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jazz
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response 125 of 241:
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Mar 14 17:18 UTC 2002 |
That's strange. I've really never had a tough time knowing if
someone's sexually interested or not.
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brighn
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response 126 of 241:
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Mar 14 17:30 UTC 2002 |
I get flirted with often because I'm married, ergo, "safe," even from people
who know I'm not "safe."
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phenix
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response 127 of 241:
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Mar 14 17:57 UTC 2002 |
yha, that safe thing is annoying.
like, duh, why would you chase after something you cant have
gah
people are stupid
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brighn
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response 128 of 241:
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Mar 14 18:33 UTC 2002 |
yep
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jmsaul
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response 129 of 241:
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Mar 14 23:38 UTC 2002 |
Hang on, weren't you complaining about being unattached? Or were you just
complaining about not getting laid by enough people 'cause you're poly?
;-)
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phenix
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response 130 of 241:
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Mar 14 23:47 UTC 2002 |
no clue. i can never keep track of Grex: the whining
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jazz
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response 131 of 241:
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Mar 15 01:27 UTC 2002 |
"As the hard drive turns ..."
It could also be a case of Denied Bisexual Privilege; not having one
partner of *each* gender.
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brighn
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response 132 of 241:
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Mar 15 02:59 UTC 2002 |
#129> I don't complain about being unattached because I'm not unattached.
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orinoco
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response 133 of 241:
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Mar 15 16:07 UTC 2002 |
Come on now, Jazz, you're going to give us a bad name. That's _not_ what we
want, remember? Repeat after me.... ;)
I'm starting to think that part of the problem comes from looking for too many
kinds of satisfaction from one person. That is, our culture's deemed it
proper that we get all our sexual satisfaction from one person (well, not all
of us from the _same_ person, but you know what I mean), and that's okay on
its own, but on top of that we want to get all our psychological support, most
of our companionship, our sense of stability, our sense of adventure, our
need to be admired and to admire someone, and our help around the house...
all from the same person. That's a nice ideal, but to _expect_ it -- or
worse, _demand_ it -- is gonna make your relationships devolve into strange
little bitchy dependent black holes, the way relationships often do.
And even if you don't demand it, dating someone who does will turn out just
as badly.
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jazz
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response 134 of 241:
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Mar 15 16:34 UTC 2002 |
I'll agree with that. Except in unusual cases, it's completely
unreasonable to expect one person to meet all of your needs, and when you're
in a monogamous relationship you do need to have friends, family, and
associates, and generally step out of the bedroom into the outside world once
in a while.
That said, it doesn't mean that if you're bi, monogamy means one
partner of each gender. There are a good number of people who actually think
that. And it doesn't have anything to do with bisexuality; I enjoy the
company of blondes, brunettes, and redheads, completely equally, but I would
never assert that because they appear different I get to have one of each
and still call it monogamy.
That's BiPriv.
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orinoco
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response 135 of 241:
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Mar 15 20:03 UTC 2002 |
(Ooh, that's what I get for putting a joke and a real response in the same
entry. I didn't mean to sound like I was plugging the "one cookie good, two
cookie better" school of bisexuality. Thanks for catching that.)
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phenix
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response 136 of 241:
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Mar 15 20:26 UTC 2002 |
i could go for two cookies, preferably a brunette and a redhead:)
but then, i'm not bi:)
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senna
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response 137 of 241:
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Mar 25 00:52 UTC 2002 |
People who do try to meet all of each other's needs are in serious trouble.
Ever seen a married couple that works in the same workplace? What do they
talk about at dinner? Ther's nothing there. Monogamous marriages are still
the joining of two *lives*, as in, separate lives involving different people
and experiences. You can't be healthy without that. Unfortunately, I've seen
too many people who hold out for relationships that they think will solve all
of their problems. They don't last long.
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jazz
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response 138 of 241:
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Mar 25 02:52 UTC 2002 |
On the contrary, some people can, and do, do just that. It's not for
you. It's not for me. But some people really do crave that kind of
closeness much more than they do something interesting to talk about over the
dinner table.
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morwen
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response 139 of 241:
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Mar 25 16:48 UTC 2002 |
Jon and I once held jobs at the same business once. Big mistake. We
argued all the time. They shuffled me around a lot and eventually
fired me. In short, we were stuck in another town and, though I tried
to call in, I called the wrong phone number and, so, was away from
work for two scheduled shifts. I'm not entirely sure but, considering
how loud our arguments were (we'd only just been married) I would
think they were most likely looking for an excuse to be rid of one of
us. I just provided an opportunity that was too good to miss.
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jaklumen
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response 140 of 241:
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Mar 26 01:17 UTC 2002 |
It was a job at the university. It was unfortunate at the time, but
we learned from it.
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senna
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response 141 of 241:
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Mar 26 03:47 UTC 2002 |
Weren't you just saying that couples can't survive without outside
connections, John?
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eskarina
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response 142 of 241:
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Apr 1 22:39 UTC 2002 |
There's a married couple who both teach in the music school here... their
offices are right down the hall from each other. Sometimes, if you're there
in the late afternoon, you'll hear them shouting down the hall about dinner
options.
I honestly don't know how they take it.
Then, I've never been much for 24-7 contact with any one person.
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akkieuap
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response 143 of 241:
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Apr 5 09:28 UTC 2002 |
hello to every one i wanna have a friend out here any body interested here?
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rlejeune
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response 144 of 241:
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Apr 5 13:45 UTC 2002 |
Sure, I'll be your pal.
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kbman
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response 145 of 241:
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Apr 6 10:06 UTC 2002 |
I did some photography wed night. She is a very open type of girl. Descrip:
5'5", 110, blonde/brown hair, brown eyes, cute. Thing is she has a boyfreind,
and he knows about it and didn't care. I got 70+ pics, both on film and
digital. We had a blast. I also found out last week that a girl I met at
clutch cargo's a year age who now lives in cali is now doing porn. She said
her screen name is something like harley-croft or cross, not sure which. she
is 19 and bi. Its kinda cool but sucks 'cause i did like her. She tells me
she'll be back to see me this year when she comes to visit family, but not
within the next 3 months. I don't really get on computers much but I have alot
of experiences I could share and I guess this is a good place for it.
comments/questions?
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jmsaul
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response 146 of 241:
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Apr 6 13:31 UTC 2002 |
What? No URL for the pictures?
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jazz
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response 147 of 241:
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Apr 6 14:16 UTC 2002 |
It's much more fun if they don't KNOW you're taking the pictures.
Yes, I'm kidding.
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phenix
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response 148 of 241:
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Apr 6 15:17 UTC 2002 |
or if they know but they're 16
yes i'm kidding as well.
<dodge><duck><roll>
heh
i remember back in the day when i was working at Mammon's when we'd
get "naughty" rolls in the good old lab
what a blast
this one time, in the photolab, there was this 15 year old gir, and her nsync
photos got swtiched for nekkid people doing coke off each other's genitals.
oh yha. her face was precious.
sheer fun for hours.
we also used to hve websites that'd come in, in the dark days before direct
digital cameras
<sigh> the good old days workn' for da man.
now i'm part of the man
vive la digerati
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jazz
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response 149 of 241:
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Apr 6 18:14 UTC 2002 |
Whether you be glad, sad, or bad, you've got to know that there's fun
to be had.
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