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Our parents
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Sep 24 18:36 UTC 1994 |
What are our parents like? It would be good to know that there are good
parents and bad parents, and that parents are human too. How will we be
as parents? Will we be like our own? Will we try to be different? How do
we feel about our parents? Do we want to move out on them? Are they like
friends who live with us? Do we miss them when we or they go off for long
periods of time? Do we have surrogate parents, role models who we look up
to rather than our own parents? Do we feel our parents make good rules?
Are they ever unreasonable?
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vishnu
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response 1 of 47:
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Sep 25 01:31 UTC 1994 |
My dad is like.... unpredictable. more later.
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facelift
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response 2 of 47:
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Sep 25 06:30 UTC 1994 |
In case you havn't read the old parents thing, my dad had a kid with another
woman while my parents were married, and kept her a secret from me for 6
years (SHORT VERSION). Now I'll move on to my brother.
My parents never bothered to try and control my brother. Some people
might think that's just a siblings point of view, but my shrink backs me up
on this. My brother beat me up, A LOT, when we were younger. He grew more
muscular...I didn't. I mean he really beat me up. No broken bones, but
black eyes and bruises, and stuff like that.
Consequently, almost ironically, my brother became a marine. But he
still comes home sometimes, and my parents still don't have control over him
and he still beats on me.
My parents don't control my brother, don't trust me with my sister. I
think they want my siblings to cease to exist or kill me.
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anne
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response 3 of 47:
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Oct 10 23:24 UTC 1994 |
Well, I actually think my parents are- well, good parents. I do miss them
when I go away, but that doesn't stop me from going. I like to go home for
the weekend, cause sometimes being here gets to be too much. My parents were
good at avoiding too much sibling rivalry- we fought sometimes- but it never
went too far. I don't fight with my parents much- cause I don't think it's
worth it. I'm not around much- why waste the time I do spend with them
fighting?
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eeyore
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response 4 of 47:
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Oct 11 15:51 UTC 1994 |
my parents are really cool. my dad had no childhood, so he wants hios
kids to have the childhood that he never had. my mom had a great
one, so whe wants ours to be as great. they wnant me to have parties!
sibling rivalry was always around when i was little, but as we grew up, it
lessened.
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asp
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response 5 of 47:
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Nov 27 04:59 UTC 1994 |
re 2: not ironic at all...
my parents are pretty cool, it's funny, I've always understood why they did
what they did, even when I got mad at them. Of course, I didn't have the same
kind of childhood that I "saw" the other kids having ("saw" because thinking
back I didn't spend that much time with other kids to know how different they
really were) because my parents simply didn't know, they didn't know all the
things that the other kids' parents knew because they grew up in India, not
here. I often had to explain to them what I was expecting of them based on my
watchin t.v. and observing other kid's parents. I think now, though, that I
really like the fact that my parents are so "different" because I've never met
parents as cool as mine in a lot of respects.
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carson
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response 6 of 47:
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Nov 30 10:33 UTC 1994 |
One of the most important things I've come to realize about my parents is that
they're human, and have human failings. I came to realize that early in life,
right around the time they were divorcing. I imagine that if they hadn't broken
up, I'd have had an idyllic childhood and would be completely ignorant of not
only their failings, but my own failings and the failings of the people around
me. To this day, I have trouble visiting my parents, because they remind me of
what I could be, and what I don't want to be.
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eeyore
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response 7 of 47:
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Dec 1 13:33 UTC 1994 |
not me.
my parents are very adult, and full of responsability, etc.
my parents are also sickingly in love. it's really sweet to watch, sometimes
almost too sweet. but it is nice to know that love like that still exiss
in this world.
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fraizer
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response 8 of 47:
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Dec 1 22:27 UTC 1994 |
My mother is one of those "nice to all my friends" parents. She acts like a
saint until they leave, but turns into Beezlebub when they leave.
My dad is an ex-hippie who never really grew up. Great father, Shitty husband.
He's a little cooler but they're both nuts.
