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Grex > Oathbound > #34: I loved her madly yesterday, today I hate her guts! | |
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kerouac
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I loved her madly yesterday, today I hate her guts!
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May 7 20:56 UTC 1995 |
Okay, how to fight the perception that this is a dying conf? Easy, enter
a new item! (looks good for one to be entered every millenium or so) Since
this is the friendship conference I thought it the perfect place to bring
up a topic that we discussed on party this week. Specifically, why is
it that when a romantic relationship ends, some people end up hating each
other and others can remain friends.
The obvious implication is that not all people who get involved romantically
were friends to begin with. Sometimes people get into relationships
purely based on physical chemistry, and that chemistry ends up being
all-consuming and you dont end up knowing your partner well enough on all
levels.
A more psychological reason would be that it can be said that "hate" and
"love" are actually two sides of the same coin, both deep heartfelt
emotions that arent in a sense all that different. Personally though, I
find it hard to accept that if you ever really cared deeply about someone
that you could ever really HATE them. That is obviously the case
sometimes though.
I have never ended up hating anyone I've been involved with, even when I
may have had reasons for such feelings. But on the other hand, there has
been a time or two when I may not have been particularly interested in
staying friends. Maybe it depends on the individuals involved.....
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brighn
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response 1 of 15:
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May 8 01:25 UTC 1995 |
There are a few people that I both love and hate. I hate them because they
deny me my right to be around them, for one reason or another. In one case,
their emotional problems have made me into a villian I am not. In another
case, I cannot overlook their past acceptance of allegations against me.
And so on. I love them and deep down feel they are decent folks. But their
are certain flaws, either in myself or in them, which also cause me to hate
them them.
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jemart
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response 2 of 15:
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May 9 05:08 UTC 1995 |
There is no one that i can say I truly hate that I know of.There are a few
people in this world I can dowithout and 1 or 2 that I dislike alot. I guess
I`m too easy I try to give every one the benifit of the doupt...
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freida
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response 3 of 15:
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Jun 1 03:18 UTC 1995 |
Maybe the things that you grow to hate about a person persist after the
breakup...this would be good cause to not continue the friendship.
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sun
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response 4 of 15:
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Jun 10 19:37 UTC 1995 |
I tend not to want to be around those that I break up with or who break up
with me, because of the WAY it was done. Some people were just so damaging
spycologically and emotionally, that I cannot be around them withtou falling
into tthe same trap that I left. Some are just so incompataable that you can't
be arount them, and then some are such ASSES after you break up with them,
you can't be around them because of their behavior.
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eeyore
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response 5 of 15:
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Jun 12 13:30 UTC 1995 |
well, at this point, i've actually broken up with one guy, and sorta
pseudo-broken up with 2 othrs (don't ask...either you know the stories or
you don't), and i get along fine with all three of them. one of them i'd
prefer not to be around too much, but it's not that hard to do with him gone
for the summer.
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rubie
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response 6 of 15:
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Jul 10 11:10 UTC 1995 |
Well, with my life now, i've experienced to be so blind with love and at the
end to somewhat hate that person for doin' this for me .But there is always
other side of the story in which you became aware that even though you hate
him as much as you don't even like to see him anymore you will always forgive
that person and still love him inspite of everything hi... i really don't
dont what to do with interrupt message coming form a certain grey
[A[Amail
mail
quit
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rubie
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response 7 of 15:
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Jul 10 11:17 UTC 1995 |
#6 of ^
help
a: help
a: "help"
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val
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response 8 of 15:
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Jul 10 21:30 UTC 1995 |
Hello rubie!! Welcome to Grex!!! < It's a pretty sure thing that she's new
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adania
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response 9 of 15:
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Jul 14 18:42 UTC 1995 |
A-yai!
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anne
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response 10 of 15:
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Jul 15 06:58 UTC 1995 |
(ya think so Val? ;) )
Hiya Ruby!! Welcome to Oathbound!!!! :) :)
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val
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response 11 of 15:
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Jul 15 21:08 UTC 1995 |
Well you know how it is all those helps and exits. But in the end
everyone figures it out. Could you imagine someone who didnt spending
the rest of his life glued to the computer trying to finish his response? :)
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anne
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response 12 of 15:
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Jul 16 17:34 UTC 1995 |
that couls concievably be bad....
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jemart
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response 13 of 15:
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Jul 17 15:00 UTC 1995 |
welcome rubie...yeah it took me a litle while to learn enough to get
around...hehe...I still just know enough to crawl around...
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lee
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response 14 of 15:
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Dec 8 00:32 UTC 1996 |
Sometimes the things you love about someone in the first place turn into the
things you hate about them later. Also, both love and ahte are strong
emotions, and you can't really love or hate someone if you don't care enough
about them to give them the time of day.
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morgaene
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response 15 of 15:
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Dec 17 05:19 UTC 1996 |
I am in love now, and the things I loved about that person at first are still
there, and even stronger. Love and hate result from spending time with an
individual. I agree with you, Lee... one can only obtain surface emotions and
assumptions from spending little time with a person.
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