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Item 1188: WANTED: incense

Entered by keesan on Fri Jan 19 03:45:04 2007:

117 new of 119 responses total.


#3 of 119 by mary on Fri Jan 19 13:06:31 2007:

I have some incense for you, Sindi.  I'll put it in an envelope 
and leave it on your porch sometime today.


#4 of 119 by slynne on Fri Jan 19 15:04:00 2007:

Doesnt incense create the same kind of health problems as second hand 
cigarette smoke? 


#5 of 119 by rcurl on Fri Jan 19 18:07:00 2007:

Incense creates particulate matter, and could even be an allergen. I think
*all* smoke is unhealthy. 

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Incense

"Recently research was carried out in Taiwan that linked the burning of
incense sticks to the release of minimal amounts of carcinogens by measuring
the levels of Polycyclic aromatic hydrocarbons within Buddist temples. Sitting
in a smokey room, all day, every day may cause cancer after many years."

What exactly is the object of smelling up your place, Sindi? To get back at
the neighbor with her smoking? I'd instead start with the department of public
health since it is rental property, and there is a problem if you can detect
a neighbor smoking. 


#6 of 119 by slynne on Sat Jan 20 00:33:49 2007:

I did a quick search of the Ann Arbor Housing Code and I dont believe 
that having cigarette smoke go from one apartment to another is in 
voilation of that code. 



#7 of 119 by keesan on Sat Jan 20 01:59:51 2007:

The police said there is no law against smoke or smells going between
apartments.  So the only way to prevent it is for neighbors to cooperate, or
block wherever it is getting through.  We have put many hours into trying to
block it.  It is reduced but still enough to make me feel sick for several
days whenever I spend a few hours there.  The upstairs neighbor claims to be
a respiratory therapist/technician with allergies.  The police also did not
seem concerned about doors slamming.  The front doors slam if people go
through them from the front hallway without holding them as they close.  I
have asked Jim to put a door closer on the door that we put onto my living
room.  It might help keep the smoke level down in the living room, where I
have a window open, since the smoke appears to be coming up the basement
stairs and maybe also directly into the kitchen.  We could also put a door
closer on the basement door.  I cannot seal it off because my bathroom is in
the basement, which is why there is this problem in the first place.  The
leaky ductwork from upstairs runs through my apartment (in the basement). 
We sealed off the front door already (to the smoky hall).  
Thanks for the incense, Mary.  The porch of the new house?  (We are at Jim's
for a few days).  Thanks for the curry suggestion slynne.  I could add some
extra chili peppers to Jim's portion, since he likes chili peppers.  
He says he also likes garlic, which I don't usually cook.  And I like onions
and cabbage fried together, maybe with curry powder.  

Having the fan blow into the living room helped for a while until the car
fumes started coming in.  The front yard is used for parking.  Having them
blow out pulled the strong ashtray smell into the living room.  I may have
to open a third window  and blow into the living room right next to my desk
if the door closer does not help.  If it does work, I can leave the kitchen
door wide open and the basement door (to the kitchen) wide open and run the
bathroom exhaust fan.

My neighbor got very upset at a very small amount of noise when we were
moving a small wooden strip on the front doorframe to adjust the
weatherstripping, at 3 pm.  If she complains about slamming doors, I can
complain about slamming doors at all hours and explain why I need a door
closer to keep the smoke out of my living room.  

I don't know how much incense I would need to burn to equal the amount of
carcinogens produced by two packs of cigarettes a day.  Kiwanis probably has
more if I need it.  I have occasionally burnt onions by accident.

We might keep trying to plug holes in the heating system by running a fan in
the kitchen door blowing out, while walking around downstairs with a lit
candle.  


#8 of 119 by rcurl on Sat Jan 20 07:50:55 2007:

You could adopt a skunk....

Well, the police may say there is no law, and the Code may say there is no
law, but I still recommend discussing this with the Dept. of Public Health.
They may have ideas for ways to approach the problem that have not yet been
considered.


#9 of 119 by keesan on Sat Jan 20 16:08:13 2007:

Someone suggested discussing this with the neighbor's therapist but that would
require cooperation, which I have never had from the neighbor.  We are waiting
a few days to see whether it helped for the police to talk to the neighbor
about not smoking in the apartment.  He said she was addicted and could not
be expected to quit.  I said she had quit for a few months and just started
again recently, at which point he said he would talk to her.  I did not talk
to him again after this.  He also said there was no city law against smells
between apartments.  Complaining to the city might just get both apartments
closed.

There is a $650/month including heat apartment for rent not far from where
she works (less than a mile, free U of M bus).  The landlord has not been home
for a couple of days.  I want him to suggest this to her, and also pass along
my offer of me paying $50/month towards her rent there from whenever she moves
until the end of this year.  It would probably be cheaper than she pays now,
considering she is heating to about 80 without storm windows, on the top floor
with 3.5" of insulation above and none in the walls.  My place is still about
55-60 with two windows open, and drops to no less than 48 in the kitchen with
the door open wide for a few hours.  

The side apartment here will probably also be opening in the next month or
two and is a large efficiency, probably a bit cheaper.  Not many windows, but
she sleeps days anyway and ran an air conditioner last summer instead of
opening up.  


#10 of 119 by rcurl on Sat Jan 20 19:26:16 2007:

"might just get both apartments closed" - that would solve the problem, 
wouldn't it?

Asking the Dept. of Public Health would  probably reveal that they have no 
jurisdiction on this, but it would still be informative to hear what they 
have to say.

Other building of public accomodation are being affected by smoking 
restrictions. Private rentals are also considered in some regards as 
"public" as they rent to the public, and are already subject to many 
codes. I think it would be worth it to you to get more information.


#11 of 119 by keesan on Sat Jan 20 19:51:23 2007:

The lease did not forbid smoking indoors.  I was lucky that the last two
upstairs smokers lived with nonsmokers and went out on the balcony to smoke.
She does not want to get cold.  So I have two windows and a door open instead.
Getting both apartments closed would not solve my problem of a place to live.
We are going to keep working on the physical problem, starting with
weatherstripping two doors and maybe then running the bathroom exhaust fan
continuously, leaving the kitchen door open when I am there, and putting a
door closer on the door between kitchen and living room.  Also spending more
time in the basement with a lit candle and a fan upstairs blowing out, which
pulls the smell upstairs immediately.  That might make it easier to find more
leaks.  The front hall is already sealed off from my place, that worked.
Jim also adjusted the door from the back basement to my basement to close
tightly.  And of course we put duct tape over all visible cracks, or drywall
compound in the larger holes, in ducts and wall, and plastic over all my heat
vents.  
I am probably the only one in Ann Arbor running a window fan this month.
More on Monday.  I need another couple days to recover from the smoke
poisoning.  


#12 of 119 by keesan on Sat Jan 20 22:47:35 2007:

I talked to the landlord, who offered to pay for any door closing hinges, and
does not know why the inspector insisted on one on the laundry area door which
she also insisted on.  I keep it propped open.   He also said he would not
rent to any other smokers upstairs while I lived there, and did not know he
was renting to someone who was going to smoke this time, and that she had
talked about moving in September but did not have the security deposit.  I
said if we could not fix or wall off the smoke problem I would pay for her
to move, a month's rent.  The people next door in the efficiency are hoping
to find a 2-bedroom to take care of their son who will be released from
long-term care (he was hit by a car) and I will tell them about the nice 2-BR
down the street, if they can handle being third floor.  The landlord wondered
how I would use the bathroom if I sealed off the basement door.  


#13 of 119 by glenda on Sun Jan 21 07:01:42 2007:

If you devoted the time you have spent working on this problem working on the
new house instead, you might get it finished enough to move into and the
problem would be solved.  You said that you couldn't move into the new place
because there wasn't any plumbing.  Fully plumbing a house shouldn't take more
than a day or two, especially if the wall covering isn't up yet.


#14 of 119 by mary on Sun Jan 21 11:27:16 2007:

I suspect the taxes on the "work in progess" house are pretty low
right now.  At what point would that change?
It's possible Sindi can't afford to finish the house.


#15 of 119 by keesan on Sun Jan 21 15:56:35 2007:

Glenda, have you ever designed and installed plumbing in a new house?  The
plumbing also has to go in after the heating, and the heating is going in the
floor, and the floor goes in last, after the ventilation and wiring and
wallboard and windows (we have only storm windows in now) and painting and
doors and probably a few other things.  We might be able to put in temporary
wired-in heat and plumbing before the floors but there is a lot more to do
first.  Most of our time is spent doing research and design.  This month we
are insulating the cellar ceiling under the porch and we need to paint a
board.  There is a well ventilated furnace room under my apartment that can
be used to paint so I will get that much use out of my apartment.

The taxes were $1400/year and I forget what they went up to this year (with
inflation).  They will be about $4000 when the house is done plus whatever
percentage the average house price goes up between now and then, on the part
that is not done yet.  Minus $1200 back from MI, which has not gone up in 25
years despite everything else at least doubling.  Still a bit cheaper than
rent, even if you add water and heat costs.

We have most of the materials, except for heating system, concrete for the
floors, wallboard, and interior windows, and glass for the front porches.
All of this together might be as much as I pay for two CT scans.  I will be
done with CT scans in winter of 2009 and hope to have much of the house done
by then too or at least 250 square feet with plumbing.

Off to paint a board and maybe weatherstrip my apartment doors.


#16 of 119 by slynne on Sun Jan 21 16:40:04 2007:

Ah, so you have at least another couple of years at the apartment.
Moving might be an option for you but maybe this woman will choose to
move first if you are lucky. 


#17 of 119 by keesan on Sun Jan 21 17:06:12 2007:

The landlord says she will be out by September and probably this spring.
He persuaded one family to move (they had two adults and two kids in a small
1BR, and two cars in the driveway by driving them past each other through my
yard at all hours) by raising the rent.  We won't be working on the house from
early Feb to late March so I don't need to cook for us at my place (which is
a block away) and after that it won't be so bad to have all the windows open
until July, when the furnace will go off.  It is running when it is 75 out.

