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I think Mary's "Whoosh" in #38 was about #36 going over everyone's head. I certainly sat up and paid attention when I read it. I agree about consorting with assholes; if they got less attention the world would be a better place and ultimately there would be less of them. The problem, of course, is that many of our choices are based on emotion and not on logic. That's the way humans often work, and any solutions will have to take that into account.
It isn't up to Aaron to "decide what's professional" ... nor is it up to me and you. That decision is made by professionals on the strength of the writer's sources, reputation, and professional standing. Whether it's fau=ir or not, someone with several advanced degrees in psychology has more professional standing in an argument about psychology than does a professional journalist who has spent a year or two researching a psychological issue. But the journalist has all the professional standing in a discussion about journalistic concerns. That's how it is.
Whoops, I meant #35, not #36, in #43.
Think back on some of the bigger mistakes you've made in your life. Where they the result of emotions run amok or more from inexperience or poor judgement?
The bigger mistakes I've made involved being very conflicted over what I wanted. THat is, wanting several things that were incompatible. My emotions don't run amok, no, but they do ultimately rule my decisions. That's the meaning of my being an 'F' rather than a 'T' (in Myers-Briggs terminology). Don't misunderstand me, Mary, I agree with you that everyone should take responsibility for their actions and inactions. I was adressing the problem of how to get people to make better decisions, and my point is that you can't discount the influence of emotions.
Re #44, I agree that's what aaron meant. I was going to add that Faludi is what they call a secondary source. If you're looking for Susan Faludi's opinions about the data, by all means read Faludi. But if you're looking for the data, you're better off looking up the primary sources (Faludi's bibliography, if she includes one, is a good place to start) and then go read them for yourself.
Faludi does have a bibliography and does cite all of her sources, many of whom were professionals. I'm not sure but I think her list of sources runs about 7 pages.
My worst decisions were basedon allowing my emotions to rule when I didn't have the experience and good judgement to know what the likely outcome would be of those decisions. I still allow my emotions to make my decisions for me ... I've always done better with gut instinct than with trying to think things out. But since my gut insticts are now informed with a certain amount of experience and the judgement that brings ... my decisions have gotten better. Make sense? *sigh* I didn't think so.
That totally makes sense! I am gearing up for the illustrious post-college job search (I graduate in May). I can't decide if I want to move away or no. I have lived in one place all my life, though I have traveled a lot. Part of me wants a change of scenery, new people, etc. The other part is afraid of homesickness, living alone, not making friends or disliking my job. And I am seeing how small the jobs are and am plain terrifies I wont' find one at all, at least not one that will let me live on my own without having to eat Beanie Weenies every night for years. The decision to move is an emotion-based one so far... if I feel restless I want to move. If I'm feeling comfy I don't want to. And I have found emotions can be very false. Sigh.
store-brand macaroni and cheese is also pretty cheap, as is ramen noodles.... er... as ARE ramen noodles
Mmmm, ramen noodles.
As I entered adolescence it began to matter to me that I had never jparticularly known "who I was", but the rest of the picture doesn't fit the females of my family. It's an impressionable time, but those things weren't impressed onus at home & I didn't find them attractive elsewhere. I would have liked to be thinner (like my big sister, who was smaller all around) but it didn't matter enough to starve myself. Maybe if we had been watching TV and movies and reading "adolescent" magazines, we would have become more typical.
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True, abchan. I swear I knew every calorie/fat content of everything in high school. I now have better, more imprtant things to think about.
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Wow, that must really be limiting to her. Is she young (1st job?). My gut feel would be to match each apology with something like "Please don't apologize so much. . . " or something like that. Even if it gets to be a burden to repeat.
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She sounds totally insecure. I have a friend like that who apologizes all the time too. It gets old, quick. Even if it's not her fault (whatever it is she is aplogizing for). When we went of any kind of trips in high school with groups, someone would always get in trouble/break something in the hotel... she of course never did these things, but would offer to take the blame. People take advantage of her selflessness a lot.
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Ohhh dear God. I reread some of my postings. My views haven't changed much, but... what alien entered my body to post such ranting? My bad! :)
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Thanks, Scott. I was cornfused.
Re resp:63 - Hm, I was looking forward to re-reading all the awful stuff you posted, but you seem to have erased it.... :)
'sokay, you can still read the awful stuff I posted, which sometimes quotes the awful stuff she posted. A nice dose of offal, either way.
::sigh:: i'm sure i was on some sort of medication. carry on.
Well, this was also three years ago. My views on the world have changed eight hundred zillion times in that span, so I assume yours have too.
At my age, three years is nothing. I'm sure that I still hold any incorrect views that I held three years ago.
All of the censored stuff is still readable. Simply !tail -250 /bbs/censored
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They haven't changed, as much as I've changed how I convey them. Though anyone who would make a point to uncover it all has too much time on their hands.
Views grow and develop over the years. As time goes by, the basics of values and views you got don0t seem to change much, but they do (to a certain extent, and for some people further than for others). The essence of these values and views will still be intact. At least, it works that way with my views.
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