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eeyore
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Dec 2 14:09 UTC 1994 |
my father had no childhood, so he wants hi kids to have the oe that he never
had. they are both good parents. :)
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flem
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response 10 of 47:
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Dec 11 01:05 UTC 1994 |
did I already say that my parents are cool? If not, then they are. If so,
then they still are.
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asp
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response 11 of 47:
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Jan 2 22:11 UTC 1995 |
re: #6 I doubt it, Carson. At some point, I think that almost anyone whose
parents didn't die or leave or something when they weryoung comes to realize
that their parents aren't divine beings, that they have faults, etc. That's
kind of what I meant by "understanding" my parents, I learned early on to
realize that there were human motivations and reasons for what they did, even
when it was not fun or not fair to me, that doesn't mean that I had no problems
with anything that they did, and I often have discussions and debates with them
about a lotof things from what should we do about this to why do we disagree
about this issue... but we can do this only because we see each other as human,
both good and bad, I don't think that you should just see the bad in your
parents if that's what you're suggesting you do, but I haven't had that
experience so I don't know how it is really.
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lynne
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response 12 of 47:
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Jan 3 05:20 UTC 1995 |
my dad is pretty cool, but I'm not ovely fond of my mother...I haave a
poor opinion of her ability to interact with others and various other
characteristics. Howeverr, I think the members of our family plae
er, place too much emphasis on power aand I also think my parents lost
control of us before any one of us was ready for it.
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scg
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response 13 of 47:
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Jan 3 08:02 UTC 1995 |
Carolyn thinks her parents placed too much emphasis on power.
There goes that sibling rivalry again...
Even those of us who have a parent who has died are able to see
their faults, or at least I am. My mother was a wonderful person, but she
was by no means the perfect person I once thought she was. She had her
faults because she was human, and I'm sure there were things about her
that I would find very annoying if she were around right now. Still,
there are lots of things I really miss about her, and she was a wonderful
person. It will have been five years on Thursday, and I still miss her,
not because she was perfect, but because she was a great mom.
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fraizer
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response 14 of 47:
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Jan 4 19:01 UTC 1995 |
It scares me that me and my mother don't have a very good relationship.
I mean, she could be dead right now, for all I know, and I would never
be able to make things right. But every time I try to make things better
we end up getting in a fight. It pisses me off that she pisses me off so
easily. I'm a bastard...
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eeyore
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response 15 of 47:
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Jan 5 02:35 UTC 1995 |
i get along really well with my parents...yes we fight, but we still love each
other, and i never really fealt some huge need to rebell, more then just the
norm.
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rlawson
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response 16 of 47:
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Jul 31 03:55 UTC 1995 |
Hmm. It looks like no one has looked at this item for a while either! I'll
have to do some thinking and come back later.
- Robert o/~
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eeyore
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response 17 of 47:
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Jul 31 17:52 UTC 1995 |
yeah!!!!! person in the conferance!!!!! :)
(huggle rlawson)
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lynne
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response 18 of 47:
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Aug 3 03:24 UTC 1995 |
welcome to inbetween, rlawson!
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rlawson
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response 19 of 47:
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Aug 23 19:55 UTC 1995 |
<robert hangs his head in shame> This is the first time I've read this
conference since I entered that response. I'm still thinking though! <g>
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abchan
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response 20 of 47:
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Oct 4 23:52 UTC 1995 |
Geez these items go through phases... sometimes there are so many
responss, and then there are none.
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eeyore
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response 21 of 47:
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Oct 5 15:28 UTC 1995 |
i wish that there were more responses....(sigh)
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abchan
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response 22 of 47:
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Oct 6 00:37 UTC 1995 |
Is anyone reading this besides Meg and me?
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anne
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response 23 of 47:
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Oct 6 15:20 UTC 1995 |
I am.. I just don't say much...
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eeyore
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response 24 of 47:
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Oct 7 00:14 UTC 1995 |
please do....it's good to hear every body's opinions! :)
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