First we will try the weatherstripping and door closers.  The police told me
it is not unreasonable to be nailing things at 3 pm, which she complained of
last time we weatherstripped the front door.   And that there is no law
against letting doors slam, like she does at all hours going in and out.  The
door closers will help keep smoke from going between rooms.  The
weatherstripping will also help us determine if the smoke is only coming from
the basement, in which case we can seal off the basement door and use a bucket
instead of the bathroom for a few months.  

I got a large bag of weatherstripping (paste-on foam) from freecycle.
We can burn incense in the cellar and test whether the door is airtight.
Or weatherstrip before painting a board down there today.  There is no city
law against painting during the winter, which my landlord did one February
in the hallway so I had to leave my window open for a month.


#18 of 119 by denise on Sun Jan 21 22:09:42 2007:

Any chance of having friends help with the installation of any/all of the
stuff needed in the new house with Jom being the contractor?  Years and years
ago, my ex and I built our own house from ground up with the help of family
and friends [we did contract out a couple things-like putting in the
foundation of the house and the installation of the bricks in front of the
house. I think we may have contracted out the siding as well, but I don't
remember for sure.]  We started the house in the spring, worked on it primarly
in the evenings and weekends, and was able to move in before Christmas and
did a bit of finishing afterwards-basic stuff like the carpeting, linoleum,
and the kitchen countertop and sink.  We saved LOTS of money by doing this
mostly ourselves/family/friends and was able to customize the floor plans and
such to make the house even nicer.


#19 of 119 by keesan on Sun Jan 21 23:29:09 2007:

Lots of friends have offered to help and sometimes we use help, but right now
there is nothing for even me to do, and when there is, it is mostly research.
We spent the day discovering that two microwave ovens, a stereo system, and
a tape deck here no longer work, and a serial mouse was confusing the computer
so the modem was not working, then we heated up leftovers and picnicked at
40 degrees.   My hands are too cold to type now so bye.  


#20 of 119 by glenda on Mon Jan 22 04:40:06 2007:

I helped build my first house before I was 14.  My dad was a carpenter by
trade.  Plumbing usually goes in before the walls are closed in, much easier
to put pipe in if you don't have to thread it through the walls.  In fact,
when we had the plumbing quoted out here, the plumber stated right up front
that the quote did not include the taking down the plaster to gain access to
the pipes, we had to either do it ourselves or have another contractor do it.
Of course this may be a special situation since we want the waste pipe from
the toilet upstairs moved over a foot or so to allow room for a washer/dryer
unit in the bath.


#21 of 119 by keesan on Mon Jan 22 06:58:13 2007:

Our plumbing is all (with one exception) going into the interior walls, which
are completely open.  In Austria someone showed me how he was putting plumbing
in the concrete block walls (with a chisel).  

Shouldn't Cross be asking what plumbing has to do with incense?


#22 of 119 by denise on Mon Jan 22 13:44:33 2007:

We put the plumbing in first, too. Less work and more cost-effective to do
it that way.  


#23 of 119 by keesan on Mon Jan 22 16:43:02 2007:

We will be running most of the electrical wiring in surface conduit or
wiremold, after the wallboard.  We have temporary fluorescent shop lights in
now, very handy.  Most of the comforts of home.  The toilet gets flushed with
rain water and we bring over bottles of drinking water and try to wash dishes
with them.  I froze yesterday, a hot bath did not thaw me, and I am spending
the day trying to get warm (mostly in bed) while Jim weatherstrips the first
door, which might contain the smoke (in the basement) or at least will let
us know if it is coming from both sides of that door.  Weatherstripping the
door to the front hall eliminated half the problem, last summer.  Three more
doors to weatherstrip after that, if necessary.  I could seal off the laundry
room (and wash in the kitchen sink?), which is where the return air passes
through a channel formed by nailing a sheet of metal over the joists, but then
there is a risk of the pipes there freezing.  No basement wall insulation 
The ductwork there is an absolute mess, some of it leftover from before it
was split into apartments and not used.  

If I have to seal off the entire basement area, we would have to use a bucket
as a toilet.  I doubt privies are legal in the city.  A usable kitchen would
be nice.  The smoke may be coming in through holes in the floor (where the
gas piping comes in for the stove, in two different places). 


#24 of 119 by keesan on Wed Jan 24 01:45:26 2007:

Today Jim packed rope caulk around the door to the front hall (which really
stunk the last time I was in last summer or spring) and continued puttying
the deep gouges in the door from kitchen to basement (last tenant had an
unruly dog), and put a lot more drywall compound on three larger cracks in
the supply air ducts in the basement, and using a candle discovered that one
of the four supply air ducts to the upstairs was spewing out large amounts
of hot air because the two pieces had come apart.  This might explain why my
apartment was 10 degrees warmer than last winter (before I opened the windows
and doors, anyway).  He wired the pieces together and stuffed the cracks with
drywall compound.  I have been at his house since Thursday, using online
dictionaries for my translation work.  There are excellent ones for Slovak
and Czech.  The stinkiest part of my apartment was over the part of the
basement where the supply air ducts go through (kitchen and top of the
basement stairs).  We could also seal the holes in my kitchen floor where the
gas pipes go through in two places.  Former owners seem to have used gas
stoves in two places and an electric stove in one of them.  There are also
holes where the upstairs plumbing goes through my bedroom (not in the wall)
but we caulked around the boards covering the plumbing.  

Maybe with 33% more heat (and smoke) going upstairs, the furnace will not be
running 90% of the time.  It has very worn and very noisy bearings and sounds
like a truck going right under my desk.  

Jim went back to work on rewiring the new cellar again.


#25 of 119 by keesan on Wed Jan 24 04:20:02 2007:

After fixing three holes and a separated duct, Jim came back and still smelled
smoke at the top of the basement stairs.  Tomorrow he will keep working on
that door (filling the dog gouges and then weatherstripping it with the tough
rubber tubular stuff in a metal edge that you staple or nail on).  The
landlord left a message on the phone there which Jim picked up asking him not
to work on the problem tomorrow because the upstairs neighbor was very nervous
and might have a breakdown.  The police said you could work on apartments
between 7 am and 8 pm.  Jim swims until 8:30 am.  

We have some new ideas.  I have offered the landlord $500 if she leaves and
it will have to be by Feb 1.  There is a place closer to where she works, top
floor, for probably less than she pays now.  I would be willing to pay
$100/month for using the place as a storage locker until it is habitable
again, without working on the smoke problem.  Electric heat upstairs would
solve the problem.  The landlord might lose less money paying for that than
renting me a storage locker or having the place empty.  The neighbor next door
in the efficiency may be moving soon and her place is cheaper and relatively
isolated (nobody upstairs, some stairwell noise if the next upstairs neighbor
is as loud going in and out).  

In the meantime Jim will continue weatherstripping.  


#26 of 119 by rcurl on Wed Jan 24 05:51:42 2007:

It occurs to me that you might try overpressuring your apartment, so air
cannot leak into it from areas with smoke. You could do this with a small fan
in a duct set in a window that opens to an area of "clean" air. That would
also partly solve the overheating you experience (in winter).

I forget - is your unit heated by a common forced-air system? If so, my idea
would not keep out fumes picked up from return air vents in other apartments.


#27 of 119 by keesan on Wed Jan 24 07:53:28 2007:

I tried blowing air in with a large fan (from the porch) and it blew in car
fumes, and even when it was working there was still enough smoke to make me
sick for a week afterwards.  It still hurts to breathe today.  The two
apartments have 'separate' heating systems but her ductwork goes through  my
apartment and is extremely leaky.  I have not been heating.  I wore three
pairs of heavy wool socks, three wool caps, warm sweater, down vest and down
jacket for the few hours I was there Thursday.  Jim pointed out that with her
duct put back together the basement will not be as warm and therefore my
apartment will not be as warm either, but a lot of heat just comes through
from the ducts to the wall, which radiates.  

Tomorrow he will be looking for more holes in the ductwork to plug, and also
weatherstripping the door at the top of the basement steps.  Maybe the
landlord will give me a key to the house next door that he is fixing up to
sell so I can use the bathroom there, since mine is in the basement.  Or I
can use a bucket and empty it somewhere.  The ground is probably not diggable.

The furnace fan, despite having very worn bearings, is still rather strong
compared to a small window fan, and if I put a very powerful window fan
blowing in, it would get very cold in there and freezet he plumbing as well
as me.  It might work in May and June.  She heats when it is 75 out but the
furnace should be off July and August.  

Thanks for the idea.  We tried a lot of things already.  And we are not going
to stop working on it for a day to be considerate of someone extremely
inconsiderate.   I am paying rent and should be able to use the place and it
is legal to work on it during normal working hours.


#28 of 119 by slynne on Wed Jan 24 18:35:41 2007:

but if she has a breakdown, she might *have* to move. 


#29 of 119 by rcurl on Wed Jan 24 19:29:45 2007:

"blowing air in with a large fan (from the porch)" is not the same as what 
I suggested. That just circulates air at the point you blow; it does not 
overpressure the interior. To do the latter you have to have a fan that 
completely fills the cross section of the duct (or a squirrel-age blower), 
and seal other gaps (as you are doing). Of course, you would have to 
install such a blower where it brings in clean air, if that is possible.

The furnace blower doesn't matter as it just circulates air.


#30 of 119 by keesan on Wed Jan 24 20:05:25 2007:

The fan in the window was overpressuring the interior, not circulating air.
It was bringing outside air in.  

Jim tells me after a day's work yesterday he smelled smoke again in the
evening.  

Today I phoned the landlord who is 'pretty certain' the neighbor will be out
by May 1.  He says she spent two days in the hospital with high blood pressure.
(Her third time in the hospital in a year, the other two supposedly for drug
interactions).  And has not smoked since Thursday.  And has only smoked when
I am not there.  And only smoked 1/2 a cigarette.  And would not smoke in the
apartment (she told him probably Friday, he did not recall).  And would give
me her sleeping schedule so I could be quiet then.

