response 51 of 138:

Jan 17 20:25 UTC 2004

Let me try another approach. Jep, you say "There is nothing more I know of
that I can say to explain my actions. I think I've said it all.  I doubt
if there has ever been an action taken on Grex which was so thoroughly
documented, explained and justified; right down to the minute by minute
timing and the thoughts behind all of my actions.

First of all, if you think I am mistaken about what follows, please feel
free to direct me to your item and post numbers rather than reposting it
yourself. What I do recall, without such a review, is that you wished in
hindsight you had never entered the ites. You also expressed concern your
son might learn of those items. You then went on to discount the
possibility that such a discovery could have a net positive value and
also, I think, mentioned you'd simply prefer not to deal with it. 

Here's the problem: even if you get your way, the cat is out of the bag.
The *gist* of much of your text is now present here for all to see. In
other words, if your son uses the same diligence you suppose it will take
for him to find your divorce items, he will stumble across these in the
coop cf. What is next? Will you be proposing to delete all such items in
this cf?

If you fear the polyboys will call his attention to the divorce item in
much the same way they informed hera's son of her "sex with hubby" mnet
items, guess what? They will just point him to these discussions instead
(which I'm fairly certain have already been saved by someone on the
system). Frankly, in terms of gaining perspective, your son would be
better off, IMNSHO, reading the originals, which have far more context, as
opposed to reading coop.

It still seems to me that rather than engaging in some sort of vintage
Soviet Russian rewrite (or "unwrite") of history, you would be better off
figuring out how to deal with that inevitable day when you and your son
come face to face with just how distraught you were over the divorce. You
can discount my opinion as that of a "know-it-all." But I speak as a human
being who knows most secrets cannot be buried and most certainly not
yours. I'm sorry you can't see this or accept it as FACT. I am also sorry
you are causing such problems for grex, and at least some of its users, in
your pursuit of what is ultimately unobtainable.