The Virtual/Real dilema.
        I'm faced with this problem. My girlfriend and I are very close and
        very open minded. But, I met this girl on a MUD and have a nice virtual
        relationship. We like  like the relationship a lot. I told my
        girlfriend about it and she got mad at m (oops sorry, got mad at me.) I
        sstoped talking to my girlfriend about
my virtual friend. Latelyy my V-friend and I got very intimate and made love.
Not one, but like 10 times up to now. Should I tell my girlfriend or keep it to
myself? (I even considered flying towards my V-friend state to arrange a
meeting.)----What would you do?

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If she's upset with the relationship, don't tell her.
And it might be extremely nice to break up the net relationship...
or to reconsider the real world one.
What would I do?  Hard to tell.  I have CyberSex and my wife doesn't care.
<brighn hates these question where he'd never been in that situation>
But if I were in that spot, I would reconsider the real world relationship,
and at least have a discussion about boundaries.

I would tie her up and take it from there.

Cybersex is the same as physical sex. The emotional bond isn't as large because
of the casualness, but it's the same principle. I wouldn't appreciate it if my
girlfriend were having cybersex.

<brighn is doing the world a favor and tying daxs up and taking it from there>

Like I said...

        (-Laughing Bear) I think in my very persoothing to do with real sex.
        Furthermore , if my girlfriend were having sex I will
 be  very pissed off, in the virtual environment, I would not. Why?
Because it is not real, is like watching a 3-d movie in your head!.
How many times have you fantazised about making love to someone else?
I think there's nothing wrong with it. The main problem now is how to
make my girlfriend understand that it is only in the mind?

Yeah, Good point. But it can get out of hand sometimes.

(to: LOaughing Bear) You'rte right.There is where the game ends 
and you start to get responsible for what happens next. I guess
it depends on the limits of one imagination/relity.

But, when you have people on here who think nothng can come of it
who decides when it's past that point of no return?

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(-Popcorn) Your response is one to admire.I agree with you all the way.
I don't plan to meet the people I know in the MUDS or in MOOS. 
Basicly it is a way to know poeple and share their fantasy. What happens
in the virtual space stays there.What would you do if your boyfriend
were having V-sex with an elf? Weird isn't it?  ;)

 Weird weird weird...   None thee less... I still think that cybersex... is
 still virtual, (on the low end) I'd start worrying when it can escalate to
 higher standards say VR headgear (and/or sex  gear I don't know...) I think VS
 is just and excuse to
masturbate... (albeit mentally)  with someone else... hasn't anyone eveer
thought that the person they're having VSex with might happen to be of a
different sexual persuasion... (think about it) (Godot Rambles on....)

The future of technology.  ANyone get the feeling that we may be pro-
gressing, technologically, into areas we have no right to be in.

Cybersex is sex.  People have never been perfect and I feel it is up to the
individual how far they go and everyone must form their own opinion.  it is
easier to fall in love, and pro.

I would never make love over the internet

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