I pointed out that if there were still smoke in the apartment we would have
to continue working on the problem, and close doors firmly and maybe with an
automatic door closer.  THe landlord left us one (I forgot to ask where). 
The one to the upstairs apt makes a great deal of noise whenever she goes
through the door.  And maybe use a bucket instead of the bathroom if it came
to sealing off the basement door with rope caulk like we did the front hall.
The landlord grew up without plumbing so we talked of that for a while. The
ground is too frozen to dig a privy right now.  

If the neighbor in #3 moves, the upstairs neighbor, he thinks, would be
willing to move to that efficiency apt with nobody upstairs or downstairs and
a separate air supply.  She could ask people not to let door closers slam from
7 am to 7 pm.  

Jim will continue working on the weatherstripping and he promised not to
'hammer' this afternoon.  He will be using a staple gun.  

There are no rules against talking loudly in your own apartment.  I can hear
and understand upstairs phone conversations (this end) sometimes.  Jim and
I have been talking in the kitchen not the living room until now.  He listens
to talk shows.  He said if you were not supposed to make noises that you can
hear outside your own apartment, she should not be using her toilet,
especially from 11 pm to 7 am when people might be sleeping.

I know this is getting ridiculous.  Laws were only meant to be invoked when
people refuse to cooperate.


#31 of 119 by mary on Thu Jan 25 13:37:04 2007:

If there is a heaven, your landlord will be there, eventually.

I'd kick everybody out and start fresh. ;-)


#32 of 119 by keesan on Thu Jan 25 16:21:54 2007:

Jim said he did not smell smoke there yesterday.  I will go check when I stop
feeling sick.  I froze for a few days in the apartment with the windows and
door open, and then on Sunday at 40 degrees at the building site, and still
have swollen glands.  Jim will continue working on the door to the basement
(with a belt sander after he puts more drywall compound or wood putty in the
gouges) but he thinks basement smoke would still come upstairs into the
kitchen around the plumbing and gas pipe holes, which he also needs to plug.
There is plumbing going through the bedroom (to the upstairs kitchen above
it) but we already caulked the boards covering it.  At worst, I might be able
to tightly weatherstrip from living room to kitchen and hold my breath going
through the kitchen to the living room (I have to use the kitchen door since
the front door goes through a smoked hallway).  The side apartment may be
vacant in a couple of months.  Ideal place for a smoker who sleeps days.  It
used to be a local food store and has several times as many fuses as the rest
of the house, labelled meat freezer, etc.


#33 of 119 by cmcgee on Fri Jan 26 02:15:16 2007:

As far as I know, there are no laws or regulations that forbid smoking in your
own apartment. As long as she's not breaking any laws or regulations, why
should she be forced to move?


#34 of 119 by keesan on Fri Jan 26 03:38:40 2007:

There are no laws against working on your apartment between 7 am and 8 pm.
Why should I be forced to move?  The landlord said he would not have rented
to her if he knew she would smoke in that apartment.  He does not have a
written lease.  Many property owners forbid smoking and/or pets.  I don't know
of any that forbid listening to the radio during the daytime - why should I
have to be super-quiet just because someone on the other side of a thin
ceiling wants to sleep then?


#35 of 119 by cmcgee on Fri Jan 26 13:19:13 2007:

I'm not suggesting that either of you move.  I'm suggesting that since you
both have serious need for extremely low rent, poorly maintained housing, that
you accept that reality, rather than trying to manipulate your landlord and
her into letting you be the one who stays.  


#36 of 119 by tod on Fri Jan 26 14:44:14 2007:

If Cindy can provide a doctor's note stating she has special respiratory
considerations then he's on the hook for whatever smoke seeps into her
apartment.


#37 of 119 by keesan on Fri Jan 26 19:32:13 2007:

I cannot accept smoke in my apartment and still live there so Jim will
continue to work on the problem if the smoke continues.  If the neighbor wants
to cooperate so will I.  I was very quiet for a whole year, using headphones
to listen to music, not playing piano unless I heard her walking around, not
talking loudly, etc.  I can do it again.  Jim did not smell smoke there
yesterday so he did not work on the place yesterday.  


#38 of 119 by tod on Fri Jan 26 21:14:06 2007:

I'd be afraid of the lady trying to gas stove herself to death cuz that also
could get you too.


#39 of 119 by keesan on Fri Jan 26 21:20:15 2007:

You are being plain silly, Todd.


#40 of 119 by tod on Fri Jan 26 23:47:35 2007:

True ;)


#41 of 119 by gull on Sat Jan 27 22:10:41 2007:

Re resp:23: If the problem is holes for piping and the like, look for
something called "Great Stuff" at hardware stores.  It comes in a red
aerosol can.  It's a foam that you spray in place that expands and
hardens to form an airtight, styrofoam-like seal.

Wear old clothes while using it.  It's the stickiest stuff I've ever
seen and it ruins clothing on contact.


#42 of 119 by rcurl on Sat Jan 27 23:14:18 2007:

Otherwise known as urethane foam. I used it to fill from the inside the 
rusting wheel wells on a car I had. It held all the pieces together as 
well as keeping dust and water out of the interior.


#43 of 119 by keesan on Sat Jan 27 23:51:53 2007:

Jim has cans of it but he would go through them fast so he is using up old
drywall compound.  He also uses it in wheel wells then paints something black
over the foam for protection.

He went back to my apartment after taking off from 2 to 6 when the landlord
called and asked him to be quiet after 2 pm today and tomorrow.  The landloard
told Jim the neighbor would only smoke when I was not there (which could be
fixed by having her think I am there all the time, of course).  Jim explained
(as I did a few days ago) that smoke stays around afterwards and this is not
an acceptable solution, and he would be quiet just these two days for the last
time, while waiting for the landlord to tell us she would not smoke in the
apartment.  Otherwise we use my place normally, which includes working on the
smoke problem between 7 am and 8 pm, listening to the radio at normal volume
despite the thin cracked ceiling and leaky ductwork, etc.  

I am phoning often to check whether I have messages on the answering machine.
I could hear the upstairs answering machine when people left messages and
understand what they were saying.  

Jim managed to burn the beets in the microwave oven so now we have the doors
open and the fan running here.  (I have the bedroom door closed).  


#44 of 119 by keesan on Mon Jan 29 06:05:46 2007:

Jim promised the landlord not to work on the weatherstripping, in fact he
promised not to even be in my apartment, Sat and Sunday (today) from 2 to 6
pm.  So he went around 7 am and at about 10 am there was some pounding on the
front door from the hallway and it was so hard that the caulking got knocked
out, and then he heard noises in the kitchen, someone walking around and
looked for some weapon like a hammer or something to defend himself and went
to see what was going on and whoever it was had left and slammed the door.

He said the doorbell also rang but since he does not live there he did not
answer it, also he does not answer the phone, just lets it take messages for
me and it rang but nobody left a message.  

He was rather upset, so phoned me and we discussed it and at 2:00 he left and
came back and phoned my landlord who wondered why we could not just discuss
matters with the neighbor and he explained again that she only knows how to
scream abuse.  

There followed a long discussion about how for a year I have been unable to
use the apartment normally because of her sleeping hours, and how we can hear
everything she does upstairs because the walls and ceiling are thin, including
her phone conversations and what she does in the bathroom and bedroom.  And
that I have been super considerate of her sleeping hours but she won't let
us know what her schedule is and if she does it changes.  For instance she
sleeps 8:30 to 12:30 and 4:30 to 6:30 and a few months ago when she refused
to cooperate in solving the smoke problem the landlord weatherstripped her
door to the front hall, without fixing the problem, so we waited until 3pm
when she had been tromping around for an hour, to weatherstrip my door  She
phoned and told Jim she was sleeping.  (I could not phone to find out because
she got mad once when she forgot to unplug the phone).  He said he would be
done in five minutes.  Then she called the police.   Etc.

Jim says the landlord is starting to understand that the neighbor is the
problem, and this house is not designed for people who sleep days.  Much less
to share between smokers and non-smokers.  And that I am tired of having to
be super quiet every day during normal waking hours, without even getting any
consideration in exchange such as her being quiet at night or not slamming
doors at 2 am.

The landlord said his lawyer said he could not change the lease to
non-smoking.  Jim said he could give her a new lease since it is
month-to-month and other landlords have no smoking no pets leases, especially
where air is shared between apartments.  I offered to be super quiet again
on her schedule if she were on a no-smoking lease and followed it.

Jim said he said she said she had gone outside to smoke.  She has said this
before, which could be true, but before she also smoked inside.  

Better than a soap opera unless you have to deal with it yourself.  I have
not been back there since two Thursdays ago.  Jim fetches my mail.  I use
online dictionaries to work instead of my own.  

It just might be illegal to try to pound your neighbor's door open and then
walk through their other door without permission.  Probably more so than
vacuuming or having the phone ring at 10 am.  ANd I know it is legal to
weatherstrip an apartment between 7 am and 8 pm.


#45 of 119 by tod on Mon Jan 29 06:18:58 2007:

Your neighbor sounds like a mental case.  She is also unreasonable to think
anyone should be super-quiet during daylight.  I used to work 1:30am to 8:30am
when I delivered bagels for Bagel Factory.  When I slept during the day, I
would turn on a fan for white noise and hang quilts on the walls for sound
insulating.  I guess as a smoker, maybe you'll get lucky and she'll smoke in
bed, fall asleep, and cook like a chicken just long enough before the fire
dept arrives to save the rest of the house.


#46 of 119 by keesan on Mon Jan 29 07:00:59 2007:

Quite seriously, she probably does have mental problems, considering when she
screams at us it is often about 'mental health', therapists, and the names
of specific drugs.  

I don't really want to have all my things smoked.  Or smell burning chicken,
as a vegetarian.  

Last time I attempted to be polite on the phone the message was 'get some
mental health' so I stopped answering it.  

