You have had a crush on someone for awhile.  While at a party (with someone
else) this person approaches you, obviously highly intoxicated.  He/She starts
making moves on you.   

Do you take advantage of their drunken state or not?  What about the person
you are at the party with?

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(no. I've found that I'm not attracted to inebriation, so I think my crush
would be... crushed.)

(I'm also curious as to why I'd necessarily be at a party with someone
else [hypotetically speaking, of course; we all know I don't party
anymore. ;) ]. I think it's OK to go to parties alone, or at least without
someone of a romantic interest.)

No I wouldn't i would be too busy watching them make a fool of them selves.

Like carson, I think I would find the drunkenness a real turnoff.

I take advantage of every golden opportunity.

 It is not appropriate to take advantage of a person while they are
at a lowered state of conscience; Therefore, Iwould put the persoin
a taxicab and see that they got home in one piec

no, i wouldn't.  i, like omni, would just help them get home...
(and it would end there.   i hate drunkeness.)

I think it would depend on who I was at the party with; if it was a friend
who would understand and not be offended at my being attracted to someone
else, that would make a difference.  The term "take advantage of" is rather
charged; it has definite sexual overtones in my mind.  If the question
is, would I do sexual thing with this person that (s)he might regret
having done in the morning, the answer is definitely no.  On the other hand,
people sometimes let true feelings show when they're drunk, that they are
otherwise inhibited from expressing.  If I thought that might be the case
here, I might "take advantage" of the situation to get to know the person
better.

Ditto what aruba said.  Drunkeness (below the level of barfing and toxicity)
can be fun once and a while.  It can also open some doors to people who 
are often very closed.  To take the opportunity to get to know someone 
better when they're drunk is perfectly ok, but you need to be careful that
things don't go too far until everyone is back in their right mind.

THank you for understanding "taking advantage" isn't always sexual.

Well... I'd want to see they got home safely, but I don't
know about whether i'd be attracted to s/he in h/is/er 
state, cuz I don't have a lot of experience with intoxication.

I think it would depend on whether or not I was also drunk (I hope I wouldn't
be) but as a general rule, I don't take advantage of people.  I wouldn't
want someone to take advantage of me.

no

well ,I wouldn't.Coz ,I think i love the person truly and I wouldn't
want any kind of indecent behavior on my part which will create a 
wrong impression on the other person whom i love.Even if the other person 
hates me and loves someone else I would not take advantage of the situation.
That's love ,I guess.

        We used to do some pretty nasty things to guys who took advantage of
my friends when they were ... affected.  Most of it turned out to be silly
and bearing proof that no drug can make you do something that is outside of
your character, but the ethic still remains.  You don't take advantage of
someone who's drunk.

well, hypothetically, i'd say no, but the last time i got really smashed (and
it will be the last time), i di more than i should have with my
ex-co-supervisor who i'd been mildy attracted to for a while..not a a lot
but more than you'd want to with his gf in the other room.  I enjoyed the
moment, and you don't think about consequences when you're that far gone.

If the woman was coherent and cognizant I might allow her to kiss me but I am
not attracted to drunks and dislike frenching alcohol breath. If the situation
was right for a kiss perhaps. But not to take  advantage of her no.

I would wait until the drunk person passed out then shave (her) hair
completely off. I would then convince the person I came with to drink until
(she) passed out. I would then take the first woman's hair and glue it onto
the second woman's chin in the shape of a very stylish beard. I would then
go for a drive along the coast with a short guy named Mel.

Nope. Drunk soes not make them more appealling...actually less so. I would
then spend some quality time with my date to assure them that the incidant
was one sided.

Kudos to dave. I believe, not certain, But I believe that I would not do it.
I know that I am capable of many things in weakness.

I was actually in this situation once and I took advantage of it.
It's a complicated story, but we were on a boat and it was cold,
and while I was helping the crew so we could get underway, my
friends drank *all* the alcohol!  So everyone at the party was
smashed except for me - I didn't have a drop.  And things got
quite out of hand.  Just about everybody made fools of themselves
in one way or another, including me, like I said, by taking
advantage of the situation.  My date and I worked together, and
we couldn't look each other in the face for a long time after,
and some of the others thought I was cold-blooded or something.
But a new relationship came out of it that was a lot of fun.
We kept it secret, though!
It was worth the damage to my rep.

No. For one, could you really derive pleasure from anything, knowing that your
partner would wake up the next morning most probably more embarrassed than
he / she had ever been in their life? For another, this assumes that you'd
be unable to seduce your crush while sober - are you trying to destroy your
own self-confidence? Anything that came out of taking advantage of a drunken
crush, wouldn't really be valid - since your partner wouldn't be in a fit
state of mind to make reasoned judgements - and has anybody considered that
this would possibly *ruin* any future chances with someone who could very well
be a fantastic romantic match for you? Not to mention, you'd have to find a
way to live with your own conscience: imagine how you'd feel if afterwards
you discovered this person was a strict Christian and you'd taken their
virginity - especially if they had no memory of it happening. Would you tell
them? (or should that be a new thread?)

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