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rlawson
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Is there anyone out there?
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Jul 31 01:00 UTC 1995 |
I've read some of the items in this conference... hoping to find that I was
*normal*, if such a word exists, and seeing that I have the same misgivings
as other teens. However, I have found that this conference is mostly used by
people (adults) wishing to gain there childhood back. Either that or adults
who had a miserable childhood and want to gripe about it here in this
conference. Is there anyone out there who is *in-between* the two types of
persons I just mentioned? Or is there anyone who can help me?
Why do I feel like I don't fit in? Why do I feel so "out of touch" while I
view most of my peers as too immature? Why can't I wait to get out of this
place so I can finally live up to the potential that has been building up
inside me for as long as I can remember? I want and am capable than far
much more than anyone will give me credit and I feel as if I'm about to
break. Is there any other teens that can help me? Is there anyone out
there that has gone through all this before and could maybe lend some
words of encouragement? If so, please respond.
- Robert o/~
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scg
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response 1 of 36:
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Jul 31 02:12 UTC 1995 |
This conference has been inactive for a while, but most of us who have
been participating in it are teenagers, or in the case of those who aren't,
are really close to that.
I think I've gone through a lot of what you're describing. My advice
is just to start doing the things that people won't give you credit for being
able to do, and sooner or later they will catch on.
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eeyore
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response 2 of 36:
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Jul 31 17:58 UTC 1995 |
the orgional cf was started by a couple of teenagres...the younger of which
just graduated from highschool...but when he started it, they were teenagers.
yes, alot of us are older...but some of us still can see from the younger eyes.
(i'm 19...i remember a lot about highschool ,and the hell that it was. :)
steve and i are hoping to put some life into this cf, but we've just started
to discuss what we think needs to be done, and we are both kinda clueless.
i want to bring in the new, younger grexers, but am not really sure how to
draw them in...i fyou have ANY ideas, please l;et us know!
(hug rlawson)
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scg
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response 3 of 36:
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Aug 1 03:19 UTC 1995 |
(Meg, we still are teenagers, even if we aren't still in high school! Don't
give up your youth yet)
Many of the younger Grexers seem to hang out in party, rather than the
conferences. Maybe we need to figure out how to steer them here. Hmm,
conference marketing?
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darklass
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response 4 of 36:
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Aug 1 06:46 UTC 1995 |
I DIDN'T EVEN KNOW AOUT THIS CF
i spend a lot of time in party
but don't tell me i am just a stupid person who is
unaware of the cf's. i am active in the poetry
and writing cf and i wish i'd known about this
you want the teenagers t come back in here
i'll get them :} i'm real good at recruitment
as for the original issue:
i will be 15 in 1 month and 1 day
that makes me fully qualified to respond
HELL YA i know what you mean
but i don't just know about it from personal experience
i have learned a good deal of psycology about it from oh....visting
shrinks and such.
you have problems common to two groups of people who tend to overlap:
the talented and the gifted
i know you are talented and i think from talking to yoy that you are
gifted as well. you therefore feel differend from your peers.
you are an artistic, of the literary sort,
and you see the world differently. maybe you are not well liked by
your peers. i have learne dyou just have to smile at them and understand
they are not as mature as you and they are unlucky they are not
talented the wya you ar with your words treasure you art and share it
but don't rbag and make them feel bad
because that is whta THEY immaturely do with their basketball
and swimming and anything else and you don't want to be like them
sometday they will perhaps appreciate your work and you
or at leasty leanr tlerance
th adult world treasures it's artists
the childhood world is diesigned arounda game of who's who and who is
the most powerful
bt it is all different///late
later...
bear with it
and taslk to artisic people as often as possible
Love,
Jenne
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abchan
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response 5 of 36:
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Oct 5 00:36 UTC 1995 |
I never felt like I fit in until my junior year of college. Even now
sometimes I don't feel like I fit in. But I've come to accept myself for
the person I am, faults and all.
I think I was forced to grow up very quickly. I was an only child for a
long time and then BAMN sibling. Suddenly I had to do everything by
myself.
I was always more cautious too. It amused me, when I took pre-cal
during my sophomore year of high school, that I would sit there quietly
before the teacher came in while the seniors would get into watergun
figuhts. It made me mad that they were allowed to leave campus for lunch
when I wasn't because I felt I was much more mature.
I never quite fit in as a child either. I got into my share of
fights but I always felt a bit older. I guess I justgrew up in a different
way. And I'm babbling now so I'll go study for my marketing exam now.
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eeyore
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response 6 of 36:
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Oct 5 15:33 UTC 1995 |
babbling is not necessarily a bad thing...:)
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abchan
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response 7 of 36:
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Oct 6 00:43 UTC 1995 |
I konw but I was tired from studying :) so I wasn't quite coherent.
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carson
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response 8 of 36:
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Mar 23 06:42 UTC 1996 |
aren't we all "inbetween?"
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eeyore
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response 9 of 36:
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Mar 27 19:08 UTC 1996 |
inbetween one step and the other...and we will be forever. :)
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abchan
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response 10 of 36:
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Mar 30 01:09 UTC 1996 |
Inbetween what?
