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aruba
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The upset acquaintance
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Dec 10 05:34 UTC 1994 |
As you're leaving work for lunch you happen to see a coworker with
whom you have been friendly, and had conversations with, but with whom
you don't work directly. She is obviously very upset, and has been
crying. You ask her what's wrong, and she says something unintelligible
angrily, and walks quickly off toward her car, motioning for you not to
follow. What do you do?
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chelsea
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response 1 of 10:
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Dec 10 13:31 UTC 1994 |
I go to lunch and hope she is able to resolve whatever is causing
her distress. A few days later I may again approach her privately
and say something like, "I sure hate those kind of days... By the
way, if you ever need a someone to talk to, I'm here." And I'd leave
it at that.
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roz
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response 2 of 10:
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Dec 10 18:43 UTC 1994 |
I wouldn't follow. I might subtly ask around folks in her department
to see how she is doing (in general) just to make sure she's not
suicidal or anything.
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booth
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response 3 of 10:
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Dec 15 02:57 UTC 1994 |
Try to talk to her. Follow her for a brief moment, if she continues to
want to be alone fine. Often though, people will want to talk to someone
and will just feel uncomfortable at the thought of sharing with someone new.
Make the effort to be a friend and you'll find more people will do you the same
courtesy
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simcha
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response 4 of 10:
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Dec 23 15:52 UTC 1994 |
I try never to ask what's wrong unless I really want an answer and
also am close enough to deserve one. (Close friend, not spatially)
Two reasons: people in open offices don't have real privacy, so
it is courteous to give them "virtual" privacy; i.e., ignore what
they might prefer we not see. Also, I have 60 people working for
me and several are VERY emotional. I am not good at sympathizing, I've
learned. If you are boo hooing because your boyfriend's dong died, it
<oh god, how do I edit??? That's dog not *dong* :-)>
may be significant to you, but to me it's an irritation. I have
employees who cry because their co-worker was mean to them. My
test is if my 6 year old can handle the issue, I have 0 tolerance.
So if you are not an initmate friend or my longtime secretary, I will
not ask.
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chelsea
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response 5 of 10:
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Dec 24 01:42 UTC 1994 |
(I love that type!)
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chelsea
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response 6 of 10:
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Dec 24 01:43 UTC 1994 |
Er, typo.
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aruba
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response 7 of 10:
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Dec 27 05:39 UTC 1994 |
Yup, that's classic!
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remmers
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response 8 of 10:
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Dec 30 20:25 UTC 1994 |
Freud is chuckling in his grave...
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simcha
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response 9 of 10:
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Mar 14 15:26 UTC 1995 |
So am I (not in my grave tho) and I have since learned to edit.
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ewhisam
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response 10 of 10:
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Dec 28 03:39 UTC 1995 |
Leave her alone
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