Grex Cooking Conference

Item 247: Special Orders don't upset us....

Entered by furs on Wed Jun 20 01:12:00 2007:

When you are at a restuarant, do you special order your food?  
Do you think it's too much to ask?
If you do, how often do they get it right?
And what do you do if they get it wrong?
20 responses total.

#1 of 20 by slynne on Wed Jun 20 01:22:59 2007:

I really hate mayo so I try to special order things without it. Most of 
the time, they get it right but if they get it wrong, I just scrape it 
off. 



#2 of 20 by furs on Wed Jun 20 01:36:22 2007:

I special order all the time.  Most of the time they get it right and 
when they don't, I almost always just take care of it myself.

Lately they have gotten my order wrong almost every time.  It's weird, 
cause it's different places every time.

I don't like to send food back because I really don't want any 
extra "special sauce" when it comes back. ;)

But Friday I sent some salmon back, because it was almost not cooked 
at all (raw).  (and it's wasn't supposed to be like that either.) and 
I was afraid to eat it.


#3 of 20 by slynne on Wed Jun 20 01:43:59 2007:

Weird. 

FWIW, raw salmon is usually safer than raw beef or chicken or pork. But
I probably would have sent it back for some extra oven time too. 


#4 of 20 by samiam on Wed Jun 20 18:50:13 2007:

I'm like Jeanne in this. I special order lke crazy, but I'll generally 
eat whatever they put in front of me. I rarely send food back (cold 
rubbery eggs are one huge exception, and a charred steak when I ordered 
it medium rare would be another). 

Most places do OK with my special orders, though my order of "iced tea, 
lots of ice, no lemon" frequently translates to "iced tea, no ice, 
extra lemon." Servers seem to have a hard time wrapping themselves 
around the idea of someone who would rather have less beverage and it 
be very cold than to have more.


#5 of 20 by jadecat on Wed Jun 20 19:30:45 2007:

I don't tend to special order all that much- but when I do I expect it
to be done properly. I will send a steak back if it's not cooked enough
for me (I really don't like rare meat). I've been known to insist on a
totally different piece of meat (if they can't get it cooked properly
twice, I don't want it thrown back on the grill - give me a new one).
I've only had to do that once or twice though. :)


#6 of 20 by furs on Wed Jun 20 19:43:43 2007:

also, when I send stuff back, I try to be SUPER NICE, cause I don't 
want a lugey in it. 


#7 of 20 by jadecat on Wed Jun 20 20:07:37 2007:

resp:6 Oh yeah, definitely- very nice and polite about it. 


#8 of 20 by edina on Wed Jun 20 20:18:34 2007:

I don't special order very often.  And when I am being a bit pickier, 
I do try to mention that I tip well.


#9 of 20 by cmcgee on Wed Jun 20 20:52:28 2007:

I often ask the waitperson if there are things the cook on duty does
especially well.  Sometimes I get offered off-menu items.  

I do put in special requests from time to time, but seldom send them back if
they aren't right.  I've been in too many kitchens where exceptions are just
too easy to forget.  

I do try to be clear about dressing an item or my plate.  No mayonnaise is
usually the waitperson, not the cook's problem.  

The other thing I do before I complain is ask the person I'm dining with if
I was clear.  Sometimes I'm the only one who understood what I was getting
at. *grin*


#10 of 20 by jadecat on Wed Jun 20 21:01:49 2007:

resp:9 *laughs* Yeah, I usually do that last bit too. Especially if it's
a change I usually ask for, sometimes I get so used to asking for it
that I forget and think I made a special request when I didn't. 


#11 of 20 by samiam on Wed Jun 20 22:41:06 2007:

Re #6: So true! I *do* tip very well, so I don't feel too bad about 
special requests, as a rule. Besides, if there is a problem with food 
preparation, it is seldom the fault of the server.


#12 of 20 by furs on Thu Jun 21 00:49:55 2007:

yep, I tip well as well.


#13 of 20 by denise on Thu Jun 21 23:50:18 2007:

I have no qualms for asking for modifications in something that I'm 
ordering, especially if whatever it is hasn't be 'pre-made' [like for 
asking no-mushrooms or other such thing that I don't like or can't 
eat]. If the item HAS been pre-made, if its a big deal, and/or if they 
can't fix it the way I want or need it to be, I'll order something 
different that I *can* eat.  Especially since we're usually paying more 
for eating out, I'd like to get something that I want and enjoy eating. 
If I know ahead of time that I won't find much that I'll be able to eat 
while dining out [or going to someone's place for a meal], I'll eat 
something before I go [and when I get home if I'm hungry].  I'm 
somewhat of a 'selective' [picky] eater, so I do what I need to do. I 
enjoy eating too much NOT to get and enjoy what I do want... :-)


#14 of 20 by edina on Fri Jun 22 17:00:45 2007:

I thought of this item last night when I was watching "Waiting", when 
Ryan Reynolds tells Sam from "Freaks and Geeks" (I can't remember the 
actor's name - I just know that's who he was there) that a woman (who 
was *awful* - very rude to the point of belligerance) sent back her 
steak:  "She just broke the first rule:  don't fuck with the people 
who handle your food."



#15 of 20 by furs on Fri Jun 22 20:56:07 2007:

that movie is one of the reasons I'm always nice. :)


#16 of 20 by edina on Fri Jun 22 21:01:51 2007:

Having worked in restaurants is why I'm always nice...because I know 
that "Shenanigans" isn't too far off the mark sometimes.


#17 of 20 by slynne on Sat Jun 23 01:17:36 2007:

When I was a food service worker, I never did anything bad to anyone's
food nor did I ever see anyone else do anything to a customer's food.
Sometimes we talked about how we *wished* we had though ;). What I did
to punish bad customers when I was a waitress was to simply ignore them
as much as possible and to give them the absolute minimum about of
service as  I could get away with. I was always way to busy to waste my
time on that sort of person. 

When I worked fast food, I was a teenager so I would just give them the
same look I would give my mother when she chewed me out. It was that
look that all teenagers seem to know instinctively which communicates:
"yeah...whatever" and usually comes with an eye roll or two. It always
amazed me the contempt with which some people treat fast food workers. I
mean it wasnt uncommon for people to be seriously verbally abusive about
really weird things. 


#18 of 20 by furs on Sat Jun 23 10:32:45 2007:

I've always been pretty nice actually, but that movie just confirmed it.
 I never worked at a regular restaurant, but I did work fast food.  We
never did anything gross except I did see things dropped on the floor be
picked up and served before, but I never did that. :)


#19 of 20 by samiam on Sun Jun 24 18:52:14 2007:

The five second rule... :)

I've worked at many, many restaurants, and I've never seen (or heard 
of) anyone actually dong something bad to a customer's food. Like 
slynne, we definitely talked about what we *wanted* to do, but actually 
doing it would be just too nasty. Not to mention the embarrassment of 
having to tell your family just why you lost your job. That's never a 
good thing.


#20 of 20 by cmcgee on Sun Jun 24 20:22:56 2007:

I had to deal with that kind of allegation once.  A spiteful co-worker told
me that one of the women had spit in the food of a customer she had an ongoing
boyfriend feud with. 

Fortunately, it was a small town, and I eventually got the truth from a
neutral observer (the cook in the kitchen at the time the alleged incident
took place).  

But what frightened me most was even the *rumor* that that could have
happened.  It's easy for people to decide not to come to your place based on
the slightest possibility that could have happened.  (To say nothing of the
taking-sides in the boyfriend feud).  


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