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jazz
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response 125 of 155:
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Jan 11 19:12 UTC 2002 |
Re: #119
Yes, they do, but ironically, Ann Arbor is a horrible place to do it.
The further out you go, the more willing people are to start conversations
with strangers, or invite people they don't know all that well to do things
with them. Ypsilanti and Saline both have thriving coffeeshop communities,
and it's the same way further downriver.
Re: #122
Nobody goes to coffeeshops to cruise - my point exactly. There are
a lot of really wonderful people out there who *never* go to a place with the
intention of trying to pick someone up, and they're generally saner and more
desirable as a rule. If nothing else you know that they're not serial
monogamists who find it easier to pick someone new up than to maintain their
existing relationships.
It's a completely different ballgame, meeting, spending time with, and
occasionally dating people who aren't actively looking. You have to have a
different attitude about things - you have to be looking for a good time out
first, and a date second - but you get a good chance to get to know someone,
and to see how they interact with people around them, and that's proved very
valuable to me.
All things considered, I have probably a dozen close friends whom I've
met through coffeeshops, and at least three times that number of casual
acquaintances, and at least three long-term relationships have come out of
that, not counting the one I met at a coffeeshop at a GREX-sponsored event.
;)
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lelande
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response 126 of 155:
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Jan 11 19:39 UTC 2002 |
i'm glad to hear it gets better out of ann arbor. i greet this principle on
faith because i've been stuck in this swamp for too long.
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jazz
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response 127 of 155:
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Jan 11 20:28 UTC 2002 |
"Just too many goddamned HIVs."
"HIVS?"
"Yeah, Hippies In Volvos."
"Quarterbacks, you mean?"
"Wuarterbacks?"
"Yeah, they fake left and go right ..."
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jaklumen
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response 128 of 155:
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Jan 12 05:56 UTC 2002 |
resp:125 right-- you go to have a good time, first.. get a feel for
the scene. Personally, I would think that's a better way to go.
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polytarp
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response 129 of 155:
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Jan 24 00:54 UTC 2003 |
RE 126; year later, and leland is running round the country no-one knows
where.
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oval
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response 130 of 155:
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Apr 21 14:34 UTC 2003 |
leland has disappeared?
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mynxcat
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response 131 of 155:
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Apr 21 14:54 UTC 2003 |
This response has been erased.
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oval
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response 132 of 155:
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Apr 21 15:20 UTC 2003 |
ya i see now he was logged on the 5th last ..
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jazz
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response 133 of 155:
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Apr 22 20:30 UTC 2003 |
Where's Leland?
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oval
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response 134 of 155:
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Apr 23 20:05 UTC 2003 |
is leland and lelande the same person?
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mynxcat
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response 135 of 155:
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Apr 23 20:32 UTC 2003 |
This response has been erased.
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vidar
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response 136 of 155:
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Apr 24 11:02 UTC 2003 |
I'm mentally kicking myself. While I have successfully got the woman I
like into my car twice, I have not yet actually suggested a date.
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phenix
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response 137 of 155:
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Apr 24 12:29 UTC 2003 |
don't worry, it'll happen:)
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orinoco
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response 138 of 155:
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Apr 24 17:52 UTC 2003 |
Hrm. If we were speaking French, lelande would be leland's female alter ego.
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vidar
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response 139 of 155:
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Apr 24 21:55 UTC 2003 |
Well, my next likely chance to suggest a date to my woman friend comes
not much later this evening.
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jazz
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response 140 of 155:
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Apr 25 18:47 UTC 2003 |
Don't give yourself time to hesitate. Next time, either ask within
fifteen seconds, or walk away from it forever.
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vidar
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response 141 of 155:
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Apr 25 21:04 UTC 2003 |
So the attempt did end in failure, but that doesn't mean that it's
going to ruin a normal friendship.
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jazz
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response 142 of 155:
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Apr 26 15:23 UTC 2003 |
If you look at it the right way, everything outside of really pissing
someone off is a success of one degree or another. Having an attractive
female drinking buddy or partner in crime is great "social proof". Just don't
overdo it and have 4 or 5 of them at once, or people will mistake you for
family.
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vidar
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response 143 of 155:
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Apr 26 19:06 UTC 2003 |
Well, the good points, she is a friend who has some similiar
interests. She's called me sweet. She can help me when I have trouble
acting out or remembering the coregraphy of Ring fights.
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jazz
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response 144 of 155:
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Apr 27 15:07 UTC 2003 |
A word of advice about having a lesbian partner-in-crime, if any of
the straight guys out there are considering it. It gets tricky when you
find out the girl you're both interested in is bi-.
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phenix
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response 145 of 155:
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Apr 29 12:22 UTC 2003 |
heh;) that sounds like a whole heap of trouble ready to come down like a
smiting
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jazz
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response 146 of 155:
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Apr 29 15:19 UTC 2003 |
Quote from last week:
"Oh that'd be an interesting three-way."
(looks around, counts four people on couch) "Uhm ... you can't
count."
"Smartass." (hits me with pillow)
OK, so it was about sparring, but still. :P
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vidar
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response 147 of 155:
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May 2 02:20 UTC 2003 |
I guess people aren't quite as fickle as I thought. While I failed in
an attempt to get a date with Amy, it didn't ruin the friendship.
Suppose friendship should come before courtship.
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jaklumen
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response 148 of 155:
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May 3 00:01 UTC 2003 |
I think it's building on stability, myself.
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jazz
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response 149 of 155:
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May 3 04:13 UTC 2003 |
That depends. It's different, hooking up with someone who you've been
friends with because neither of you had the time for anything more, or were
both involved, and trying to hook up with someone who initially said "let's
just be friends."
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