jazz
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response 77 of 79:
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Nov 2 15:15 UTC 2000 |
It's quite important to see yourself through the eyes of others; to
extend a metaphor, it's difficult to see the back of your head. Likewise,
it's difficult to see the real-world effects of your actions unless you pay
close attention to how other people percieve them, recognizing that both they
and you are flawed and see through the filter of their own hopes and fears.
I would disagree with the impression that all human behaviour consists
of impressing others; if you said influencing their behaviour, then I'd
agree. Otherwise why would people fight in private?
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swa
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response 78 of 79:
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Nov 12 00:52 UTC 2000 |
Re 70: "it isnt wise to see yourself only reflected in the eyes of
others.
if you care too much about what other people think, you'll be
a chameleon to try to please everyone in exchange for their
approval. you wont know who *you* really are."
But part of who I am is based on my relationships with assorted others.
I have no particular desire to live in total isolation.
Re 72, 77: How does what we do in private impress/influence others? I
think there's a large fraction of "all human behavior" that is done for
oneself and has little to do with others at all.
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