Tuesday we will probably go check for smoke.  I have enough stress to deal
with Monday (which is today already).  Jim has weatherstripped another door.
He said he smelled smoke in the furnace room but it might have been Friday.
He can check there first.  ANd maybe weatherstrip that door too, as well as
the door from the back basement to my basement area.  He stuffed drywall
compound in the holes in my kitchen and bedroom floors around the plumbing
and gas pipes and sealed all around all the heating vents and was going to
pry off the baseboard quarter round and seal behind it.  But her return air
ducts run through my part of the basement and we can't seal my place off from
them and still use the bathroom (in the basement).  He might weatherstrip that
door anyway and give up the bathroom.  

This is why his kitchen faucet has continued to drip. 


#47 of 119 by tod on Mon Jan 29 14:31:34 2007:

Too bad Jim can't repair a smoke eater/ionizer for the lady so she can kill
herself without the extended stink.


#48 of 119 by keesan on Tue Jan 30 03:16:24 2007:

Jim is going to assume the smoke problem is taken care of and work on security
measures now.  I phoned the police and asked some questions about that.  It
is okay to leave lights and radios on timers, as long as the radios are not
loud between 10 pm and 7 am.  This will make the place seem occupied.  The
shades will be kept down.  

The neighbor told me last year not to leave notes on her door (it was
unfriendly?) and not to phone her (she might forget to unplug the phone when
she was sleeping).  I will ask the landlord (or maybe the police) to let her
know that I do not want her attempting to talk to me, phoning me or my
answering machine (she has been abusive to both), or banging on my doors or
windows, or ringing my doorbell, which I will consider harassment and report
to the police.

It is not legal to try to pound down someone's door, or to walk through
someone's door into their apartment uninvited, and we are considering filing
a report on that.   

Jim says the neighbor has succeeded in getting me out of my apartment but now
she has him in it instead and he is going to make normal use of it. Also do
the work on it that the landlord approved of, and which he was doing at the
time the landlord said was okay instead of the time convenient for him.  Which
times were all legal (between 7 am and 8 pm).  


#49 of 119 by keesan on Tue Jan 30 17:05:10 2007:

Jim reports smelling smoke at the top of the basement stairs (which lead from
my bathroom to my kitchen) but not in my kitchen, and hypothesizes that the
ductwork in that wall (which was added in the 50s, both wall and ductwork)
is not sealed.  The wall itself is quite warm all the time from escaping heat.
There is no way to fix that problem other than removing the drywall to get
at the ductwork.  The only solution would be to tape the door shut and not
use the bathroom.

He also reports that he talked with the landlord, who asked him not to work
on the apartment Wed and Thurs during hours when the neighbor was sleeping
(which Jim is waiting to hear back about - the landlord said she did not
answer the phone when he called, about 5 min before Jim heard her go down the
stairs and out the door).  Jim is willing not to be there those two days at
whatever times the landlord specifies.  The landlord also says the neighbor
will be moving in a couple of days.  No more details.

Jim will ask the landlord, when he hears about hours, whether the landlord
will be changing the front door lock, or whether he should do it himself.
We have not yet reported the trespass and attempted breakin to the police.

There will be a lot of cleaning up to do from all the plastering dust, etc.
Starting hopefully Friday.  I can vacuum while Jim rekeys the lock to the
front hall.


#50 of 119 by rcurl on Tue Jan 30 17:34:46 2007:

This is all a reality show, right?


#51 of 119 by keesan on Tue Jan 30 17:56:29 2007:

So when do we collect the prize?  It is far too real.
I can celebrate by playing my piano at 3 pm, Bach Partita No 2.


#52 of 119 by tod on Tue Jan 30 20:13:28 2007:

Sounds like she didn't want to sign the monthly lease for a non-smoking
apartment. Bravo!


#53 of 119 by keesan on Wed Jan 31 00:36:20 2007:

Nobody signs leases for these apartments and apparently nobody but me even
pays security deposits.  The landlord could not give us the times to be out
of my apartment for the next two days, or the date that she will be out, so
Jim will resume working on smoke blocking and security measures at 7 am.

Today we filed a police report about Sunday morning's pounding on the door
and person coming into the kitchen and walking out again.  Apparently the
police were called out at the time by the neighbor (they have a report for
that time and this place) who objected to Jim stapling weatherstripping in
the basement two stories below her.  He came up when he heard pounding and
yelling on the door and assumed it was her usual crazy behavior and then that
stopped and he heard footsteps in the kitchen in back.  The patrolman will
ask the previous patrolman about what happened and if it was the police who
came in without knocking and without announcing themselves.  Since the
landlord asked us to file the report I left him a message with the report
number.  

A neighbor wonders why there was a police car here again today.  He has been
hearing stories about me trying to drive the neighbor out of her apartment
with noise.  We are explaining to neighbors what is going on.  

The patrolman asked if it could have been the maintenance person.  Jim said
'I AM the maintenance person and was working here at the time the landlord
asked me to'  (in the morning instead of the afternoon).  

'A couple of days' sounds a lot like 'it's almost certain she'll be gone by
spring'.  Jim asked when the front hall door lock would be changed.


#54 of 119 by keesan on Wed Jan 31 14:21:27 2007:

8:30 phone call (very polite) from the neighbor who said the landlord said
to leave me her schedule in writing for the next two days when she would be
working 12 hour shifts and it was near the front door because she did not want
to go near the back door  (I bet the police contacted her yesterday about
that) and she was about to hang up when I insisted on knowing when she was
moving.  Saturday, to the apartment next door, because her therapist told her
it was bad for her carpal tunnel syndrome to be carrying groceries up the
steps and she should be on the first floor.....  She called back asking where
she could get moving boxes.  (Kiwanis).  I called the neighbor upstairs next
door who had heard nothing about this so we are assuming it is the other next
door house which is currently being fixed up for sale (as apartments) by my
same landlord.  So I phoned and left him a big thank you but Jim will not be
out-of-the-ordinary quiet for the next two days without something in writing
from her, or verbally from the landlord, giving him a day and time when he
can change the front door lock to the shared hallway.  I am trying to track
down the repairman now.   

It should be very quiet in the house next door with nobody else there, unless
someone wants to continue working on the remodel of the other apartment.


#55 of 119 by slynne on Wed Jan 31 18:38:54 2007:

http://www.mlive.com/news/aanews/index.ssf?/base/news-
21/117017177559530.xml&coll=2&thispage=1

http://tinyurl.com/2fvz2c

This article made me think of this item :)


#56 of 119 by keesan on Wed Jan 31 21:19:04 2007:

Do you want to summarize for those of us dialed into grex directly via DOS?

I found a message on the answering machine here after not finding a note, and
it could possibly be interpreted to mean she left her sleeping schedule poked
into the door between the front hall and my apartment, which I have not used
for many months and have sealed off with weatherstripping and caulk.

Today we are using the apartment normally (listening to radio, playing piano
that cannot be heard out the window, talking, walking around) but not working
on weatherstripping.  The smoke can only be smelled at the top of the basement
steps and that door has to be pulled hard to shut.  

The landlord has not answered my phone messages.


#57 of 119 by slynne on Wed Jan 31 21:21:31 2007:

Love thy neighbor? Many don't, according to police 
Tuesday, January 30, 2007

Of all the things I'd miss about my house if I moved, one thing tops 
the list: No neighbor problems. 

I may not have a media center or a swimming pool. But no neighbor keeps 
a barking dog tied up in the yard. Nobody wakes me up with his music at 
2 a.m. every morning, or leaves nasty little notes on my front door 
about unclipped hedges. Nobody has threatened to poison my cat. And 
there's no mean old man two doors down with nothing better to do than 
put his nose where it doesn't belong. 

Not long ago, an Ann Arbor man called police to say his neighbor's dog 
was pooping on his lawn, but the neighbor denied it. 

So the man asked the Ann Arbor Police Department to run a DNA test. On 
dog doo. 

Request denied. 

"This ain't 'CSI,''' said Lt. Mike Logghe of the AAPD. 

If you've ever taken a look at a police department's daily log, you've 
seen for yourself how many times police are called out to handle 
neighbor disputes. 

"We get these kinds of calls all the time,'' Logghe said. "All the 
time. Obviously, when you have people living in very close proximity, 
sometimes you have some situations that lead to at the very least hard 
feelings. And sometimes crimes against each other. But a lot of times 
the problems aren't a crime. They're more of a nuisance.'' 

Sometimes the solution is as simple as pointing out a city ordinance. 
Otherwise, officers will mediate as best they can and try to come up 
with some ground rules that both parties can live with. 

Sometimes the problem leads to a lawsuit, which is how it sometimes 
ends up at the Dispute Resolution Center, a nonprofit center in Ann 
Arbor. 

Serving Washtenaw and Livingston county residents on a sliding scale 
basis beginning at $25 per session, mediators help settle all kinds of 
disputes, including those ugly ones between neighbors. 

Most often, the problem involves such things as noise, children playing 
in the driveway, even the smell of a neighbor's barbecue, which was at 
the center of a recent case. 

"They come to the table and talk about how they can live their lives 
with some consideration of their neighbor,'' said Belinda Dulin, 
director of mediator services. 

One woman was angry because the neighbor kids played basketball in 
their driveway at night. She wanted them to stop by 8 p.m. The mother 
thought that was unfair. They were kids, after all. The situation was 
resolved when the family agreed to move nighttime activities to the 
opposite side of the house and set its own curfew. 

Mediation typically takes two or three hours, and begins with opening 
statements from both parties. Then they brainstorm, evaluate options, 
and choose one. Then they put it in writing as a contract between the 
parties, who typically end the session on much better terms than when 
they started. 

Dulin said feuding neighbors could follow these same techniques on 
their own. 

"A person should ask the other party if they want to talk about it one-
on-one, and develop an environment where they can talk about the 
problem and not yell at each other,'' she said. "I would suggest they 
be open-minded to the many different possible solutions there could be 
to resolve that problem.'' 

And if they're stuck, they should find a neutral third party to help. 

