Hi. I'm here to vent, and explore ideas. Some of you, I imagine, are aware
of Love Lines, a radio show that gives adivce to people who think that a five
minute phone call to a drug addiction specialist and a mediocre comedian will
solve all their problems (not to be confused with Love Phones, a radio show
that gives advice to people who think that a five minute phone call to a sex
therapist and a mediocre DJ will solve all their problems).
  
Anyway, like MTV's TV version, the radio show is hosted by Adam Corrolla and
Dr. Drew. This morning, Adam went on and on about how bisexuals can't have
commitments *by definition* because *by definition* you have to relationships
with both genders, so relationships can only last a few years. I was aghast
at such incredible ignorance on Love Lines -- I mean, Adam's a  dolt, but this
exceeds eeven his low brain capacity. =} How does one respond to such
ignorance, or does one even bother?

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Yow!  This guy is obviously completely out in left field.  

That's like saying that obviously heterosexual relationships are 
inherently incapable comittment because there are literally *thousand* 
of people out there of the opposite sex and you have to have a sexual 
relationship with everyone who attracts you.

(Come to think of it, I know people who believe that, too.)

Bisexuality is about who you're *attracted to*, not necessarily about 
who you have sex with.  Priests, monks, and others who choose a celibate 
lifestyle aren't necessarily asexual, they may be gay or straight, too.

And for generations gays were pressured to marry and procreate.  That 
didn't make them hetero.

And in Greece during the empire period it was politically savy to *act* 
bi, even if your tastes ran more true to men or women.  That didn't mean 
that fewer people were gay or straight.

Then again, reason rarely works with morons.

Well, I can understand the _idea_ behind what he's saying, being as it's an
idea I found myself with for a long time.  It felt a bit like cheating to be
mostly straight.  But I think the less we have this idea kicking around, the
better

The proper response is to state the facts in a polite but condescending tone.

condescending... smile, i'm good at that. =}

I've always thought he was an insensitive, obnoxious waste of sperm, but
that's just *my* opinion.  =)  Who is he to judge bisexual relationships when
his idea of a good time is his hand?

(Would that count as a monosexual relationship?  Or perhaps asexual? 
 Methinks it doesn't bear thinking on too closely...)

da f%$&?
guess i'm simply at a loss for words.
o.k. so maybe being bi "instantly doubles your chances for a date on
a sat night" why wouldn't "we" hang onto a relationship givin the
same circumstances as if our partners were always of the opposite
sex ( or just the same i guess to)
anyway that's my 2 cents.. never liked the guy much either anyway.

        It's probably been his experience.  I've seen people with that
attitude, and it pretty much makes me say "OK, but that's not
monogamy to me, so it won't fly with me."

One of the first mentions of the topic I saw in a book said, basically,
"Bisexuality doesn't exist, you're just indecisive, and even if it did exist
 you wouldn't be happy, and if you were it wouldn't last."  Looking back on
it, it pisses me off...

Eh, and Dennis Miller has a tirade in his book "The Rants" which amounts to,
gays are o.k., but bisexuals should make up their damn minds.
  

that line of thinking REALLY pisses me off. and I get it from GOOD
freinds of mine.:( hell my ex hated the fact. Why can't people just
accept that sometime sex (m/f) just doesn't have to be such a
factor. sheesh.

        People tend to extraplorate their past experiences (especially when
they're painful experiences) onto the present.  If you're beaten up by a bunch
of people wearing orange jackets, you're never going to look at someone in
an oange jacket the same way, for instance, even if reason overwhelms instinct
after a few seconds.

        Plus, people're naturally insecure about their sexuality in this
culture.  Whee!

I can relate to that, actually.  I have to admit I'm fairly racist, if only
because I've never really known well anyone other than white people.  Had I
wound up with a different set of friends, I might well be just as insecure.

Grrrr...I knew Adam was a blockhead, but I wasn't thinking he was THIS stupid!
I'm VERY committed if I ever give my heart out.

M.T., I think, said it very succinctly.  It's a matter of attraction, and not
necessarily sex.  And committment doesn't comprise the definition.  Is a
person not gay or straight or bi if they never enter an intimate relationship?
And just who is defining relationships, anyway?  A male friend of mine and
I have had sexual attractions to each other, but we didn't pursue that matter.
So is our friendship gay or straight?  Or is it bi?

And is sexuality concrete?  It's hard to categorize everyone perfectly.  And
what about relationships in general?  Friendships are relationships, too--
although we don't all f**k our friends.  Anyway, I'm saying that for me, lines
tend to blur.  I really hate it when somebody tells me I have to have a sexual
experience with another guy-- giving, to be bi.

By the way, I don't usually watch Love Lines.  Not really my kind of show.

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