I just got on this conferance today and Iwas wondering why it seems so
straight (no offence intended) so I decided to write the following
 what would you look for in a Gay Lesbian Bisexual lover (GLBi) ?
What do you find romantic to do with your glbi (if you have one {or more})

95 responses total.

As I am not entirely sure of my sexuality, I would currently classify
myself as BI (as to leave both sides open).  All I would look for in
a lover in either relation is someone who likes me just the way I am.
That's an awful lot to ask, but it is the only thing that would do.

You might check out the g/l/b flirt item, too, Tom... I created it for 
the same reason, b/c this conf was getting eerily heterocentrist despite
the number of bi females and handful of bi guys wandering around.

Regardless of gender, I look for pretty much the same things in a lover:
friendship, compatibility, willingness to put up with my quirks, quirks
that I'm willing to put up with...  I had a regular male partner for a
while, but that's faded for now, b/c of schedule conflicts.  The only
sadness involved in that relationship was the amount that we felt we had
to hide our affection for each other despite our Pagan (and hence 
allegedly tolerant) surroundings... something I've nee ver done with my
female lovers, at least not since high school (and there was a complicated
reason for it then).

Last night, I had a need for cuddles, and went to another board b/c the
people here were all too tied up with the reason for needing cuddles.
I ran into a bi guy friend of mine that I've had c-sex with, but which
I'd never considered much of a source for emotional support, something I'd
regretted. Of course, he started hitting on my right away, just as I'd 
expected.  I hugged him and told him that I just wanted to be held by 
someone.  I honestly thought he'd keep hitting on me, but instead he did
just what I asked him to... he help me close and stroked my hair and let
me know I was loved.  It was so sweet.  :)

I think that i would look for the same thing ineither sex.  Someone who
understands.

        Poor brighn-love! I'm glad to see that you got the love you
needed..
        I look for the beauty in people, and fall in love with it
every time.. I'm a *hopeless* romantic.. The beauty on the outside
is wonderful, but what I really need is to see it inside too.. then I can
love them enough to want to express it sexually..

re #3
undserstand what>

I totally agree selena.. I'm a sucker for a beautiful person

I agree with you, tom.  I thought grex was supposed to be somewhat OUTside
of the norm?  (I'm female and bi, "bi the way".)  Physically, I look for a
prettey face, and not someone who's overly thin.  Actually, I usually prefer
somewhat plump females.  Emotionally, I look for prettey much what most people
look for:  someone I have things in common with, someone who understands me
(and is willing to put up with it), someone who cares.

Greg, It is so hard for me to explain the way ai feel about things to anyone
If there was asomeone out there who really understood, it would make my day

ahhh
ok...just the wish of a soul mate

Isn't that what we all wish for?
*sigh*

<shrug>
i would not know what everone wishes for

Anyone who understood would understand.

<hug danla>

i bow to your supiriourly confuseing logic

Logic?  There is no such thing.

<otter gives brighn a long warm hug, just because she needs one herself>

<brighn wraps his arms around kae's shoulders and allows her to melt
as much as she needs to into his chest>
Rough day, or just feeling lonely?

        There's NOTHING wrong with thin people!!

but waifs are evil.

Waifs are evil?  You are generalizing.  A waif might simply be an orphan, and
certainly not all orphans are evil.

The only thing that is evil is evil, greg, now quite generalizing 
based on looks...

i meant the type of weif as in the style...the unhealthely thin models
that i can see thier bones just rotting away...they have no body fat and
almost no muscle, and are basically animated skeletons with skin.
perhaps i should change evil to dangerous, since being under wight can prove
just as fatal as beign overwight

YEs, true, Greg, that's something that's been on my mind quite a bit
the last few days...
But, yes, there's nothing wrong with thin, there's something wrong
with *deliberately* thin...

        Right.. it's not like I *try* to be 110 lbs, and 5'7"..

But some people do.
I don't think i would like to weigh 110 and I am three inches shorter than 
you.
120, maybe...
Eh...who cares.

<anecdote is thick, 6'4" and 265 pounds but lean and toned>
<anecdote has spent over eight years lifting and is proud of what he looks
like, finally>

Didn't you get tired over all that time?  Thank goodness they finally
let you put it down (whatever it was you'd been lifting for eight years...)

being too thin is dangerous!  take it from someone who knows.  I was very over
weight for awhile after having my son and I went on a diet.  I reached my goal
weight, but I didn't stop.  I didn't even realize that I was still loosing
the weight!  believe me, 115 lbs doesn't look good on someone 5'8"(unless you
naturally have tiny bones).  not to mention that you get bruses from just
putting your knees together when you sleep!  it is much better to have some
meat on your bones! you look better and feel better too.  I think everyone
should be happy with the way their body looks as long as their healthy.

I think all people are beautiful...no matter what size.  My boyfriend worries
that he's too thin, but I think he's gorgeous.  I obsess because I'm
overweight, but he says that makes me more mother-like and cuddly.  <shrug>
I don't know who demanded that models and sexy people have to be thin...I'm
starting to wonder why and how that stereotype came about.  <shrug> 
Sorry...mind drift...

i think it came about when the corset came into use....not as a result
of the corset, but just shows how tastes are chaned...
<sigh>
<shrugh>
maybe when everyone started to get fed an ok amount, so being fat
was no longer a sign of wealth?

I care more baout the person than the shell they dwell in.

somewhere along the line the media decided to tell us what we should look
like.  You have to admit, that SKINNY girls look good in everything they put
on, that is on film they do.  (remember that film puts 10 lbs on you).  Sorry
everyone... I'll get off my pedestal now... :)

i don't really have anythign against skinny people.  it is jealousy that 
makes me bitter.
I have been mildly overweight for most of my life.  i don't care enough a
about it it actually do anything, i just wonder sometimes if it would be 
nicer to be thin...
eh
hmph

I don't have anything against thin people...they can't help it...  Like
Esther, it's *jealousy* that gets in the way.

*sigh*  It's taken me a long time to accept my body, but I'm happy
with it now... it's not a matter of thin or fat, tall or short, or 
whatever... at least, it shouldn't be.

Any rate, this convo is getting serious, and there's an identical
item in H-Sex, and at any rate it's completely off the #0 topic,
so either bring it back on-topic or find a new avenue, please...
If you want to talk about this issue, find the item in H-Sex.
Selena would be glad to have the visitors... isn't that right,
love of mine?

So, where are the queers, bring on the queers... where ae the quuers?
*giggle*

        I would very much like the visitors.. the last entry dates from the
10th in Human Sexuality..
        BTW, I don't bruise too easily.. Oh, and don't wonder if it's any
better being thin- I'd like to be able to stand straight in a strong wind
someday..

<comfort selena>

        Oh, it's not quite that bad, greg, it's just annoying being a human
aerofoil..

<chuckle>
ok

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