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25 new of 404 responses total.
cmcgee
response 137 of 404: Mark Unseen   Oct 23 14:32 UTC 1998

I'm delighted kenton's wife decided not to have an abortion.  I'm even more
delighted that his wife involved him in the decision.  And I'm glad the two
of them were able to weigh the pertinant medical and personal information and
come to a conclusion that was different from what the doctor recommended. 

I'm also glad that if I were in that situation I'd be able to come to a
conclusion based on my personal medical and family situation.  That's what
choice is about.

Most right-to-life legislation has said that neither she nor I would have any
decision to make.  The legislature would have made it for us.  

I would not like the legislature to say "in this instance, given the best
medical information, you _must_ have an abortion".  Nor would I want
legislation saying "in this instance, given the best medical information, you
_must_not_ have an abortion".  Medical decisions should be left to the
individual, in consultation with whomever they choose.  


brighn
response 138 of 404: Mark Unseen   Oct 23 15:43 UTC 1998

senna, there's a difference between saying, "You have reasoned and valid
points, some of which I even agree with" and "You're right."

I have seen and read proponents, even on the extremes of either side, admit
that the other side was reasoned and valid points. On the pro-choice side,
most advocates admit that the general idea of abortion is distasteful or at
least unfortunate. Their feeling is that the alternative -- prohibiting
abortions -- is more distasteful and unfortuante. Likewise, on the pro-life
side, advocates admit that it's unfortuante that a woman should bring to term
an unwanted child; their feeling is that the option -- abortion -- is more
unfortunate.

In short, nowhere do I hear (for any of MD's beloved "reasonable" people)
anyway saying, "Killing fetuses is great fun!" or "Giving birth to unwanted
children is the ideal to which we should all strive!"

So please get off the Superiority "I'm Not TAking a Side so I can Freely
Insult Those Who have" Fence. I've been up there myself, from time to time.
It doesn't get me anywhere, and it just annoys everyone else.
scg
response 139 of 404: Mark Unseen   Oct 23 17:22 UTC 1998

While brighn in response 134 is trying to make a point I agree with, I don't
think the logic there works.  In situations where it's considered ok to remove
life support, generally it's because the person is considered to have no
chance for a meaningful recovery.  On the other hand, in the case of healthy
foetuses, being in the womb and depending on the mother for life support is
part of the normal life cycle, which allowed to continue will often result
in a healthy baby being born, who can then grow into a healthy adult.  The
abortion question is really about balancing the rights of the potential mother
to make decisions about whether to have a kid, versus the right of this part
of her body that will eventually become a baby to be born.

Clearly, having a heartbeat, or having eight individual cells, or whatever,
isn't sufficient to define human life.  In that case, we would also have to
ban mousetraps and the like, since mice also fit that criteria, and are
considerably more independant than a human foetus, or even a human baby, is.
The law then has to decide at what point the foetus deserves protection as
a human, and while the end of the first trimester is fairly arbitrary, it's
probably about as good as anything else.
cyklone
response 140 of 404: Mark Unseen   Oct 23 18:14 UTC 1998

Re #136: Actually, one scientist has proposed "brain life" as the
"absolute point" to which you refer. 

With regard to the general "message" that pro-lifers are trying to send, I
was interested to read that in the latest budget battle in Congress,
"pro-lifers" (the term used in the paper) were instrumental in removing
contraceptive coverage from medical insurance for federal employees. This
tells me that there may be another hidden agenda for at least some
pro-lifers.  Either they are anti-sex, or they want to eliminate any human
control over the consequences of sexual activity, or they want to bring as
many babies into the world as possible, regardless of whether or not they
are wanted. 

rcurl
response 141 of 404: Mark Unseen   Oct 23 19:07 UTC 1998

Re #133: mcnally certainly enjoys the privilege of making all the boneheaded
and dogmatic assertions that he presents to us. He should allow equal freedom
for others to do the same without getting into a snit about it.