Those who want to prevent these life-sucking neighbor problems need to 
be reasonable, she said. 

"We live in a society where conflicts are common,'' she said. "You 
might have a conflict. But that doesn't mean you can't find a 
solution.'' 

The Dispute Resolution Center can be reached at 734-222-3745. Jo Mathis 
can be reached at jmathis@annarbornews.com or 734-994-6849. 



The absence of these problems may not add to my property value. But too 
many people know firsthand how neighbor disputes can make an otherwise 
peaceful existence rather hellish. 



#58 of 119 by tod on Thu Feb 1 01:53:42 2007:

I would have loved to see the Dispute Resolution Center handle the John Favara
and John Gotti dispute.  *snort*


#59 of 119 by keesan on Thu Feb 1 06:14:44 2007:

Difficult to talk about problems with someone whose standard responses is to
scream abuse.  The neighbor across the street showed us the same newspaper
article.  He has been watching police cars stop at my place and the one next
door for a couple of years, for various reasons.  Asked what it was about this
time.

I got one call and two messages from the upstairs neighbor today about her
leaving a note 'in your door, not in back' but I did not find anything near
my mailbox or front door.  Maybe she left it in the front hall, which I have
been telling everyone I stopped using nearly a year ago because we have sealed
off my door to keep out the smoke.

Tomorrow at 10 am the landlord and repairman will meet with Jim to discuss
security and what he has done.

Jim wonders what the upstairs neighbor thought about his carrying a few
lengths of 6" ductwork (round) into the back yard, after he had spent a few
days puttering around in the basement banging on things, and whether that
might have affected her decision to move.  The ductwork is from a neighbor
and is headed to the new house for use in ventilation.  

Jim told the landlord that if the neighbor wanted it quiet for a couple of
days she should give the landlord her schedule and he should pass it along
to Jim.  She said he said to give me her schedule (which she may think she
has done).  I would not be surprised if she is trying to sleep at 10 am
tomorrow when the three of them are touring the apartment and basement and
checking out the ductwork.  

Jim says the landlord cannot object to him plastering a lot of holes and
cracks, when my lease says not to make holes in the walls.  He has been trying
to seal a wall which is probably full of smoke from leaky ductwork. 
Eventually the plaster (drywall compound) should be painted.  He even repaired
gouges in the door so it would seal better.  

I need to be up and headed to my apartment in less than 8 hours.  Some day
this will end.  I hope you are all enjoying the details.


#60 of 119 by slynne on Thu Feb 1 13:19:07 2007:

Indeed. Neighbor fueds are always interesting. 


#61 of 119 by keesan on Thu Feb 1 19:03:50 2007:

Jim woke up at 4 and came over to guard my place at around 5:00 and I joined
him at around 9:00.  The neighbor has been tromping around since about 10:00
(after asking me in a phone message to be very quiet until 1:00 pm.  THe
landlord has not showed up and it is 2:00.  He was due between 10 and 12, and
he does not answer his phone.  Jim says we will stay until we have to leave.
He is giving blood at 5:00, the 57th day after the last time.  He has to wait
56 days but yesterday there was a 1 1/2 hour wait so today made an
appointment.  He is wondering if his blood pressure will be up over the usual
105/60.  
Jim has continued with security measures.  He showed me all the places he
plastered or puttied.  It smells much better here now than 2 weeks ago bu is
rather dim with all the shades drawn and I am getting tired of listening to
talk radio.  He says without the radio on people can here conversations
between apartments.  

We still have Mary's two sticks of incense.  Jim has asked if it is okay to
burn them upstairs to see if the smell comes through, but we would probably
wait for upstairs to be vacant (if this is really going to happen).  

Jim is improvising lunch out of what he found in the cupboard.  He emptied
and turned off my refrigerator so it could dry out and get cleaned while I
was not living here, but now we are an occupying force and getting hungry.
Breakfast was vegetarian pita wraps on vegetarian bagel and lunch will involve
a can of tomato sauce and grapefruit juice.  

Time to call the patrolman who was here Sunday to ask if he found out who came
into my kitchen - the previous police officer or the neighbor.  


#62 of 119 by keesan on Fri Feb 2 00:32:46 2007:

Jim found that one big crack in the central hallway wall had come unplastered
(the plaster cracked again) and when he opened it up smoke poured out, so the
walls are definitely full of smoke.  So I left and on the way out ran into
the repairman, who is painting next door, and said the landlord was there too
and was expecting me to phone before he came.  I was expecting him to come
over.  We could not phone because he was not home and the phone just rang.

The upstairs neighbor will be moving into that apartment some time over the
next week or so.  Jim offered to rekey the lock here as late as Tuesday.  That
apartment is downstairs from someone who gets up at 4 and goes to bed at 8
and is half-deaf and watches a lot of TV.  I can hear her TV in the summer
with my windows shut.  Should be an interesting combination.  There wont' be
a smoke problem because the ductwork for upstairs is in the attic there.

ALl four of us had a long and rather loud conversation in my living room at
one of the times the neighbor upstairs said she was going to be sleeping but
we had heard her walking around from 10 to 2 after saying she would sleep from
9 to 1.  The landlord asked Jim not to hammer during her sleeping hours.  I
told him her real hours have nothing to do with the message she left on my
machine (and obviously nothing to do with what she told him either).  Jim got
two free tubes of caulk and continued with the plastering and aired the place
out.  The door and window are open again with a fan blowing out so I can use
the computer briefly.  

We have to play this day by day.  Jim is going to occupy the place until I
can move back in, including all night.  He will be sure to close all doors
firmly when he gets up to use the bathroom at night (which probably is
irrelevant for someone who is up all night anyway).  

Jim said he would rekey the front door for free as late as Tuesday.  The
landlord said he would do it after that.  I might be moving back in after a
week or two.  They will also paint the upstairs, replace the four different
patterns of bathroom linoleum (with metal strips in between them, and some
of that is even in bad condition) with one matching sheet and maybe even fix
a few sash cords, in the hopes of getting a reasonable tenant next time.  I
suggested another kitchen cabinet rather than just the sink cabinet.

Jim is thinking of postponing his flight to Ireland from Wed until whenever
I can move back in here with the door rekeyed.  It could cost us $500 or more.
Better than me paying two more months rent for a place I can't use.

The police officer is off duty until Saturday so we can't ask who walked into
my kitchen and pounded on my door.  

I have a 40 degree house to escape to.  I rigged up a computer but the two
modems I brought over did not work - one took all the phones off the hook but
was found as a modem on com2.  The other (same model and jumpers) was not
recognized at all but the phones still work.  So I am back typing in a cool
breeze while Jim microwaves potatoes for supper.  

If we can seal off the walls well enough here I won't be bothered by the
painting upstairs in February.  Latex paint stinks for 30 days.  

The furnace seems to be running only about half as much now that Jim
reconnected the two ends of the separated duct, and plugged large holes in
the other ducts.  It was running all the time when it was 40 out.


#63 of 119 by tod on Fri Feb 2 02:06:38 2007:

 Jim is thinking of postponing his flight to Ireland from Wed until whenever
 I can move back in here with the door rekeyed.  It could cost us $500 or
more.
 
Wouldn't it be cheaper to rekey the door with your own locksmith?
I see no sense in Jim postponing if you can just get it over with.  I think
a locksmith may charge $30-50 for one door.


#64 of 119 by keesan on Fri Feb 2 02:17:31 2007:

We cannot rekey the door until the neighbor is gone.  We are hoping it will
be Saturday or at least Monday.  He does not want to leave me alone here
unless the neighbor has moved.  I think she sleeps Monday during the day so
perhaps she will move before then.  I will be cleaning up here for a few days
including vacuuming.  Jim has been prying off the quarter round from
baseboards to plaster behind it and needs to nail it back on later.  Or maybe
just caulk it in place.

I have been hearing noises sort of like dragging furniture upstairs since 8
pm, which is when she supposedly started her shift.  Encouraging.  Jim is
still refusing to believe anything she says.  

Jim can take the cylinder out of the door and leave it off to be rekeyed
Monday and pick it up after my doctor's appointment.  (Then we could celebrate
- I bought two bags of half-price bittersweet chocolate chips to get sick on).
That would leave a whole day to pack him and finish putting software on a
friend's computer and turn off the drippy kitchen sink faucet at his place.


#65 of 119 by keesan on Fri Feb 2 03:26:19 2007:

Breaking news.  At 9:30 am someone started rapping on the door from the front
hall to my apartment so we ignored it.  It turned into pounding and we were
about to phone the police when it moved to the back door and it was the
police.  She said both neighbors had complained of banging noises.  Our radio
level was acceptable, she said.  She was told the noises stopped before she
came.  We assured her we had not made any noises louder than closing the door
to the basement (which Jim demonstrated) which she said was okay.  While we
were talking we heard several loud banging noises coming from the upstairs
stairway and front hall, due to the neighbor tromping up and down letting the
door slam, which she had been doing a lot of all evening.  The police heard
them too.  Jim went and explained that the neighbor keeps harassing us this
way (twice in six days now) and we had filed a complaint about someone walking
into my kitchen on Sunday.
My guess is that the neighbor deliberately kept slamming her door and the
neighbors next door reported that.  It was not clear whether both people
called or one corroborated.  The police went away without having heard
anything but door closing or slamming noises.  I told them we turn off the
radio at 10 pm.  I don't know how many more times she can get away with this
but I hope it ends Saturday.  I expect a couple of new feuds next door.

There is plaster dust all over the place and sweeping just spreads it so
tomorrow I will be vacuuming.  I don't know of any rules against doing that
particularly from 7 am to 10 pm.  The place is pretty dusty in general since
I have not been there much for a week so it might take a few days to clean
it before I move back in.  Monday?

I am typing at 40 degrees again, using an external modem.  Nice clean air.
Jim is the sole occupying force.  I hope he gets a bit of sleep.  He is a
heavy sleeper but it is hard to sleep through the usual front door slamming
and other noises from upstairs.  Perhaps I should report them?


