In the course of my 36 years, I've had the opportunity to make
thousands of decisons affecting the direction of my life.  Most
have been the right decision, some have been wrong, and only a
few I truly regret.
 
We are constantly making decisions about the directions of our
lives.  This is the place to talk about these issues.  Careers,
marriage, family, and yes, even religion and philosophy are all
appropriate topics for this conference.  I only ask that you all
keep an open mind, try not to be too dogmatic, and keep the
flames turned down low.

76 responses total.

My direction is circular.

mine has been out.

I always enjoyed going to the end of the Universal Reality, stepping aside,
and watching.

I've always liked going to the end of the Universal Reality, Stepping on 
the brakes and making everybody pass me.

I really like that last.  And you're one sick puppy.

Sick puppies are part of this 4D continuum also, and probably
have some very good, original perspectives to consider.

Hey! Doesn't this belong in the reality .cf?  :)

Whose reality?  :)

        Mt direction in life seems to be two steps forward one step back--
and a fair number of sideways scoots, just to keep the Fates off guard.  (or
am i the one who's confused?)

        Anyway, I regret some of my choices, but seldom the ones my masses
of aquaintances would expect if they knew...

LOVE!

Hi, love, need to make a decision?

Hey, suzie, I was hoping you'd grace my .cf with your presence.

So people decided to head another direction? Some litle decisions,
well, decisions that I spent _little_ time making, as well as ome
little decisions by themselves, have gone awry. I haven't always
like the eventual outcome of some decisions, but in the reconstruction
it was a valuable but not disasterous experience.

Someone far wiser then myself, once said, . .The only mistaken decision is one
in which the decision yeilded no knowledge.  

Have you found a direction?

Are you really directing any of your life at all?

You direct what you can and then flow with the rest.

Is that why this conference is dead?

I guess people are not interested in the items I've entered.  There's
nothing I can do about it, so I'm not getting upset about it.  As Yogi
Berra said, "If people don't want to come out to the ballpark, there's
nothing you can do to stop them."

How Zen. ;-)

Everybody makes mistakes! Constantly. And everyone makes humongous 
mistakes sometimes. The trick is to make the same mistake as few times
as possible. And once it happens (know that it will!), let it go. Most
times, you would'nt even see it as a mistake unless you had a reason-
ably decent moral system. Thank whatever gods there are that you could
learn from this hideous event, file it away for next time, and don't
keep compounding it by dwelling on it.

I agree, agree, agree, agree! Also, don't dwell on other people's mistakes.
If they're obvious and the person in question is trying to solve them, the
most irritating thing in the world is to have someone else complain and harass
you about them...

You got it! And what makes the whole thing even more fun is that the choices
that proved to be the very best ones for me might very well prove to be the
worst possible direction (!) for you to take. Heck, the decision that worked
for me yesterday might never work for me again. You've got to stay flexible
and be a lot more eager to learn from other folks rather than trying to 
show them the light you think you've found.

unsolicited advice is usually unheeded anyway.

 I don't know, it tends to hang around and bother me, who is wondering if she
should follow the advice. Either that or it gets so on my nerves that I 
am constantly thinking irritatedly about it. 

Even solicited advice is usually unheeded.  People asking for advice
are often only asking you to back up their opinion.

Heh. I've seen people come out of counseling sessions spend the rest of the
afternoon undoing everything the counselor had communicated to them.  It's
bizarre to watch.  People's egos have a certain tenacity to them.  Sometimes
that's good, sometimes not.

Perhaps they want to get out themselves of their problems. If you have enough
pride, you don't *need* anyones else's opinions or counseling, you have to
work it out with and by yourself or it won't actually be solved, just put
away for awhile. 

Unsolicited advice is usually unheeded? Sorry, guys, but it just ain't true!
We spend our entire lives doing thins just because other people say we should.
It starts with our parents and then our teachers. Ever hear of "peer pressure"
or "keeping up with the Jones's"? Holy cow, what else is the entire field of
advertising about? It's not necessarily bad, but it does tend to make us 
believe that other people should tell us what to do. It's not unusual to find
folks who base most choices on how other people might react. It is very rare
to locate anyone with enough faith in himself to make his own decisions.

Can you come over and tell my kids this? They just won't , uh , never mind.

I was thinking of "advice" in a different way... peer pressure and ads aren't
really the advice I know. They're just themselves. Unsolicited advice might
bother you for a while, but if it's all that unsolicited I'd tend to think
badly of the speaker and ignore the advice. 

What's up.  Does anyone still read this conference is it passe.  I happen to 
agree with Emma, advice is people suggesting what to do in a certain situation 
not people telling you what to do.  Hey, do you exist, are you listening
out there.  Maybe I'm the only one that truly exists.  I was, after all, voted
most likeley to exist by my existentialist club.:)

weaver, huh.  That's an interesting handle.

Ummm.  Let me guess.  You were probably voted in unanimously after
you cast the only vote.  ;-)

So what kinds of things are discussed at this existentialist club?

r
r 33
My guess is that the club would welcome a question like: "If someone 
started a conference called 'Directions' and people stopped logging-in,
in what sense would the conference continue to exist?"

Finally an idea that doesn't give me a headache to think about...
Without participants, the "conference" does not exist.  

Oh, but the past posting continue to be.

Re 36:   Ohhh... so I was supposed to infer that since people "stopped
logging in", that they DID log in for a while, and so participated in the
conference for some period of time?  Hmmm... I was wrong when I wrote 35...
this idea gives me a headache like all the rest!

"These people stopped logging in" does, in fact, presuppose
"These people logged in at some time in the past"

I'm going to go geta couple of asprin.

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