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jmsaul
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response 25 of 54:
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Dec 11 01:08 UTC 2003 |
That's involuntary manslaughter, I'm pretty sure.
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aruba
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response 26 of 54:
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Dec 12 15:30 UTC 2003 |
On Grex we take fallacy #1 to the xtent that people argue, on a regular
basis, that you shouldn't avoid interacting with people just because they're
assholes.
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scg
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response 27 of 54:
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Dec 12 22:21 UTC 2003 |
What twenex is describing sounds like what's often referred to in the US as
the "battered wife defense." I'm not sure what the legal term for that is.
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tod
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response 28 of 54:
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Dec 12 23:41 UTC 2003 |
This response has been erased.
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jmsaul
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response 29 of 54:
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Dec 13 03:46 UTC 2003 |
Re #26: Define "interacting". Do you mean letting them post, or actually
trying to carry on a conversation about them?
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aruba
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response 30 of 54:
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Dec 14 01:06 UTC 2003 |
I mean listening to them and/or talking to them.
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jmsaul
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response 31 of 54:
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Dec 14 15:08 UTC 2003 |
I've never seen anyone argue that. I've only seen people argue that even
assholes should be allowed to post. Can you point me to an example?
(In fact, I've seen some very controlling behavior here, where an item author
gets quite angry when people post material that doesn't toe the author's line.
That isn't typical at all, but I've never seen the other extreme.)
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remmers
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response 32 of 54:
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Dec 14 17:23 UTC 2003 |
No, it's pretty atypical here. As regards the other extreme, our
good friend pvn (nee' bdh) recently stated that people who use twit
filters shouldn't reproduce.
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jmsaul
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response 33 of 54:
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Dec 14 19:24 UTC 2003 |
He says a lot of things. Enough of them are entertaining that I would never
use a twit filter on him.
I *would* like to see a fix option that lets me fix only items where the
last response was by a specified user, so we can deal with the species of
twit that responds to everything in the conference with crap.
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aruba
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response 34 of 54:
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Dec 14 19:38 UTC 2003 |
Joe: see item 99, resp. 8 and 23, and item 164, resp. 16 (though that one
was apparently in jest. I've also seen many posts over the years along the
lines of, "You're not taking my idea seriously because it came from me!"
The lgical implication of that admonishion is that everyone should be paid
attention to, no matter how they've behaved in the past. The more I think
about it, the more fallacious that seems.
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twenex
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response 35 of 54:
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Dec 14 19:45 UTC 2003 |
Fallacio.
Hey,m I'm sorry, I just couldn't resist :-/
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jmsaul
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response 36 of 54:
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Dec 15 01:01 UTC 2003 |
Re #34: You're citing posts by BDH and Tod denouncing the use of twit
filters, not telling people they should interact with twits.
Number one, these posts are by two people whose normal behavior
is to post simply to be provocative. Number two, criticizing
twit filters isn't the same thing as telling people to interact
with twits. Number three, neither of those guys are representative
of Grex culture. (I'm representing it better by being this
pedantic, and I'm not culturally a Grexer either.)
As for failing to take ideas seriously because you don't like the
originator -- we all do it, and it's dumb, because previously
useless people can come up with good ideas occasionally. If
you can't evaluate ideas independently of the person who proposes
them, you'll miss out on some good ideas. It's hard, though.
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aruba
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response 37 of 54:
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Dec 15 02:03 UTC 2003 |
How is "not using a twit filter" not "interacting with twits"?
No, the more I think about it, the more convinced I am that it's dumb to try
to take people seriously when they don't meet a certain level of civility.
If that means you miss out on an occasional good idea, the tradeoff in
sanity is well worth it. And this is the way most human institutions
function all over the world - you have to be a reasonable person if you want
to be treated as one. So if you want to be treated with respect, you learn
to treat others that way.
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other
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response 38 of 54:
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Dec 15 02:44 UTC 2003 |
What Mark said. Plus, it's not worth my time or aggravation to read
the comments of people who have been persistently and pointedly
annoying to see if they actually have anything useful to say. If
someone else wants to filter and report, fine.
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jmsaul
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response 39 of 54:
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Dec 15 04:37 UTC 2003 |
<shrug> It's a matter of personal choice. I'd filter someone like wellcome,
because I don't want to deal with 80 posts that are basically noise. I
wouldn't filter someone who I find annoying but who posts on topic. (I'm
deliberately not giving specific examples here.)
Let me point out a few things, though:
1. The issue in question here was whether Grex has a culture that enforces
the geek norm about interacting with everyone
2. My position was that Grex does not
3. The people Mark has quoted in an attempt to illustrate that norm are
not exemplars of Grex culture; in fact, they're generally in opposition
to Grex norms
4. Mark and Eric, who are prominent exemplars of Grex culture, are taking
a position opposite to the geek norm
5. This isn't an effective way to argue with my statement
6. Even I'm not telling you it's morally wrong to twit-filter, just that
you may miss out occasionally if you do
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aruba
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response 40 of 54:
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Dec 15 15:03 UTC 2003 |
I think I'll add a few fallacies to the list:
6. It's only WHAT I say that matters. HOW I say it is unimportant. Anyone
who thinks otherwise is an idiot.
7. There is nothing worse than being an idiot.
8. Anytime someone says something, that is an invitation to argue with them.
If they didn't want to argue, why did they speak up?
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scott
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response 41 of 54:
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Dec 15 16:36 UTC 2003 |
There was some reference to this in one of the Neal Stephenson books
(Cryptonomicon). It was about regular conversations vs. conversations where
"every statement must be provably true". Which sounds like some of the
arguments on Grex, actually.
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gull
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response 42 of 54:
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Dec 15 17:01 UTC 2003 |
Re resp:40: I have mixed feelings about #8. I dislike it when I'm
talking to someone and they disagree with me, but when I try to talk
about why they feel that way they just say, "It's just my opinion. I
don't want to argue about it." I think a lot of the problems in the
world are caused by people who hold strong opinions that they've never
thought about or tried to justify.
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willcome
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response 43 of 54:
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Dec 15 19:30 UTC 2003 |
Isn't it time to start thinking?
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oval
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response 44 of 54:
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Dec 15 19:49 UTC 2003 |
i still say gsf1 even though i filter one person - it's my way of accepting
that person's existence without having to put others through the bad mood
he puts me in. no need to thank me. there's a few of these i know in my real
life - when they start ranting i usually step out for a smoke.
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twenex
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response 45 of 54:
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Dec 15 19:52 UTC 2003 |
I don't smoke.
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flem
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response 46 of 54:
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Dec 15 20:02 UTC 2003 |
I used to know this girl who, during conversations, would get very
defensive and upset if I disagreed with anything she said. No matter
how mildly I phrased my disagreement, she always felt like I was
attacking her personally. I found it really hard to talk to her for any
length of time. It didn't help that she said a lot of things I
disagreed with. :)
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mary
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response 47 of 54:
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Dec 15 22:58 UTC 2003 |
Girl? Maybe as she moved into adulthood she learned how to converse, just
as boys do. Have you seen her since then? ;-)
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gull
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response 48 of 54:
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Dec 16 00:36 UTC 2003 |
Re resp:46: I've known people like that.
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flem
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response 49 of 54:
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Dec 16 18:00 UTC 2003 |
She was, I believe, 19 when I knew her, as was I. I haven't seen her in
years, and haven't spoken at length with her for even longer.
I've known other people like that, though never quite so extreme;
people for whom there didn't seem to be any middle ground between
agreement and antagonism.
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