#66 of 119 by keesan on Fri Feb 2 15:27:00 2007:

Jim was unable to get back to sleep after the police woke him at 9:30 (with
a complaint about banging a few minutes before 9:30) so worked some more on
the plaster.  He heard TV and walking noises upstairs at 2, 4, and 6 am.  He
biked back to his house to check the mail and found a message from yesterday
mid-day from the neighbor apologizing if she made noise late the previous
night (we will never know since we were not here) and to know what time I
retire (I never attempt to sleep here because of noise from the kitchen above,
and doors slamming when she goes in and out at all hours).  The announement
on Jim's phone said we don't often check messages there.  

There are no TV noises or walking noises this morning.  After breakfast Jim
will fetch the shop vac to vacuum up the plaster dust.

This neighbor still does not believe I don't use the door to the front hall,
or that I do not sleep here.  If I used the front door, believe me, she would
know it.  The front doors are solid and make a lot of noise when the door
closers slam them.


#67 of 119 by tod on Fri Feb 2 20:25:28 2007:

That's why I like owning a house.  We can bang all night and nobody has to
hear it besides the kid and my mother-in-law.  ;)


#68 of 119 by keesan on Fri Feb 2 21:57:02 2007:

This morning I thought Jim was listening to an unusual radio station in the
kitchen, but at normal volume.  Turns out it was the next door neighbors'
radio.  So we asked the police to clarify what acceptable radio volume is,
and the two men who showed up were the ones who were here Sunday morning. 
They did not come into my kitchen uninvited Sunday so it must have been the
upstairs neighbor.  They were sympathetic and good listeners and said noise
was 100 decibels at the property line (which I think is only for outdoor
garden equipment noise, not indoor noise) and there was no problem if people
played the radio that loud.  For some reason the radio went much softer
shortly after they left.

The police have now been called Sunday, Tuesday (to report Sunday), Thursday,
and Friday of this week.  And twice before this.  Sunday and Thursday the
reports were of noises that had 'stopped just before they called'.  

I played an entire book of Bach Preludes and Fugues on the piano.

The upstairs neighbor has been going up and down the stairs a lot today.
I emptied one bookcase into three milk crates (vacuuming the books as I went,
first time I vacuumed anything in a year because I had been avoiding making
noise in the daytime until now and boy is it dusty in here).  Jim moved the
bookcase and is going to plaster this corner, which is over the furnace room,
which smells like smoke.  First he repaired the vacuum cleaner.  The wall also
needs vacuuming badly.  Brooms and feather dusters are not adequate.  

I was in favor of ignoring the next-door radio, and letting the upstairs
neighbor listen to it through her floor.  Those neighbors sometimes play their
radio so loud you can hear it loudly through the two stairway walls.

Should I report the upstairs neighbor's junk car which is under a few inches
of snow out in front if she calls the police about imaginary noises again?
Jim let these latest police know he had been asleep for half an hour when the
police woke him up to investigate the 'noise' that had just stopped before
she called.  They asked how long I had been here.  22 years if you include
next door, same landlord.  They said this was a lucky landlord and he should
appreciate having a 20 year tenant.  Nobody had reported us making any noise
this whole time.  (I reported one next door neighbor who was fixing his car
a few feet from my window at 3 am and was impolite when I phoned him about
it asking him not to play his car radio full blast while doing his late night
repairs.  I did not report his marijuana patch in the back yard).  

Caulk caulk caulk.  Plaster plaster plaster.


#69 of 119 by cmcgee on Fri Feb 2 23:00:03 2007:

Sindi, you are documenting activities that demostrate that your complaints
are based on who violates the ordinances.  It is probably not smart ignore
the offenses of one neighbor and minutely report the offenses of the other
neighbor.  Leaves you really open to a harrassment charge.


#70 of 119 by keesan on Fri Feb 2 23:31:07 2007:

We tried to file a harassment charge against the upstairs neighbor who has
reported us four times for noise that happened 'before she called', one time
of which was while Jim was asleep.  We have not actually reported anyone's
noise to the police, we just asked them to come out and clarify what the rules
were.  They only talked to us today.  We did report someone trespassing Sunday
(on Tuesday, after talking to the landlord who asked us to do that).  

Jim said the police today asked Jim if he was snoring yesterday.  But it was
'banging' that was reported, which 'stopped just before she called' but which
we hered the whole time the police were here last night, from the upstairs
stairway and front door.  
I have not reported the continued door slamming all day today, and nobody has
reported my Bach Preludes or my vacuuming of the bookshelf.  


#71 of 119 by tod on Fri Feb 2 23:40:44 2007:

I hope Cindy or Jim are providing refreshments for the cops who are leafing
through their notebooks on that neighborhood alone.


#72 of 119 by keesan on Sat Feb 3 00:04:16 2007:

We are offering to let them come in and warm up but we don't have much food
here at the moment, having turned off the refrigerator for a while as part
of the cleaning cycle after taking the food to Jim's house.
I have started mopping up some of the plaster dust but need to vacuum more,
a year's worth of dust.


#73 of 119 by keesan on Sat Feb 3 15:52:00 2007:

Jim stayed at my apartment last night.  He slept from 10:30 to 3:30 and was
then kept awake by lots of tromping around and other noises from upstairs.
At 5:30 he got to listen to a jazz station from next door, and then at 6:00
it was quiet again, and at 6:30 more tromping and when I came back at about
9:00 the front doors were wide open and there were boxes piled up on the porch
of the house next door.  The tromping continues.

Jim biked to his house to put out a few things for freecycle and brought back
a foil covered plate of 'roadkill' (some frozen lettuce and sliced eggs). 
We plugged the refrigerator back in.

Jim left a message with the landlord asking him to talk to the neighbors in
the apartment next door explaining that any noise here last Sunday morning
and since then was Jim working on the house at the landlord's request,
specifically to work Sunday morning before 2 pm because the upstairs neighbor
wanted to sleep at 2 pm.  If we don't hear from the landlord by 2 pm today
he will call the police officer who he reported the trespassing to, let him
know it was not the police, and have him talk to the next-door-apt neighbors
and explain the problem to them.  

Mobile lock services charge $84 to rekey a lock plus $2/key.
Stadium Hardware charges 94 cents per key ($1 with tax) and $2.50 for the
rekeying if you bring in cylinder and key.  They are open Sat to 8:30 and Sun
11-5:00.  Schlenker's used to do this.  I told Stadium Hardware they were
wonderful!!!!!  Also thanked the most recent police for being good listeners.

More news after 2 pm.  My CT scan was normal.  Jim still needs to pack for
Ireland before Wednesday.  


#74 of 119 by keesan on Sat Feb 3 21:13:58 2007:

We went off to the 'new' house to figure out how to keep it above freezing
(7 double fluorescent fixtures = 640 watts, we will try that first) and do
a bit of recycling and came back and found the upstairs-next-door neighbor
moving cat litter upstairs here (making her the to-be-upstairs neighbor here)
and the former-upstairs-neighbor-here moving things to the house next door.
She said she would move to the first floor there and the other neighbor was
in theory living upstairs (but had taken over the downstairs too).  The
to-be-upstairs neighbor does not smoke and is walking around very quietly.
She is not talking to us today so Jim' won't offer to set up her computer,
fax, phone and broadband again like he did next door.  She is not talking to
the still-next-door-in-back neighbors, who are talking to us and came to
apologize for forgetting to buy us juice at the supermarket.  The police came
around 2:30 and said the currently-next-door-apt neighbors had not been
hearing any noises here.  The night Jim got woken at 9:30 pm the police
officer said two apartments had reported 'banging noises'.  I can't imagine
who else the upstairs neighbor got to call - she must have faked calling from
two places somehow.  

This would make a good cartoon.  

I looked up Halidol, one of the drugs the formerly-upstairs-neighbor told me
answering machine I should be taking, and it is an antipsychotic drug.  One
side effect is low blood pressure (hypotension).  The landlord said she was
in the hospital for two days with blood pressure problems.  Her third time
this year to be in the hospital for drug-related problems.  I then read a bit
about what it means to be psychotic.  Psychotic people don't have a lot of
friends.  The new neighbor had two friends helping her move.  

We have turned my refrigerator back on and need to retape the plastic storm
windows.  The new neighbor was not paying heat next door because not only were
there no storm windows but there were 1" gaps around the windows.  So it will
cost her a bit more here but be much more comfortable.  Same for us, since
we can keep the windows closed.  THe upstairs furnace was running 90% of the
time at 40deg out, and now it is only on about half the time and it is much
colder out.  Jim reconnected the two ends of one run and plugged 3 large and
a lot of smaller holes.  He also patched the basement broken windows.


#75 of 119 by keesan on Sun Feb 4 03:57:16 2007:

The lights are all on next door upstairs.  So much for avoiding stairs if you
have carpal tunnel syndrome.

The currently-upstairs neighbor is walking around so quietly you hardly know
she is there, and going in and out without letting the door closer slam the
door.   

We have a month's laundry to do now that the back basement won't be smoky.

We celebrated by walking three miles to Kroger and filling a large back pack
with grapefruit and pineapple juice concentrate, and a large package of
organic blue corn chips with non-GMO rapeseed oil and low salt, and some sweet
potatoes.  The Kroger employees are really nice people.   The cashier said
she likes scanning cases of beer for exercise.  She did our 32 cans of juice
really skillfully.  The guy unpacking cans of tomatoes tried to find us a
large size organic tomato paste.  The juice unpacker told us how he lost a
tooth trying to protect a cashier from shoplifters, and a few other stories
of grocery crime.


#76 of 119 by keesan on Wed Feb 7 22:14:31 2007:

The furnace room is still so stinky I feel sick after spending 20 seconds in
there taking down my laundry.  It has two 6" holes to the outside and someone
propped open the door to the rest of the cellar.  I hear it is pretty bad
upstairs.  I am offering to put in a clean filter if the upstairs neighbor
leaves me one.  She talked to us this morning - told us we had to wait to let
in the phone company to hook up her phone (he came before we left for the
airport) and also told me to call the repairman for her (she forgot I called
her to get his number and neither of us have it).  
How long does an apartment take to stop stinking after a smoker moves out?
It might help to scrub all the walls and floors, but that won't clean out the
ductwork.  First smoker here in at least 25 years, not counting two who went
out on the balcony.


