(You've been in a romantic relationship for almost a month now. One day,
your significant other says that s/he has also been seeing another person,
and s/he can't decide between the two of you, so s/he would like to have
both! She suggests that the two of you meet at his/her place for
dinner.... and a little something else, "just to see if it would work out.")

(do you accept?)

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I find it very hard to imagine that I would, but it would probably depend
somewhat on the relationship.

it would depend on the realtionship. I would probably be mad at her for a 
while, but if I really cared for her, I might accept it.

 I would dump them like a hot potato right then and there. If my love is
not special enough for a person to accept, or that they feel they need me
to fill out a need, then they don't really need me.
 I expect that when dating, it should be mutually exclusive; If that's too
much to expect from someone, then they obviously have much to learn about
life.

no, i wouldn't.  like omni, i believe that love should be between two
people.  i would regretfully decline, and end the relationship.

I've had this happen, and needless to say, the guy and the other person, who
was a friend, both got dumped pronto!

I'd definitely say no, and break up with them.  The only thing that would 

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I would at least meet the person, what the heck?  At that point things 
have nowhere to go but up.  Besides it is not my place to tell another
person what relationships he or she can have.  Am I going to stop
liking this person just because he/she (being very politically correct 
here) has an interest in someone else?  No way.  I Might end the romantic
relationsip, but I wouldn't want to lose a friend.

(Why do I keep getting my responses cut off like that?  I've had it happen a
couple of times, in a couple of different conferences, lately.  *Very* 
frustrating.)  In any case, the only thing that would depend on the 
relationship would be *how* I broke up with them, exactly what I told them.
It might be kind of painful, but I don't think I could deal with continuing
a relationship with them while they were seeing someone else, let alone the
fact that I would consider it very dishonest of them to have been seeing the
other person beforehand behind my back.  

I would definitely go  and then point out that there is no question who
is the best.....me you stupid idiot!

It really depends on what kind of relationship this is... i mean, 
if its a big physical pleasures type of relationship with lots of
kinky things and not much commitment, then, sure, why not?  If it
was more of a meaningful relationship, I'd meet them just to see 
what they were like, and then decide from there.

I aggree with vishnu.  If the relationship had started as a threesome, fine,
but having your partner sneaking around behind your back and then expecting
you to just accept it is just not cool.

Carson did you take this right from my life ;)
and if you all are woundering i axed her the minute i found out.
1 I dont share
and 2 I dont compete after a sertian point

Well, i know i'm going to get flack on this but, i would do it (providing the
other person was a woman) for few times to get my jollies then smack her and
tell her she's sick and that i hope she's happy. If it were another man i'd
say sure bring him over and compare us in bed but, it would'nt get that far
cause i'd kick the life outta him and smack her.

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There are times and places for everything.  Don't knock it till you've tried
it.  A phallic in one's hand is definitely worth two in the bush.

Two in the bush?  Ain't that a bit tight?

Seriously, I missed this item the first time round, and I'm frankly glad.
Despite the deception part (by the way, honey, I've been sleeping with Ted for
three months now:  how about a threesome?), I don't have a problem with it. If
I weren't attracted to the other party myself, I'd probably decline, but if I
were attracted, why not?

Omni mentions that if his love isn't good enough, he doesn't want to share it.
I have one good friend.  Guess I don't need any others; wouldn't want to hurt
my one friend's feelings.
It's a good thing I hate my little brother, too, because I only have enough
brotherly love for my older brother.
Love is in such limited supply these days.

Definitely, definitely, definitely

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Well, #17, that's interesting to know...remember me?  Your girlfriend of
over a year and half now, the one who thinks that one on one is the only way
to go?  

(Thanks, popcorn -- I meant, though, that I missed the discussion in
real time.  As soon as 17 responded, I got the other messages.)
(brighn knows popcorn is being her ever helpful self)

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oops!  Sorry Melanie.  My sentiment was that if all parties agree then who
is to say that it's all bad.  Course, if  you feel love for someone then 
monogamy is best.  Menage a trois is for the adventurous and single or at
least mutually accepting couples...how's that?

(popcorn:  I did that when I first started, and didn't seem to get
any new conversations going, and was just frustrated by seeing a 
bunch of old conversations -- you know me, I have to put in my
$0.02 and start controversy :-)  

Luci, I would change that to "if you feel love for someone, and 
you feel that that love should be for one person at a time,
then monogamy is best..."  Monogamy should always be between 
consenting adults, too.
Too often, it's just assumed, and never really talked about.

I consider myself a fairly open-minded individual.  If s/he had the honesty
to tell me what's up, I would at least give it a chance.

Hmmm... I don't know whether I'd take the plunge or not,
but I'm sure gonna have fun thinking about it.

This really doesn't sound like a person that I would call me SO.  I think 
that relationships are totally without meaning if not firmly based in 
honesty.  If she told me what was said in #0, I would really have to 
end the relationship.  

If, on the other hand, she had just met this guy, I would really appreciate
her honesty.  I would probably decline due to the fact that such a situation
would make me feel *very* uncomfortable.  (I probably wouldn't be able to
perform in such a situation, anyway.)  Barring diseases and such, I would 
tell her that I didn't mind if *she* had a sexual relationship with the 
guy, though.  

yes   do it  how can one pass up an opprotunity  to elpore life?.

I'll try anything once,within reason, and more times if I really enjoy it.     
adventure is the spice of life and a threesome sounds very spicy.

Gee this is a hard question (no pun intended) but if I know myself as well
as I think it would depend on whether or no there were two females or not
(watching or participating in a sexual situation involing two women is a turn
off for me) if there were two women I would tell my girlfriend that if she
loved us both I would understand and stay with her if she was ok with me
seeing men outside the relationship.
any other situation mm or wm would be a little differant I would be interested
in metting the other and if the other was wanting a relationship with me and
we were emotionally compatable then I would be willing if thats what my lover
wanted but if not then I would ask my lover if they wanted me or there other
more if they wanted thier other more I would try and stay friends if s/he
wanted us both but her/his other didn't then I would either make her/him
choose or get another lover myself

If it involved myself and two other women I might go for it but another man in
bed with me is repulsive. I could handle two women........(with practice).
Maybe...we would have to talk about it first. .,

ARE YOU KIDDING ME???? NO WAY!!!
Gang, first of all, you were, to the best of my knowledge, in an exclusive
relationship, and *now* the person tells you that s/he has been seeing
(sleeping) with somebody else?  

the person would be lucky if they left the room alive!  I think certain organs
of theirs would be mine.  I do not take kindly to finding things out *after*
they have already been going on!  It is not cool!!

hehehe....ive been in threesomes..its a real good thing...its one of the
biggest turnons for me.  i get the best of all three worlds..i get to watch..i
get watched..and i get it...dont knock it till you try it people...good lord.

I'd go bowling, and try to pick up a bowling waitress. After many beers.

Well, first of all, it's highly unlikely that anyone will ever read this, but
I would drop the person like a fifty-megaton stinkbomb.I tolerate many things,
but I am monagamous, and I just can't handle disloyalty. all too often in life
as it is, people around you stab you in the back. Why keep such a person
around, much less pander to their irresponsibility and insincerity?

threesomes, despite what people usually think, are kinda overrated. on 
a scale of 1 to 100, i'd give them a 1.69

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