:

Well, I'm sure it may have made the burden somewhat easier, or at least 
one can hope.  It's good that you *do* have a supportive environment in 
which to work. 


#135 of 170 by clees on Tue Sep 3 21:01:58 2002:

Yup.
One of my colleagues recently suffered from a breakdown. She is on sick 
leave now for the time being. As I understand it she is currently 
spooked by skeletons from the past. What kind of past she hasn't hasn't 
revealed yet, but I dread it has to do with over affectionate daddies.
Although I am no therapist I sympathise with her. At least I know what 
she has been through. What complicates the whole thing is that she for 
now refuses to seek professional help. She is scared what it will 
bringto surface. It tried to explain that letting things keep on 
festering doesn't help either. Certainly as she is affected by it now.
To make things worse she has had a burglar in her house.


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#137 of 170 by clees on Thu Sep 5 09:12:07 2002:

I got a hint in that direction (but not in so many words) from another 
colleague, who's in closer contact with her than me.
I won't pry.


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#139 of 170 by clees on Thu Sep 5 22:02:38 2002:

I did. Also because it helped me so much.


#140 of 170 by jep on Thu Sep 5 23:33:54 2002:

Today I had my first EMDR session.  EMDR is Eye Movement 
Desensitization and Reprocessing; it's a technique for alleviating bad 
feelings about yourself by "reprocessing" them, thinking them through a 
different way and then feeling better about them.

Though it's called "Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing", my 
therapist does not use anything that requires one to move his eyes.  He 
had me put on speakers and hold onto a vibrating buzzer gizmo (with one 
part in each hand), then go through some of the details of my divorce.  
The divorce is what's got me depressed.  At intervals of a minute or 
so, he'd stop and ask me what I was thinking about, then we'd go on.  
It was pretty intensely emotional for me.  You'll have to forgive me if 
I don't go into details right now.  The idea was to shift some of the 
ideas around some in my brain, or something.  I'm not too familiar with 
the theory, but it's supposed to provide permanent relief from the 
stuff that's being reprocessed.

I'm going to continue doing this at times for a while.  Right now I 
don't have much of an opinion on whether it did any good.  I can say, 
it was a very difficult session in therapy.


#141 of 170 by tod on Thu Sep 5 23:56:56 2002:

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#142 of 170 by jep on Fri Sep 6 01:41:05 2002:

I appreciate the kind thought, Todd, but it wasn't huge.  It was just 
difficult.


#143 of 170 by tod on Fri Sep 6 16:43:35 2002:

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#144 of 170 by jep on Fri Sep 6 18:31:46 2002:

Well, I appreciate the kind thoughts.  Thank you!

I don't know if I just burned out during yesterday's session in 
therapy, or made some real progress because of the EMDR, but I feel 
enormously better today than I did yesterday.  I have been burning with 
anger for over a week now, but not today.  That's quite a relief.


#145 of 170 by bhelliom on Mon Sep 9 19:54:25 2002:

Well, about two weeks after the lapse of the Welbutrin due to errors not 
my own, I'm feeling better.  I was secretly hoping that there'd be no 
change in mood and that we could reevaluate it, since Wellbutrin is such 
a mild antidepressant and I also have Celexa.    It's an amazing thing, 
to realize how I had felt/could have felt like without it.  Okay, so 
meds aren't the cure-all, but for now, it's definitely proving 
beneficial.  I'm glad that I actually feel like coming up with things to 
do to get back in shape.  It means to me that I have recovered some 
motivation.  I can't wait to try out my new in-line skates.  


#146 of 170 by clees on Tue Sep 10 06:13:54 2002:

Take care, girl! (hugs)


#147 of 170 by bhelliom on Wed Sep 11 16:52:03 2002:

I may have to exchange the blades for a pair a half-size larger, but I 
did venture out and try them yesterday.


#148 of 170 by lynne on Wed Sep 11 19:33:41 2002:

I've noticed gently varying responses to missing doses of Zoloft.  Sometimes
I'm having a good day and can miss a day without enormous repercussions, but
far more usually I start getting extremely depressed.  Sometimes the 
depression has a relevant and believable cause, sometimes I catch myself
making mountains out of molehills to have something to be depressed about.
It's sort of a nasty cycle.  But there is a very marked effect to missing
doses.  I think next time I see the psychiatrist I'll ask about future plans.
Have other people who are still reading this item ever gone off Zoloft?  Were
there side effects?  What was the trigger that made you decide to stop 
taking it?


#149 of 170 by slynne on Wed Sep 11 21:27:57 2002:

I was on Zoloft for 6 months once. It really helped me. Interestingly, 
when I stopped taking it, I didnt get depressed again. I had no bad 
side effects from stopping it. In fact, it was nice to finally get rid 
of the weird side effects the drug had. 



#150 of 170 by lynne on Wed Sep 11 21:57:07 2002:

May I ask what side effects?  I haven't really noticed many.  Did they
phase you out/decrease your dosage, or just stop cold turkey?


