ok, what features (physical or otherwise) turn you on or catch your eye?
i mean specific one's people..

158 responses total.

generally dark hair, curly, glasses.  Those are 3 main ones.

a Wild woman do turn on.

I have a preference for albinos, specifically those with the most 
severe version of it: bone white skin, white hair, and red eyes.

Also, I tend to like women who are shorter than myself.

Long dark hair, sturdy build, nice smirk

I love women with red hair, but generally, that with varying degrees 
of brunette highlights.  Curls are nice, too.  Of course, that would 
include green or blue-green eyes, and ruddy skin, which is fairly 
common.

Good proportion is usually a must for me, although I don't go for 
twiggy girls.  Top-heavy and bottom-heavy aren't really my thing, i.e. 
Dolly Parton and Jennifer Lopez type physiques.  Fitness and trimness 
are nice, and I think the shift towards slightly muscular women has 
been a good thing, granted, when it's natural-- I don't believe in 
freaky bodybuilding men or women.. too much muscle is just gross.

But the physical aesthetic only goes so far.  It's good for me to be 
able to share intellectual conversation that is engaging and mentally 
stimulating.  While mutual interests are nice, as common ground is 
somewhere to start, I do enjoy talking to others who pursue other 
interests, especially if they are able to explain them in ways that I 
can comprehend and appreciate.

What drew me to Julie was our common interests in humor (Bill Cosby 
for example) and the comic book/gaming world.  I felt safe in that I 
could do 'guy' things with her and that she wouldn't be 
uncomfortable.  But conversely, I also felt safe pursuing 'gal' things 
without feeling demasculinized.  It's hard to explain, but I found we 
were complimentary.

(I've never heard "nice smirk" as an important physical quality before. 
Neat.)

Like Jack said, the willingness to do "guy-things" is important.  Then again,
does anyone actually *not* enjoy some gender-atypical activity?  Might
affection somehow cause us to be more likely to notice how the person doesn't
conform to stereotypical gender roles?
-Alex

As an infantilist, I also try and see if I can notice if anybody I'm 
interested in also wears diapers.

yha, fetish play can be hard to find. and that's a shame
hell, just about any non-main stream sexuality is frowned upon adn hard to fnid
in most of the less liberal places.

like walmart?

Yeah, but if someone really loves you, they'll accept your fetishes 
whatever they may be.

yeah, if they don't have any self-esteem. does it make sense to say "i didn't
love him/her because i couldn't bring myself to blow up balloons inserted in
his/her ass." is that how love works? this sounds more from the heart: "baby,
i love you, but this balloon business has got to go."
to be less comical, what if someone has a fetish for infidelity? for watching
watching his or her significant other be fucked by strangers? "baby, if you
REALLY loved me, you'd let the dog lick your pussy when i asked you to." no.

Okay, so maybe not *whatever* they may be.

Also, though you didn't mention it, I think that excessive fetish play 
is a good reason to break up.

or incompatible fetishes. 

Well, I know at least one place to find people who share that 
particular fetish.

Orinoco - a nice smirk indicates many things...plus, it's sexy.  :)

Similar fetishes are a Very Good Thing, and understanding your partner's
fetish (and maybe getting a taste for it) can be cool too.

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actually, i think i made the mistake of mixing up 'acceptance', as you said,
with 'compliance'. but, what the hell, blurry lines everywhere.

OK

        If your partner's into inserting balloons up your ass, then you've got
room for negotiation.  If it's an actual fetish, and the only possible way
that they can get off is to insert balloons up your ass, and it doesn't happen
to tweak your nipples for you, then you've got a problem ... you're completely
and utterly sexually incompatible.

Few people use "fetish" that strongly anymore. Most people use it to mean
"something kink that I really dig."

        Very true.  It's still pretty mystifying to me, even if it's not a
complete short-circuiting of the sexual drive, some of the things that people
do.  

btw, welcome back

Last night I met a woman who shares my particular fetish.  I think the 
meeting would have gone better had it been less spontaneous and if we 
had not both been horrendously tired.

so setup another one

Maybe I will.  At least the meeting I had identified a key problem area 
for me: flirtation skills.

those are rough
too much and you're in trouble or a goof
to little and they may not detect the interest

        If you're worried about that, just ask for someone's number.  It's
pretty unambiguous, though people may later decide to play the ignorance
card.

For me, personality is most of everything.  I've met people with great 
bodies who turned out to be absolute freaks.  Physical turn ons are 
some of the usual, muscles (without being so muscular that you look 
like your head will pop off or that you have problems walking) and good 
grooming.  I like men with dimples.  

For a long term relationship, though, since I can look at beautiful men 
all day long and not get hurt, I needed someone who was sensitive 
without being boring.  Someone interesting and funny without making me 
feel put off or that he was trying too hard.  Jon fits this almost to a 
tee.  As he said, we compliment eachother.

With the woman I met, so far the only shared interest is diapers.

Pardon my curiosity.  Diapers?

You cannot build a relationship on diapers alone!

Re #31: read some of the previous responses.

Re #32: true.  relationships need to be built on multiple mutual 
interests as well as the differing interests.

#31

        When you stare deep into a diaper pail, the diaper pail also stares
into you.

        Ugh.

eh?

A few responses back there was a question about my interest in diapers, 
which I had already answered earlier in this same item.  Jazz is just 
having some fun.

neitzie

Yeah, Jon said as much <blush>  Guess I wasn't paying attention.

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