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oval
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The Politics Behind Oral Sex!
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Mar 27 19:57 UTC 2002 |
why women hate doing it? why women love doing it?
why men hate doing it? why men love doing it?
why anyones likes it aside from the whole incredible pleasure aspect..
discuss!
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flem
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response 1 of 55:
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Mar 27 20:19 UTC 2002 |
It's just so much *fun* I don't understand why anyone doesn't like it.
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rlejeune
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response 2 of 55:
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Mar 27 20:27 UTC 2002 |
Taste?
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oval
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response 3 of 55:
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Mar 27 20:38 UTC 2002 |
thirst?
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oval
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response 4 of 55:
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Mar 27 20:39 UTC 2002 |
second part of question:
why are both men and women uncomfortable talking about it?
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phenix
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response 5 of 55:
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Mar 27 21:00 UTC 2002 |
no clue, i'm not
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oval
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response 6 of 55:
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Mar 27 22:17 UTC 2002 |
so do you consider the 'politics' to be the same when a man does it compared
with when a woman does it?
[im just trying to bring this conf back to life people!]
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phenix
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response 7 of 55:
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Mar 27 23:32 UTC 2002 |
well, thank you.
politics? i do k now that a great many women i've spoken to don't like
to give head, and guys think it makes them weak.
me, i just think that's silly.
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morwen
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response 8 of 55:
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Mar 27 23:37 UTC 2002 |
I know someone who said she doesn't like the texture. We think we
found a cure for that, though. Chocolate flavored body butter. :9
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jazz
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response 9 of 55:
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Mar 27 23:40 UTC 2002 |
The only thing that makes me uncomfortable about oral sex is that some
people insist on calling it just "oral", which is an adjective, and not a
noun. It's weird, but that really bugs me, way out of porportion to any
other adjective being used as a noun.
I'd say the politics are the same; if I ran into someone who wouldn't
go down on me, I'd stop going down on them. I must have been exceptionally
fortunate, because although I've run into a few people who have issues from
their past, I haven't run into anyone who wasn't into it.
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oval
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response 10 of 55:
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Mar 27 23:49 UTC 2002 |
one thing that bugs me about _head_ (n.) when people feel automatically
obligated to reciprocate.
the thing phenix said about 'guys think it make them weak' - i think that
can go both ways. _head_ often becomes a 'service' and not sex. shitty.
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jazz
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response 11 of 55:
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Mar 28 00:02 UTC 2002 |
Okay, I'm with you there. But people need to be less uptight about
sex anyways. You don't see people getting as worked up over who enjoyed
rollerblading more, or whether they were both into that scenic drive.
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morwen
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response 12 of 55:
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Mar 28 00:08 UTC 2002 |
what some women don't seem to understand is how much power you can have
over a man when you give him head. If I offer to give Jon head, he'll
do almost anything I ask, provided I don't go overboard and provided
also that deliver on my offer in the first place.
Manipulating someone with an offer of head and then not delivering is
not wise. I would stop trusting someone who got me to do something for
them with and offer of head and then didn't provide.
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flem
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response 13 of 55:
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Mar 28 00:17 UTC 2002 |
Uh oh, there goes one of my buttons. Do you really want to turn sex into a
currency? There's a word for that...
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cyklone
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response 14 of 55:
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Mar 28 00:44 UTC 2002 |
Here's a story I thought was interesting and may fit in this item:
A guy I know (who I suspect has "issues" re/women) started hanging out
with the gf of someone he knew who had moved to another state. She was
never clear on the status of that relationship. She did start hanging out
a lot with my friend, including late at night, sleeping over, etc. Classic
tease behavior, some might say. Apparently things progressed to kissing
and then him going down on her. She would not reciprocate, and eventually
she stopped seeing him because she felt guilty.
While I certainly see some fault on her part because of her unresolved
feelings, I also have a hard time feeling as sorry for him as he feels for
himself.
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jaklumen
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response 15 of 55:
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Mar 28 02:08 UTC 2002 |
They're both choads.
There's also the skill issue. Supposedly, some guys don't know what
spots are pleasurable down there. And then there's the guy wish that
a girl will continue to fellate and not get a sore jaw.
I highly recommend the Nina Hartley videos for tips or finding a good
self-help book with pictures.
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