#151 of 170 by orinoco on Thu Sep 12 01:57:52 2002:

I had a similar experience with Effexor -- a noticeable effect when I started,
but not much by way of "withdrawl symptoms" when I stopped.  I've been told
that's just because it takes a long time to get out of your system, but I
think it was also that I stopped taking it at a time when I was stable enough
to stay cheery on my own for a while.


#152 of 170 by jep on Thu Sep 12 13:38:49 2002:

I'm taking Zoloft and have been for about 7 months now.  I see my 
psychiatrist in a couple of weeks, and am expecting him to tell me to 
stay on it for another few months.  My therapist tells me I will not go 
back to being as depressed as I was when I started taking it, but I 
can't just quit taking it; I have to go through whatever their method 
is for stopping.  I intend to do that.

I've had one noticeable side effect; I've had almost no sexual desire 
for the entire time I've been taking it.  I hadn't had any plans to 
have an active sex life anyway, but it's pretty weird to go for a week 
or two at a time without a single lustful thought.  I have self-image 
problems anyway, and this contributes somewhat to them.

Zoloft can have other side effects as well, such as dizziness, 
increased appetite (which may well come from getting past the 
depression itself), lack of sleep, and headaches.


#153 of 170 by jep on Thu Sep 12 13:40:30 2002:

If you want the worst possible view of Zoloft, here's a site that says 
it causes sucide, aggression, hypertension, is addictive, and has other 
side effects I haven't read about:

http://www.zoloft-side-effects-lawyer.com/default.htm


#154 of 170 by slynne on Thu Sep 12 13:55:22 2002:

The side effects I had on Zoloft were:
decreased appetite (ok, I liked this one!)
no sex drive at all
blurred vision 

I went off Zoloft kind of by accident. I had a Rx for 6 months. I 
forgot to make my follow up appointment in time so I ran out of the 
Zoloft about a month before I could get into see the doctor. By the 
time I saw her, I had been off it for a while with no ill effects. I 
just stopped taking it and had no ill effects from that. 




#155 of 170 by lynne on Thu Sep 12 15:15:32 2002:

True on the decreased sex drive.  That's actually not a bad thing; with Don
across the country and potential temptation upstairs it's kind of a plus.
However, I'm definitely still capable of responding; just less likely to
initiate and don't miss it as much.  I'm not really noticing any appetite
effects.  My weight has changed slightly but this is due to it being off-
season for hockey more than anything else.


#156 of 170 by jep on Thu Sep 12 15:41:54 2002:

It's interesting that 3 of us in a row had a lack of sex drive while on 
Zoloft.  I had understood that to be uncommon, and not usually that 
severe.  I thought I was far outside the norm with that one.

It's a personal topic, but thanks for letting me know it happened to 
you as well.



#157 of 170 by slynne on Thu Sep 12 17:04:41 2002:

It was great. For 6 whole months I didnt wake up in some strange man's 
bed even once ;)


#158 of 170 by edina on Thu Sep 12 17:55:23 2002:

Slynne - the secret is to get up and go home to your own bed.


#159 of 170 by slynne on Thu Sep 12 18:11:15 2002:

That wont solve my problem of waking up in some strange woman's bed 
though! Sheesh, that happens *all* the time. 


#160 of 170 by lynne on Thu Sep 12 18:26:01 2002:

Get up and go home to your own couch?  ;)


#161 of 170 by slynne on Thu Sep 12 18:31:17 2002:

Finally, a solution!


#162 of 170 by bhelliom on Thu Sep 12 19:24:34 2002:

I haven't noticed a decreased sex drive with either the Celexa or 
Welbutrin.  Then again, this is probably because I've never had  
a "normal" sex drive to begin with.  The more I am working on this, the 
more I realize I'm more buried than I thought. Ah, well, here's to 
progress!

Strange man's bed . . .  How does this work exactly?  I usually found 
out the guy's name first before I fell asleep. ;)


#163 of 170 by slynne on Thu Sep 12 20:41:27 2002:

Just because you know his name, it doesnt mean the guy's not strange 


#164 of 170 by lynne on Thu Sep 12 21:36:38 2002:

I've never woken up in a bed belonging to a person who wasn't strange. :)


#165 of 170 by clees on Fri Sep 13 06:15:40 2002:

I wake up in a strange man's bed every single day! Try to beat that, 
haha.


#166 of 170 by cmcgee on Fri Sep 13 07:00:24 2002:

Never sleep with someone crazier than you are.  That makes waking up
better, even if he or she is strange.


#167 of 170 by edina on Fri Sep 13 14:23:04 2002:

Oh, I don't know - waking up with a strange man in your bed has it's rewards
- if you do it right.


#168 of 170 by lynne on Fri Sep 13 14:50:09 2002:

<delayed smug glowy grin>


#169 of 170 by edina on Fri Sep 13 18:10:12 2002:

<hi fives lynne>


#170 of 170 by lumen on Sun Aug 7 12:33:47 2005:

resp:162 Wellbutrin is working okay for me, but it's pretty much the
only one I can take (SSRIs usually produce bad upswings)


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