Re #136: one might say, "that's life". Almost all decisions are chosen
out of continua. Given that humans have been confronted with this since
they evolved one would think there would be more comfort dealing with
it. One considers as many of the issues involved as one can, and then one
makes a *decision*. When that decision creates a rule or law, it is then
subject to revision or reversal. Applied to abortion, a "great compromise"
was created by Roe vs Wade. I don't support infanticide, but I see nothing
wrong at all with terminating a newly fertilized ovum. In fact, the
overwhelming female human conscensus is that *they* have that right. We
will always have to live with a compromise (we all know how well the
earlier 'total illegality' of abortion was - abortion was about as common
as it is now, but with much worse consequences for human health.)  
faile
response 142 of 404: Mark Unseen   Oct 23 22:39 UTC 1998

Re 140:  The catholic chruch's argument is that every male sperm represents
a potental human life... and none should be wasted for any other silliness.
(Okay, I'm tired, my languge has gotten a little silly... please don't think
I'm trivializing the issue.... I'm just a tad loopy at teh moment.)  Kind of
like the Monty Python song "Every Sperm is Sacred."  But the point being is
that according to this dogma, humans aren't meant to have sex for teh
enjoyment of it, we're supposed to do it to procreate.  The fact that it's
kind of fun is simply temptation to do it more often.  So any form of birth
control is out of the question.  

Keep in mind that I say that it is the chruch's belief-- if you asked the Pope
"how does the chruch feel about birth control?"  that's kind of how he'd
respond.  Actual catholics run the spectrum.  I have a very conservitave pair
of friends who are trying the rhythm thing (they just got married), and the
rest of us have bets as to when in  the next year she'll be pregnant.  I have
another very devout friend who is getting married in the spring and plans on
using birth control until she's at least 30.  *shrug*  

but I babble.
senna
response 143 of 404: Mark Unseen   Oct 23 22:42 UTC 1998

Brighn, what fence are you referring to?  My neutrality in this argument
involves the fact that I simply do not list my opinion on the issue.  When
do I insult the sides?  I dont' recall doing so.  I insult both sides in equal
amounts on occasion, such as when I observe that both are extremely stupid.
This isn't hard to do.  Both sides *are* extremely stupid.  Which is why I
don't say anything about my opinion. If I'm pro-choice, then a fair number
of pro-lifers will automatically think of me as a brutal holocaustic murderer.
If I'm pro-life, some people will consider me to be a sexist oppressive pig.
I have large numbers of friends on both sides of the issue, and I refuse to
get involved in the nitty-gritty of the argument.  I mean, if you vigorously
insult my person now, imagine how much I'd get insulted (forget issue
disagreement) if I actually took a side.  
senna
response 144 of 404: Mark Unseen   Oct 23 22:44 UTC 1998

142 slipped in... my friend, who is catholic, gave a rundown of the catholic's
viewpoint on it...  I think the official catholic viewpoint is that sex should
be for love, pleasure, and procreation.  They don't have any illusions about
it not being something pleasurable.  Protestant doctrines are much loser.

But, they do have that "potential human life thing."  I've always thought that
was just bizarre.  Thanks to cloning, regular cells are potential human life
too.
suzie
response 145 of 404: Mark Unseen   Oct 24 00:09 UTC 1998

Potential human life?  Wow, does that mean that I'm some kind of evil
sinner murder every month when I don't have unprotected sex when I'm
fertile and kill the potential human baby that God wanted me to have
and like gee no wondr I think the pope is a stupid bonehead jerk.
scg
response 146 of 404: Mark Unseen   Oct 24 01:06 UTC 1998

Yeah, and if you think that's bad, sperm have a lifespan of only a few days,
if I remember correctly.
kenton
response 147 of 404: Mark Unseen   Oct 24 01:31 UTC 1998

I'm not the pope, and I hesitate to call anyone a sinner, but I would be very
cautious about aborting any age fetus.

While I agree that a woman has the right to do as she wishes with her body,
it should be remembered that what she does may effect others.  If a woman
wants no children,she should get sterilized and use birth controls or
abstinence. If she becomes pregnant, then she has two bodies to think about. 
The idea that at some point in time a fetus suddenly becomes human life is
ridiculous.  It is human life as soon as the first cell starts to split (if not
sooner).