#77 of 119 by slynne on Wed Feb 7 22:22:39 2007:

Well Sindi, I would say that you probably have a more sensitive sense 
of smell than most people. Most people I know have gotten rid of the 
smoke smell from their houses after quitting by re-painting and by 
steam cleaning the floors, rugs, furniture. I have heard of people 
replacing the drywall too but that seems a bit extreme to me. 


#78 of 119 by keesan on Wed Feb 7 23:51:06 2007:

The stinky furniture moved next door.  There are no rugs.  Maybe it would help
if she washed the walls, ceiling, and floors.  Painting would just add another
stink.  I wonder what it would cost to steam clean her ductwork.  

Jim's kitchen smelled bad for a few days after he microwaved some old beets
until they caught on fire.  


#79 of 119 by slynne on Wed Feb 7 23:54:35 2007:

I think there are companies that clean ductwork for $50 or so. 


#80 of 119 by keesan on Thu Feb 8 00:02:03 2007:

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#81 of 119 by keesan on Sun Feb 11 15:50:55 2007:

I talked to the repairman (asked him to replace the furnace filter so the
furnace room will not smell like an ashtray when I hang laundry in the
basement) and he said he is painting the upstairs apartment.  The windows are
open there.  It would have been a lot less stinky to just wash the walls. He
has no idea why she moved in before he painted.

The new neighbor is no more friendly than the old one but at least she does
not yell obscenities and pound on the door.  I left a polite note asking if
my playing piano after 8 pm would interfere with her sleep.  (She is
unemployed but chooses to sleep from 8 pm to 4 am).  I got back a nasty note
and a nasty phone message to the effect that of course anyone would object
to piano playing at 8 pm when they are getting ready to go to sleep.  She is
half deaf, and I really wanted to know if she could even hear it without her
hearing aid in.  The last two neighbors actually told me they liked my piano
playing (and the police were never even called about it!).  

The paint smell is not coming through the ductwork, but I burned the oatmeal
this morning so had to open the kitchen door.  The neighbor showed up at it
and demanded to know what I had done to the water, she had no water.  Some
questioning revealed low hot water pressure, which is normal around here, off
and on.  I tried to explain this to her.  Then she asked what I was doing with
the cardboard box of newsprint she had put in the trash.  (I removed it when
I transferred some plastic from the front porch paper recycling bin to the
can, which had filled since pickup Friday, and was going to recycle it).  She
told me I should never take anything out of anyone's trash.  I told her to
go complain to someone else and closed the door.

I will ask the landlord to let her know I am not the resident manager (I don't
want to be responsible for letting in the phone company, or the water
pressure, or if she blows a fuse either).  The third apartment may have been
taking a shower.  The upstairs neighbor should have good pressure at 4 am to
5:30 am (which is when the radio next door went on full blast for 30 min one
time when Jim stayed here).  Jim expects not to be called again to fix her
phone service, her computer, or her fax machine, or to move furniture.  

I wonder what makes some people so angry at the world.  

Mary, we never did use your incense, do you want it back?


#82 of 119 by slynne on Sun Feb 11 17:22:29 2007:

You could write a collection of short stories about your neighbors!


#83 of 119 by keesan on Sun Feb 11 18:07:22 2007:

Feel free to publish with fictitious characters.  Did I ever tell you about
the feuds between another neighbor and the one upstairs (she insisted on
moving her mailbox away from his) or between that neighbor and a previous one
next door (#1 did not want #2 to park in the driveway while unloading
groceries even though #1 has no car - just in case friends wanted to drive
to the door).  Or the neighbor who was senile (but friendly) and one day
another neighbor came to my door to report that the senile neighbor was last
seen headed towards Main St. in a red bathrobe.  We both went after her and
found her at the store just as her relatives showed up.  Or the really crazy
neighbor who had two large barking dogs in the back yard (no pets allowed by
our landlord) and threatened to shoot anyone who came near, and broke the
window of another apartment one night (she said she forgot her key and thought
it was her window), and used to have wild parties and blow all the fuses in
the house.  SHe disappeared suddenly, and the next tenant was getting phone
calls (she left her phone and phone account) from the city drug enforcement
branch.  My landlord is not fussy about security deposits.  

I am hoping not to have anyone but friends knocking on my door from now on.

It is nice and quiet here now.  Despite an open window upstairs (paint smell)
the furnace is only running half as often as it was when it was 40 degrees
out, before Jim reconnected the disconnected ductwork and plugged some holes.

My first upstairs neighbor used to juggle bowling balls for fun, at midnight.
There was one who used to try to kill herself once in a while.  Has anyone
else at grex had strange neighbors?


#84 of 119 by mary on Sun Feb 11 18:31:44 2007:

I don't need the incense back, Sindi.  


#85 of 119 by keesan on Mon Feb 12 19:31:41 2007:

Another neighbor who has been helping this one said she called the police and
asked about the legality of removing things from trash cans on private
property and was told it was not legal.  She apparently did not tell them it
was not her private trash can, but one shared by the house.  When I called
the police out of curiosity and described this as a shared trash can, out of
which I had taken a large cardboard box of newsprint to recycle and so I could
put my real trash in (on Sunday it was full, after a Friday pickup) the woman
answering questions was quite amused and said she thought it was a 'good idea'
to recycle paper that I found in my trash can and 'you're fine' legally.  The
only way to get trash into the two 96 gal cans shared by four people in 3
apartments is to either put it in right after pickup, or remove something that
is in there and recycle it, because they are always full of construction trash
from the landlord's other house next door.  

So the nice neighbor may stop helping this one now, but is enjoying the 
details of the soap opera, 'better than TV'.  I wonder who she will get to 
fix her car and computer for free after this.



#86 of 119 by tod on Mon Feb 12 20:31:48 2007:

I think you should just finally have it out with her over a game of
rock/scissors/paper


#87 of 119 by keesan on Tue Feb 13 00:42:41 2007:

Have what out?  I don't expect to have anything more to do with her.


#88 of 119 by tod on Tue Feb 13 01:34:32 2007:

Yea, except I'm guessing she's not going to let you off the hook so easily.


#89 of 119 by keesan on Tue Feb 13 05:29:50 2007:

Off what hook?  She can't keep me awake at night because I gave up sleeping
downstairs from a kitchen long ago and go somewhere else.   It is hardly to
her advantage to start a battle of the noises since she does sleep there. 
I asked the nice neighbor to pass along to her that she should contact the
landlord or repairman if she has problems with the water or needs to let the
phone company in, not me.  


#90 of 119 by slynne on Tue Feb 13 14:35:45 2007:

re:trash It is my understanding that once a person puts something into 
the trash and sets it out at the curb, they no longer own it and anyone 
can legally come along and take whatever they want. In the case where 
the bins are on private property to be used collectively, it might be 
more hazy but I'll bet that since you also have access to those 
particular garbage cans, it is ok for you to remove stuff. At any rate, 
as I am sure you already know, your chances of having the cops bust you 
for it even if it is illegal are about 0%


#91 of 119 by keesan on Tue Feb 13 14:56:37 2007:

Someone on the freecycle list wants to come pick up my collection of cardboard
boxes, maybe Thursday morning on her way to check out the Kiwanis collection,
and the one I took from the trash can is particularly sturdy.  Even if it were
illegal to remove trash that someone else put into my trash can, I would like
to see her prove ownership of the box.  Or the newsprint in it.  

Maybe I should put a 3-way divider into each of the two 96 gal trash cans to
reserve my spot, with little plastic name labels for each of us.  But then
nobody could put in a box that fills the entire can.

I am away from it all for a few days at Jim's house to shovel snow here.
Nobody is shoveling snow at my apartment this month.

I wonder whether she would call the police and accuse me of trespassing on
her property if I used the front hall (which Jim spent 5 hours making easier
to enter by working on the lock).  Then I would not have to walk through the
snow and ice to my front porch mailbox.


#92 of 119 by keesan on Wed Feb 14 21:18:53 2007:

The soap opera continues.  Today I put my trash in the trash can after
removing the box of Detroit Free Press again (I recycled it this time, and
put the box with my others, next to an identical one) and closed the furnace
room door again (which I think legally is supposed to be closed because of
city regulations).  

The friendly neighbor next door in back came over to ask what was going on
with the 'bitch' that moved to the front apartment.  She kept pounding loudly
on the wall that separates her bedroom from his apartment (I told him it was
the bedroom - she always chooses the noisiest place to sleep days).  I
suggested he either ignore it or pound back, and if she called the police to
complain about his using the toilet during the ungodly hours of 7 am and 7
pm, to have them come talk to me too.  The other room in the front apartment
is not next to the rear apartment, and the upstairs apt is still vacant.

The other neighbor has not heard from my new upstairs one and expects not to.
He will enjoy the continuation of this soap opera, which he says is 'better
than TV'.  


#93 of 119 by tod on Wed Feb 14 21:44:57 2007:

Did the new neighbor hit on you?


#94 of 119 by slynne on Wed Feb 14 22:17:39 2007:

I am confused. Is the friendly neighbor complaining about your former 
neighbor who smoked or about your current neighbor in that apartment? 
You should give all of these folks nicknames ;) 


#95 of 119 by keesan on Wed Feb 14 22:28:29 2007:

Former-upstairs-neighbor-now-next-door-front-neighbor.
Former-next-door-upstairs-now-here-upstairs-neighbor.
Next-door-back-friendly-neighbor.
Across-the-street-used-to-live-in-my-apt-23-years-ago-neighbor.
Neighbor #3 (friendly) is complaining about #1 (smoker) pounding.
Each house has three apartments.  The third triplex is empty and being
renovated prior to sale (which explains our trash cans always being full).


