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Grex Scruples Item 32: The bruised child
Entered by carson on Fri Jul 8 20:48:45 UTC 1994:

(a bitter divorce three years ago left you with joint custody of your
young son. during the past couple of visits, you've noticed cuts and
bruises on your son's body, which he attributes to "the guys at school."
you have reason to believe that your ex-husband's current girlfriend isn't
playing with a full deck, judging from the few interactions you've had
with her. you suspect that she is abusing your child.)

(do you confront your ex-husband about your child's bruises?)

13 responses total.

#1 of 13 by omni on Fri Jul 8 22:14:32 1994:

 hell yes.

#2 of 13 by mta on Fri Jul 8 22:26:51 1994:

First we go to the emergency room for a closer look.  (Wouldn't want to 
overlook internal damage.)  Then I send my child to a friends house while ex
and I have a nice long, hopfeully calm, talk.

...or, like Jim says, "Hell yes!"

#3 of 13 by scg on Fri Jul 8 23:52:18 1994:

Yes, of course.  What I would do with the child in terms of treatment
would probably depend on the apparrent severity of the injuries.  I'm
assuming in this question that the ex-spouse cares about the child.  If
that's the case I would tell the ex-spouse about the child's injuries an
discuss the problem, including possible perpetrators.  I don't see what I
woudl gain by jumping to conclusions about the new friend without first
consulting the ex-spouse about it.  There may be some other ideas they
would have about where it came from, and I would certainly gain nothing by
accusing the new friend of it.

#4 of 13 by swa on Sun Jul 10 06:01:25 1994:

Hell yes.

#5 of 13 by vishnu on Tue Jul 12 07:31:47 1994:

Yes.

#6 of 13 by bonita on Tue Nov 22 01:29:42 1994:

Definitely!

#7 of 13 by fraizer on Tue Nov 22 18:45:08 1994:

Definitly hell yes, damn it!!!

#8 of 13 by starwolf on Fri Sep 15 16:34:18 1995:

Absolutely most definitely hell yes!

#9 of 13 by tyger on Mon Sep 18 09:09:03 1995:

This is a question not worth asking hopefully anyone who would be here is not
silly enough to ignore the question 
But personally I would take my kid to the doctor have him looked over confront
the girlfriend and call the police in on it to investigate

#10 of 13 by jazz on Thu Dec 7 13:08:06 1995:

        That depends on what I'd view as most effective.  If my ex- were likely
to take such an accusation as an attempt to hurt or not take it seriously,
then I'd start calling teachers, police, anyone ...

#11 of 13 by ewhisam on Wed Dec 27 23:57:12 1995:

Confront
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#12 of 13 by carson on Sun Jan 7 03:56:56 1996:

Wow. I'd forgotten all about this item.

Yes.

#13 of 13 by diznave on Sun Nov 9 07:10:52 1997:

Take my son, and blow up my ex-husband's house. Then me and my son would go
out for ice cream. I'd have mint chocolate chip.

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