I think that cloning has a long, long, long ways to go before they can take
a skin cell and make a complete human from it.

To answer a question aways back....I said a soul after 8 cells, because if
God supplied a soul after the initial egg was fertilized, then identical twins
would be forced to share it.   Please understand that this is my thought and
I have no Biblical or other basis for it.  

Take an adult from their house, in winter, for a long period of time and you
have removed them from their life support.  Especially if you allow them no
clothes. They will die as surely as a  premature baby removed from it's life
support.

Show a small child a pregnant lady, and ask the child what is in her belly and
the answer will be, "A baby".  How can children think so straight, while adults
delude themselves?  Use logic not rationalization.
kenton
response 148 of 404: Mark Unseen   Oct 24 01:38 UTC 1998

This statement was made a ways back "(we all know how well the
 earlier 'total illegality' of abortion was - abortion was about as common
 as it is now, but with much worse consequences for human health.) "
I would like to see this substantiated.  I think the present rate far exceeds
prior rates.
johnnie
response 149 of 404: Mark Unseen   Oct 24 02:24 UTC 1998

Uh, just to clarify the Catholic Church's position (no pun intended) on 
sex and birth control:  The Church sez that every sexual act should be 
*open* to the possibility of pregnancy.  That is, sexual activity which 
by it's nature precludes pregnancy and/or is done solely for the purpose 
of pleasure (masturbation, oral encounters, homosexual activities, sex 
using artificial birth control, etc.) is discouraged.  In addition, 
certain methods of artificial birth control (the pill, IUDs) can cause a 
fertilized egg to be expelled, which is a no-no as the Church believes 
that life begins at the moment of conception.   
scg
response 150 of 404: Mark Unseen   Oct 24 03:13 UTC 1998

re 147:
        You're right that the notion that a fetus suddenly becomes a human life
at some exact point is rediculous.  It certainly is.  The sperm and egg
individually woudln't be considered a viable human.  Once they've combined
they're far more likely to become a human than before, but there's still a
very high chance that the fetus will die before the woman even knows she's
pregnant, and even discounting that, at that point we've got a one celled
organism lacking just about all the traits that we would normally use to
consider somebody to be human.  On the other hand, a fetus a few days before
birth isn't very different from a newborn baby.  In between, there's a nine
month long process of going from one state to the other, and there is no one
instant when we can suddenly decide that that fetus is human now, but wasn't
a few seconds before.  Unfortunately, there's no good legal mechanism for
dealing with gradual changes like that, so the law has to pick a time and draw
the line there.  The end of the first trimester is quite arbitrary, but so
would any other time that line could possibly be drawn.
senna
response 151 of 404: Mark Unseen   Oct 24 03:14 UTC 1998

No, 145, you dont' seem to be harboring any extra bitterness/hatred at all.
janc
response 152 of 404: Mark Unseen   Oct 24 03:44 UTC 1998

I think Kenton needs to read cmcgee's resp:137 carefully.

Your wife was given a choice - to protect her life, or to protect her
baby's life.  She made a courageous choice.  Suppose instead the doctor
had said "Your pregnancy is endangering your life, but it's against the
law to abort it."  She would have been spared the opportunity to make a
courageous choice, because the government would already have decided to
courageously risk her life for the baby's.  I believe it was right for
your wife to make the choice she did, and I applaud and respect her for
it.  But that does NOT mean that I think it would have been good for the
government to make the choice for her.

It's true that most pro-life people would allow abortion in cases where
the life of the mother is endangered, so even under those laws your wife
would not have been robbed of her choice.  However, medical problems
aren't the only kinds of problems which might make giving birth to a
child an extraordinary act of courage.  Bringing a child into this world
is a huge responsiblity, and for many people find it unimaginable that
they can stretch far enough to do that.  To go ahead requires courage
from them, just as it did for your wife.  I believe they too should be
allowed a choice in the matter.

