Finding mates: where do you find 'em?
single women/men, where does the modern single look>??
schoo? work? the net?
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Well, when I first started going to Ring of Steel the first person I 
made friends with after Smitty was a girl named Bree.  I even attempted 
to ask her out twice (though I should have known better the second 
time).  Short and sweet she's with someone else.

I have since seen more women in Ring I'm attracted too but they're all 
too damn young.

There was a girl who worked where I work for a time who I was kinda 
interested in, but she left and we really didn't talk that much except 
for the usual nicities passing each other in the hall.

Lots of good, chivalrous, intelligent men in the SCA, but they're all taken
(duh).  :)

I could never date somebody I worked with...too messy.

I guess I have no clue where to find a mate....if I did know, I probably
wouldn't be single, eh? :)

I hate dating, and hate being hit on. Somwhere in there, I suspect I like
people, but my chabnces of finding someone who doesn't immediately piss me
off are enourmously slim. Sucks, don't it?

(On the other hand, being a female undergrad willing to get dressed up on the
weekends for some reason makes me horrible pray to people who want to ask me
out or hit on me, so if I ever wasn't such a cold brat, I probably wouldn't
have too much trouble-- the problem isn't how to find people, it's how to get
rid of them because they bother me.)

Like eeyore, i (hopefully) wouldn't be single if i knew...  Work - messy
& dangerous if they aren't in a decently distant part of a fairly big
company.  School works better, but was *long* ago for me.  The net - i've
looked at matchmaker sites occasionally, and they're crap unless you're
looking for casual sex - ultra-slow, eager to puff up their "match counts"
with people a punch-card program could figure out were poor matches (100+
miles away, i don't fit her required age range, smoke so much that she was
chased out of LA by the EPA, etc.), etc., etc.  At this point, i'm living
my life, and okay if i meet someone and okay if i don't.

RoS has some new female members, but as usual, most of them are under 
my required age limit.

I guess we ought to ask what the required age limit is.

I know mine at this point is no college kids. I don't mind Grad students, but
I'm too old to deal with the frat boys and what not...not in age, but in
mentality.

My 34 year old brother is dating at 23 year old girl right now....she's 2
years younger than me....that kinda bugs me.  But I cannot complain about
it...when my mother was 23, she married my 36 year old father.  (mum says it
runs in the famil...snicker!)

i'd dye to be dateing a 23 year old girl!
hell
i'd die to be dating

The question, Greg, is whether you'd dye a 23 year old if you were dating
her....

I don't think I have a hard-and-fast age limit right now (other than 16), but
I don't seem much interested in people under 23 or so.

Generally my rule is no one under 18, although when I was interested in 
Bree she was 17.  However, I am usually more attracted to people who 
are older than I am.

bree? from commie? the ultimate in chottie technologies?
dye only if she asked;)

Nobody under 23, and they *must* have life experience (i.e. paying rent,
working at least 25 hours a week, some school or a desire to go to school...)

I think the Bree you know from commie is someone else, Greg.  (But yeah, I'd
dye her...)

Re # 11: You wouldn't have known this Bree, Greg, as she lives in 
Northville.

I may have already mentioned this, but I don't date co-workers: too 
dangerous.

Same here.  Been there, done that, went through the nonsense.  Ick.

Stuff happens on accident.  Maybe not on accident, but it generally doesn't
happen when you plan for it.  I met my dude on Yahoo personals, I was looking
through it for kicks and grins.

<mental image of greg turning his next gf blue or puce colored>

I don't date.  I hate dating.  It's stupid.

If someone's mate material, I'll find out through friendship.  The cornerstone
to a relationship should be friendship, anyway; so why bother going through
the motions of dating when you can just make friends.  If something evolves
out of friendship, it's has more potential for longevity.  If you remain
friends and no relationship occurs, than what have you lost?

Sounds like you mean something different by "dating" than I do, arianna. 

It's almost always too random to apply to a system.  I like it that way.

(Are kicks and grins more or less entertaining than shits and giggles?)

"Dating" does seem to be a word that's expanding to fill all available space.
It seems to center around "met him for coffee a few times, we've fooled around
a little, I kind of like him," but I've heard it mean anywhere from "I talked
to him once and now he won't stop calling me" to "I haven't gotten around to
proposing marriage yet, but give me a few weeks."  

Yeah 17! You totally think like I do. Dating sucks! Power to the people who
hate random people!

I have to say that I don't "hate" dating, but I have found it extremly
stressful and at times uncomfortable, so I'm not that fond of it either. At
this point in my life, though, the main problem seems to be just getting a
chance to meet new people. I agree that long term relationships should be on
a more solid base than "the sex that we had that first night was great , so
I'll stick around and see how the rest goes" sort of basis. As I said, its
the meeting of those new people to make new friends that has me stumped..

by the way, just what is "Ring of Steel"?

Ummm...let's see....a tube-like round of extremely hard metal...

Sorry...couldn't resist. :)

Ring of Steel is a stage fencing group.

<twitches at the word `fencing,' but lets it slide>

yha, fencing it isn't
no posts
no wire
bah
not even whitewash!

Stage sword-fighting group

<stops twitching>

Jeez, you'd think after two or three years of not playing with them, I'd have
gotten over that reflex.

what reflex?

I used to fence, Ring of Steel is definately not fencing (although it 
is in our reparte (sp?)).  We prefer to call it Action Theatre or 
Theatrical Combat and Stunt Troupe.

But if you really want to find out, there is a Free Demonstration 
coming up next month.  Look to rialto for details.

right
dear god why kung fu action theater?

Actually, most of our martial arts based moves are based on Aikido.

I thought aikido was one of the more recently developed martial arts? So how
can most others be based on it? 

I was responding to Greg's question about "Kung Fu Action Theatre" in 
response to the current drift about The Ring of Steel. Therefore, I was 
refering to the moves based on martial arts used in The Ring of Steel 
being based on the martial art of Aikido.

People reacting before they fully understand is one Internetism that 
really gets on my nerves.

(As far as the 'real' martial arts go, new ones are being developed and
promoted all the time.  Usually, these are new combinations and permutations
of moves from other styles, put together by someone with a big enough ego to
think he can get away with it.  From what little I ever knew on the subject,
it seems like once in a very long while the big-ego-guy is right.

Ring of Steel is a stage group.  So their 'martial arts moves' are for staged
fights.  The rolls and falls are taken from Aikido.  The attacks and defenses
are faked-up versions of whatever seems appropriate to the fight or the show.)

Sorry.

Hey, don't apologize.  I just talk too much :)

I also have the rotten habit of not reading through all the posts as well as
I should. ;)

'salright.

Anyway, back to methods of seeking.

One time when I was finished eatting at Connor O'neil's, I noticed that 
the waitress had forgotten to charge me for my coffee.  So for one of 
the few times in my life, I decided to point out a mistake that was not 
in my favor.  To which the waitress said "It's free," and then Rivka, 
who was sitting next to me, said "Maybe she thought you were cute."

Maybe Rivka thought she was cute.

(Opps. Was that my outside voice? I'll stop talking about people who aren't
here now)

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