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kami
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response 210 of 219:
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Jan 7 04:48 UTC 2005 |
Having a "daughter" 5 years younger than you will be interesting. Will he
respect your parenting ideas and instincts, when he already has experience?
Yes, COnVocation is still running. Wish I could be there, but it's too far
and there's too much else going on then. <sigh> Have fun!
Yes, I remember Cat. And Dee. ENjoy the kitties. What work are you doing?
Sappy and romantic is a good way to be. Have fun!
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mooncat
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response 211 of 219:
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Jan 11 19:59 UTC 2005 |
Having as much fun as they'll let me. ;) Currently temping for a non-
profit that helps see to it that the rights of disabled folks are
protected.
We've talked about raising kids and so on- but obviously the real thing
will be different. I'm not worried about things clashing too much, he
respects my concerns with the raising of cats. ;) Plus we want many of
the same things for our kids. Plus, he was the divorced non-custodial
parent, so raising a kid together will be new for him. Though there's a
plus in that he has lots of experience with night feedings, diapers,
etc., so I won't have to train him. ;)
Oh, and the daughter just got married on Dec. 23, so when we get
married I'll have a son and daughter right away. I could be a 'grandma'
and a mom the same year! ;) That would be weird.
Probably won't make it this year- haven't started planning and these
things always take forever. Plus, I usually hung out with smoker people
(step-daugther to be smokes too) and since I just quit 6 months ago
(and still really miss it) I'm a little worried about going. Am still
thinking on it.
Gareth's middle school has a zoology program? Wow. They didn't have
those things when I was a kid! Lucky boy.
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kami
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response 212 of 219:
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Jan 12 03:58 UTC 2005 |
Congrats on being a non-smoker!
Having grand kid older than your own kid would be odd. Entertaining, though.
Is he pagan or pagan/friendly? Religion is another issues that comes up more
when kids are involved.
Yeah, pre-trained mail-- what a treat.
Your temp position sounds really neat. Hope it becomes permanent.
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mooncat
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response 213 of 219:
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Jan 12 15:52 UTC 2005 |
The temp position is covering someone on maternity leave, so I don't
have a lot of hope that it'll be permanent. The woman in question is
the insurance carrier for her husband/self/new baby, so her not coming
back isn't really an option.
Yeah, the Beau is pagan friendly, not pagan himself. It's likely our
children will not be raised to any particular religion
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kami
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response 214 of 219:
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Jan 13 04:22 UTC 2005 |
Ah. well, it's always possible that someone else will leave and need you to
take *their* position at the same office.
Thing about raising kids in a particular religion; it's easier- they know
"what they are". Not necessary, though. But I think kids *do* need the
security of a set of family rituals, around holidays and milestones, life
crises and moments of great happiness. Kids like customs and rituals. So you
will end up building a set of practices that work for your unique family
blend. But (from personal experience), don't let inconvenience keep you from
creating and sticking to whatever you all decide will work.
And the process of developing such traditions will be afun exercise for the
two of you!
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mooncat
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response 215 of 219:
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Jan 13 18:43 UTC 2005 |
re: Raising kids/rituals: Yanno, I hadn't exactly thought of it from
that point of view. Makes perfect sense though. Some 'rituals' around
holidays will likely be in place before we have kids. Definitely
something to think about, thanks. :)
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kami
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response 216 of 219:
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Jan 14 02:38 UTC 2005 |
Yeah, one of the joys of becomming a couple is developing family rituals,
which draw from both your traditions of origin, but are yours alone.
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mooncat
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response 217 of 219:
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Jan 14 19:57 UTC 2005 |
I like the sound of that.
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kami
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response 218 of 219:
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Jan 17 00:54 UTC 2005 |
Yup. It's work, though.
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mooncat
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response 219 of 219:
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Jan 24 19:11 UTC 2005 |
Well yeah, I keep getting told that anything worth doing is. Or
something like that. ;)
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