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carson
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response 11 of 36:
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Apr 5 06:30 UTC 1996 |
In between childhood and adulthood. I dunno 'bout you, but I often
feel like a kid. maybe it's just my age, or the age of the people
around me. =)
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abchan
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response 12 of 36:
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Apr 7 03:51 UTC 1996 |
When I'm here, I feel like an adult.
When I am with my parents, I feel like a kid.
Am I the only one who feels this way?
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asp
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response 13 of 36:
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Apr 8 03:27 UTC 1996 |
No, I really think it has everythign to do with context. When I'm
with people who see me in a "teaching" role, or as someone who
is a senior in college while they are freshmen, sophmeores, etc.
I feel old, but those same people can make me feel young when we
get into conversations about relationships, and hanging out with
friends in highschool... I feel like they know so mauch more than
me about some things... And of course, with my parents or my
sister I can be young and silly and not worry about putting up
a "mature" front, so everythign is different. Though I feel like
I can't talk as easily aobut "mature" issues, like sexuality,
etc. that I feel very strongly about. Ah censorship!....
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scg
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response 14 of 36:
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Apr 9 05:28 UTC 1996 |
Almost everybody I work with is rather significantly older than me, as are
most of the people I find myself hanging out with these days. Because of that
I find myself really having to act like an adult a lot more than I'd probably
really like to. I seem to do a pretty good job of fooling people -- every
so often somebody will ask me where I went to college, or something like that,
and seem somewhat shocked to find out that I'm not a college graduate, and
not nearly old enough to be one.
I really find it to be somewhat of a relief to be able to hang out with people
who are about my age, from time to time.
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abchan
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Apr 9 13:23 UTC 1996 |
Most of my friends are older than me too... I'm not sure why... but I don't
have any problems at school. It's when I am at my parents' home that I get
treated like a little kid by everyone around me. Apparently the general
consensus in my home town last summer was that I was 13 going on 14 and
finishing the 8th grade and it was very frustrating. I hope it doesn't happen
again this summer. I'm sure it also has to do with the way I dress though.
Up at school, where it's cooler most of the year, I wear jeans, which is
typical college student but at my parents' home I tendo to wear shorts and
t-shirts and have my hair in a braid or something and that tends to make a big
difference.
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asp
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response 16 of 36:
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Apr 10 18:42 UTC 1996 |
Yeah, it does, and no doubt people are so used to treating you as
if you were "13 goin on 14" that they have not stopped to look and see
that you've grown up. This is not helped, I would imagine, by the
fact that you don't spend the majority of your year around there.
I remember on my 19th birthday we went to a restaurant, and the
waitress said she thought I was turning 13... that made me SO MAD!!
not that I have anything against people who are 13 (my sister, one
of the most wonderful people in the world, is 13, after all) but
it was a gross underestimate of what I percieve to be my maturity.
Though, I am not _super_mature, I am older than that. Okay, long
story just to say that I sympathize, but if it really bothers you,
you might want to try and do somethign taht would get peopl to
look at you again and see hou you have changed.
anita
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abchan
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Apr 10 18:52 UTC 1996 |
Well, I went around wearing a Cornell shirt, a Cornell hat and a Cornell class
ring. What did they say? "Oh, do you want to go there?"
*sigh*
If it weren't so hot during the summer, I'd just leave my hair down. It does
help a lot. But it's so hard to have it flying loose when you're out shooting
hoops or biking.
People keep telling me someday I'll appreciate looking younger than I am.
I know I will someday. But not today!
What can I say? It runs in the family...
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mooncat
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response 18 of 36:
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Apr 10 21:49 UTC 1996 |
Hey my sister still insists that I'm 13... She just won't accept the
fact that I'm 21. <grin> I was 13 when she went away to college, so
I must still be that age now... <sigh>
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abchan
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response 19 of 36:
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Apr 12 00:26 UTC 1996 |
I remember how old *my* younger sister is... even though I'm at college. But
none of my friends remember. When I talk about her, they're like, "oh she's
only in the third grade" and I'm like, "NO. She's in middle school now."
But I also know that my sister and I are pretty close when it comes to
siblings; I think it's because there's only two of us so we have to join
forces and gang up on our parents :)
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asp
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Apr 12 04:51 UTC 1996 |
Yeah, I'm really tight with my sister, too, and she's in middle
school too, _and_ I know all about that whole 'you'll appreciate it when
you're older" line... Yeah, but I think that I wante to be my age right now,
and not later....
Sorry if this looks funny, someone's trying to "talk"
me right now...
And I remember my sister's birthday _and_ her age
better than anyone else's (I've been known to slip on
my own age!
anita
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abchan
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response 21 of 36:
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Apr 12 21:21 UTC 1996 |
I always remember my age =) my father forgets from time to time though...
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asp
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response 22 of 36:
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Apr 14 00:12 UTC 1996 |
but really, "age is just a number", it's like when you pass january first,
it's kind of hard to remember the year for a while... well, at least I'm
like that about my age...
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eeyore
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Apr 14 14:48 UTC 1996 |
i'm usually really picky about my age.....lately i've been harassing marc that
i'm not 19, i'm 20, since it'sso close.
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abchan
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response 24 of 36:
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Apr 14 16:45 UTC 1996 |
When's your birthday, Meg?
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