I'm going to make myself sound so much like a loser it's not funny.

     I just turned 50 and I'm still a virgin, that is with women. As for 
men, I've been with 5 so far; just one time things, but nonetheless I have 
done the deed (oral, never anal).

     So here is my question. I am attracted to women, but I have never 
been with one. My belief is that you get married THEN have sex with her; 
but as for guys, well, if we click, your cock is in my mouth, like now. I 
feel I'm way too easy in that regard, but I dig sucking cock. Thats the 
honest truth.

     So am I bi? gay? or what? I dont care for labels. I already have 
enough of them already; besides, labels are for dogfood.

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You are a person who is not afraid to be honest.  Have you tried oral sex with
women or is that against your belief?

In a word, no.

The reason I guess is that I am too much of a gentleman to even suggest 
that I have sex with a woman and that includes oral, and the opportunity 
has never presented itself. 

I think I am (I dont want to use this term, but I think it fits) afraid 
of women. I don't know why I'm afraid of women, but I don't care for 
most women. 

In an ideal situation, that is, she is willing, and I'm comfortable with 
her, I don't think I would have a problem going down on a woman, but 
there would be a slight creepiness factor.

Not 'squickiness', in the words of another grexer? ;=)
What is it about women in general that you don't care for?  (I seem to be an
exception  - how about your sister?).

How did the opportunities with men happen to present themselves?  Gay bar?

squickiness? as in smell or taste? I've smelled some women whose hygiene 
was less than pristine, and that is really a turn off; and I didn't have 
to be near them to smell the odor. If she was clean, again, not an 
issue. The issue I guess was hoping I satisfied her.

Its hard to say exactly what I don't care for in women. Maybe it's the 
drama and the way most not all lie to get what they want. I really feel 
uncomfortable around most women and I can't put my finger on just why 
that is.

Sindi, I've never had a problem with you, but I am not attracted to 
women who have a partner. As far as my sister goes, I hope to never meet 
anyone like her. She is crude at times, and she can be a real pain. I 
guess I tolerate her because she is my sister, but if I ever met anyone 
like her, I'd dump her in a heartbeat.

The first encounter I had with a guy was at boy scout camp when I was 
15. We were curious about things and one thing led to another. During 
the 2 weeks we were there we sneaked off 3 or 4 more times. 

There was one with a co worker, which turned into a relationship until 
he moved away. and the rest of them were at the bathhouse. I liked going 
there because it was anonymous and enjoyable. 

I was not propositioning you.  Most of the women I have met in my life are
not liars.  What experiences have you had with liars?

I tend to feel less comfortable around people who dress to be noticed, such
as wearing makeup, jewelry, high heels, impractical clothing.  But men also
sometimes dress impractically.  Is this a form of lie?

I know you weren't. You are one of my best friends and I know the kind of 
person you are. I just wish there were more of you. The world would be a 
much nicer place. :)

Liars come in all shapes, sizes and genders unfortunately. i really cannot 
list every experience I've had with liars, but once someone lies to me, 
it's over. 

Lies also come in many forms, and not everyone dresses practically. I 
never thought you could lie by dressing, but that is plausable.

We have had experiences with people lying because they thought it was more
considerate than telling the truth, most recently when someone that we had
spent a lot of time helping told us the last three times we phoned that she
was busy (getting out of the car, driving, talking to someone else) and would
phone back.  She does not read email or text messages.  If she did not want
to associate with us any more I would have preferred the truth, to save us
wasting time.  (She also still has Jim's tools that she borrowed and moved
out of town with - it is definitely dishonest to keep them when he offered
to bike 50 miles to fix something with them for her and get them back, and
she never responded).

If someone wears clothing or makeup designed to make them look like something
they are not (red lips, wide shoulders), is that lying or just fashion?

I think it's more fashion than lying.

Is fiction lying? Yes but it's not caustic lying. We are all entertained 
by stories created by writers, and since I don't lie well explains why I 
cannot write fiction to save my life. Most of my writing is from first 
hand experiences.

So what sort of lies have you received from 'most women'?

I have thought a long time about this. 

I have gotten most lies from the women I have hauled in my cab. Lying 
such as where they wanted to go, or if they actually had the money to 
pay for the fare. Usually more often than not they would be going to a 
boyriends house for a quick tryst. 
I don't like this because this could be what I call a honey trap. The 
girl takes unsuspecting cab to boyfriend who has a gun and robs the 
driver. Thats why I began to not trust any woman because usually she has 
a web of lies going on. Its paranoid but sometimes it saves your life. 
No one in my company would believe that this crap goes on, but it's 
rampant in Toledo.

   As for my women friends. I have few of them, and all of them I can 
trust, and that includes you, Sindi. I consider you one of my oldest and 
dearest friends.

Sounds like you got involved with a bunch of prostitutes.  I don't think
people who take cabs are representative of the general population.  
But I doubt that the majority even of women who take cabs are liars.
Can you categorize taxicab users?  What sort of people can afford cabs rather
than buses, but not cars? 

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