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It's generally been applied to women who *surround themselves* with
gay men. The male equivalent is a "dyke daddy".
Oh. Of course.
Women who *chase* gay guys are typically called "nuns," if the aim is to sleep with said gay guys (they're trying to convert the gays, hence "nun.")
oh. Nuns. Hrm..never heard that term.
So then guys who "chase after" lesbians would be....priests?
<sputter> <lol>
No, no, priests chase after little boys ...
ooooohhhhh..I did not need to hear that..that brings an entirely different concept to mind (;
Mmmmmmyeah.
I don'think the term "fag hag" implies anything that the user of the world would not intend it to imply. For example, in Armisted Maupin (a prominant gay writer)'s classic novel, Tales of the City, the character uses the term to describe herself to her gay friend Mouse. Furthermore, several of my female friends have described themselves as "fag hags" and see nothing wrong with the idea. It happens by default and the group you hang around...nothing psycological
There's definitely a prejorative meaning, as well, that refers to a
woman that habitually falls in love with gay men. I'd say there's something
psychological to that meaning.
I always thought it meant she attracts gay men, not is attracted to them.
woman who loves and/or hangs around gay men shrinks love it; shit load of theories <shrug> i just use the term good naturedly w/ friends (comming from a dyke daddy)
<snickers then lol>
The interesting thing is that fag hags can be straight. I can't see a dyke daddy being straight; seeing as you are bi, Beebo, I figure they see you as safe.
It depends. If you're really hanging around with diesel dykes then
a certain amount of anti-male sentiment goes with the politics, but most
lesbians in the area are usually fairly open-minded about gender. I've been
called a dyke daddy before, and I'm not, in emotion or attraction, bisexual.
sure I['m safe, yeah safe, that's it, yeah... hey doesn't hurt, i take no offence to that title and have some realy good friends <shrug> hmm beebo out
My point was I figure lesbians avoid men that will hit on them or otherwise show natural attraction. I should have said, "I wonder if a dyke daddy can be straight?" I suppose a dyke daddy can be anyone who's sympathetic to sexual preference, and is not likely to hassle a gay woman in any way. Since I live out west in a non-urban area, I don't see very much of these comfortable relations. I could safely say that most all over Washington, folks aren't exactly uptight, but they aren't comfy, either. Capitol Hill in Seattle is the only obvious place I know where it's relatively safe. When I came out to my psychiatrist before I got married, he suggested a move to Seattle.
Question: If I am friends (just friends mind you) with a large number of gay men, does that make me a fag hag?
Yup.
Not in the derogatory sense though.
Kind of like being in your thirties in a group of people in their
twenties will make you the "old man" or "old woman" - but not necessarily
actually old.
I disagree. To be a "fag hag" in my mind, you need to seek out or gravitate towards gay men. If it just happens by coincidence that most of your friends are gay, the term doesn't apply. That's my interpretation, though.
Pretty odd coincidence even if you agree with the community's ten
percent figure (moreso if you agree with Kinsey's figures).
resp:45 That's a fair interpretation, Paul, and I think that's pretty accurate.
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