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eeyore
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response 110 of 158:
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Feb 22 06:12 UTC 2002 |
I hav eabsolutely no issues with discussing sex with somebody that I'm
planning on having it with. In fact, I'd *rather* do it before hand
anyway....makes for an easier time.
(of course, as we all know, I have no problems talking about anything. At
all. At any time. Think it's a big reason I'm not dating my most recent ex
anymore. Oh well. :)
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jazz
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response 111 of 158:
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Feb 22 14:44 UTC 2002 |
I think I got into this before in a metadiscussion about discussing
what you do and don't like about sex with your partner. I think it's Just
Me (tm), but it may be more widespread. Talking about sex tends to ruin it
for me, make it too clinical.
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michaela
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response 112 of 158:
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Feb 22 14:56 UTC 2002 |
I agree with Jazz. A playful exchange of ideas is fine, but geometric
proofs and such will keep me out of bed.
I've discussed sex with people I don't sleep with. That's what a
girls' night out is for. :)
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eeyore
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response 113 of 158:
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Feb 22 16:35 UTC 2002 |
Geometric profs suck. I've never had adiscussion of "Touch me here, and
I'll touch you there", but a nice amusing discussion of ideas and such is
fun :).
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phenix
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response 114 of 158:
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Feb 22 19:30 UTC 2002 |
besides, you can usually flirt and "discuss" what you wnat in an encounter
at the same time
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eeyore
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response 115 of 158:
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Feb 23 06:30 UTC 2002 |
'zactly!
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phenix
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response 116 of 158:
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Feb 23 17:13 UTC 2002 |
and y'know, if you have the time/energy/appropriate playspace you can always
just move ino the fun and games right there.
y'know, streamlining negotiations a bit;)
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jazz
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response 117 of 158:
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Feb 23 18:20 UTC 2002 |
Oddly, a couple of those last responses contradict each other.
I've noticed though, that talking about sex in general tends to be a
friend type of intimacy, and that talking about sex in a more specific context
of what you want at the moment, tends to be more of a partner type of
intimacy.
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phenix
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response 118 of 158:
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Feb 24 16:27 UTC 2002 |
fair 'nuff. i'll have to keep that in mind
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jazz
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response 119 of 158:
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Feb 24 17:17 UTC 2002 |
But, as I said earlier in the item, it might be Just Me (tm).
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phenix
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response 120 of 158:
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Feb 24 22:22 UTC 2002 |
yha, well, i'm noticing trend myself
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nsp
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response 121 of 158:
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Aug 11 20:11 UTC 2002 |
very interesting development of the thread
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mynxcat
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response 122 of 158:
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Aug 12 14:13 UTC 2002 |
This response has been erased.
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otter
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response 123 of 158:
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Jan 11 22:05 UTC 2003 |
This drifted into Nothingness and stayed 5 months...
I said to someone just yesterday, "I can't really define 'my type', but
I know right away when someone isn't."
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vidar
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response 124 of 158:
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Jan 13 19:04 UTC 2003 |
I guess "my type" is someone legal, who isn't a Christian, isn't high
on religion, and not a conservative. All considerations after that are
secondary.
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michaela
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response 125 of 158:
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Jan 13 23:16 UTC 2003 |
Wow. You make me look so picky. :)
My "application for dating Sarah" resembles the SAT sometimes. Looks,
however, rate Very Low compared to intelligence, wit, and passion for the
arts. The men I've dated barely resemble each other.
I do have a preference for long dark hair and wire-rimmed or "fifties"
glasses, but it's not really a requirement. I just notice them first. :)
(I wonder if it's because guys who look like that tend to have the same
interests as me...hmm...)
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gizlnort
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response 126 of 158:
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Jan 14 20:03 UTC 2003 |
First to be on topic, let me say that over the years my tastes in regards to
the ladies have changed, in sync with my lessening sex drive:
17-19> Does she have breasts of some sort and genitals opposite of mine?
SOLD!
19-21> Alrighty, is she able to have a conversation, share a couple of
interests, meet criteria one, and not outweigh me by more then 25%? SOLD!
