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Perhaps they'd like to forget their own birthday (and their own mortality),
and are "forced" into forgetting all birthdays and events that remind
them of their life slipping away.
 
At some point it gets to be a habit...

I've been known to forget stuff like that.  However, I invoke a genderless
absent-minded professor excuse rather than a "guys" excuse.

Fake.  Since I've known you you've never forgotten my birthday, our
engagement anniversary, our wedding anniversary, or Valentines day.
And on every single one of those holidays you always bring flowers,
at least.

Now, Pelzar, DDS, is another matter entirely.  Next time bring him
some roses, remmers.

I'm always very good at remembering such events.  Particularly if
they're relating to somebody important, like my spouse.  "Hey!" I will
say to her, "Wasn't your birthday last month?"  She always appreciates
being remembered.

My wife forgets the important milestone dates in our relationship, not me.
She doesn't forget my birthday, but other dates... as for me
June  -- first date
er, June 1
Dec. 18 -- first... um, nevermind
May 9 -- "Legal" wedding anniversary
May 1 -- Religious wedding (handfasting) anniversary
July 12 -- her birthday
February 14 -- her mother's birthday
March 23 -- her father's birthday
um, that's all that pop to mind... I guess I don't have enough guy things
to think about .  :)

My husband remembers my birthday, valentine's day, and our anniversary,
but sometimes screws up on the kids birthdates.  I think that's cuz he 
hates kids birthday parties so it's subconscious.

I agree, I would hate tehm too. Bunch of screaming maniacs!!!!!!!!

My wife forgot my birthday this past year...she still didn't remember
two weeks later until I asked her when my birthday was.
 
Had to go out and get my own cake...

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*I* know when my birthday is, that's the day I went out and got
my own birthday cake and ate it alone.

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Yer right, that's sad.  Birthdays of ones friends are just as important as your
o your own.  And certainly more important than being "macho"

my mind is so cluttered with kid schedules and office meetings that I 
once thought it would be a nice touch if I programmed all my 
employees' birthdays into my calendar, so each day I'd see if I should
say happy b'day to someone to make them feel good, as if I really cared.
I had about 45 at the time.  Well, I did...and i *still* never once
remembered to go up to an employee and say Happy B'day Joe/Jane Doe!
After over 1 year I finally remembered to for the one employee I
really couldn't stand.  Oh, yeah, and the one w/the saame b'day
as me.  I decided they'd have to put up with me using the old, impersonal 
way of showing I cared--y'know, bonuses.  Non-family b'days are  just
beyond my capabilities.

All I know is:  Birthdays souldn't exist.  Their only purpouse is to 
put the people who forget into the dog house.  Good excuse for
a family ot ostracize a member.  Nothing more.

I would bet that most people who "remember" care enough to keep some sort
of calendar or notebook, or some writteen/electronic reminder.  Those who
don't remember do not (care to?) use such devices.
I forget events too, but since I have an "add a reminder" feature on
my computer at work, I have overcome most of my problem.  Also, for 
remembering little things (ie: take out the garbage every Thursday) I
use a watch with 5 alarms.  

Im female and have an extraordinary problem when it comes to remembering
things.

My bf remembers the little things, like our 1 year-7th month anniversary, but
not the big stuff like Valentine's Day. I realize we are short of money, but 
to not even receive a card (since it's an LDR) on important days like V-day
hurts. How do I go about explaining to him how important it is for him to
remember such holidays? He's plenty aware of when the Stanley Cup Playoffs are,
but as for when say, Thanksgiving is, he's lost. 

women wouldnt have to nag if you'd just listen to us the *first* time.
or remember what we said.
do you think we like repeating ourselves?
well.... WE DONT!

My wife neve has to tell me something twice.  Nor have I ever forgotten a
birthday, anniversary, etc......

Oh. No It's not so... I remember Every important days relevent to my
galfriend,
but she had even forgotten my Birthday  to say "sorry" later.. What a
sad thing for me... I know her own birthday, Her brother's marriage day, 
& things like that... I never asked excuse for forgetting a  remarkable
day,she does ...

You know it is kinda funny how we can be hurt just because someone forgets
a special day to us..I don't know if it would really matter if my wife forgot
my b-day, but I do believe I would be quite hurt if she had forgotten our
anniversary....I can't imagine her ever forgetting either...I think when you
have beena apart of womeones life for so long those thing start to become
natural....How long have you two been together sam?

Tradition is bed enough thing.
For example: birthdating (haha) with you family is some
sort of obligation I can look up to, not forward to.
Otoh, celebrating it for my friends has made a trtadition of its own
So we are stuck with each other, let's six, seven times
a year. Beside that I don't see'm anymore.
uh oh, bed enough...bad enough...

I think we should honor our moms on our birthdays instead of ourselves. They
did all that hard work to bring us into the world and deserve some credit

I feel grateful to beeswing's words which are great enough to convince me.
But my response to Mr.Bubu's comment is that it doesn't matter how long we
have been but how we have been? Fun & frolics are vital for a lively lif.
That too at instants like these days.. Without days like these,
I feel , life is not , to be exact, a lively, it's
something like machines tied together,. Though I am notmuch
experienced like U, I learnt from other people I met in my life.
And I remind you, still it's India, ...yes still the oldtraditions
and others to find it's identity in the world...
Indian women are expected more from them... 

My last gf dumped me about ten months ago, and I still remember
her birthday.  Go figure.  (I didn't send her anything this year,
though.  >8)

That doesn't matter, she is still part of your being, so you 
remembered. You did punish her though by not sending her a card.
It can be worse than that: I've got the strange habit of
remembering exact dates important to me as milestones. This way
I've got a quite clear picture of the events happening to me.
For instance:
The first of March 1987 I was dumped by my first gf (see?), it was 
during carnival on a sunday or monday (that bit I don't remember
exactly)
The 17th of April 1991 I was dumped by another gf.
30 the December 1980 I got my drivers' license.
7 May 1979 I graduated from high school
I can go on for hours.
But these are the milestones, and the problem occurs
with the current events, the stuff that
comes back every so much time. so to say. And that's only because
ofthe re-curring nature of them.

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Given that my ex's last letter to me said "Don't ever write to me,
phone me, or e-mail me again", I hardly think I punished her.

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