Like Rane, I find your arguements about when the soul enters the baby
irrelevant.  But they aren't irrelevant because I don't believe in
souls.  They are irrelevant because even if I agreed with everything you
said (and I do agree with much of it), it wouldn't change my mind about
abortion.  The reason I believe in abortion being a choice is not
because I think babies don't turn human for three months.  You can harp
on that point forever and it will never change my mind about anything.

My reasoning works like this:

 - First, it is important to understand that the viewpoint of the law
   is not the viewpoint of a person.  The law must be impartial.  Good
   people are partial to their friends and family.  The law must serve
   the good of society as a whole.  Individuals serve other individuals.
   The law must protect the freedom of individuals to seek fulfillment.
   Where the interests of individuals conflict, the law must favor those
   whose actions strengthen society instead of those who weaken it.
   (That is why it's good for the law to strongly discourage murders,
   while being relatively friendly to farmers).

 - From the viewpoint of society as a whole, there is no shortage of
   babies.  Quite the contrary, most of our problems would be much
   reduced if population growth was slower.  The capacity for babies
   to make a contribution to society is extremely limited.  On the
   contrary, the effort involved in raising them costs society quite
   a lot.

 - Of course, for society to try to restrict the birth of babies would
   make a lot of individuals very unhappy, causing depression and
   revolutions and such.  Individuals like you and me want our babies
   very much, no matter what they cost us to raise.  A sane and stable
   society will respect our desire for babies.  And after all, society
   does need enough babies to make a new generation, and if there are
   people willing to do the work of raising them, that's terrific.
   Here, the needs of the individual and the needs of society are in
   perfect harmony.

 - However, babies that their parents don't want have very little value
   to society.  To force a productive member of society to bring yet
   another baby into a world with too many babies doesn't do any good.
   Not only is it a burden on an over populated world, but it isn't
   even as good a risk of becoming a productive member of society as
   a baby that is wanted by someone.

 - The right to life is not something that comes for free just because
   you have human genes.  You need to provide some value to someone.
   Some people, like the folks who recently beat Matthew Shepard to
   death, or the folks who bombed the federal building in Oklahoma
   provide more negative value than positive value, and their right to
   life is generally consider low to non-existant.  We generally try to
   give everyone a lot of benefit of doubt when judging their worthiness
   to live, be we do make those judgements.

 - As far as value to society goes, a baby is a zero, or in these days
   of overpopulation, even a slight negative.  However, my unborn baby
   has some non-intrinsic value - I value him.  I am personally
   committed to doing everything in my power to raise him to be a
   useful and positive contributor to the society of man.  His existance
   adds to my personal desire to make this a world worth living in.
   That's where all of the value of that baby to society resides, and
   it is primarily on the basis of preserving that value that I claim
   that society should aide me in protecting the life of that child.

 - An unwanted baby does not have that kind of value.  Its parents
   are not prepared and willing to make the effort needed to ensure
   that it will be eventually worth the food it eats.  True, there
   are lots of potential adoptive parents who'd like to adopt the baby,
   but they would be equally happy to adopt any other baby.  There
   really are plenty of babies in the world.  We don't need to bring
   more babies into the world for people to adopt.

 - Babies are human from conception, but they aren't part of human
   society until they are loved and wanted.  When a parent says, "I
   want this child," then that child gets the rights of a human being.

 - The rule allowing three months to decide on an abortion is not
   because the baby somehow gets a soul at three months.  It's because
   three months is adequate time for a woman to find out she is
   pregnant and make a thoughtful, considered choice.  Once that time
   is past, society assumes the parent has made a commitment, and will
   hold them to it, holding them responsibile for the child.  It's
   a reasonable time period to make an informed realistic choice.  It
   has nothing to do with the time it takes to grow a baby.  It has
   to do with the time it takes to grow a parent.

 - Pro-choice means that if you ask someone why they became a parent,
   the answer will never be "well, I got drunk and the condom leaked."
   The answer will have something to do with wanting a child, and
   wanting to be a parent to the child.  In an overpopulated world,
   we should always have good reasons to add another baby.

