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cyklone
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response 118 of 129:
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Apr 4 21:45 UTC 2003 |
It's all about booty language . . . .
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i
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response 119 of 129:
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Apr 5 01:15 UTC 2003 |
If she's going with a guy, she is no more than distantly polite. If
she isn't going with a guy, she is very friendly to me, with a sort of
open & eager expression in her face & voice.
I'll be polite and maintain a definite distance from her, but respect
is too nice a word for my attitude.
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jazz
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response 120 of 129:
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Apr 6 00:56 UTC 2003 |
I guess the question is really how to *get* with someone who's in
that phase. I'm not entirely sure why you'd want to, but hey, whatever
works.
If you're curious whether someone's seeing someone, it's pretty easy
to figure out. Just ask them. Tap her on the shoulder and ask if she has
a beau. Or approach it indirectly, like, "damn, I bet your boyfriend loves
that", or "I sure hope your boyfriend appreciates that."
Well, that won't tell you whether they have one or not, but it'll
tell you if they want you to think they do. :P
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vidar
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response 121 of 129:
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Apr 6 21:31 UTC 2003 |
Well, it's not the original topic, but I should do that. There's this
woman in RoS whom I like, but I don't know if she's seeing anyone.
Granted, even just asking will be hard, I rarely have an opening for
flirting or it's awkward to create one.
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phenix
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response 122 of 129:
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Apr 7 15:40 UTC 2003 |
they just go up and ask if she's like some luv juice
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vidar
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response 123 of 129:
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Apr 7 17:27 UTC 2003 |
I've accidentally scared enough people I'm interested in that I don't
want to seem like frightening her is my intention. What I have found,
however, is that if you just up front ask somebody out, if they're
seeing somebody they mention that when they tell you no.
Next time I see her, I'll ask her out on something minor. Like a drink
after Ring (not the alcoholic kind, she's a little young for that).
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jazz
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response 124 of 129:
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Apr 8 14:00 UTC 2003 |
I have the opposite experience; if you're asking someone out, and
they're seeing someone, they don't often tell you at all. May have to do with
the people I ask versus the ones you ask, though.
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vidar
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response 125 of 129:
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Apr 8 14:28 UTC 2003 |
Might also have to do with whether it's "just dating" or "going
steady". In any case, I'll respect a no, and follow through if
response is possitive.
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kewy
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response 126 of 129:
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May 2 03:24 UTC 2003 |
From a female perspective, the "I bet your boyfriend love that" line is so
transparant, and pretty obnoxious in my mind. I'd much rather be asked a
question directly, I'm not a fan of all the round-a-bout, yet obvious nuances
in getting to know someone.
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jazz
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response 127 of 129:
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May 3 04:16 UTC 2003 |
It is pretty transparent, and a lot of people need that it seems.
Crafting conversation is always more of an art than a science, though.
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phenix
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response 128 of 129:
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May 3 15:22 UTC 2003 |
y'know. ot. i feel bad for the poor boy (or whoever) that says that to katy..
but yha, i've been to quite a few sci-fi cons, and i have to say, the thrid
most painfull thing is watching a semi-suave geek blow it with that kinda
line
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jazz
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response 129 of 129:
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May 3 23:04 UTC 2003 |
Cheesy works.
Among the cheesier I've seen work personally.
"You know, it occurs to me that I owe you an apology, for leaving
last night without asking you out. Can I make it up to you, over dinner?"
"I've decided something ... " "That you're just too cute to not ask
out."
"How are you going to return it when you're done? I know, here's my
phone number. Call me when you're done. Or give me yours. And I'll call
you well before you're done."
None of the above would work if you really took yourself all that
seriously. But then if someone takes themselves that seriously, then I
don't want anything to do with them.
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