#96 of 119 by slynne on Wed Feb 14 23:39:12 2007:

Ah. I used to have a neighbor who pounded on my walls a lot when my 
friends and I were being too loud. Of course we were 18 years old at 
the time and stayed up all night so we had it coming. 


#97 of 119 by keesan on Thu Feb 15 00:32:44 2007:

Have you ever had anyone pound on the walls when you used the toilet?
The funny part about this is we could hear what was going on upstairs in the
bathroom and the bedroom.  Oddly enough, we never called the police or even
banged on the ceiling with a broomstick.  

The crazy neighbor has the option of sleeping in the front room that is not
next to anyone else, or moving upstairs which is completely isolated.  This way
someone else could move into the apartment over hers and maybe even do
something frightful like go up and down the stairs during the daytime.


#98 of 119 by slynne on Thu Feb 15 03:17:38 2007:

No, I never had anyone bang on the walls because I was going to the
toilet too loudly for them. I had a roommate once who would get mad if I
flushed the toilet in the morning though. 


#99 of 119 by keesan on Thu Feb 15 03:39:26 2007:

Jim put in something that is pressure assisted, and also has a large chunk
of wall missing, and he does not flush it while I am sleeping because the
sound travels all over the house.  But a gravity-type toilet should not be
very audible in the next room.  


#100 of 119 by tod on Thu Feb 15 15:15:25 2007:

re #97
 Have you ever had anyone pound on the walls when you used the toilet?
 
I had a landlord who rented me her basement apartment and she would stomp her
feet at any slight noise from my apartment.  One day, half my apartment
flooded for no good reason (there was a pipe hidden in a wall which burst)
so I told her that her foot stomping broke it. 


#101 of 119 by keesan on Thu Feb 15 15:35:41 2007:

I hope your rent was low.  Basement ceilings tend not to be at all soundproof,
since they are often made of paper panels that can be removed to get at the
ductwork and plumbing in the ceiling.  She could have fixed the problem, in
such a case, by putting up drywall.

My upstairs neighbor, who twice threw a large box of newsprint in the trash
can, put her kitty litter box in the recycling bin (unflattened) and used to
complain about other people not recycling, while she was buying plastic
bottles to recycle.  She also put plastic trash in the bin, which is why I
was opening the trash can in the first place.  


#102 of 119 by tod on Fri Feb 16 20:22:29 2007:

re #101
It was low rent for me because I shared it with 2 others.  The cost of the
apartment itself was on the high end.


#103 of 119 by keesan on Fri Feb 16 23:36:16 2007:

A Seattle apartment?  What is the range now for 1BR apartments?


#104 of 119 by tod on Sat Feb 17 00:44:18 2007:

It was an apartment in Rochester-Utica, Michigan out in the sticks.  The range
in Seattle for a 1BR apartment can be anywhere between $700-1300+
You can find em cheaper if you know where to look, too.
I had a nice 550 sqft efficiency at Zindorf Apts back in 2001 for $600/mo plus
$100/mo for a parking spot.  That was right on 7th & Cherry downtown where
all the action is, too.
Right now, there are a ton of condos going up downtown starting in the $300k
range on up.  Several coworkers are selling their homes and moving into them
since its the same amount of floorspace and much more convenient in many ways.


#105 of 119 by denise on Thu Feb 22 02:54:05 2007:

I haven't been in this conference in 2=3 weeks-so it was fun [in a somewhat
humerous way] to catch up withthe apartment news.  Though I know its not all
that humerous for Sindi, though.  It doesn't sound like a cool street to live
on, that's for sure.  I've been lucky with most of my neighbors that I've had
while living in apartments. Except I hear some yelling coming from upstairs
sometimes; always a mad male voice.  And once while sharing a house with
someone, I hated her dog. I normally love dogs but definitely not this yipey
15 year old chiwowa [I know that isn't spelled right but since I don't know
how to spell it, I'm just writing it phonetically]. This dog used to always
go to the bathroom in the living room; it was like a kitty litter box and my
housemate didn't care. And once when I had a friend over for dinner, the dog
bit my friend [fortunatley it wasn't a bad bite]. But when I told my housemate
about it, she acted like it was MY fault that the dog bit my friend--and said
that I should've locked the dog up in her bedroom. But I wasn't warned that
the dog bites.  Anyway, I didn't live in that place for long.

So what's the latest in the soap opera saga? And is Jim back home from Ireland
yet?


#106 of 119 by keesan on Thu Feb 22 16:23:37 2007:

No more news.  All quiet here, no smoke.  Jim will be back in a month.
I had a neighbor in the apt next door with a dog that would bark any time
anyone walked by and wake up everyone else in the house when the owner was
not there.  When he was there he closed the curtain and the dog stopped
barking.  He put a chair in front of the window so the dog could climb it to
look out the window and always left the curtain open when he was not there.
His suggested solution was whenever the dog barked we should use his spare
hidden key to go in and close the curtain.  At 3 am.  


#107 of 119 by slynne on Thu Feb 22 20:00:54 2007:

I dont know if this behavior annoys my neighbor or not because she has
never mentioned it. I think it is funny though. My nextdoor neighbor J.
installed a motion detecting light in her backyard. It is really bright
and lights up the whole yard. My dog has figured out how to set it off
and seems to like to do it. She always runs over to the place where she
can set it off whenever she goes out back at night. T., the neighbor on
the other side of J. has two dogs that do the same thing! T. and I are
on similar schedules so from 7p to midnight the light is constantly
going on and off since both T. and I let our dogs out multiple times
during that time period. There is also a lot of barking especially when
my dog is out at the same time as T.'s beagles who LOVE to bark. I did
ask J. if the barking bothered her and she said that it doesnt so that
is good at least. 


#108 of 119 by denise on Sat May 5 08:25:02 2007:

Sindi, this item has been quiet for a couple months now. I take it that things
are going a bit better?  How are things going at the other house?


#109 of 119 by keesan on Mon May 7 02:03:34 2007:

The crazy neighbor moved out at the end of January to the landlord's house
next door, claiming that the stairs in the old place were hard on her carpal
tunnel syndrome, and I have no interaction with her.  The woman who would have
been her upstairs  neighbor moved to upstairs from me and is quiet and does
not smoke.  She is also nuts in her own way and I have given up interacting
with her since she blamed me for the water pressure being low ('what did you
do to the water!!!'), ordered me to stay home all morning to let in the phone
company (we were headed for the airport), ordered me to call the repairman
to do that (I don't know his number either, he would not give it to her), and
complained to the police that I had removed and recycled a cardboard box full
of Sunday newspaper.  She did not mentin that I shared the trashcan and was
making space to put in my own trash.  The police thought it was funny when
I called.  She was getting free heat next door because the storm windows were
not working and it was drafty.  Now she has all her storm windows off and one
window open since she moved in (February).  I have two sets of friendly
neighbors, good enough average.


#110 of 119 by denise on Mon May 7 13:34:33 2007:

I'm glad that the new person upstairs doesn't smoke, at least.

My parents live in a retirement village in Dearborn [in apartment-style
buildings]. One day last week when I went over there, when I got off the
elevator and headed down to their place, almost right away, I noticed a pretty
strong cigarette smoke odor that went almost the whole length of that floor.
I had commented about it to my Dad; he seemed surprised and said that no one
on that floor smokes. Though that's incorrect as HE occasionally smokes but
tries to hide it from us [just like a kid would; he smokes in the bathroom
so he can easily get rid of the ashes and butts].  Even on Saturday when I
was there, he was in the bathroom for awhile and the apt then really smelled
of smoke.  Often, he keeps the door to the hallway open, I guess to air out
the place, I guess.  Though in previous times going there, I never detected
the smell all the way down to the elevators [only within a couple apartments],
so perhaps this time, there were other smokers [residents and/or other
guests].  I do know, though, that smokers get to the point where they can't
smell the smoke anymore. I guess Dad forgets that fact and believes he's still
fooling us.  No one ever says anything to him. He's 79 and has smoked since
he was 17. He's tried quitting a few times, including after emergency surgery
in 1990; it's been after this time when he's been hiding this fact...


#111 of 119 by keesan on Mon May 7 15:23:48 2007:

My neighbor around the corner is now working at getting the smoke smell out
of her house.  Her nicotine-addict husband spent a week or so in the hospital
recently with pneumonia and emphysema, and was discharged with an oxygen tank
and no open flames are allowed in their house.  He complains a lot now that
he is not allowed to smoke.  She is washing all the walls and may remove the
carpets and have them steam-cleaned.  I don't know how to get the smell out
of all their books etc.  He is being given some new pill containing a nicotine
antagonist that is supposed to help the craving without having the other bad
effects of nicotine (blood vessel constriction?).


#112 of 119 by slynne on Mon May 7 17:29:02 2007:

I forget the name of that pill but I know several people who have used 
it with good success. Some of them had to stop though because of the 
side effects but even those folks were able to stay on it long enough 
to break the habit. 



#113 of 119 by slynne on Mon May 7 17:29:42 2007:

Oh wait, I do remember. The name of the pill is chantix


#114 of 119 by tod on Mon May 7 19:50:28 2007:

Chantix will give you nightmares.


#115 of 119 by keesan on Mon May 7 19:54:32 2007:

Do they also get addicted to the pills?  I hear methadone is more addictive
than heroin.


#116 of 119 by slynne on Tue May 8 01:15:27 2007:

No, quite the opposite. No one I know has been able to stay on the
Chantix for very long. My sister thought it made her too tired. Another
friend mentioned the nightmares. Yet another person just felt that it
made her life kind of blah. No one thought that the Chantix was pleasant
in any way so they have all stopped taking it. It got them over those
first difficult weeks though so I would say it has some value. 


#117 of 119 by tsty on Tue Sep 11 03:22:44 2007:

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#118 of 119 by tsty on Fri Feb 8 07:01:54 2008:

ahs the insense been delivered yet?


#119 of 119 by lar on Wed Jul 9 09:40:48 2008:

*snicker*


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