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As I understand things, gays ar looking to marriage for the ancillaries: next-of-kin, inheritance, joint tax returns. In the European novels involving a wedding that I've read, two marriage ceremonies, one civil and one religious, are common. NB: polyandry and polygyny have both been practiced, with success. Marriage is not necessarily _a_ man and _a_ woman.
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