Yes, I really believe that the value of humans is socially determined. 
I expect there will be questions about vegetables and homeless people
with no ties to anyone.  I can answer those, with arguments deriving
from the complexity of society and humans and the many kinds of value a
person can have and the difficulty of judging that value.  Unborn babies
are uniquely simple in their social connections.
   
katie
response 153 of 404: Mark Unseen   Oct 24 13:57 UTC 1998

(Yes, I have often found it unimaginable that I could stretch that far,
but I don't think that`s what you meant...;-))
brighn
response 154 of 404: Mark Unseen   Oct 24 17:03 UTC 1998

Senna> If you honestly don't see how saying, "Both sides are stupid" is an
insult, then it's pointless to discuss it further.

insult, n. 2. any gross abuse offered to another, either by words or actions;
any act or speech meant to hurt the feelings or self-respect of another.

That definition does not qualify "true" or "untrue." I think nearly everyone
would agree that my calling you ugly would be an insult, whether or not you
are.

There, I said it was pointless to discuss it further, and then discussed it
further. Why? Because it amuses me to do pointless things, and besides, it's
as on-topic as six-screen diatribes on abortion in the GLB conference... or
did this cross-linked? =}
senna
response 155 of 404: Mark Unseen   Oct 25 00:16 UTC 1998

Uh, Jan, some of the assertions you make there are extremely, extremely
disturbing, and that has little to do with abortion.

Kenton, arguments concerning when the soul enters the fetus are relevant if
they are true.  However, as it is quite impossible for you to prove that they
are true, I highly recommend you argue on terms that people understand, rather
that attempting to establish personal religious viewpoints as rules that
govern others that do not believe what you do.

That's always annoyed me.
suzie
response 156 of 404: Mark Unseen   Oct 25 00:51 UTC 1998

Jans *really* smart and cool but I dont think anyone here understands him.
kenton
response 157 of 404: Mark Unseen   Oct 25 02:13 UTC 1998

Chuckle.  My thoughts are not necessarily even close to fact, but they are
my thoughts.  If your interested in what I have to say, read it.  If not skip
to the next entry.   But in my lifetime, I have learned much by exchanging
even offbeat ideas with others.

If you were caught in a flood and were swimming to shore with a small child
on your back, but were tiring quickly, would you rid yourself of the child
and save your life?  The fact is some would and some wouldn't.  Would you (if
not tired) push the child off because you didn't know if you could feed him
or her once you reached shore?  By an above argument, I guess the answer is
the same for this question.

I don't think anyone has a right to life.  By the same token, I don't think
anyone has a right to decide who lives and who dies.  The challenges of
population increase can be met with out killing babies.  Some sociologists say
that the society which values life the highest,  extract the highest penalty
for the taking of life.  I guess our society needs some healing.

My grandmother  was nearly 50 when she became pregnant.  She didn't want that,
but had no choice.  She told me that she was quite despondent at my uncle's
birth. Yet she lived in the same house with him as a widow and under his care
for more than 20 years.  The child she didn't want, became her mainstay and
shining light. How many aborted children would have been a great blessing to
their parents or another.  Do mere mortals have the foresight and wisdom to
make such choices.  I don't think so.
drew
response 158 of 404: Mark Unseen   Oct 25 02:50 UTC 1998

I would like to see some substantiation for this 8 cell limit for being
capable of being made twins or quadruplets. Why not 4 or 16 cells?
rcurl
response 159 of 404: Mark Unseen   Oct 25 05:23 UTC 1998

#157 implies that either children are required to care for their aging
parents, or that it is impossible for anyone else to do so. Neither is
true in my opinion. I cannot imagine that "wisdom and insight" calls
for having as many children as possible to ensure one's eldercare. I
prefer a society in which people prepare in their life for their own
old age, and consider themselves lucky if someone(s) wish to assist
in that care out of love or perhaps some less altruistic motive.
md
response 160 of 404: Mark Unseen   Oct 25 15:19 UTC 1998

That seems hardly worth debating next to "I don't think anyone
has a right to life" (in #157). Why not throw out liberty and the
pursuit of happiness while you're at it?
maeve
response 161 of 404: Mark Unseen   Oct 25 18:41 UTC 1998

re 152...gosh..that was rather impressive..
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