21-Present> All of the above, some interests in the arts, an interesting mind,
and a bit wacky. But physically, any and all, especially if the combination
of looks is a bit unusual, I like distinctive features and builds.
But...and I say this with all regard, should I enter the singles market again
may my testicles fall off and I never date again if I go out with a woman who
in our early conversations spends more then 50% of the time discussing the
complex interrelationships between her and her friends, complete with names,
dates, and exact text. I actually have a fairly decent recall for
conversations, I don't want to retain that in six months.
The Friend Zone> Ah, actually one of my favorite places to be, overall I found
personally women more fascinating to talk to then men, not to say it is
exclusionary but I'm a fussy lad who likes a wide array of interests not
shared by many of the gentleman I met in school. ("Did you see the game last
night?" "No, but I imagine muscled guys slammed into each other with their
normal disregard for safety. Did our valiant warriors vanquish the evil foe
of the week?") But anyway, one of the nicest things I find is to learn about
a person, what they do, think, believe, and hold dear. (Which is not in
contrast to the above comments on interrelationship chats, they can be
interesting but if your *entire* focus is on them, get a hobby.)
But Greg, regarding your above rants, I feel your pain, very fully. "Ed, I
really like being able to talk with you, and I'm just not sure what to do
about my boyfriend." *Nice comments on status of relationship, after some
thoughtful questions* "Good point, why can't he talk like that, your so
sweet." Sweet = hey, your a nice guy, but I'd rather have intimate relations
with my kitchen appliances, including the ginsu knives, before going at it
with you monkey boy.
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jazz
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response 127 of 158:
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Jan 14 22:59 UTC 2003 |
Remember, one thing women do when they're faced with a difficult
situation is distort the truth in a way that the'll claim is to spare the
other party's feelings, but also, coincidentally, spares them the difficulty
of telling a hard truth.
"Sweet" translates to "polite, but boring", unfortunately.
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gizlnort
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response 128 of 158:
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Jan 17 16:32 UTC 2003 |
Good point Sir Jazz, although let me say that if I am being shown the
metaphoric door, I much prefer to get a more accurate phrase, "You are one
odd/weird/freaky guy." At least then I get to leave with a bow and smile.
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jazz
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response 129 of 158:
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Jan 20 14:34 UTC 2003 |
... well then you might as well give up on women. If they're walking
out, they'll say anything to avoid anything they think might hurt you more,
even if it's useful and true.
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gizlnort
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response 130 of 158:
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Feb 7 21:27 UTC 2003 |
Give up on women? Never sir, never. To give up the soft and lovely gender
of the two, I'd rather give up my legs.
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kmizuno
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response 131 of 158:
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Jun 17 00:46 UTC 2003 |
women are terribly complex, maybe... but there's due process of thought to
be given to a person who is wacky. i myself am attracted not just to wacky
women (my beloved yuki is living red-haired proof of this) but to wacky people
in general. they seem more interesting because they're more open-minded
usually, and that, at the very least, gives for good conversation, or a stint
of running through the mall in a napolean outfit yelling "to waterloo! and
feed the horses!"
anyhow, to answer myself to the original topic, i used to think that i liked
women with short black hair, a slightly petite build, cat-eyed or go-go fifty
glasses (i think lisa loeb is terribly terribly hot.), and a spirited laugh,
but yuki has shown me that i also like mid-length reddish-brown curly haired
short women with wire-frames and a spirited laugh. really, though, it's all
about the person inside. A great master once said sex is one thousand times
as fulfilling when you truely love your partner with your complete soul.
but i digress, as i am new to these boards, and don't want to over-step my
newbie boundaries.
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kmizuno
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response 132 of 158:
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Jun 17 00:48 UTC 2003 |
and - i'm sorry for pulling out the old threads. ^^;;
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michaela
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response 133 of 158:
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Jun 17 02:50 UTC 2003 |
No... it's okay... pull 'em out. This cf has been dead for too long.
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vidar
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response 134 of 158:
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Jun 17 12:21 UTC 2003 |
Seems that lots of conferences go almost completely dead, then a bit of
new life is breathed into them every so often.
I did a little backtracking in this item last night, because I have
confused emotions regarding a woman I like. Even so, I'll go with what
happens, if anything.
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